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post #81 of 86
I haven't read all the posts. But I would talk about how I felt as a child being punished, how it has affected my relationship with my parents, how I have lost respect and connection. And I'd express how all those emotions were brought up when I saw the small child having her mouth washed out with soap. I don't know that you can do more than share your feelings, your needs for people to feel safe in your home, and *request* that physical punishment not occur in your home. I'd also consider offering a couple of books which helped changed the dynamic in our home to cooperative: Kids, Parents and Power Struggles and How to Talk So Kids Will Listen. The titles belie the gentle advice and are welcomed and approachable to most parents.

HTH, Pat
post #82 of 86
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Originally Posted by lanamommyphd07 View Post
but my most serious concern at finding out a friend did this to her kid in my house would be that she does this in her house--and my children might go over there to play. What if they refuse to pick up toys?? This concern would demand a discussion for me.
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Pat
post #83 of 86
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Originally Posted by moonfirefaery View Post
Pigpokey, you made the argument that since it was once commonplace discipline, it must be acceptable. If we are going to argue that because an old generation did it, it's okay even if it's not still accepted, then we may as well apply that logic to circ'ing, formula-feeding, spanking, and other "traditions" of child-bearing. If you're going to argue in favor of something don't pull the "Our predecessors did it, so it's not that bad!" card.
I don't know where I made that argument.
post #84 of 86
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Pigpokey, you made the argument that since it was once commonplace discipline, it must be acceptable. .


Actually, she didn't say that at all.
post #85 of 86
I reread it, and I admit I misunderstood. I'm really quite sorry.
post #86 of 86
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I reread it, and I admit I misunderstood. I'm really quite sorry.
Ya s'ok.
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