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post #21 of 40
I'm expecting my 7th.

When we announced our 4th, we had NO positive reactions from DH's family, so after that we would wait to tell the news. WIth our 5th I was about 18 weeks, with our 6th I was about 22. This one we are seriously considering waiting until I'm about 30 weeks to tell. Why set ourselves up to hear the negative comments when we are SO happy about it? And people DO comment, and some of the comments are just so crass and vulgar. Ugh.

Only at my LLL meetings can I find real excitement- and even there I will now have the biggest family in my area.
post #22 of 40
This will be baby #5 at home for us I also have a son who lives in Ohio, so technically this is my 6th child, he was adopted though.
Alicia
post #23 of 40
This is baby #3 for us. Not big in my mind, but HUGE in my parents mind! My mom always comments on how 2 is enough, we have a boy and girl, so thats perfect, etc. She only had 2 and said that she had one child to replace her and one to replace my dad. Ugh! Not looking forward to telling her. My IL's will be excited, they both have large families.
post #24 of 40
I guess I'm in the minority here - 3 seemed like too many for ME (and dh), but here we are And I have to tell right away! Plus this one we found out about on Christmas so what better of a Christmas present could there be for the grandparents?!? They can't talk anyhow, because my MIL had her "oops" with #3 and my parents had 7 (I think the last 4 were "oops" babies). I think I'll be OK with 3, but I'll have to prepare myself a bit in the coming months. That's not to say I'm not happy, though! I think because this was unplanned I feel like people are looking at me like I'm crazy (and because I have been pretty vocal about how 2 is plenty for me). I did get a weird reaction from my sister who I am close with, but I think she's just a bit disappointed that I can't drink with her on New Year's Eve (we live 1,000 from them so I only see her a few times a year).
post #25 of 40
This will be our fourth. Not too big, but not too small.
post #26 of 40
I am expecting number nine and I am not telling anyone until they can figure it out on their own. My parents no longer react, LOL. MDC, DH and DC are the only ones with an "in"
post #27 of 40
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Originally Posted by krisalee View Post
When we announced our 4th, we had NO positive reactions from DH's family, so after that we would wait to tell the news. WIth our 5th I was about 18 weeks, with our 6th I was about 22. This one we are seriously considering waiting until I'm about 30 weeks to tell. Why set ourselves up to hear the negative comments when we are SO happy about it? And people DO comment, and some of the comments are just so crass and vulgar. Ugh.

Only at my LLL meetings can I find real excitement- and even there I will now have the biggest family in my area.
I hear ya! I actually don't talk to a sister anymore becasue she was so nasty about my no. 7 announcement, telling me not to complain to her about being poor if I insist on having children and that I should abort. She is childless and will remain so. Family can be the nasiest of all.
post #28 of 40
Well, I'm responding late on this one but .... Yeah this makes #4 for us as well. No one greeted our news with negativity atleast .... all grandparents from both sides are happy .... but immediately began with the comments of "So which one of you is getting snipped?" and other such things along those lines. I'm really getting sick of "Have you figured out what's causing in yet?" Gee. Like I haven't heard that one since I announced #2 .....

Overall, I just let it go in one ear and out the other. No one else has to live my life and I don't have to recieve their negativity either!
post #29 of 40
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I hear ya! I actually don't talk to a sister anymore becasue she was so nasty about my no. 7 announcement, telling me not to complain to her about being poor if I insist on having children and that I should abort. She is childless and will remain so. Family can be the nasiest of all
. OMG that is just HORRIBLE! I am so sorry. I just can't understand why it truly offends people for others to have large families. There is more to life than being rich, and why does a large family have to equal being poor? My mom arrives from out of state tomorrow so we'll see how she reacts to the news that we are expecting #4.
post #30 of 40
We have 2 boys, a girl and this will be our fourth, but one of my son's is my stepson so this is only my third pregnancy. Anywho.. We'll now be a family of 6 altogether.

