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post #1 of 118
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I am in a VERY bad mood today, and this just pushed me over the edge.

We were at Costco. After shopping my DH and I sat down to eat at the Cosco food area. If you have ever been there, the tables are located just inside the exit.

There was a family of three adults and two two year old twin boys. The boys were cute, and I had just told my husband "aww, how cute".

Within minutes, the boys had finished eating and started running around the table, then around the table and out into the exiting traffic. There were litterally hundreds of people pushing large, full carts of stuff through the isle to leave the store. These two tiny kids kept having near misses, because they were too small to see over the parents head to see the carts, and too small to be seen. The three adults never even said "come here", or "walk", or anything. They just went on eating and talking.

After about seven or so trips out into the traffic, an older gentelman pushing a full and heavy cart out of the store, clipped one of the boys who had just run in front of him, the boy fell into another cart, and cut his forehead. TWO of the adults with the child jumped up to go after the older gentleman.

The dad yells "DUDE!" The mom says something to him, then they both gather up the child (who was fine, just a scratch) and they tell the man to "Watch where you are going".

My husband said "Or you could control your kids". <--couldn't believe he said that.

But, honestly, it is true. If you are going to allow your kids to run around Costco, don't expect other people to watch out for them. Why don't some parents care what their kids are doing, but want others to care?
post #2 of 118
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My husband said "Or you could control your kids".
I always want to say it but don't. Good for him!!!
post #3 of 118
Good for your husband! What did the parents do when he said that? What did the older gentleman do?
post #4 of 118
People like that drive me nuts, but I DO say something. I politely let them know that their child(ren) might be hurt running around in a place where its diffiicult to see them.
post #5 of 118
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Originally Posted by CaliMommie View Post
Good for your husband! What did the parents do when he said that? What did the older gentleman do?
Dad said "F*** you"

And the man was just worried about the boy, but as he left, he rolled his eyes and shook his head.
post #6 of 118
They'll probably sue Costco for it, and win.
post #7 of 118
The irony never ceases to amaze me on this. Parents don't feel it's important to look after the safety of their children, but are all too happy to blame others for anything that happens to go wrong for their kids. *sigh* The two chief lessons the kids learn here?

1. That they are not important enough to their parents to be looked after properly and...

2. That when something goes wrong, DO NOT take personal responsibility, and make darned sure to blame someone else.

Arg.

The best,
Em
post #8 of 118
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Originally Posted by Embee View Post
The irony never ceases to amaze me on this. Parents don't feel it's important to look after the safety of their children, but are all too happy to blame others for anything that happens to go wrong for their kids. *sigh* The two chief lessons the kids learn here?

1. That they are not important enough to their parents to be looked after properly and...

2. That when something goes wrong, DO NOT take personal responsibility, and make darned sure to blame someone else.

Arg.

The best,
Em
This is so true!
This type of situation is one of my biggest pet peeves. I see it all the time....
post #9 of 118
Good for your husband. People are really amazing sometimes. I understand that kids will be kids, but there is a limit to that. Poor old man. :
post #10 of 118
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Originally Posted by Embee View Post
The irony never ceases to amaze me on this. Parents don't feel it's important to look after the safety of their children, but are all too happy to blame others for anything that happens to go wrong for their kids. *sigh* The two chief lessons the kids learn here?

1. That they are not important enough to their parents to be looked after properly and...

2. That when something goes wrong, DO NOT take personal responsibility, and make darned sure to blame someone else.

Arg.

The best,
Em
post #11 of 118
I admit to being the parent that lets her kids do things that make all of the other parents cringe...but DUDE!

When my daughter is being very 4 and running ahead of me at a store with carts I am constantly reminding her to watch out for others, she could be knocked into. If it happened I would never think to blame the person with the cart. (For the record-I do make her get into our cart if she is having a hard time that day being aware of the other shoppers.)

I just don't get parents that don't take responsibility for their parenting choices. Poor kid.
post #12 of 118
Good for your DH! And the dad really said F-U?! GREAT example there!
post #13 of 118
Wow. I guess I could see parents who don't care if their kids run wild out there (I personally wouldn't do it!) but to get angry when they get hit with a cart? That's just nuts.

And dropping an F-bomb? Classy.
post #14 of 118
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Originally Posted by AbbieB View Post
When my daughter is being very 4 and running ahead of me at a store with carts I am constantly reminding her to watch out for others, she could be knocked into. .
But, this was like Herding cattle through a chute. The carts were three carts across and moving fast to get to the exit. It wasn't like the occasional cart that you might pass in Wal Mart. It's like letting your 12 year old play on the freeway, then being mad at the driver when he gets hit by a car.

These parents just didn't want to be bothered. Since there were three adults, and two kids, this should have been easy. The kids still could have goofed off while they waited, but they needed a little guidance from the adults.

And as for the F-bomb, the parents were kinda young, and that isn't really unusual around here, and the way my husband said "Or you could control your kids" was pretty rude. In fact, I was a little nervous that it would escalate, but my DH dropped it after that.
post #15 of 118
I still say good for him, rude or not. Maybe it will make the parents think next time.
post #16 of 118
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Originally Posted by nextcommercial View Post
and the way my husband said "Or you could control your kids" was pretty rude. In fact, I was a little nervous that it would escalate, but my DH dropped it after that.
No matter who he said it it would have been rude. And it wasn't helpful. It didn't help the man or the parents diffuse anything.
post #17 of 118
Blunt, yes. Rude, not so sure. They DID need to control their kids, and someone else had already been affected by their failure to do so. There's nothing wrong with pointing that out. I've been to Costco (okay, I practically live at Costco) and there is NO WAY I would let my kids run loose around the exit. The carts are huge, they're always piled with stuff, and there are bins full of cardboard boxes blocking everyone's sightlines.
post #18 of 118
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Originally Posted by nonnymoose View Post
Blunt, yes. Rude, not so sure. They DID need to control their kids
I do think it's rude. Rude to everyone involved; the kids, the parents, the OP as she cringed upon hearing her DH's interjection, and the man who felt bad and I'm sure just wanted to say sorry and get out of there without having a situation escalate.

For the record, I do not and have never controlled DS. Even when he was running ahead or wild there may have been a need to remind him to be safe but never a need to control him. Kids aren't robots or remote controlled vehicles. They don't need to be controlled.
post #19 of 118
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Originally Posted by nicole lisa View Post
For the record, I do not and have never controlled DS. Even when he was running ahead or wild there may have been a need to remind him to be safe but never a need to control him. Kids aren't robots or remote controlled vehicles. They don't need to be controlled.
Then who's job is it to keep him safe? Who's job is it to keep him from hurting an elderly woman who never saw him coming? I hope you tie bells to him so people know he's running wild.
post #20 of 118
I don't care for the word "control" but switch it with "adequately supervise" maybe.
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