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post #21 of 200
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Originally Posted by Ecstatic View Post
Honestly, I think people with kids age 5 or under shouldn't be allowed into movies that are more than G rated. Or they should be allowed in on special days only.

I say this because I have yet to see a single movie that was above G rated where, if a child aged 5 or below was there, did NOT make noise. I personally don't care what people expose their kids to. But, don't take them to movies that you want to personally see and where your child is bored or scared and making noise, thereby disturbing my viewing.

So, I agree - don't take them. But, I'm coming from the very selfish viewpoint. Don't take them because it disturbs my viewing, lol.
I absolutely hate people who disturb movies . . . but people of all ages do it. When we were at I am Legend, it was the people in the back talking loudly who annoyed me. My daughter didn't make a sound because she knows better.

I think movie theater management should be stricter about booting people out if they are making noise -- children and adults alike. I don't think the answer is a blanket ban on kids in movies with a greater than G rating.
post #22 of 200
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Originally Posted by Dragonfly View Post
How old is your oldest child?
She's five, but I'm 27 and haven't had any ill-effects from watching adult-themed movies as a child. I am not concerned that my children will, either.

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In addition, I have to wonder, "what's the point?" Why do children need to see things like a creature dragging a human being around by the neck and shaking him like a vicious dog?
What's the point of any form of entertainment? We go because we enjoy the experience of watching a movie and talking about it as a family. Children (and adults) don't NEED to see anything or participate in ANY form of entertainment . . . but as long as they're enjoying it, it's good by me.

I also think that there was so much more to that movie than monsters and violence . . . and all the rest is the stuff we've been talking about.
post #23 of 200
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Originally Posted by Ecstatic View Post
Honestly, I think people with kids age 5 or under shouldn't be allowed into movies that are more than G rated. Or they should be allowed in on special days only.

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I have to disagree When my youngest ds was a baby he went to lots of movies with me. He either nursed or slept and didn't make a peep. He wasn't at all into the movie, I'll admit but he also wasn't disruptive. He was just the kind of baby who would sit quietly in my lap. If I had had an active, noisy baby I would have stayed home.

I did have to stop taking him to any movies for a while when he was a toddler and all he wanted to do was run around. By that time we only went to kids movies but even at those, I took him out if he was disruptive. Luckily the phase passed quickly.
post #24 of 200
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Originally Posted by Jessy1019 View Post
She's five, but I'm 27 and haven't had any ill-effects from watching adult-themed movies as a child. I am not concerned that my children will, either.
I am glad it didnt bother you, but your kids arent you. Something that frightens them, might not you. I watched alot of "adult" movies growing up, but that doesnt mean that I want my children exposed do that b/c "it didnt effect me" That is just a rather immature attitude, IMO.
post #25 of 200
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Originally Posted by angie7 View Post
I am glad it didnt bother you, but your kids arent you. Something that frightens them, might not you. I watched alot of "adult" movies growing up, but that doesnt mean that I want my children exposed do that b/c "it didnt effect me" That is just a rather immature attitude, IMO.
I actually have a lot of reasons for letting my kids watch the things that they choose to watch, only one of my reasons being that I was allowed the same freedom as a child. I don't believe in censorship, for one thing. I trust my children to tell me if something is bothering them so that we can work it out, for another. I trust myself to know my own kids and what will work for them, even if it goes against the grain. I trust my instincts where my children are concerned. I believe that there's nothing we can't talk about or explain in terms they can understand. Etc, etc.

I am very comfortable with my decisions and decision-making process.

And to the poster who mentioned bringing her little ones to the movies a lot. We always did the same, and it's been great for all of us. It makes me : when I hear parents of young babies talking about how they "never go the movies anymore." There's no reason at all not to take a nursing infant.
post #26 of 200
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I actually have a lot of reasons for letting my kids watch the things that they choose to watch, only one of my reasons being that I was allowed the same freedom as a child. I don't believe in censorship, for one thing. I trust my children to tell me if something is bothering them so that we can work it out, for another. I trust myself to know my own kids and what will work for them, even if it goes against the grain. I trust my instincts where my children are concerned. I believe that there's nothing we can't talk about or explain in terms they can understand. Etc, etc.

I am very comfortable with my decisions and decision-making process.

And to the poster who mentioned bringing her little ones to the movies a lot. We always did the same, and it's been great for all of us. It makes me when I hear parents of young babies talking about how they "never go the movies anymore." There's no reason at all not to take a nursing infant.
I agree with you entirely. My children (almost 7, almost 3, and 11 months) are allowed to watch whatever movies DH and I are watching. We don't generally take them to R rated movies (because that's our child free time ) but we do take them to the movies. They rarely have nightmares and have never had one after seing a horror movie. They're not any more violent than other children their ages. They're not desensited to real life cruelty and my oldest actually cries if I go to kill a spider. I'm sure all of you who are opposed to children watching horror movies will think I'm lying or delusional and that's fine--you can believe whatever you want.

