Name committment issues

[bloominmamas]

Anyone else having issues committing to a name for the baby? I have a list of both boy and girl names that I like/love but I just have no desire to settle on a name. DH is feeling the pressure to decide on a name but I really don't want to. No logical reason, but I do feel the need to know the baby first before I name it. With dd and ds I knew what sex they were and I think that helped me to move forward with deciding on names, or maybe I could just focus on them alot more then than I can now. Does that make sense? It's not that I am having attachment issues but I feel like I can't name the baby until I know if it's a girl or a boy and I am utterly content to wait til it's born to find out the sex and the name.

[steph117]

I know one set of parents who waited 3 days to name their daughter (because none of the names they picked seemed to "fit" once she was born), and another set who waited almost 2 weeks to name their son! They, like you, felt they wanted to meet their child first.

DH & I think like you...we don't want to commit to a name now. We have an idea of some names we like, but we're going to wait and see if the baby makes his/her name clear to us when he/she is born! You might choose a name and then realize it doesn't feel right for some reason once you actually meet your baby!

[flapjack]

Similar issues here. I want a name pinned down, DH wants to wait. We're set on either Samson Douglas or Edern Douglas (with spelling variations)- similar meanings in either Hebrew or Old English- and can't decide.

[nolonger]

I don't know my baby as well as I'd hoped to, but I do know him/her well enough to be 100% sure of the girl's first name, although I am tossing around a couple of alternate possibilities for the middle name.

It's the boy's name that's giving me trouble. I'd like for my older children to have some say in the matter, but neither of them are the hand-on-mama's-belly type and really don't know their younger sibling at all. They also don't get along very well with each other and I realized awhile back that any name he likes, she hates and vice versa.

We have a short list, but ds (who ultimately got the priviledge of naming, since he's a boy) wants to wait until after the birth. I THINK I know what it's going to be, but we've changed our minds rather abruptly, once when the name I'd fallen in love with turned to be one that Angelina Jolie had used and another when my son made a close friend with a very similar name to our boy's name.

I just call the baby by his/her girl's name and ds teases me about how much his little brother probably hates that.

My older kids already had names by the time they were born so my "job" was to defend those names and try to convince exy not to change them. I succeeded with Christopher and failed with Emily...er...I mean Jeanita.

[slgt]

We have agreed on one boy's name that we both love, and have a couple others that we like as well in case baby comes out a boy and the name isn't right. We have a list for a girl. Regardless, we are not settling on any one name no matter what - part superstition, part just wanting to wait to meet the baby! To silence my MIL (who has OPINIONS on names), we told her that, if it's a girl, we're naming it Morag, and Vernal if a boy.

[the elyse]

i can't for the life of me come up with a girl's middle name, and think i'll just have to wait till is see her, if it's even a she! haha.

[Mama2-4]

We are having the same name troubles here...we just can not decide. Every time we pull out the name book we end up goofing off and coming up with silly names. I have a list of a few that I like, but DH does not agree. Our last baby we named on day 2 of life...we could not decide and ultimately he let me pick the name (feeling sorry for the rough labor!). The name "Trevor" really fits him though and we both love it! I worked in L&D and there were lots of parents who would wait to name the baby, I think you technically have like a month to do so.

[Nature]

We're all set on names here. But we had names before we were expecting anyway.

[salt_phoenix]

Originally Posted by mom2-3

Every time we pull out the name book we end up goofing off and coming up with silly names.

haha that sounds familiar... we've told everyone when they ask that we haven't picked anything but a boys middle name... dh really really really likes:
"the great"

so many names i like just doesn't roll off the tongue as i wish... or the names we like don't sound nice together... just to let you know how i can't decide?
all my kids have 3 names and two last names as it is...

[mom2tillie]

We had agreed on names way back when we were expecting my daughter, now that we are having a boy my husband is having all kinds of second thoughts and the in-laws aren't helping. My husband never wanted to name his son after him becuase he would be a third, not a junior... I would have went along with the third no problem way back when, but since we settled on Jack and I have gotten so used to calling this baby Jack that I am having a really hard time accepting anything else.

I don't know what my baby is going to be called!

[loraxc]

No names decided on here yet. Yipe! We LOVE DD's name so much that we've set the bar pretty high for ourselves.

