Hmmm.....well! This thread has certainly given me insight,while on my journey to de-homeschool.
On the topic of homeschool groups being exclusive-ITA! I have been in ours for the sixth year, and every year, another *good* family puts their DC in school-to avoid this.
: I am never religious enough(and my DH isn't religious at all!), my DD and I wear *gasp* jeans and shorts, we listen to music other than hymns, and we don't use an entire curriculum that has a Bible reference in it every single sentence! Our other choice, has been a very-unschooly group-which doesn't fit us *because* we are religious, or, we don't adopt the all or nothing of hard core unschoolers.
However! Now that we are moving on from hsing, we are finding that the parochial and P.S.s we are considering, are also very much exclusive-at least in the social circles. We live in a neighborhood,that is four blocks away from low-income and four blocks the other direction is high-income(we are in the middle- house wise, but checking account-low-income). And, I am finding out that where we live, is quite important when I have been approaching moms I know, who have kids in the schools we are looking at.
Life is just one big clique. Period. Like someone said...I too feel like I am trying to get into a sorority! Who needs that at the age of 42? Not me, and I certainly don't want my kids to continue to feel those same vibes-especially DD who is so very sensitive and socially aware.
I am trying to come to terms with this. There is no ideal, I have to find a solution to what is REAL for us.
Okay-thanks for letting me vent,it's been informative to lurk on a pro-school thread too!