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post #21 of 48
I hope that it ends up meaning it isnt done! yay for her little guy still being whole at least for now

and im sure at 6 mo they are supposed to use anesthesia, but before that im not sure what the line is, id say birth, period, if it is to e done for whatever reason, but unfortunately, that isnt the case..
post #22 of 48
Be sure to give her some intact care info in case she thinks she needs to be (or if the doctors wrongfully tell her she needs to be) retracting him.

I hope and pray he stays intact.... our neighbors here had their ds circed at 3 months old for the very same reason. Some people just can't get over thinking that there is something "wrong" with their child for being completely normal. :
post #23 of 48
What a miracle indeed!! Hopefully they will realize how easy it is to take care of and then just realize there is no need to get it done...

At least his little penis saved him so far....
post #24 of 48
Once they are to big for the circumstraint then they have to go under GA I dont know how big is to big tho. I hope that she comes to her senses and forgets about the circ. But I would give her some intact care information to keep him from having problems by being retracted since that would just reinforce her idea of why circ is needed.
post #25 of 48
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Be sure to give her some intact care info in case she thinks she needs to be (or if the doctors wrongfully tell her she needs to be) retracting him.

I hope and pray he stays intact.... our neighbors here had their ds circed at 3 months old for the very same reason. Some people just can't get over thinking that there is something "wrong" with their child for being completely normal. :
Yes, she will need to know she doesn't have to fuss with his penis at all. It sounds like shr has a good pedi though!
post #26 of 48
I'm glad he was spared from that kind of trauma for now. Hopefully your sister will come to her senses and she will just leave him alone.

Please make sure she knows a little about the intact penis, especially that retraction is NOT necessary.
post #27 of 48
Wow...lucky babe! Brainstorm now - hopefully, as others have said, though she'll just "forget it."
post #28 of 48
I am so glad his itty bitty penis saved the day.
I am so glad the doctors refused to circ him , I can only imagine he would have had complications.

I hope she will forget about having it done after she bonds well with him and realizes an intact penis is easy to care for and not nasty.
post #29 of 48
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I'm really glad he won't be circed now and I'm hoping his mama will have a change of heart on the whole circ decision.
I've debating on saying anything because certainly I do not know what the case is with your nephew. But sometimes in my hospital a doctor will refuse to do the circ if the baby has "micropenis". Now sometimes the baby is just too small to circ at birth and he will eventually catch up, but it's not always the case.
Yeah, that thought crossed my mind, and I almost mentioned it to my sister yesterday, but I didn't want her thinking anything was "wrong" with his penis or that it needed any kind of "fixing". (I don't know what the treatment is for micropenis.) If the doctors said anything about micropenis, she didn't tell me. One of my brothers was also very tiny, if you know what I mean (he'd kill me if he knew I was telling anyone! ), and the doctor almost couldn't circ him, either.

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Be sure to give her some intact care info in case she thinks she needs to be (or if the doctors wrongfully tell her she needs to be) retracting him.

The pediatrician is good- he doesn't let any one of his patients leave the hospital until he checks out the baby and has a consultation with the baby's parents. He'll let her know about retracting. It'll mean more coming from him, especially when he expresses his relief that she did not circ because of all the harm it does. I just loved that pediatrition. (He was my son's pediatrition for eight years before we moved away.) He's the kind of doctor who really, really cares about his patients and he knows everything. Literally, but not in a snobby or smug way, just in a "here are all the facts" way. He was also my sister's pediatrition for years and years when she was growing up and is my niece's as well, so whatever he says to her about Alex being intact will pull alot of weight with my sister.
post #30 of 48
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You can always use the last resort card that I played with my brother...I told him that I would be sure to let his son know as soon as he was old enough that mommy and daddy knew how wrong it was to cut off part of his penis but they thought it would be cuter if they did. I also promised to be there to help him sue them as soon as he could.
I know this is off topic, but I was just wondering, what did your brother say, when you said all that to him? Did he still have the circ done?
post #31 of 48
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You can always use the last resort card that I played with my brother...I told him that I would be sure to let his son know as soon as he was old enough that mommy and daddy knew how wrong it was to cut off part of his penis but they thought it would be cuter if they did. I also promised to be there to help him sue them as soon as he could.
VERY good advice, IMO.