[MommyHammy]

We have our little guys name picked out and have since even before we got married. The middle name had us stumped for a while but I think we finally nailed it down. We are open to the possibility that he will not fit the name and we will have to come up with something else. We have not shared the name with anyone (b/c we don't want opinions) and it has led out friends to put out their own suggestions like Magnus and Basil Fauntleroy (which are my favorites)

[Justmee]

We toss names around but we never really decide until we see the baby. Nechama we didn't even think of the whole pregnancy, but when she was born the name was right (it means "comfort" in hebrew and she was born 10 days after my grandfather died). Rena we had tossed around and it juts felt like the right name (meaning joy / thanksgiving). Rivka we sort of knew because my grandmother died right when I got pregnant, so we figured if she was a girl she would be Rivka, but we didnt' firmly decide that until she was born. I have thought of a bunch of names this time, but all dh says is "X name is okay, we'll decide when the baby comes."

[mf_colon]

I did not decide on a name until the baby was born. Since we did not know the sex it was harder to just choose one and none of them jumped out as the "one" but when the baby was born everything just clicked and the name just came to us...

So I would not sweat it, in fact I think its better to wait until the baby is born if you are not sure.

Good Luck!

[bloominmamas]

DH finally realized last night that I pretty much want to just wait til the baby's born to decide. He was cute about it so it was all good

[eilonwy]

We argued SO much over Bean's name that we finally settled on the first thing we agreed on; my best friend helped bring mike around to his middle name, and BeanBean settled the nickname matter himself (it was his very first word ). He had a name before he was born. I couldn't actually call him by his name before his bris, though; I had trouble even saying it, which struck everyone around me (outside of family) as really, really odd. Ironically enough, it was FIL who "got it" first. He was "The Littlest man" for two weeks, though.

BooBah's name was on our short list for a girl. Her first (English) name is for mike's grandmother, whom he adored and who passed away before I met him. All of the kids have a Hebrew name which they use and an English name, and the best Hebrew name we could think of to go with the English name. . . well, it just didn't flow properly if it came first. But that particular combination was on our short list for years, before we ever got pregnant with BeanBean. We were both aware that this name was just not a name for any child; We'd have to get a look at her first. When BooBah was brought to me, mike said, "I already know which name I think works best for her." I took one look at her and it was just as obvious to me. Her name is very, very "her." (So's 'BooBah!!' )

Bella's names were both on our short list, but they were paired with different names. It was odd, though. Bella's got two Hebrew names, but both of them are in common usage as English names (so it's a bit of a compromise on both fronts). Her middle name is for a family friend who was killed in a car accident at the age of 29, and her first name is a somewhat "protective" measure, iykwim. The two just worked together, and she's quite the Bellatrix LeBella.

Seamonkey is proving a bit more difficult. If he was a girl, he would have been named for mike's favorite aunt, who passed away just a few hours after Bella was born. He's a boy, though, and my favorite name doesn't quite work for mike. We *think* we're agreed on a first name, but the middle name is kind of up in the air, and there's another, similar-sounding first name that's still a good candidate. . . and Bella is poopy. Gtg!

[weeirishlass]

With dd, we had a really hard time committing to a name before she was born. We knew she was a girl, and we had one name all picked out, then about 2 or 3 months before she was born, we scrapped it and didn't decide until she was here. It's a huge decision, one that they'll have to live with forever, so I think waiting is prudent.

[GreenRose]

Originally Posted by flapjack

Similar issues here. I want a name pinned down, DH wants to wait. We're set on either Samson Douglas or Edern Douglas (with spelling variations)- similar meanings in either Hebrew or Old English- and can't decide.

I love Samson...

We have one name, but I feel like we need back ups in case it doesn't suit her. DH has his heart set though.

[eilonwy]

Originally Posted by weeirishlass

It's a huge decision, one that they'll have to live with forever, so I think waiting is prudent.

Yeah, kids pay the price even if they choose to change their name later.

[philomom]

Originally Posted by Nature

We're all set on names here. But we had names before we were expecting anyway.

Same here, but I have friends who swear by giving birth and then looking at the list of names to see who this baby "looks like" before they decide on a name.