Originally Posted by ChristaN
Karen, Can you expand on what was so difficult re your skipping and social aspects? I am interested b/c we are getting close to making a decision re skipping my older dd for next year.
My one friend who was grade skipped seems to have had a similar experience to yours -- she regrets it for social reasons. That is so much the opposite of what the Templeton Report on acceleration says that I don't know what to believe.
In the elementary years, I was never physically equal to the older children, so any time we had any team events, I was always the one never chosen because I was so much smaller and weaker than everyone else in my class (as I should have been... I was 2-3 years younger than them). By middle school, all of my classmates had breasts... mine were no where to be found (it didn't help that I was a late bloomer anyway, not starting my period till I was 14!) so I was socially outcast because I just didn't "fit in" with all the other girls my age. High school was brutal. Again, I was physically way behind all my peers. The boys weren't interested because I was just so young. I missed proms, home comings, etc. I was a cheerleader and that was the only thing I had to make me somewhat "normal", but the differences were so blatantly obvious that I just never fit in.
I vividly remember my sophomore year, when all of my classmates were getting their drivers licenses and I wasn't even old enough to get a learners permit.
I started college at 15. Again, I never fit in with anyone. I was the "baby on campus" who wasn't even old enough to drive and was again alienated. I finished my degree in an accelerated program and graduated with my BA the exact same time I would have graduated from high school.
I really feel like I missed out on so many things that all of my peers got to experience. I really don't want that for my daughter. Since her birthday makes her fall into the following year (not able to start kindy till almost 6) I wouldn't mind letting her skip a year later on, because she'll still be with kids very close to her age, but I'd never do more than that. I want her to experience all the things that I didn't have the chance to. I really feel like a lot of my childhood was stripped away from me. Everyone else was focusing on my abilities.... they forgot about the more important social aspect of it.