super depressing... do not read

[YummyYumYumMama]

why did you click??? i told you not to read......... seriously, you may not want to read further, it is sensitive and involves SAD THINGS HAPPENING TO BABIES. it might make you sad or anxious. so go enjoy your baby, in utero or out, and close this window w/o reading on.

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okay.

a due date buddy of mine from another ddc, who i chatted with a lot all pregnancy long, had something awful happen... her baby, who had been active and healthy and stuff all pregnancy long very suddenly died while in labor. she had to go through the rest of labor and birth knowing it'd be a stillbirth.

i feel AWFUL. awful awful awful. i can't stop crying and now i'm afraid to go to sleep because i'll have horrible dreams.

why do these things happen? why is the world like this? she went through this pregnancy excitedly just like me... she bought diapers and clothes and set up her house... and now she has to dismantle it all and go on with life w/o her baby... my heart is breaking for her. i can't imagine. why should anyone have to go through that? ugh. ugh ugh ugh. m is sleeping on my chest after a marathon nursing session. my friend's son should be doing the same. she should be able to laughingly complain about pp stink or engorgement or whatever else while snuggling her little boy.

meh. i hate that things like this happen.

[LotusBirthMama]

[Momma2DoubleCuties]

That is the worst, a good friend of ours had a stillborn right at Henry's 1st b-day. It was terrible. I could and hope to never have to imagine going through something like that.

Our thoughts and prayers are with her. :

[Ok]

Not in your ddc, but I can feel your pain for your friend.

for you and your friend. for her little boy.

[Brees_Mama]

oh my! poor momma....my heart breaks for her i will keep her in my thoughts and prayers. ****hugs****

[bumblebeej]

Sorry Muffin.

[minsca]

I'm so sorry... The same thing happened to me when I was pregnant with Sofie. My friend IRL was due the same day I was. I had Sofie 2.5 weeks early, and a few days after having her. Her little boy died in utero. The finally had to induce her 3 days later for her to deliver him. I cried and cried and cried. But she said not to feel guilty about cuddling my little one. I still felt horrible though.
I'm soo soo sorry.

[ivymae]

I just left her a comment also, though what do you say? It puts all my complaints into perspective... Poopy diapers and a bad latch feels like a blessing, which they are, though we forget...

My family (and yours) has felt so much random tragedy, and I just have to have faith that we are made of stronger stuff than we know. Things that we can't imagine ever living through, we somehow do. I pray that she will give herself time to learn this, and that she has the support she needs right now.

[mama2rey]

I am so sorry. I think I would just die if I had to go through that. My thoughts and prayers are with her.

[Jasmyn's Mum]

Sorry

[ColoradoMama]

Not from your ddc, but I wanted to say how sorry I am for her and also for your sadness. It's really hard. In our ddc here, we had someone who had a stillbirth early on, and it was so heartbreaking. Here we were chatting about braxton hicks contractions and laughing about looking like penguins, and she was dealing with this horrendous loss. My heart broke for her. Sometimes life is NOT fair.

[VickV]

How awful ... my heart just aches for her

[MCKH]

My mom had a full-term stillbirth with her second. It was 24 years ago, and there was never a "reason." It has really affected my own pregnancies and it makes me so upset when I see people just take their pregnancies and kids for granted. My heart breaks for any mother who must endure the loss of a child. It's just not right and not fair. My condolences to your friend.

[Code Name Mama]

Oh Muffin, hugs to you and your friend

[Ms. B. Sprout]

I'm so sorry for your friend, Muffin. What a nightmare.

[crsta33]

I'm so sorry...for both of you.

Christa

[MamaFern]

love and healing to your friend..
it happens, and its horrible.. but birth and death come hand in hand. they are so close to each other. i have known a few mommas who's babes have died inchildbirth or at term, and again, for no "reason" its heartbreaking.

[bumblebeej]

Originally Posted by MCKH

My mom had a full-term stillbirth with her second. It was 24 years ago, and there was never a "reason." It has really affected my own pregnancies and it makes me so upset when I see people just take their pregnancies and kids for granted. My heart breaks for any mother who must endure the loss of a child. It's just not right and not fair. My condolences to your friend.

My mom too!

35 years ago. Rena Lynn

[Quindin]

I am so very sorry : :

This is my biggest fear when I am pregnant. While in labour this time, the midwife had a very hard time picking up the baby's heartbeat - it took a whole minutes! My heart stopped. The thought of losing a baby during labour is just too horrifying.

I will pray for your DDC buddy

[ohiomommy1122]

That poor woman I feel so bad for her

Not to hijack your thread but I just found out yesterday that a good friend of mine who has been trying to TTC for over 2 years and doing invitro just lost her baby at 14 weeks and on x-mas day. I feel so bad for these woman!