Gifts between spouses question. - Page 4

[sarasprings]

I also have to add that I've found recently that some areas on the board are not all that supportive. The OP knew her husband did something that she wasn't quite sure of. She did not post "Yah -- we got donations for the children so there was money for me to get a present that rocks!"

It's gotten to the point that I might read something such as "My MIL is feeding my child fruit loops" and someone might respond "at least your MIL will go to near your children." I guess overall this board seems a little angrier and judgemental than back when I joined.

[Usually Curious]

I don't post often but wanted to say that I like to hear different sides and opinions and think it would be incredibly boring to only hear 'I support you, regardless of the wisdom of your actions...' yk?

[sarasprings]

I agree. I guess what I meant was that it can feel like an attack and what good does that do? It makes someone defensive or feel bad rather then get them thinking. Or it feels like people are saying "your problem isn't important. This is my problem and it's bigger. Stop complaining."

ETA: I think there are some people that would be offended by a lot because they are so sensitive. I don't think that should be the standard because there would be too much tip toeing (sorry about that spelling).

[Purple*Lotus]

Originally Posted by thismama

And Jaime, as a former worker in domestic violence shelters myself, I absolutely do not believe your supposed 'observations' and think they must say more about personal bitterness or burnt-out-ness than about objective reality. What I saw was very, very different from what you state you saw.

I prayed for that job, I asked God to give it to me. I did not say that all of my clients did that, but as depressing as it is, a lot do. I do not know how you can accuse me of lying or of being burnt out when you have never been to my job. If I was burnt out I could stay home or go back to my old job. I truly wish my situation was like the one you described, but it is not. I was just offering my own insight on why people in my community give, and I stated that it could be totally different in other areas.

[tangozulu]

Kimber, I hope you enjoy the heck out of your flash. Merry Christmas!

Tracey