First of all my heart goes out to you and the boys and to your brotherInLaw and Kundalini's children. I had a private discussion with Jess in the summer and we talked about the baby and her sister and it was a very tender PM. I don't know if she mentioned it to you but I had a thought about her sister that I shared. I won't post here because it was private but if you want to PM me I can share it with you.
Additionally I posted on the caring bridge website a thought I had, I don't know if you read it. But Jess has been posting here for years. And in those posts are sweet moments about being a mom and things she was thinking about and doing for your son and then the new pregnancy and all kind of cozy thoughts. I think if you want some of the moms here, perhaps from her MomDuedate club could go through those postings and find the ones that would be of meaning for her boys when they are older, so they can know what kind of loving mom she was and how much she thought about her kids.
honestly, I wish I had something like that from my mom. Anyway, there are a lot of postings and it would probably take a team of moms here to cute and paste and put them on a word document. But it could be done. And I think it would be wildly appreciated by your boys.
maybe afterwards the same could be done for her sister Kundalini. I don't know why I didn't think of it earlier.
anyway, Hugs to you and the boys. I'm going to go paypal you some dough to help.
hugs, hugs, hugs