how soon will you tell people? - Page 3

[Jaimep]

We have only told a close friend and my sister (she lives with us). I feel great! So it is easier to keep it quiet. We were thinking of trying to wait until March (3 months) to tell everyone. We go to Italy in March so we thought about telling everyone after we got back.

[BabyHopes]

funny that my hubby and i were just talking about that..lol....

i have had 2 miscarriages where we got everyones hopes up and then everyone was disappointed... plus it made it so hard on me to have to tell everyone. my mother lives in another state and my husbands parents are in another country... so i think that this time i am just going to have the baby and they will get the surprise of their lives when we get off the plane!! LOL

[SorenEdenTucker]

My in-laws were here staying with us when I tested so once I digested it, my husband told them the same night and I told my parents this past Thursday night. i saw no need to keep it a secret. Everyone was shocked but happy for us. I keep asking my kids if they want another baby though and my 3 year old says that we already HAVE a baby and my 2 year old says NO.

[SMR]

We told everyone last time 14dpo.. the day I took the test. This time we told our folks 13dpo.. then have gradually been telling others. My hubby and I are super impatient and we just can't handle keeping exciting things all to ourselves!!

[amitymama]

Well, we caved. We were going to try to wait at least a few more weeks but we're going to the ILs for lunch tomorrow and DH just knows he'll blow it because he's so excited so we decided to go ahead and tell immediate family and very close friends. I told my parents and sister on the phone tonight and my best friend figured it out when we met for a drink (we already had plans to go out before I got the BFP) and I just got a soft drink. She asked twice if I was sure I didn't want a glass of wine and I got this weird look on my face and she said "You're pregnant, aren't you?!" I grinned and she knew. LOL

We're going to a friend's birthday dinner party next weekend and I'm sure they'll figure it out too when I'm not drinking anything (I love my wine!) so we'll tell them too but then that's it for awhile.

[joshs_girl]

We had told my family - DH had not told his and we lost our twins at 10 weeks. We were so upset that his family never got to enjoy our news. And I know that no matter what we say or do, nothing is going to effect the outcome of this pregnancy.

So when i tested positive, I told my mom and my best friends (including my mamas at MDC! ). I go for my first b/w on Monday with a repeat on Wednesday, so we'll tell his parents and my dad and stepmom then when we have some good numbers to report.

My sister and one brother though will not be told until 20 weeks or so - they were ridiculously unsupportive through my m/c and don't deserve to share in this good news.

[ccasanova]

Dh and I are big blabber mouths when it comes to babies so we told pretty much the next day after I got the BFP. When I got PG with my first he called up everyone he could think of right after the BFP and it wasn't even a clear BFP! It was one of those very faint, not really sure if it's a line kind of lines, lol! But he kept saying, "a line is a line, I'm telling!" He wanted to be a daddy so bad! Truthfully, I've never even thought of the possibiltiy of a miscarriage happening so I've always felt comfortable telling right away. It kind of feels like 'not telling because I might have a miscarriage and then I'd have to tell everyone what happened' is like expecting one in the back of my mind and I don't want to bring that much energy to something so awful.

[hazeleyes]

We plan on telling family in March. I hope I can keep it a secret until then.

[TrippyLongstocking]

ive told a few people like mom and sister but everyone else is going to have to wait this time.
Maybe until I am really showing and cant hide it anymore

[sleepingbeauty]

SO and I are unsure. We're open with our friends but our family and strangers will give us a lot of "way to go, ytou ruined your life" "but you're jsut babies yourselves!" "how old are you?"
I'm already pissed and I havn't even gottenthat responce from anyone yet. i'll have to keep it quiet at work for a while. I feel like my job is on the line as far as this goes (i'm technically a temp so they don't need a reason to fire me)

I can't wait until everyone knows. I'm proud of the baby my fiancee and I made.

