Wow...so what happens when my dh gets home from work today? He tells me this long story. I won't get into details, but suffice to say a bunch of bad stuff happened today, and while management got involved, he still has what I think is good reason to fear for his life.
He made it clear to the donkey at work that he will not live in fear, nor will he tolerate another instance of this--but the guy owns guns. Said donkey will also, obviously as a result of his actions this week, move up the short list of candidates for layoff.
Dh is not so concerned about himself, but takes very seriously his commitment to wife and children. He's actually writing down names of who's who, so I know whom to call and whom to accuse, should something unspeakable happen.
OK--so, what the guy actually said to dh might not have been so terrible, if it "stood alone," but--this was after dh heard him make really, truly, horrible offensive remarks about POC and women.
EXACTLY HERE is where such private, meaningless conversations can lead. I am trying to console myself with the fact that management was involved, and since it's a huge corporation, they have a lot to protect, and it's in their best interest not to let one employee actually kill another one. It's not just the harrassment, but the potential for violence, that makes me a basket case.