Of course there are no hard feelings!
I just felt that what I'd say had been misinterpreted and wanted to clarify. To put a fine point on it, it was on two occasions during the first tri. By lifelong effects/not being to live independently, I meant that she is unable to judge good/bad choices. She can write, read, talk, etc., but she is a terrible judge of character and situations-very vulnerable, and very typical of FAS/FAE.
I don't have the info at hand (when I worked with this group I was in teacher's college; all the material is somewhere in storage), but the bottom line was that they (whoever "they" are, ha ha), couldn't conclusively say there was a "safe" amount during pregnancy. It's one of those things they're figuring out more about all the time. Not all sufferers of FAS/FAE have the characterisitic eye/lip disfigurements, so it can be harder to diagnose.http://www.phac-aspc.gc.ca/fasd-etcaf/faq_e.html#1