[baby_baby_mommy]

I wanted to wait until 12 wks to tell anyone but I have this "best" friend who I've been friends with since 9th grade who wouldn't forgive me for not telling her as soon as I found out. Obviously, there are some issues there for her and I'm sure I'm not helping by telling her just because she wants me to and not because I want to, but anyway, i told her this weekend (which is only 5 wks). Predictably, she is not supportive (again, more issues). You're probably wondering why I'm friends with her! Well, she's more like a sister at this point so it's kind of like that. Anyway, I feel so crappy having only this one crappy response. Definitely makes me feel super alone with this pregnancy. I'll probably tell my mom and sister next weekend just so I have some happy people! The rest of everyone I'll wait to tell 'til 12 wks.

[Alcyone]

Originally Posted by sleepingbeauty

SO and I are unsure. We're open with our friends but our family and strangers will give us a lot of "way to go, ytou ruined your life" "but you're jsut babies yourselves!" "how old are you?"
I'm already pissed and I havn't even gottenthat responce from anyone yet.

No matter how old you are or what you do, someone out there thinks they know better than you what you should be doing and they'll tell you about it. Try not to let it get to you. Easier said than done, I know!

Think of some clever responses now. You don't need to tell anyone how old you are just because they asked. I'd say "old enough" with a big smile.

[CEG]

Originally Posted by Alcyone

Update: When we got there, SIL was visiting too *and* BIL was on the phone with her. So DH told everyone at once. MIL was waaay more excited than I was expecting! FIL said, "it's the best news since long." (He tries really hard with his English!) So it went really well. MIL was grinning ear to ear the whole time. Everyone is already offering up name suggestions, too.

That's a really sweet story about your father-in-law trying to say that in English. Makes a pregnant lady tear up over here. Best wishes to you.

We had a less than stellar reception... told my mom who said "Oh, you guys, again?" My mother-in-law was very excited but then said "Okay, but three is enough." But then she tried to trick us into letting her come visit on my due date, so that was kind of cute. All in all, lukewarm but I know everyone is excited, deep down

[muppet729]

Originally Posted by baby_baby_mommy

Anyway, I feel so crappy having only this one crappy response. Definitely makes me feel super alone with this pregnancy.

Please don't let her response bring you down! You have LOTS of people here that are totally thrilled that you are bringing another life into this world! We're here for you and we are so excited for you! Celebrate! Rejoice! This is YOUR miracle and you should be as estatic as you want to be! s

[baby_baby_mommy]

Originally Posted by muppet729

Please don't let her response bring you down! You have LOTS of people here that are totally thrilled that you are bringing another life into this world! We're here for you and we are so excited for you! Celebrate! Rejoice! This is YOUR miracle and you should be as estatic as you want to be! s

thanks, muppet you all rock

[TrippyLongstocking]

I've told my side of the family but I'm not telling inlaws until After 15 weeks because that was my last m/c..15 weeks
I just want to be sure as i don't want to make them uncomfortable...
My mom and my side of family have 8 grandkids already and have dealt with many m/c's so they are well equipped...but the inlaws are actually quite uncomfortable already so i don't want to make it worse for them
and p.s... they are kind of mean so I dont really want to share with them right away they don't deserve it

[cristina47454]

I told my mom a couple of days ago because she's been here taking care of me and it just didn't seem right to keep it from her any longer. She was kind of dumbfounded. Never gave me a congratulations hug or a "Oh, Im so happy for you!" I've been really sick and our financial situation is very tricky right now, so she knows that although it's happy news, it's also a bit scary for us. She got very logistical about it, though, which was kind of cute, and started saying "This is for Russell" when she'd bring me a drink. I was like, "Who the heck is Russell??
(She was referring to the baby. I still don't know who Russell is, though )

Told my bestest friend from childhood on the phone today. Turns out she's two weeks behind me!! I'm so happy! That was the best conversation ever!!!!

Everybody else is going to have to wait until the second trimester. My father is out of the country until Easter, and I'd rather tell him in person, so maybe that will be the big "unveiling". THe whole family will be together, so it'll be perfect.

I'm not looking forward to telling my in-laws at all. They've been joking about us having a third baby in a really irritating way FOREVER and it irks me to think they're going to think they had something to do with it-like they finally wore us down.