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post #41 of 91
i hope to God my kids never pull a stunt like that. i don't know how i'd handle it, but they'd be in trouble, especially the 4yo.
post #42 of 91
At 2 and 4, I can understand how they wouldn't have had the impulse control. Which is why A) We don't have a tree, I can totally see my 2 and 4 year olds upturning it or removing all the ornaments, etc. and B) We don't set out gifts ahead of time. Also we don't leave our young children unattended long enough for them to have been able to do that. The temptation is too much for such young minds to understand the consequences fully or to control their impulses. I guess my answer is that would never happen in my home because I know well enough to stop it from happening in the first place.
post #43 of 91
There is no way I would put presents under the tree with children those ages. It's just too tempting!

If my children did that I would consider it my fault for not waiting until Christmas Eve to set out presents.
post #44 of 91
Well I would not even put them out. My youngest are 3.5 and 2.5 and would not leave them alone. But I would not flip if they opened them at this age. My DH's cousin's children are 10 and 6 and her rule is if you even touch them you lose them... a touch harsh I think...
post #45 of 91
Well all our presents are wrapped and under the tree. They have been for a while. I would be shocked, absolutely shocked, if my DS opened any of the presents. He's 3 years, 3 months. He definitely has impulse control. Maybe I just have an unusual kid, but I didn't think twice about putting the presents under the tree.

He can read the tags, so he knows which ones are to him, which ones are from Santa, which are from Mommy & Daddy, etc., and is very excited. We did let him open one last Sunday b/c he really wanted to.

I just can't imagine this happening in our house, so I hard time thinking what my response would be. I would be dissapointed and then I would probably rewrap. Or maybe not and just let DS play. I'm not all the invested in a big display of unwrapping. We're not even going to actually be here on Christmas, so we are opening the gifts this weekend.
post #46 of 91
My 4 year old accidentally saw a wrapped present I was going to hide in a closet, and she has been trying to unwrap it, then throwing fits because she couldn't. I can't imagine thinking anything under the tree would be safe. I was blocking the tree off from the younger one until this year. She no longer pulls the ornaments off the tree.

I'm not sure what I would do in that situation, but I'd love for my kids to spend the evening in their rooms--or at least let me hide out in the bathroom like I want to.

I wonder if the parents handling of this situation was deliberate. I mean putting the presents under the tree to see how they'd handle it, seeing how far they would go, and then punishing them afterwards. Maybe they figured that would be a deterrent. I would think that was weird, but it seems odd to put presents out so early with children that young.

In my situation, when my children do things that are age-appropriate that I don't anticipate and that really anger me, I know my anger might be inappropriate, but some separation is better so that I have time to process my emotions and not do anything rash. But usually I'm the one who has to go in my room and lock the door, and that doesn't always work out so well. I start to imagine they are doing even worse things.
post #47 of 91
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Originally Posted by Romana9+2 View Post

Find a newspaper. Roll it up nice and tight. And smack myself in the rear. (ok, metaphorically speaking only; there is no violence in our home!).

It's my fault if I leave my toddlers unattended long enough to unwrap all those presents.
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My DH's cousin's children are 10 and 6 and her rule is if you even touch them you lose them... a touch harsh I think...
That was the rule when I was growing up. Not very fun, but I guess it was effective.

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Well all our presents are wrapped and under the tree. They have been for a while. I would be shocked, absolutely shocked, if my DS opened any of the presents. He's 3 years, 3 months. He definitely has impulse control. Maybe I just have an unusual kid, but I didn't think twice about putting the presents under the tree.

He can read the tags, so he knows which ones are to him, which ones are from Santa, which are from Mommy & Daddy, etc., and is very excited. We did let him open one last Sunday b/c he really wanted to.

I just can't imagine this happening in our house, so I hard time thinking what my response would be. I would be dissapointed and then I would probably rewrap. Or maybe not and just let DS play. I'm not all the invested in a big display of unwrapping. We're not even going to actually be here on Christmas, so we are opening the gifts this weekend.
You know what your child can handle. This year, my little boys are 5 and 3. The 3 yr old has had no problems leaving the presents under the tree alone. I put 3 presents under there - one for each child (the oldest is 12 and has been bugging for presents under the tree). He found his and was excited, I told him it was for Christmas and showed him when when Christmas is on the calender. No problems.

My 5 yr old - he asked me if I could please hide the presents from him, because he really wants to open them and doesn't know if he can keep from opening them (all of them - not just his lol). At least he's honest!

I actually like waiting until Christmas Eve to put them out. DP and oldest DSS are the ones who wanted some out early. I didn't do a lot of presents this year (not a lot of $$, and really I don't like the expectation of a lot of presents, ykwim?). I like the contrast of no presents under the tree when the kiddies go to bed on Christmas Eve, then on Christmas morning waking up to see all the presents there!
post #48 of 91
Our kids are old enough to know better .....but our dog isn't

He ripped open all of the special little presents that the boys picked out for us at the holiday shop at school. It was very sad for the boys but we gathered them up and rewrapped them. Now we gate the dog out of the living room.

I think at 2 and 4 I would laugh and rewrap.
post #49 of 91
At 4 and 2 my brother and I found the gifts stashed in the cedar closet and opened them while the babysitter was there. My mom thought about returning them and getting us other gifts but decided to rewrap them instead.
post #50 of 91
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Originally Posted by Marsupialmom View Post
At 2 and 4 I would laugh it off. I might have them help me re-wrap some of the gifts. Honestly at that age I wouldn't have even had any under the tree to tempt them. Especially the 2 year old isn't mature enough to with stand an impulse and temptation.
Me too.