They've been going since birth and they don't cause any problems. The one time the middle child threw a fit (during a kids movie) I took her out until she calmed down. No biggie. If you don't expose your children to the movie theatre, you only have yourself to blame if they make a scene when you do take them.
post #27 of 200
I think if a child isn't bothered by the level of violence seen in many R-rated movies, that's a sign of desensitization. And the data actually appears to support that. Personally, I don't see that as a healthy thing... but different strokes for different folks, I guess.

Oh, and the censorship issue doesn't really hold water for me. If a child had the experience to thoroughly understand the impact that a movie like that might have on him/her, that would be one thing. Young children simply don't have the life experience to enable that level of awareness or decision-making. That's why they have parents - to guide them and support them as they grow into a person who can make those decisions. I feel like it's disrespectful of children to treat them as little adults who always know what's good for them.
post #28 of 200
I totally agree that different kids are ready for different things at different ages, but if my kid was crying and asking to leave, I would leave. And if I for some reason didn't notice that my kids were upset and someone else asked me to leave, I would leave.

I actually left a movie because of this (not my kids, someone elses) and told the manager why I was leaving. I went to see 1408 (scary stephan king-john cusak movie), it's a horror movie, and someone brought in two kids, one about 5 and one about 3 and sat behind us. I got really shaky and knew if I stayed, I'd be thinking about them and crying the whole movie (I was pregnant too, so those hormones may have played a role in the crying part). But we left and told the management why. I was so glad we left, but we saw a crappy movie instead, and we don't get out much, so I was annoyed about that, plus, i thought about those kids anyway, even though they were in a different theater.
post #29 of 200
I don't think kids under a certain age shouldn't be allowed into an R or PG-13 movie because they might disrupt other people, but because THEY ARE CHILDREN! Society has a DUTY (although its been sadly forgotten and abandoned by most people it seems) to protect children from unnecessary trauma and violence. If I managed a movie theater and saw parents walking into a movie like I Am Legend with a 4 year old I would INSIST that they leave immediately. Some people just have really questionable judgment, at least in my opinion, and that is all the more reason why the theater should be allowed to establish a rule like this-TO PROTECT THE CHILDREN.
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post #31 of 200
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Originally Posted by Ecstatic View Post
Honestly, I think people with kids age 5 or under shouldn't be allowed into movies that are more than G rated. Or they should be allowed in on special days only.

I say this because I have yet to see a single movie that was above G rated where, if a child aged 5 or below was there, did NOT make noise. I personally don't care what people expose their kids to. But, don't take them to movies that you want to personally see and where your child is bored or scared and making noise, thereby disturbing my viewing.

So, I agree - don't take them. But, I'm coming from the very selfish viewpoint. Don't take them because it disturbs my viewing, lol.
See. That is how I feel too. I work with kids alllll day, and when my dh and I go out (rarely) we want it to be grown up time. The kids don't want to be there, so why make everybody else suffer.

I also think ANYBODY who is going to disturb the movie shouldn't be there. It could be chatty teens, the old man with a cough, the lady with a rattly bag of chocolate covered raisins. It doesn't matter, I am easily distracted and I just want to get my $12 worth.

So, yep, it's purely selfishness for me too.
post #32 of 200
There was a young child (maybe 5 or 6) in the theater when I saw HOSTEL! It totally distracted me from watching the movie. I'm sorry, but I will freely judge anyone who exposes their child to graphic, horrific murder scenes in movies. Honestly, after seeing that movie I pretty much decided that type of movie wasn't something I even wanted to watch anymore. I cannot even imagine letting my son watch that!
post #33 of 200
I agree totally with dragonfly and mama poot ~ no matter what we think, kids are not mini adults and do not have the maturity to handle all we do. There are too many young adults/older children who are so desensitized to violence, it is scary. I say protect your children when they are young ~ err on the side of caution............
post #34 of 200
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Originally Posted by Mama Poot View Post
If I managed a movie theater and saw parents walking into a movie like I Am Legend with a 4 year old I would INSIST that they leave immediately.
I'd be going over your head and gunning for your job at that point. It is not your right to decide what is good for my family.


Dragonfly:
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I think if a child isn't bothered by the level of violence seen in many R-rated movies, that's a sign of desensitization.
As long as they remain sensitive to real people and issues, I wouldn't be concerned. Being desensitized to the point that they can watch and enjoy a fun horror movie actually seems like a good thing to me, and I wish I were more that way myself. I was when I was little, and I'm glad I enjoyed what I could when I could.

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Oh, and the censorship issue doesn't really hold water for me. If a child had the experience to thoroughly understand the impact that a movie like that might have on him/her, that would be one thing. Young children simply don't have the life experience to enable that level of awareness or decision-making. That's why they have parents - to guide them and support them as they grow into a person who can make those decisions. I feel like it's disrespectful of children to treat them as little adults who always know what's good for them.
I think it's disrespectful to treat them like they are incapable of decision-making, and feel that my role as a parent is to guide them through life. For our family in this particular situation, this means telling them what they're going to see, and then talking about it afterward if they have questions or concerns.

