DH's concern about restoring:

[janellesmommy]

He's afraid of being in the morgue, having his parents come in to identify him, and then say, no that can't be our son, because our son is circumcised. Then he would end up in a "pauper's grave."

So I told him, that's assuming you die before your parents, in an accident, without me around.

And I haven't heard of the state of a man's penis being an identifying factor, but I guess it's possible.

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

Actually when someone dies they only show the face to the person doing the identification. It would be very odd indeed if they showed someones genitals, especialy to his parents, for identification. They would be more likely to show them scares or tattoo's.

If it was a bad accident were his face was damaged really badly they would do dental records for ID purposes instead of doing a visual conformation.

Your dh sounds a lot like me actually that things like that pop into his head.

The odds that his penis would come into play for ID purposes would be extremely low. After all the workers at the mourge would assume it had been many years since his parents had seen his penis and you can bet that it looks a lot differnt now than it did then.

Of course on paper they may put uncircumcised male when describing his details but still it would be a very long shot.

[Roxswood]

He could just tell them

[thixle]

As morbid as that is, it really made me laugh.
They will go by dental records, tattoos, and finally scars-- IF he dies without ID, IF his face is unrecognizable, IF he leaves no dental record, IF he dies first, IF he dies alone. I'm sure there are much more "if's"

Oh, and IF they do go looking for scars, and check his penis to see if he is intact or circ'ed, there will still be a faint scar. So IF they go looking that hard (as to identify him by penis status), they should also see the scar. But, most likely, they won't have to look that hard, they will identify him by other means and glance at his penis and make a checkmark- depending on what they think. What if he dies while partially restored, do you think they'll write partially circ'ed?

[Greg B]

Rolls my eyes, geesh.

Circ status cannot be definitive. Too many men are left whole for this to be helpful. And since many have restored, it is even less helpful.

Really, this is such a non issue, that it is clear he just is not ready to restore. No problem. He has to be the one to do it. If he isn't ready, he isn't ready.

Be aware, that if he has a tendency to have theses irrational worries, just wait until he begins restoring! There will be so many new things to observe, feel, and worry about he will have a hay day!

Cheers!

[IsaacAndAnnalee]

He could wear one of those medical ID bracelets to identify that he was circ'd and restored

[Night_Nurse]

Well...he could always mention to his parents that he's restoring...

[eepster]

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Originally Posted by IsaacAndAnnalee

He could wear one of those medical ID bracelets to identify that he was circ'd and restored

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[RestoredIntactivst]

Both of my parents, some close family members, and select close friends know that I am restoring (as of a couple years ago), but mostly because I wanted them to know how much I despised being circed.

The topic hasn't come up in a very long time though, so no one really knows how far I've gotten. I never thought about it as an issue for identification (I highly doubt it would be) but I guess if it comes up, they will know!

[BamaDude]

Originally Posted by Greg B

Be aware, that if he has a tendency to have theses irrational worries, just wait until he begins restoring! There will be so many new things to observe, feel, and worry about he will have a hay day!

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Never has a truer word been spoken!