Haven't read the responses but to think these kids were sent to their room as punishment is just ridiculous! They are kids and presents are just too tempting. Come on -- what adult hasn't taken a peek???
post #51 of 91
With kids that young, I would have just put the unwrapped presents away until Christmas day. If I had more wrapping paper I'd re-wrap them so they could have fun opening them again.
It would be my fault for leaving the gifts unattended within reach.

Punishing a 2 year and 4 year old with solitary confinement for the rest of the night seems a bit much for unwrapping a few gifts that they'll be told to unwrap next week. How confusing for them!

If my dd (7) did it I'd be more upset because she knows we open gifts on Christmas morning only. I would put the gifts away until Christmas day but not rewrap them. On Christmas I'd dump them in front of dd and move on with my life. Hopefully she would see that waiting and unwrapping at the proper time is part of the fun of Christmas morning. I would not send her to her room or get rid of the gift. It's not that big of a deal.
post #52 of 91
My four-year-old did this just today! We have some presents that were sent from an auntie we won't see at Christmas, and they are the only ones under the tree. He found the one with his name on it and went at it (I was in the kitchen). He didn't get in trouble, but I did tell him that we like to save our presents for Christmas so that we can have surprises. I think his presents will be hiding until the day of, though.

I probably would be more upset if it were all the presents we had gotten him, but that's not possible because we never wrap until Christmas eve night .
post #53 of 91
Our presents are under the tree and we have a 2.5 and 4 year old.

They have noticed the presents AND asked if they could open them. We've explained that they are for xmas morning. So far, so good. If they did open them, I wouldn't be mad at all. They are, after all, just acting their age.

In some ways, I'd be grateful if they opened a few early, make the whole hullabulloo on xmas morning faster but apparently I tend to be a bit scroogy about presents and they are mostly from their well-meaning grandmother.
post #54 of 91
It is not my 4yo I have to worry about. All three of our cats are determined to spoil Christmas. They are lucky they are cute. Two of them open presents, even gifts that are not THEIRS! The other one just likes to chew the ribbons into a slimy ball of yuck. One of them has been playing "jungle cat" in the tree and KNOCKED IT OVER on Saturday. Forget trying to wrap anything when they are in the room...... And one ate a bunch of my beloved MOOSE MUNCH that she got out of a SEALED tupperware on top if the fridge. Nothing is safe! My cats are by far the biggest discipline problem in the house. If only, I could send them to their room! They know how to open doors......
post #55 of 91
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And one ate a bunch of my beloved MOOSE MUNCH that she got out of a SEALED tupperware on top if the fridge. Nothing is safe!
That's impressive, LOL. I'm sure it was frustrating but I'm in awe!
post #56 of 91
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That's impressive, LOL. I'm sure it was frustrating but I'm in awe!
Yeah, me too.... She pushed it off the top of the fridge which knocked the top off then went to town. She looked very smug as I was collecting the little treasures off the floor.

Am I gross for still eating it?
post #57 of 91
At 2 and 4? There's no way a 2 year old has the impulse control NOT to unwrap presents in their reach. I have a 2 and a 4 year old now, and I know that they have a synergistic effect on each other - one starts trouble and the other one happily joins in (usually the 2 year old kicks things off and the 4year old follows suit.)

I think that someone who puts presents under the tree - in sight of and in reach of toddlers/preschoolers doesn't get where they are developmentally, at all. It's an impulse control thing, they just don't have it at all, at 2, and it's still developing in a 4 year old. Parent's job to control the environment, not the kid's job to defy their natural impulse to explore and be nosy.
post #58 of 91
Yooper, eat the food. You'll be fine!

We have five cats and they are LOVING the tree. One of them (I think it's one...) has been opening gifts. Another plucks ornaments from the tree and brings them to our bedroom.

The tree is tied to a hook anchored in the wall or I suspect it would have been over long ago. It's been up since December 1.
post #59 of 91
I think the issue of impulse control really depends on the child - and the situation. Our 2 yr old had an awful time leaving presents alone right after I wrapped them and they were still sitting on the sofa the next AM. I asked her to help me put them under the tree for Christmas and figured I might have to remove them until Christmas. However, she hasn't touched them.

Our dog knows how to open presents. He puts them between his paws and unwraps them and puts all the paper to the side - usually in a fairly neat pile. It's so funny! One time I got him a pair of dog nail clippers. He not only unwrapped it, but also opened the package they were in and took them out.
So the dog opened a few onetime, but even he is good about waiting now. But you should see him on Christmas - as excited as any little kid I ever saw.

My dh *loves* to find out ahead of time what he is getting. He is good enough to not peek, but he will try to guess. One year I wrapped things all odd - put rocks in them to make them heavier, wrapped pants in a waste paper basket etc. Oh it was so funny seeing him try to guess!! And then he guessed and I pretended he was right and he was so sure he had finally figured it out. Boy was he surprised on Christmas day!
post #60 of 91
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Originally Posted by Marsupialmom View Post
At 2 and 4 I would laugh it off. I might have them help me re-wrap some of the gifts. Honestly at that age I wouldn't have even had any under the tree to tempt them. Especially the 2 year old isn't mature enough to with stand an impulse and temptation.

Now, at 12 adn 14 I would be mad!! They could be at least sneaky (LOL) and try to hid the fact!. LOL Does that make since I would be mad but laugh at it because they are being "kids' and it isn't the end of the world.
Yep!

My two year old would open stuff because she knows her name is it on it whether she the one getting it or giving it. It's too hard to keep her from opening stuff so I wouldn't even have it out.
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