I talked to her mom today (she is only 19, and living at home). She went in for a routine checkup on Wednesday, and they couldn't find the heartbeat. The OB sent her to the hospital for an U/S, and they found that the baby had died and had an enlarged heart. They are doing an autopsy, but think that either the baby had a genetic defect or a virus that the mama didn't know about.
She is heart broken. Her mom said that her labor was relatively easy, and that her son was born just after midnight yesterday morning. They named him Isaiah, and that he was perfect in every way. They are cremating him and are going to have a private family service in a few weeks. I am not sure if I will go or not, but they think of me as family, so I may go. Just not sure, as I would have my 9 month old with me, and that might be awkward.
Her mom asked me if I wanted all of the baby things that I have given them back, and I said I would be happy to pick up anything they didn't want and bring it to a local organization for young single mamas. She thought that would be a good place to bring everything, and appreciated the offer.
I just can't imagine having to labor and birth a baby that you know has already passed. I can't imagine coming home from the hospital and having to leave your baby there, knowing he is never coming home and knowing that you will never see him again. I also can't imagine the feeling of milk coming in for a baby that isn't there to receive it. I am just crying for her.
I hope she can find some peace some day and that noone I know ever suffers anything like this in my lifetime again.