i survived xmas morning with my family

[cravenab00]

but barely. maybe i'm just crabby, but the "hurry up and have that baby!" comments got REALLY old.
and then it came down to "when do you see the doctor again?" (no one has any clue that i dont HAVE a doctor) i just said "oh sometime this week"
and then i got the question i've been dreading
"you're going to a hospital this time right?" and when I said "no" everyone just sighed and shook their heads.

i just wanted to scream. Especially at my grandmother, who herself was born at home, along with her NINE siblings.
why cant people just be nice? :

oh well, i got to eat a nice meal that i didnt cook or have to clean up after. at least that was nice.

[guest9921]

You have more courage than I do, thats for sure.

And for what its worth, I'm looking forward to hearing about your UC birth!

[stellimamo]

At least its over.

I survived but am worried that now that Christmas is over the phone is going to start ringing more with the "did you have that baby yet" question. Thats annoys me so much. I want to say we will call you when we are ready to. Stop calling just to ask baby status. If you want to chat about non baby stuff or make plans thats great but if you are "just checking on me" bugoff!

[AGlimmeringHope]

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My great-aunt is the same way. She was born at home, her mother was the town midwife...but still I was lucky I didn't die because a doctor wasn't here to save me and the baby from how dangerous having a baby is. @@

At least its over and you got some yummy food!

[Ms. B. Sprout]

Family can be so very challenging. I hope the worst is over for you now.

[kittywitty]

Dh just lied through his teeth to his family. You should have heard his mom when he told her yesterday when the baby was born! Wowza.

[Nitenites]

Originally Posted by stellimamo

At least its over.

I survived but am worried that now that Christmas is over the phone is going to start ringing more with the "did you have that baby yet" question. Thats annoys me so much. I want to say we will call you when we are ready to. Stop calling just to ask baby status. If you want to chat about non baby stuff or make plans thats great but if you are "just checking on me" bugoff!

I've started marking people off the "call list" when the baby is born, just for that very reason. Today, at MIL's, someone asked me, "You haven't had that baby yet?" My reply? "Yes, but we're hiding her under the bed at home."

[bobandjess99]

Originally Posted by Nitenites

"You haven't had that baby yet?" My reply? "Yes, but we're hiding her under the bed at home."

I swear to god my family thinks the same thing! They call every day,and after a second, in a so NOT slick way, slip in a question "so, no baby?"
LIKE, if I HAD had the baby, or were in active labor, I wouldn't, you know..MENTION that at the top of the phone call!!??!!

Sigh

[VickV]

Ugh - how maddening for y'all!!

[*MamaJen*]

Originally Posted by bobandjess99

I swear to god my family thinks the same thing! They call every day,and after a second, in a so NOT slick way, slip in a question "so, no baby?"
LIKE, if I HAD had the baby, or were in active labor, I wouldn't, you know..MENTION that at the top of the phone call!!??!!

Sigh

My parents just call every day and start talking about the weather, then say hopefully, "So, how are you feeling?" as though it gives me a conversational opening to reply, "Well, dad, now that you mention it, I am in active labor." It's pretty silly and sweet, actually. They're trying so hard.

So Aaron's step grandmother, upon hearing that I was having a homebirth, told me she was the product of a homebirth too. In the 1930s. As a TRIPLET. She said her mom was about 4'10", went nine months with the triplets and each one of them weighed more than five pounds. I was in awe. Aaron's dear departed Texas pioneer step-great-grandmother in my new hero.

[guest9921]

^ Aww, your dad sounds like a really nice guy. My mother does the same thing. I'd look at it as sweet, if she didn't infer her impatience, worrying and stress on me.

I tend to tell her nothing, though she has a check off list of questions she asks me:
"Are you contracting?"
"How dilated are you?"
"Do you feel any pressure in your bottom?"

Every single time I answer "I'm not telling you anything Mother, but thanks for your concern." If I happen to slip a tiny piece of information, my father, grandmother, and aunts call me frantically to try to convince me to head off to the hospital instead of our planned homebirth.

Baby was (still is, at times) posterior, I just made an off comment about it on the phone with a friend, while my mother was in the car- and next thing I know my father leaves a 5 minute message on my answering machine pleading me to not risk my life/the babies life and to go to the hospital immediately.