I have 3 brothers, the oldest I haven't told, the 2nd oldest was really happy and said he needed to catch up to me , and the third was happy, but I can tell he was thinking we're a little nuts. I'm the baby of the family and financially we do ok, but no where near my older siblings (5, 10, and 12 years older so that's to be expected). My brother in law and his wife were happy but immediately took over the conversation that they want another one and went on an on about that... My in-laws who while I was prego with our daughter told my husband they would pay for him to get "snipped" were happy in the polite way. My parents were happy for us thank god for my parents!

I admit I'm not sure how we're going to deal with our new arrival which is a little scary but this baby is so very much wanted and we're so happy about it, it will all work out in the end. As far as dealing I more mean scheduling.. My husband and I work shift work which most of the time is opposite shifts and thankfully my daughter naps at great times for us, but a baby doesn't sleep like that!
post #31 of 40
I just don't get people who have negative reactions to large families. Obviously, God intended for you to multiple....and keep doing so. *sigh*
post #32 of 40
I don't business with having a fourth as I know the dh family will be upset ( I think SIL is struggling with infertility...and a host of medical/emmotional issues)....after we had our 2nd MIL/FIL said we should stop (dh first baby, my second) after the 3rd 4yrs afo they said to my SIL it was her turn now....and they'd be there to support her....like wtf? Its one of those they pay for her wedding entirely (gave us a 100 dollar gift card for ours) type of families. I think its someone elses business how many kids I have IF it actually affects them, I don't ask for $, I don't ask family to babysit, buy stuff for us, help me out, etc so its not like more babies for me is more work for them.

I hate that weren't you using birth control = actually I was and dh was using the withdrawal method on top of that...ds #2 was a pill baby (and i never missed even one by two hours!)

My sister has three and is probably done as she is having really bad back issues from surgery and a traffic accident...I had three - it was a nice even score....I think she's going to be upset more so if I have a girl as she has only 3 boys and really wanted a girl.

It is weird there is big party for the first pregnancy (usually), minor acknowlegement for the second and why did you do that to yourself after number three....
post #33 of 40
Number 3 here. Muted reactions from our family so far. I made sure to say, we're expecting our third and we are SO EXCITED about it when I announced. Because sometimes people just need to be cued how to feel. Mostly people worry. Because we don't own a house, and things are tight, etc.. etc... But I think they will come around in time. A baby is an abstraction to people who aren't "growing" it! When he or she is a person in front of them, the love usually flows. My MIL was excited though, yay, at least someone was.
post #34 of 40
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Originally Posted by Astoria View Post
Number 3 here. Muted reactions from our family so far. I made sure to say, we're expecting our third and we are SO EXCITED about it when I announced. Because sometimes people just need to be cued how to feel. Mostly people worry. Because we don't own a house, and things are tight, etc.. etc... But I think they will come around in time. A baby is an abstraction to people who aren't "growing" it! When he or she is a person in front of them, the love usually flows. My MIL was excited though, yay, at least someone was.
We are in the same position.
post #35 of 40
People have asked us why we're having another baby when we're living in a small house, not having tons of money for moving, etc. Um. . . if we waited for the perfect time, we would have no kids and live with regret. We'll make it work. . . 3 kids can live in a small house just as well as 2 kids can. Maybe we'll move to a bigger house. Maybe we won't.
post #36 of 40
We're in a small house, too. People are asking if we're going to move or add on (eyeroll), but they're generally happy about the pregnancy (will be child #3.)
post #37 of 40
This will be my third. I feel like 3 makes us a big family, even though my parents and all their siblings had at least 3.

The pregnancy was unplanned, and it took me a few weeks, but I am now really excited and in love with my baby. The boys are really excited too. All my family and friends have been wonderfully supportive and have helped me get the right attitude about having more than I had planned on. I am so grateful for their support.
post #38 of 40
This will be our third. We've always wanted four, but we wanted them all three years apart. My ds is only nine months old right now, so this has been quite a shock! My family is ecstatic, but they all love big families. We haven't told DH's family yet because they will not be happy and there's no reason to put up with them raining on our parade for any longer than we have to!
post #39 of 40
#4 for us (third pregnancy). We are thrilled. And will probably have #5 shortly thereafter since there's a wider age gap b/w #2 and 3 (twins) and this baby.
post #40 of 40
This baby will be our 6th. We currently have 5 girls, so let's see!
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