this kind of made me sad

[MommytoTwo]

I am in a moms club, the majority of whom are fabulous women that I have really connected with. Some breastfeed, some bottlefeed, some do both, whatever. Its all good. I have heard a couple of the FF moms talking about feeding and how they dont breastfeed. Whatever thats fine. Today though I was talking on the phone to a friend of mine and she mentioned that again the BFing thing came up and one of the women who FFs (who I consider a close friend) was just saying "I dont get the whole breastfeeding thing, I just dont get it" ... and for some reason that makes me sad. I guess maybe b/c this thing that I put so much energy and effort into and love so much, is just seen as this wierd "thing" that people do for no reason ... and I also feel that I cant even really describe why I love it. I guess I would say b/c of the special bond, but then her response would be "I am very bonded to my kids" which is true... I dont know.
I dont even know what the point of my post is. LOL

[IdahoMom]

I don't think you can really "get it" until you actually do it. Even if the information out there was good- and it's not.

[MelKnee]

I don't know if my response really belongs here, but your post made me think of it.

I think bfing is sooo special to me because I exclusively fed them for 12 months. My body nourished those babies. I don't know if I'm expressing this right. I mean, I gave part of me to make them. More than just growing them in my uterus, I sustained them during their whole first year. And that amazes me.

I'm sure I'm coming off as holier-than-a-ffer, but that's not what I mean. This is how I feel about me and my kids, not anyone else.

[MommytoTwo]

No I totally hear you .... that is one of the many things I love about it...and on the same note, when I look at DS's chubby thighs or tummy or the sparkle in his eyes I think "that is *me* "...

[RolliePollie]

It makes me sad, too. Nursing ds has given me so much empowerment. I don't always *love* nursing. And it's been a hard road, but I feel SO empowered as a women and as a mom. You can't describe it unless you go through it.

[amandaleigh37]

Yes I know exactly what you are talking about, and yes it's sad to experience such a wonderful part of motherhood and see others who don't "get it". And it's hard to articulate without sounding "holier than thou" but honestly, if I wasn't nursing my son, our relationship would be different. I just can't imagine not having this part of it. But I can see how someone who never breastfed just doesn't get it... through no fault of their own, it's just something you have to do to understand I guess. I remember being pregnant and wondering what on earth it would feel like, would I like it, would it be strange, etc... but then he was born and we did it - and it was nothing like I thought! It was natural and wonderful!