Developmental Guidelines - Content Based Criteria for Determining Age Appropriateness - www.commonsensemedia.org
|This grid is designed to quickly show you what child development experts feel is developmentally appropriate for different age groups. Because every child and every family is different, it is only a rough guide, but we do use it to guide our ratings.
I'm so with Dragonfly & Freerangemama here. Never in a million years would DH & I take our children to "adult" films.
You have no idea how fear affects brain development. I was watching some United 9/11 movie and I "knew" it was all pretend, they were all actors, but my body was behaving like what I was watching was REAL. I felt stress, pain, and fear and horrible anxiety. I have never felt like that watching any movie (except maybe Jaws.) This was different.
My 7.5 yr old never was too scared of 'scary' children's movies (Snow White, Wiz of Oz) but my 3.5 yr old is a different story. She is very sensitive. She was screaming at home when we watched Ratatouille and the old lady was trying to kill Remy and the other rats with her shotgun. In her mind what is happening is real.
Even my 7.5 yr old knows things are fake, but the body acts like it's real. Even adults react that way.
I sit with her and put my hand on her chest. If her heart is beating fast (anxiety, fear, what stress hormones are flooding her brain?) I sit with her and hold her and that helps. Or we turn it off and watch something else.
But even for my 7.5 yr old (who I has not seen Spiderman, Transformers, etc - because there is no NEED for it) I am sure has some physiological reaction to what he is watching.
Children need adults to protect them (and guide them) from certain inappropriate things.
I am Legend - I LOVED it. I love post-apocolyptic films and I could not stop thinking about the movie all night (that never happens!) because I used to live in NYC and often wonder - how in the hell would you survive (leave) if something like that were to happen? But it was horrible images to put a young child through. Absolutely horrible.
I remember seeing some scary, violent, torture!!! scenes in a movie theater when I was 8-10? years old. I have never forgotten the horrible images. I didn't cry, laugh or complain... you have have no idea how children respond sometimes unless you probe.