I sometimes still feel little fits of rage about my first care provider in this state, and wanted to see if I'm out of line feeling angry.
I finally got my health insurance and decided to pick a CNM practice, only to find out that in this state most practices have OBs and CNM's, and most CNMs are so busy with pregnant women that I had an OB for my pap smear. Ok, I went into it thinking, well they work with CNMs so they should be ok.
I wasn't aware that I was pregnant at that time. I have very unsual and long cycles, so I didn't go in there knowing I was. I've not been able to do the CM ovulation tracking thing ever since I've been with DP (too much other stuff in there, I guess!) I knew there's always the possibility (DP had just moved to the new state two months prior to this appoinment, after us being in two states for 6 months or so), but also knowing my cycle wasn't sure what it was or wasn't.
So this doctor is from the start hung up on my heaviness. Never mind that I'm overall quite healthy (besides the irregular cycles, which I am certain are due to excess estrogen due to excess fat). Nevermind that I tell her my partner and I aren't using BC because we decided we wanted to have a kid and let nature take its course. She was so fixated on "have you tried weight watchers, or maybe Jenny Craig" blah blah freaking blah. Anyways, she does the pap smear, looks at my cervix, palpates my uterus. The whole schtick. Continues to go on about my weight, says "oh you're sexually active" in a very snotty tone (yeah, after I told you about my DP like 80 times!). I told her I'm not ruling out the possibility of pregnancy, but it's hard to tell with me sometimes. She then decides I need a transvaginal ultrasound to make sure I don't have fibroids or PCOS.
I go in the following week for an ultrasound, and see no fibroids, no polycystic ovaries, no funky growths well except one - a 9week 4 day old fetus. Now tell me, am I wrong in being angry that this doctor was so hung up on my weight that she totally ignored a. how my cervix looked, b. how my uterus felt c. DP and I are using no BC? I'm no longer at said practice, I'm seeing an awesome CPM. But sometimes I think about that woman, (I had to call her Dr. Herlastname, not Firstname only) and I get SOOO PISSED! What kind of a doctor is she if she sees three major signs and doesn't say, well, let's have you POAS and see what we get there. She NEVER suggested pregnancy, and even seemed a bit disgusted that I am (OH SHOCK) in a sexual relationship. UGH. Sometimes I consider writing a letter to that place, and commenting on this doctor's blindness, but it was back in July, and I've quit there and I'm VERY happy with my MW. But, sometimes, I just get sooo miffed when I think about it. DP thinks I need to let it go, and he's probably right, but every so often it pops up and I get Angry again.
So, do you think that most HCP's would overlook this? Good god, I even was tested for pregnancy for routine things before I even had my first kiss! WTH with this woman?
Thanks for letting me get that off my chest!
I finally got my health insurance and decided to pick a CNM practice, only to find out that in this state most practices have OBs and CNM's, and most CNMs are so busy with pregnant women that I had an OB for my pap smear. Ok, I went into it thinking, well they work with CNMs so they should be ok.
I wasn't aware that I was pregnant at that time. I have very unsual and long cycles, so I didn't go in there knowing I was. I've not been able to do the CM ovulation tracking thing ever since I've been with DP (too much other stuff in there, I guess!) I knew there's always the possibility (DP had just moved to the new state two months prior to this appoinment, after us being in two states for 6 months or so), but also knowing my cycle wasn't sure what it was or wasn't.
So this doctor is from the start hung up on my heaviness. Never mind that I'm overall quite healthy (besides the irregular cycles, which I am certain are due to excess estrogen due to excess fat). Nevermind that I tell her my partner and I aren't using BC because we decided we wanted to have a kid and let nature take its course. She was so fixated on "have you tried weight watchers, or maybe Jenny Craig" blah blah freaking blah. Anyways, she does the pap smear, looks at my cervix, palpates my uterus. The whole schtick. Continues to go on about my weight, says "oh you're sexually active" in a very snotty tone (yeah, after I told you about my DP like 80 times!). I told her I'm not ruling out the possibility of pregnancy, but it's hard to tell with me sometimes. She then decides I need a transvaginal ultrasound to make sure I don't have fibroids or PCOS.
I go in the following week for an ultrasound, and see no fibroids, no polycystic ovaries, no funky growths well except one - a 9week 4 day old fetus. Now tell me, am I wrong in being angry that this doctor was so hung up on my weight that she totally ignored a. how my cervix looked, b. how my uterus felt c. DP and I are using no BC? I'm no longer at said practice, I'm seeing an awesome CPM. But sometimes I think about that woman, (I had to call her Dr. Herlastname, not Firstname only) and I get SOOO PISSED! What kind of a doctor is she if she sees three major signs and doesn't say, well, let's have you POAS and see what we get there. She NEVER suggested pregnancy, and even seemed a bit disgusted that I am (OH SHOCK) in a sexual relationship. UGH. Sometimes I consider writing a letter to that place, and commenting on this doctor's blindness, but it was back in July, and I've quit there and I'm VERY happy with my MW. But, sometimes, I just get sooo miffed when I think about it. DP thinks I need to let it go, and he's probably right, but every so often it pops up and I get Angry again.
So, do you think that most HCP's would overlook this? Good god, I even was tested for pregnancy for routine things before I even had my first kiss! WTH with this woman?
Thanks for letting me get that off my chest!
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seriously.
