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post #21 of 32
I stayed home for 2 years with E, and will probably do the same with this one. I get one year paid, but I think I'll take the first four months off (I have to by law) and then DH will be taking 8 months paternity leave (he gets topped up to 100% by his employer for that long) while he does his Master's degree. I think we'll just suck it up and live on one income during that time. He'll go back to work after his pat. leave is up, and I'll stay home for another year or so. I may do some substitute teaching here and there, but that's it.
post #22 of 32
I've been a SAHM since my oldest was born. He's turning 3 in a few weeks, and we're expecting #3 in August. I can't see going back to work until my kids are all in school. I have a degree program to finish, so I'm not rushing back into it until I'm ready to pursue it full time.

Right now, we're very fortunate. My DH works full time and I work a very, very flexible schedule caring for my disabled brother. It suits our family well, and the money I make is enough to allow us to save for the future.
post #23 of 32
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I am a SAHM. We knew that was our plan before any children, so we never considered my income in our lifestyle.
I don't actually work at the moment, and we manage to get by on DH's salary. If nothing were to change, we could go on like this just fine-- we live very modestly, other than sometimes splurging on organics. The problem is our house. We have a teeny-tiny little townhouse with two bedrooms (one of which is used as an office by DH, who works from home several days per week), no attic, and no closets. We're already desperate for storage space, and the babe isn't even here yet! We're planning on cosleeping at first, but eventually we're going to have to add onto the house, or our DC won't have a bedroom of his/her own. Which may not sound like a problem to some people, but it's not just a matter of having a place to sleep-- we need some place other than our own (very small) bedroom to store childrens' clothes, toys, books, etc. With the money I'll earn starting in January, we can afford to add on a 3rd story, which will give us an extra bedroom and a large closet/small storage room. Definitely necessary if we're not to go crazy. Problem is, if my income suddenly disappears, we won't quite be able to pay off the addition, let alone cover the extra expenses associated with a child. Moving is not an option, either-- this house was very cheap by Dutch standards, and we definitely can't afford anything bigger.


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I thought the Netherlands is really generous for parental leave. I thought you could get a year paid parental leave when you have a baby and part payment for up to three years?
It's generous compared to the US, but it's not that great! We get 4 weeks of paid leave before the birth (non-negotiable... you have to take off whether you want to or not) and 12 weeks at full pay afterward. If you've been working for the same company for at least a year (which I will not have), then you're also entitled to an additional 520 hours (about 13 weeks) of unpaid leave, which you can use up all at once, a day at a time, or even use to work half-days. I won't be eligible for this, and unpaid leave won't solve our problems anyway, so I'm pretty much limited to the 12 paid weeks after the birth.


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Is the work flexible as a translator? Can you work an hour to an hour and a half per day, all week, to make up one day's work?
At the risk of making this post into a novel, work as a translator is somewhat flexible, in the sense that you can do it from home, but not flexible at all in terms of the timeframes involved. I couldn't stretch a day's worth of work over the course of a week, because customers generally expect fast turnaround. You pretty much have to be ready and willing to work whenever you get stuff sent to you. Not really compatible with caring for a babe. :

On the other hand, the company I'll be working for is very family-friendly and has lots of women who jobshare, work parttime, work from home, etc. I'm hopeful that my boss and I can come up with some workable solutions if it is indeed necessary for me to continue working after our DC is born.
post #24 of 32
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I get one year paid, but I think I'll take the first four months off (I have to by law) and then DH will be taking 8 months paternity leave (he gets topped up to 100% by his employer for that long).
Wow, now that's what I call awesome maternity leave! Is it like that in all of Canada (that's where you live, right?), or do you guys just work for a really great company?
post #25 of 32
I WOHM. I also travel a great deal for my job, and as the primary wage earner I will be returning after the birth. Fortunately, we live in a very small town so my work is less than 5 minutes away from my home and my employer is fantastic so I should be able to negotiate a good maternity leave plan (I don't really want to travel for a full year, but would consider no travel for 6 months and then minimal travel after that...). My h can pretty much make his own schedule so he usually works his around mine so that we don't need dc. It's not the greatest (we hardly see each other), but it works for now.
post #26 of 32
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DS goes to a very nice daycare with webcams in every room so I can check on him during the day. The caregivers are very nurturing and DS has really thrived in the environment. I feel very blessed to have a flexible job and a great daycare.
This sounds wonderful. I love that you get to see your little one all day.

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I get one year paid, but I think I'll take the first four months off (I have to by law) and then DH will be taking 8 months paternity leave (he gets topped up to 100% by his employer for that long) while he does his Master's degree.
Wow, that family leave is really great.

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It's generous compared to the US, but it's not that great!
I am not sure where I was thinking about! It has been a long time since college.

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On the other hand, the company I'll be working for is very family-friendly and has lots of women who jobshare, work parttime, work from home, etc. I'm hopeful that my boss and I can come up with some workable solutions if it is indeed necessary for me to continue working after our DC is born.
That sounds like a great situation.
post #27 of 32
Our plan is for me start working part-time out of the home sometime after the babe is 6 months old. I know I could not handle my current job and an infant, but I do not want to give up working out of the home completely.
This will require some financial sacrifices for us, but we will try to make it work. Of course, nothing is set in stone!
post #28 of 32
I started SAHMing when ds was born and will continue to do so. It is my FAVORITE job ever! We are very fortunate and I know it.
post #29 of 32
Oh but I do make money tutoring a boy in ASL twice a month. It brings in a whooping $50/month. But I get to use my skills and ds comes with me and plays with my student's little brother.
post #30 of 32
DH works for the gov't, which tops up to 100% pay for moms, for 12 months, or 8-10 months for dads/partners (straight or gay). It is a very sweet deal!
The least you'll get in Canada is 1 year paid at 55% of your salary (to a maximim of about $800/every two weeks) and some employers top up. I'm a teacher and get topped up for about 20 weeks, then it's just gov't money. We are very, very lucky here!
post #31 of 32
Well, my plan is to continue to WOH full time after 12 wks paid leave, but I can always cut back to as low as 60% time pretty easily if it seems like too much. I'm currently our primary earner, and although we *could* live pretty well on DH's salary, we're happy to be able to pad our savings, and for me to continue to build my resume. Although my job can be very demanding at times, it has been pretty enjoyable lately, and it can be very flexible in terms of working at home, arranging my own hours to work, taking off whenever I need to, etc., so I'm grateful to have it and not eager to leave it.
post #32 of 32
WOHM! I stayed at home for nearly 3 years with my first two, and that was great for our life then, but this is better for our life now. There's good and bad. I don't really do SAHMing super well with itty bitty babies, so I'm really relieved to know I'll be getting a break from infant duty most days, but I loooooooove hanging around with toddlers, and am sad I'll be missing so many days with the new one then.
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