Background: Ds is 2yo, is intact, and had about 22 hours of crying/screaming whenever he peed. I read around here and decided that it was likely just separation, but wanted to make an appt with a doc in case it was an infection and we needed to get him in before the weekend/holiday. His regular (intact-friendly) doc was out, so we saw a colleague.
He tried to retract ds after I explicitly told him not to. I said, "I don't know what your experience is with an intact penis, but do not retract or pull on his foreskin." He said, "I'm just going to look." I said, "looking is fine."
Ds objected to his pants coming down, doc told me to make him lay down. I am not forcing my son to lay down. The doc can see his penis just fine when he's sitting down.
Doc touched it, pulled it back a little bit, I said, "okay, that's enough," he kept going. I pushed his thumbs away, he was STILL trying to retract him. I pulled his hands away, said, "that's it, you're DONE. you are NOT going to retract him." He said, "I can't see inside to see if it's red!" I said, "you don't NEED to see inside! It's an intact penis! You can see just fine from the outside!" He said again, "i can't see on the inside to see if it's red or if there's a little scratch."
I couldn't compose myself to give this man any information about what damage he can do if he retracts a non-retractile penis.
I asked him if he would do a swab for bacteria or yeast in case it's an infection, he said no, not without looking inside. He said if there's a scratch to put neosporin inside. Otherwise, give him some baths.
I'm just trying to get all my thoughts down and trying to remember all that happened, so sorry this is choppy. I'm still furious.
They took a urine sample before we saw the doc...he said it looked clear, so prob wasn't a uti. (That's what I decided, too, yesterday when ds was in pain.)
What can I do to file a complaint or report or whatever against this doctor?
Links to other threads are fine...I couldn't search effectively enough a few minutes ago.
He tried to retract ds after I explicitly told him not to. I said, "I don't know what your experience is with an intact penis, but do not retract or pull on his foreskin." He said, "I'm just going to look." I said, "looking is fine."
Ds objected to his pants coming down, doc told me to make him lay down. I am not forcing my son to lay down. The doc can see his penis just fine when he's sitting down.
Doc touched it, pulled it back a little bit, I said, "okay, that's enough," he kept going. I pushed his thumbs away, he was STILL trying to retract him. I pulled his hands away, said, "that's it, you're DONE. you are NOT going to retract him." He said, "I can't see inside to see if it's red!" I said, "you don't NEED to see inside! It's an intact penis! You can see just fine from the outside!" He said again, "i can't see on the inside to see if it's red or if there's a little scratch."
I couldn't compose myself to give this man any information about what damage he can do if he retracts a non-retractile penis.
I asked him if he would do a swab for bacteria or yeast in case it's an infection, he said no, not without looking inside. He said if there's a scratch to put neosporin inside. Otherwise, give him some baths.
I'm just trying to get all my thoughts down and trying to remember all that happened, so sorry this is choppy. I'm still furious.
They took a urine sample before we saw the doc...he said it looked clear, so prob wasn't a uti. (That's what I decided, too, yesterday when ds was in pain.)
What can I do to file a complaint or report or whatever against this doctor?
Links to other threads are fine...I couldn't search effectively enough a few minutes ago.
Thanks for the laugh; I needed that.
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