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They rarely have nightmares and have never had one after seing a horror movie. They're not any more violent than other children their ages. They're not desensited to real life cruelty and my oldest actually cries if I go to kill a spider. I'm sure all of you who are opposed to children watching horror movies will think I'm lying or delusional and that's fine--you can believe whatever you want.
Yup, my kids too. I don't think either of mine have ever had a nightmare, ever, and they don't engage in any violent play (save for roughousing with mama and daddy, but we usually initiate that). I guess they'll just be screwed up adults,

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If you don't expose your children to the movie theatre, you only have yourself to blame if they make a scene when you do take them.
Yup!
post #35 of 200
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Originally Posted by Jessy1019 View Post
that is me all the time when it comes to scary movies. I enjoyed them so much more when I was little . . . probably why I don't have a problem letting my kid watch what she wants. There may come a time when this stuff freaks her out too much!

You may not think they're 'freaking her out', but it may be doing more damage than you think. When I was 8yrs old I begged & begged my mother to let me see a horror movie with my cousins. They were going & I desperately wanted to go with them. To THIS VERY DAY I can't go outside at night without the 'bad guy' from that movie entering my head. I can now rationally push it away most of the time, but there are some times when I come running back into the house. It HAS scarred me for life. Little children are VERY impressionable. I would NEVER EVER do that to my child.


I can't stand to see small children at scary (or even non-kid) movies. I just don't understand it. My kids watch Noggin, my 5yr old has never seen HIgh School Musical (none of us have). I just can't see the point of introducing such adult things so early. I know my kids would be traumatized by a movie like "I am Legend".
post #36 of 200
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Originally Posted by Jessy1019 View Post
I trust my children to tell me if something is bothering them so that we can work it out, for another. I trust myself to know my own kids and what will work for them, even if it goes against the grain. I trust my instincts where my children are concerned. I believe that there's nothing we can't talk about or explain in terms they can understand. Etc, etc.
You may be able to 'talk about or explain' all you want, but once images are in their heads you CAN NOT take them back out. They may come back at a later time as unwanted........ and no amount of explaining or talking will make them go away.
post #37 of 200
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Originally Posted by Dragonfly View Post
I think if a child isn't bothered by the level of violence seen in many R-rated movies, that's a sign of desensitization. And the data actually appears to support that. Personally, I don't see that as a healthy thing... but different strokes for different folks, I guess.

Oh, and the censorship issue doesn't really hold water for me. If a child had the experience to thoroughly understand the impact that a movie like that might have on him/her, that would be one thing. Young children simply don't have the life experience to enable that level of awareness or decision-making. That's why they have parents - to guide them and support them as they grow into a person who can make those decisions. I feel like it's disrespectful of children to treat them as little adults who always know what's good for them.
I couldn't agree more!
post #38 of 200
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Originally Posted by ctdoula View Post
You may not think they're 'freaking her out', but it may be doing more damage than you think. When I was 8yrs old I begged & begged my mother to let me see a horror movie with my cousins. They were going & I desperately wanted to go with them. To THIS VERY DAY I can't go outside at night without the 'bad guy' from that movie entering my head. I can now rationally push it away most of the time, but there are some times when I come running back into the house. It HAS scarred me for life. Little children are VERY impressionable. I would NEVER EVER do that to my child.


I can't stand to see small children at scary (or even non-kid) movies. I just don't understand it. My kids watch Noggin, my 5yr old has never seen HIgh School Musical (none of us have). I just can't see the point of introducing such adult things so early. I know my kids would be traumatized by a movie like "I am Legend".
Like I said already, I know my kids and I trust my instincts with them. I also know that my own experiences contradict yours.

I think it is silly for you (and others) to waste your time and energy worrying about what I and other parents choose for our families, when it comes to something as subjective as a movie, but if that's what you want to do, have fun.
post #39 of 200
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Originally Posted by Jessy1019 View Post
I think it's disrespectful to treat them like they are incapable of decision-making, and feel that my role as a parent is to guide them through life.
Surely you see a middle road there? I also think it's disrespectful to treat children as though they are incapable of decision-making. However, as my child's guide, it's my job to recognize what he is ready to decide for himself and what he is not. The decision to expose one's self to violence and gore is an adult decision - or should be. There are a lot of potential implications there that children are not ready to grasp (and, again, the studies on children and exposure to media violence certainly play that out).


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Yup, my kids too. I don't think either of mine have ever had a nightmare, ever, and they don't engage in any violent play (save for roughousing with mama and daddy, but we usually initiate that).
If these are your gauges, then you may want to think this through a bit more. Maybe do a bit of reading.

About exposing kids to the movie theater: DS has gone since he was a baby - to age-appropriate movies (although I used to take him to non-violent movies that probably weren't his thing when he was an infant because he was just nursing and sleeping so he didn't care ).
post #40 of 200
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Originally Posted by Jessy1019 View Post
I think it is silly for you (and others) to waste your time and energy worrying about what I and other parents choose for our families, when it comes to something as subjective as a movie, but if that's what you want to do, have fun.
I don't think it's ever a waste of time to be concerned about what sort of violence other children are being exposed to. For one, because I care about children, in general. Also, my child has to live in the world with the rest of today's children and I'd prefer it turn out to be a healthy place.
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