update: 34 weeks and still cooking!

[aslmere]

Hooray!!!

I had another appt today.
More cervical changes, but still posterior so I got to come home.
They are pretty much convinced that I could go into labor any second and I need to be really aware of my body right now. Luckily they believe that I am... I was told that most every other mom would be in the hospital today. Next week I have to see the dr that is the most controlling and if there have been any more changes she might not let me go home.

I was given a script for vistaril for night time in addition to the procardia and bedrest is now more than as much as possible.
She told me I could go to the bathroom, take a shower, make sure I had food and then back to bed.

Unfortunately my family is not being as supportive as I need and if they don't step up soon I don't know what will happen. My mom got offended today when I told her that she had installed Conor's carseat wrong and locked herself in her room for 2 hours... so how am I supposed to be on bedrest AND chase Conor?? He knows something is different and doesn't like me in bed all the time and so is acting up even more... getting violent with himself more...he NEEDS that one on one attention! She refused to help clean and won't cook for anyone other than herself...but claims that she is here to help! Yeah right.
Dh has decided that we need the money more than I need the help and is going to workstudy every day. He is doing the dishes every night and mostly taking care of Conor once he gets home though so that is better than my mom.
I am not sure what I am going to do when Conor is supposed to go back to school next week.

Lots of pressure and crampiness when I do too much. Fortunately the contractions are back to reallly really annoying BH and nothing that is deep like it was last Thursday when I went to L&D. Hopefully it will stay that way for a bit longer.



Nina

[flapjack]

I'm glad you're still going- when I didn't see you around for a few days I was starting to wonder if you'd had our Xmas baby. (Is anyone else MIA, btw?? I'd be surprised if we don't have one somewhere....) Have you considered drugging Conor on hot milk and turkey? It seems to have slowed my rabble down a lot.
Glad you're doing well, and here's hoping that your mum and DH actually take a moment to think about the implications of a 34-week baby and get on board.

[lovetobemama]

So glad to hear that things are moving a little more slowly, and that there is no babe yet. At this point, we are all getting to the point where each day of extra cooking just makes things that much better/stronger/easier when the babes do start coming. So glad your little one is waiting a bit longer to meet you.

Good luck with the family issue. I was on BR with DS, but didn't have any other kids so it was simple. However, even then, it was funny how people would say they were helping, but were really making my life more difficult.

Hang in there!

[GreenRose]

stay in, good little baby, stay in.... :

[LoveChild421]

I just wanted to give you a big hug! I'm sorry your mom is being that way. My worst fear is bedrest- its just impossible for those of us with little ones...I wish I lived near you- I'd come help you or send my mom over!

[guestmama9972]

Sorry things are so hard right now! But I am glad that the little one is hanging out inside a little longer. It must be very hard to have a busy toddler and be on bedrest--my heart goes out to you!

[Writerbird]

Keep bakin'

I guess you can't tell your mom that there's room for one child in the house, and if she won't concede the role to the actual child, she can leave...

[aslmere]

Boy would I love to be able to tell my mom something like that!
It is hard to stay mad at her because she decided to fix my car today... to the tune of $300.
Dh could have done it after the mechanics diagnosed the check engine light....but she decided that she wanted me and the kids to have reliable transportation. Which I am grateful for.

I am sending Conor to my SIL house tomorrow morning. Tom will take him on his way out to school. Then my mom will pick him up and take him to speech therapy in the afternoon.... so hopefully things will be okay tomorrow.


I was on hospital bedrest for 4 weeks with #1 and it is MUCH more comfortanle to be in my own bed. and great not to have any needles stuck in me. BUT it is much harder to stay in bed.
But she also ended up staying in the NICU for 6 weeks and I don't want to have to leave my baby like that again!

With the numbers of mamas here I wouldn't be a bit surprised if someone has had thier wee one already.

Not sure that I could stomach grinding up the turkey thin enough to go through Conor's feeding tube right now


Nina

[lilyblossom]

Nina - My heart goes out to you right now. Parents can be a blessing and curse all at the same time. I hope your mother continues to be more of a blessing than anything else.

Bed rest can't possibly be easy but I'm thrilled to hear you are able to be home and that you are able to stay there. I hope your next appointment goes well. Be strong and don't succumb to unnecessary pressure. You can and will make the best decision for your child. I'm sure having one premature child has prepared you for making these very difficult decisions.

: Hang in there, I know you can do it!!