1. I am temperamentally unsuited to it. I teach adults well. I don't teach children well. I lack the patience.
Or as someone else eloquently put it:
Originally Posted by EFmom
Homeschooling would be my particular version of hell.
2. Our son in particular does not take direction well from us at all. Some of it is the factors that someone else posted about - he's willing to set aside his pride, he's willing to believe strangers, he's willing to make a good faith effort for anyone other than his parents.
I think that hsing would be very bad for our relationship right now.
3. My kids are currently thriving in a school environment. Ds learns in a very 'schooly' way. He likes order, structure and sameness. Hs would work best for him if it looked a lot like regular school. Dd is in a Reggio Emilio preschool (3x a week) and our church preschool 2 afternoons a week and is thriving. She too likes predictability and structure. And she's an extrovert. She likes the social interaction. Dh (who would be the one with the primary daytime responsibilities) works from home and is an introvert. It'd be a bad match.
4. I believe there is value in going to school, in particular a public school, beyond the academics. Our ds is in a class of 22 kids - 6 are European-American, the other 16 are not. No matter how hard I try, I cannot recreate that dynamic in any meaningful way in a hs community where we live. Why? Because there aren't many Hispanic, Asian-American or African American families that homeschool in our area (are there anywhere?)
And I'm seeing direct benefits from this already. Before school started (it's ds' first year there, he's in 1st grade), ds wanted nothing to do with after school programs or learning another language. This winter, he has the opportunity to take Spanish classes (the majority of kids in his school come from families where Spanish is the first language), and he was eager
to do so. Before he had exposure to kids who spoke Spanish, he wasn't interested. Now he is.
Ds is learning how to get along with and respect kids from many more varied backgrounds than he ever would have at home or in a private school (given where we live).
5. Personal background - I come from a family of (public) school teachers. My dh went to small, religious private schools and came out with a mediocre education at best. (Great music instruction, horrible math). I went to public school and got a much more well rounded education.
I am worried about high school, but there are options programs (a science magnet, an International Baccalaureate Program), and I would consider private schools there too.
I won't rule out hsing, but for me, it's an option of absolute last resort. If the schools cannot meet my child's needs, we'll consider it. But, for now they can, and my kids are doing well. And I'm not tempted to throttle them on an hourly basis.