Originally Posted by transformed
Yes but you dont have to let it take over your life. And I think that sheltering kids is very damaging sometimes. Like no sleep-overs...like some other posters said-it kind of scarred them.
We have to keep our kids safe. But we can't keep them in a sling forever.
(Mine are still young so remind me I said this in about 3 years.
I don't think that if I choose not to allow sleepovers, that I'm letting my worries for my children consume me (not saying you meant that, either--just clarifying, lol). But I do think that being sexually abused is a bit more traumatic than not being allowed to sleepover (again, not saying that just because someone goes to a sleepover, it will end in abuse...).
There are many dangers in life, many that we cannot control. But, I can control to some extent what my dc are exposed to by being an assertive mom/parent. I don't know if this is coming out right (I'm nak, which says it all).
If I do decide to selectively allow sleepovers, I'll be setting some ground rules from the get-go. I'd have to know the family very well, I'd educate my dc on what is/isn't appropriate for them and for others pertaining to them, and I'd send a cell phone and tell them to call if they were uncomfortable in any way...but I'd still be concerned about sexual abuse--I know way too many people who've been molested--not from internet stories or the news.
My opinion only, not endorsing anyone to feel the same way, lol