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post #1 of 20
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I posted this in the FYT area that is appropriate for Houston and was told to post it here:

So I have been nursing in public since the beginning. I dont use a cover, I am not ashamed by it, and usually people couldnt care less.

Well on December 11th I was on my way to Mexico City and since you have to get there a million hours in advance to get through the perils of airport security... we got hungry while we were waiting for our 2 hour delayed flight (thank you Continental Airlines for never being on time). It was around 2:30 PM.
We ate at a little burger type place Ruby's, retro- 50's looking and sat all the way in the back. I was facing the wall and there was not a single person in front of me.

Immediately the baby got hungry and I started to nurse so we started to. Our waitress took our drink order and before we could even get our drinks the manager was crouching beside me, invading my space and telling me that other patrons were complaining about my nursing and that there was a restroom down the road that I could use if I needed to do that.

I said I was not going to move and that I did not have to move because my right is to feed my child anywhere that I deem necessary in this state... I was polite but firm. I was hungry. I was not moving.

She said that maybe I did not understand but I was bothering others. She just crouched there like a toad next to me. Breathing on me. She was angry and I was too at that point. She said that she would tell me again that I was bothering her clients and that it would be better for everyone if I left to nurse my child. I told her that it was illegal for her to insist and that I was not moving. If her clients were to bothered they could leave and eat in the restroom. She got red and got up and said that I was being inconsiderate. I wanted to explode and scream at the little diner that if anyone had a problem with my nursing they could go stuff it where..... you know what I mean.

I was starving and pregnant and wanted something of substance so we stayed and I ate some and then we left. She watched me leave and smiled when I did.

I didnt say anything else and let it go because their attitudes would not ruin my trip. I called a sympathetic friend and almost cried on the phone with her.

Have any of you had any issues nursing while at the airpost in Houston? Do you guys think that my reaction was not strong enough? Too strong? I am a very emotional pregnant woman so I cry easily.. I guess I didnt want to start crying at the restaurant because of something someone said.. that would have looked awful.

But anyways, should I bother calling someone about it? The regional manager? Should I let it go? It honestly bothered me but I dont know what to do about it... if anything at all.

If nothing else getting it out there is making me feel better. Thanks for reading guys.
post #2 of 20
Wow...no advice but to you! Good job standing your ground!
post #3 of 20
While reading your post I was thinking *go mama!!!* You stood your ground firmly and with dignity, I don't know you but it made me proud

Jenny
post #4 of 20
nak

can you contact someone at the corporate offices of ruby's? this manager needs to be reported.

post #5 of 20
I recall during the Delta nurse-ins that I think it was the airport security who got in the mom's faces and were very threatening during the peaceful protest. I would have to check but maybe others here could confirm that. I would report it to corporate as well as to airport management. Also send a formal letter quoting TX law to the restaurant. Then see what results you get and proceed from there.
post #6 of 20
Yes, I would write them....and also their head office. For one, you are owed an apology. For two, it'd be nice to know that other women who are breastfeeding would be welcome to go there...and not asked to go to a bathroom to feed their babies...For three....I'll bet you didn't enjoy your dining experience there. Doesn't sound like a place I'll be rushing out to visit anytime soon. They could use the opportunity to make amends. I would say that if they don't use the opportunity, they will lose some business...not only yours, but all the people you are telling about it (including mamas and their families here at mothering.com).
post #7 of 20
Write a letter for sure! Let us know what they say!
post #8 of 20
post #9 of 20
Definitely write a letter. Good for you for standing up for your rights, and for knowing them! :
post #10 of 20
I've nursed in IAH plenty of times with no concerns, and no comments- I suspect it was just this one person at Ruby's. (Gate E, right? They have some weird people who work there.) DO write to corporate management of Ruby's, and please let us know what happens next. Until I hear otherwise, I'm foregoing my Ruby's chocolate shakes I usually buy as my work travel consolation prize!
post #11 of 20
I agree, you handled the situation beautifully. I would write that letter and cc it to corporate headquarters and be sure to include the text of the state law. You might also find this article helpful.
post #12 of 20
This was in my news alerts today:http://http://www.tcpalm.com/news/20...alleging-bias/

Is this the same restaurant you were talking about? In this complaint, note that they have taken it to the federal court system. Also, note that people seem to have an issue with how long it took the woman to complain.
post #13 of 20
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Originally Posted by G8P4 View Post
This was in my news alerts today:http://http://www.tcpalm.com/news/20...alleging-bias/

Is this the same restaurant you were talking about? In this complaint, note that they have taken it to the federal court system. Also, note that people seem to have an issue with how long it took the woman to complain.
The link doesn't seem to be working for me
post #14 of 20
Sorry! I don't know why, I'm often bad at posting links...

In case it doesn't work again, you can get it by googling Breastfeeding, Ruby Tuesday, Florida.



http://www.tcpalm.com/news/2007/dec/...alleging-bias/
post #15 of 20
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Originally Posted by Breastfeeding Insomniac View Post
Definitely write a letter. Good for you for standing up for your rights, and for knowing them! :
:

I'm sorry that you went through that.

But WOW! You were strong!
post #16 of 20
It seems to be the same restaurant, but a different location. The news article incident occurred in Florida. This posted incident occurred in Texas.

To the OP: write a letter. The Texas Health Code protects your right to breastfeed. It doesn't say "as long as everyone around you is comfortable with it." The manager of that restaurant needs education!

eva
post #17 of 20
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Originally Posted by almadianna View Post
She just crouched there like a toad next to me. Breathing on me. She was angry and I was too at that point. .
to you for standing up to her! What a .

And I just so hard at the "toad" part. I know this is a serious issues, but .
post #18 of 20
It's actually a different restaurant. Ruby's is a 50's diner I've only seen in airports. Ruby Tuesday's is typically found at the intersection of a loop and a highway, next to a Fuddruckers or whatever.
post #19 of 20
OH man, those comments after the article make me really, really sad. Are most people thinking these things? No wonder I get anxious NIP. Ugh.
post #20 of 20
WTG standing your ground, momma! I would've been nervous and shaking in a situation like that. I hate confrontation and always think of all the things I should've said later. I hope one day if I am ever confronted negatively while NIP, that I handle like you did!
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