Your sister mentioned that he wouldn't know what he's missing, so tell her that you will MAKE SURE that he DOES know EXACTLY what he is missing...
post #32 of 48
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I know this is off topic, but I was just wondering, what did your brother say, when you said all that to him? Did he still have the circ done?

Yeah...he still did it with both of his boys..I no longer spea to him...but I will be in touch with the boys.
post #33 of 48
Is his "micropenis" being caused by a fat pad? If so, then it's actually likely to get seemingly worse rather than better because the baby will chunk up (is she breastfeeding?). Then when he starts getting mobile (serious crawling or walking) he'll likely start to slim down. That's probably when he'll seem to "grow".

A friend of mine here has a boy that used to have the smallest penis I'd ever seen...really it was just a nub! (she's anti-circ anyway, but we joked that it's a good thing she is because if she had circ'd there wouldn't have been anything left!) He just turned a year and he's starting to "come out" more now.

One good thing about not circing now is that she'll come to realize that there's nothing "wrong" with an intact penis. That it's easy to clean. That it still works fine. And she'll get used to seeing it this way. AND, (and I mean no offense by this at all...I only mention it because you said that she and BF haven't been together long) maybe the relationship will end and without BF's insistence she'll change her mind???

Regardless, I'm SO happy that he will remain intact, at least for now!
post #34 of 48
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Is his "micropenis" being caused by a fat pad? If so, then it's actually likely to get seemingly worse rather than better because the baby will chunk up (is she breastfeeding?). Then when he starts getting mobile (serious crawling or walking) he'll likely start to slim down. That's probably when he'll seem to "grow".

A friend of mine here has a boy that used to have the smallest penis I'd ever seen...really it was just a nub! (she's anti-circ anyway, but we joked that it's a good thing she is because if she had circ'd there wouldn't have been anything left!) He just turned a year and he's starting to "come out" more now.

One good thing about not circing now is that she'll come to realize that there's nothing "wrong" with an intact penis. That it's easy to clean. That it still works fine. And she'll get used to seeing it this way. AND, (and I mean no offense by this at all...I only mention it because you said that she and BF haven't been together long) maybe the relationship will end and without BF's insistence she'll change her mind???

Regardless, I'm SO happy that he will remain intact, at least for now!
Yes, she's trying to breastfeed. And I don't know any nicer way to put it- her boyfriend really does seem like a nice guy, circ issues aside, but my sister has a habit of... not staying with one guy very long. My niece is 7. This is her fourth "Daddy"- biological Father and then three boyfriends, so there's the underlying, "so when does the next guy show up" thoughts on everyone's minds.
post #35 of 48
Okay, I had to giggle--what an answer to prayer, your little nephew unable to be circed 'cause he's too small! That's adorable.

I'm thrilled that you've been bought some more time. I really, really hope things change between now and whenever she's planning to get it done. The possibility of a few more months, for her to get used to the way he looks, and for you to bring the issue up again (if you think it's wise)... that's fantastic.
post #36 of 48
that is so wonderful YEAH FOR SMALL PENI!!!! I hope that she can bond with him as a whole and the fact that her ped is anti circ, lets hope he has a fighting chance.
post #37 of 48
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You can always use the last resort card that I played with my brother...I told him that I would be sure to let his son know as soon as he was old enough that mommy and daddy knew how wrong it was to cut off part of his penis but they thought it would be cuter if they did. I also promised to be there to help him sue them as soon as he could.
Oh my goodness...what a great card to play with your brother.
I wish I could have with mine. His son was premature and we thought he would not do it. Oh, but he and his wife did without telling me or my mom (she is now pro-intact).

Thanks for the great post!
post #38 of 48
Wow, that's great for your nephew! I wish mine had been as lucky yesterday
post #39 of 48
Yea its good to hear he wont be circ'd.
post #40 of 48
Reading this thread, a couple things disturbed me.

1) As said, when he grows out of the "baby fat", will she want to circumcise him then? Educate her now, so she'll see that everything is normal. OTOH, the more time she has to bond with an intact son, then hopefully that'll change her mind.

I wouldn't hedge my bets though. The only thing saving him is the baby fat. OTOH, if his penis gets big enough to circumcise, then maybe the mom believes in the "he'll remember it later" excuse and use that as a reason not to do it.


2) What if she has other sons? Will she want to circumcise them? And then this son will have an older brother. Will she want them both circumcised "so they'll look alike" ??
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