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Are you planning for more children?

post #1 of 35
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Or is this January baby your last?
We are planning for two more, tentatively. Always subject to change, I guess, but we know that we aren't finished. Luckily, DH and I have the same feelings about wanting a large family.
post #2 of 35
We sure are!
post #3 of 35
This is my third and likely last I'd love to have a fourth but was lucky to even convince dh to be open to a third! He's an amazing daddy but tends to worry about the kids to a point that he can't imagine worrying about a 4th! We'll see what the future brings... God's been the one to plan our family, not us!
post #4 of 35
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I've been noticing IRL that people often think 3 is the normal 'max' number of children. Ppl assume that you're done after 3 and are often surprised when I say "No, we're not finished."
I don't get it..
post #5 of 35
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Originally Posted by mama2babybeans View Post
I've been noticing IRL that people often think 3 is the normal 'max' number of children. Ppl assume that you're done after 3 and are often surprised when I say "No, we're not finished."
I don't get it..
Or sometimes two. People soooo often assume since we have a boy and a girl that we're finished.

My favorite quote: If children are worth a million bucks, wouldn't you want more too?
post #6 of 35
We're done. We have two boys and this is a girl. We weren't trying for a girl (weren't "trying" at all though ) but I just feel like I'm done. In a perfect world I'd love to have one or two more, but logically this is it for us.
post #7 of 35
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Originally Posted by ShannaW View Post
Or sometimes two. People soooo often assume since we have a boy and a girl that we're finished.

My favorite quote: If children are worth a million bucks, wouldn't you want more too?
Oh, that's true. We had a boy and then a girl and I got so many of the "perfect family" comments from people who thought now we had a complete family.
Strange concept, I suppose. It's so subjective.
post #8 of 35
We are undecided. I'd like 1 more, and DH wants to be done, but wouldn't refuse me something so important. BUT, this pregnancy has taken so much out of me. I don't know if my body could handle another one. So we're not making any decisions until this baby is 3. I wouldn't want another one before then anyway. (But would probably be giddy if it just "happened" to us! )

DD is not an incredibly healthy girl, though she's having fantastic results with homeopathy. If this next child also suffers from health issues, then we definitely won't try for another one, out of consideration to that non-existant child. It would appear that my body just isn't healthy enough to produce healthy children if this happens again. Isn't it weird that we consider the "feelings" of children that don't even exist?

BUT, it *is* a little sad to think that this one might be our last baby. I think the blow is softened quite a bit since there is the possibility of a third in our future.
post #9 of 35
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Originally Posted by muttix2 View Post
We're done. We have two boys and this is a girl. We weren't trying for a girl (weren't "trying" at all though ) but I just feel like I'm done. In a perfect world I'd love to have one or two more, but logically this is it for us.
yes. that. exactly.
post #10 of 35
I am feeling done. We have a 3y old dd and this baby will make #2 and I am OK with that.
post #11 of 35
well since im going to get like 20 IUD's after baby is born its probably our last for a good long while. she wasn't really planned (at all.at all)..neither was my sweet dd (well, kinda.. i wanted her SO BAD!)..or her lovely brother (pregnant our first time..ahem..). we are just so GOOD at making babies so yeah..3 under 5 is good and im happy and in love with each of them but i think i need a good long break from being either pregnant or nursing after this.. plus, i want to go back to school (homeopathy and acupuncture) and its going to take some major $$ and time.. so yeah.
post #12 of 35
My partner and I talk about this a lot. We're very concerned about environmental impacts (and other variables, although that's the big one we talk about most), so he'd prefer a max of two.

I originally thought I wanted three, but who knows how that will change. My first babe isn't even Earth-side yet, and I'm open to feeling differently.

I didn't really dig being an only child that much, so I'd like to at least have two.
post #13 of 35
This is our last. I had to convince DH to let me have a third and three was what I always wanted anyway.
post #14 of 35
This is our third baby and the last one that I will birth. My dh has a vasectomy scheduled for Thursday. However, we do plan to adopt a girl in a few years.
post #15 of 35
This is our 3rd, and I'm not sure if we're done. I always thought 4 would be a nice number, but I'm reserving judgement for a while. I would like to be done having children by 35, though (I'm 32 now).
post #16 of 35
We are done for sure. DH will be scheduling his vastectomy soon.
post #17 of 35
We are done as well. Unless someone wants to drop a babe off that is. Dh is getting fixed soon.
post #18 of 35
We are undecided. I like the dynamic of having three children, but we feel the pull to stop at two for various reasons (limited energy, time, financial resources, our own health issues that flare up from time to time, a desire to return some time and energy to our own creative interests). I think we should just take it one baby at a time, though I am aware that this may be it for us. Sniff.
post #19 of 35
We are done. DH only wanted 1, then when 1 turned 1, he wanted 1 more.. when she was born, 1 more was all he wanted. We had him and then it was 1 more in a few years. He turned 1 and it was okay, maybe not in a few years lol...

I on the other hand wanted 7 to begin with but after #3, I said I think 1 more is all I want. This is 1 more and I feel at peace with our family size. I think 4 is right for us and it just feels complete. I know that in 10 years if I change my mind, we can always adopt.

DH is getting snipped when we get our income tax return lol. but I worry he thinks we arent done lol. He says we are done but he says that after every child and hes been "joking" about wanting another after this baby lol.. but Im sooo done lol
post #20 of 35
were 'tentatively' done. DH only wanted 2, I want a 3rd, possibly a 4th. Our girls will be 14 months apart and were a little exhausted so we know that if we consider another it'll be years away. We've agreed to do no permanent birth control (vasectomy, tubals, etc) in the meantime. I guess were waiting to see where our lives take us.
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