super depressing... do not read - Page 2

[kittywitty]

[YummyYumYumMama]

thanks for the support, everyone.

i still cry a lot for her and am now super anxious about anything happening to maya.

her milk came in today and that depressed her even more. all she wants to do is hold and cuddle and be with her baby and she can't. the thought terrifies me. i can't shake it. bleh. life can be so scary... you never know what can happen, what you can get and what can be taken away.

[ohiomommy1122]

Originally Posted by MmeMuffin

thanks for the support, everyone.

iher milk came in today and that depressed her even more. .

awwwwwwwwwww that poor woman!

[YummyYumYumMama]

can anyone suggest care package items one might send to someone who has just had a stillbirth?

[SheBear]

I'd been avoiding this thread because....well, because you told us to!

I'm so sorry for your friend, and am saying prayers for her family. The pain of losing a child is unimaginable to me.

can anyone suggest care package items one might send to someone who has just had a stillbirth?

http://www.earthmamaangelbaby.com/healing_hearts.html

I'd also suggest maybe a prepaid phone card (I assume you don't live near her) so that she can call you or whoever for support when she is ready, and a blank journal (because chances are she needs to "talk" about it, but it's hard to find anyone who wants/is able to listen as much as she needs to talk).

Let her know you are available to listen when she needs to talk--if you can stand it, that is. You need to take care of yourself, and your sweet Maya. I know your heart is breaking for her, but you can be a friend and comfort without allowing yourself to be overwhelmed with her grief. You must take care of yourself and protect yourself, also! The sad truth is, you can't make this easier for her. No one can. You can only try to let her know how much you care, and that she is not all alone in it.

[YummyYumYumMama]

Originally Posted by SheBear

I'd been avoiding this thread because....well, because you told us to!

I'm so sorry for your friend, and am saying prayers for her family. The pain of losing a child is unimaginable to me.


http://www.earthmamaangelbaby.com/healing_hearts.html

I'd also suggest maybe a prepaid phone card (I assume you don't live near her) so that she can call you or whoever for support when she is ready, and a blank journal (because chances are she needs to "talk" about it, but it's hard to find anyone who wants/is able to listen as much as she needs to talk).

Let her know you are available to listen when she needs to talk--if you can stand it, that is. You need to take care of yourself, and your sweet Maya. I know your heart is breaking for her, but you can be a friend and comfort without allowing yourself to be overwhelmed with her grief. You must take care of yourself and protect yourself, also! The sad truth is, you can't make this easier for her. No one can. You can only try to let her know how much you care, and that she is not all alone in it.

I wouldn't have read it either - I couldn't bear to read about it if it were a stranger. Having it be a friend, even an online friend, is heart-breaking. I feel almost guilty reveling in my own baby, knowing that she can't do the same. Sigh. I know I shouldn't, but it seems so wrong that things like this happen.

Thank you so much for the link. I have ordered the candles and seeds for her.