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Mama P says: Don't underestimate the Big O  

post #1 of 32
12/31/07 at 5:31pm
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All right, suffering mamas, listen to Mama Perdita....go right now and have a solo session with BOB (battery operated boyfriend) or with DH (if you must). Have the Big O, which if you're like me, this late in pregnancy sure doesn't take long. Then report back and tell us how you feel! Earlier, this was me: Now, here I am: Get it?

It's been weeks and weeks for me, since DH has basically no sex drive (it's a miracle we've gotten pregnant three times) and I haven't felt like it, even solo. Well, today, I said to hell with it, took a nice shower with bob, and voila! No more spd pain, the baby has gone to sleep after being awake and pounding on me for the entire morning, and my mood has improved dramatically! Yeah!

That's my challenge to us February mamas...orgasm is free, unlike a mani/pedi/massage, calorie free, unlike chocolate, and will probably make your baby go to sleep for a while! So hop to it!
post #2 of 32
12/31/07 at 6:05pm

Way Way Tmi

Yeah, my mate has never been a HUGE horndog, and though he swears he scraped all the Catholic off years ago, apparently my blooming maternity doesn't inspire him. Well, it does, but in a "fetching-tea, neckrub, declaration of pride" way, not a "rawr" way. So I hung out with Bob, not for the first time during this magical journey of discovery.

The books say in the third trimester, a small percentage of women find the crampiness afterwards to be unpleasant... and I guess I'm paying for my easy pregnancy by finding the aftercramps to be really freaking unpleasant. I mean, owie. Also, my fetalchild is currently thumping up a storm, and I swear I can hear him squealing "Do that again!!"

So I'm still aggravated, compounded with "I can't WHAT for another seven weeks??!!"

Glad it worked for SOMEONE, though.
post #3 of 32
12/31/07 at 6:40pm
Unless it's first thing in the morning, it just takes way too much effort to get there because my sensory threshold seems to decrease exponentially throughout the day. My husband would be ecstatic to oblige, but by the time he gets home any touching with sexual intent just makes my skin crawl and the post-O contractions when I "fake it 'til I make it" are very unsettling to me - they just feel *wrong*. I definitely didn't feel this way with my first, but I wasn't caring for a 3.5 year-old then either nor was I quite this incapacitated by the babe being breech, the corresponding SPD pain, prodromal labor, weather and the million other little things which constantly remind me that I really need to get back and put my feet up

Otherwise - go for it! It's good to hear someone's getting some and enjoying it
post #4 of 32
12/31/07 at 6:44pm
Amen, sister! DH got me a very fancy BOB for Christmas and is the gift that keeps on giving! It does make such a huge difference. I even sleep better.

I can't do it lying on my back anymore (I don't think I could reach!) so I lean over a chair while kneeling on the floor which also seems to mitigate the whole BH discomfort afterwards.
post #5 of 32
12/31/07 at 7:34pm
Lauren, for some reason it really cracks me up that you got one for Christmas from DH! That is one thoughtful guy you've got there!

I agree that sex/orgasm is great for a pregant lady! I'm usually so tired I'd rather not but I'm never unhappy that we did!
post #6 of 32
12/31/07 at 8:32pm


Jammy gits. I'm jealous DH is looking all gorgeous tonight and I want to see the new year in with a bang, and instead I have thrush

Go enjoy
post #7 of 32
12/31/07 at 8:37pm
word

although I'm more of a "manual" sort of gal personally, I know how some of you ladies love your "automatic"!
post #8 of 32
12/31/07 at 9:46pm


Normally I couldn't care less, but BOB and I have become quite cozy during this pregnancy and I'm touting the benefits to all you married ladies constantly. I mean, come ON, it's the best workout we have for all those muscles that we're going to be using in labour and there's obviously some reason why nature makes even a shrivelled up old prune like myself get "frisky" during pregnancy.

Nothing is too tmi for me; I'm just going to enjoy it while it lasts and keep on recommending that others do the same.
post #9 of 32
12/31/07 at 10:00pm
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Originally Posted by smokeylo View Post
Amen, sister! DH got me a very fancy BOB for Christmas and is the gift that keeps on giving!
That's awesome!
post #10 of 32
12/31/07 at 11:08pm
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Originally Posted by sarahn4639 View Post
Lauren, for some reason it really cracks me up that you got one for Christmas from DH! That is one thoughtful guy you've got there!

I agree that sex/orgasm is great for a pregant lady! I'm usually so tired I'd rather not but I'm never unhappy that we did!
He was getting mad at me for not giving him any ideas for a gift, so I finally said "I want a really good vibrator!" And he totally came through for me. What a guy . Of course we had to open that present BEFORE the big Christmas thing with family.
post #11 of 32
1/1/08 at 1:03am
My dh is in the never asks for sex group which has always bothered me and I have never tried the alternate, I know I am lame. The less sex I get the more I think about it but he would be so hurt if I got something, like devasted I think so no fun for me.
post #12 of 32
1/1/08 at 2:03am
I think that is why I am so pissy this time around bc my sex drive is non existant when it is normally boombing and dh just agrivates me too much to do anything plus my dang belly is so huge this time around it is just awkward but def it is awsome and helps moods tremendously if you can have the big O no matter how you get there LOL
post #13 of 32
1/2/08 at 12:03pm
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Originally Posted by NamastePlatypus View Post
My dh is in the never asks for sex group which has always bothered me and I have never tried the alternate, I know I am lame. The less sex I get the more I think about it but he would be so hurt if I got something, like devasted I think so no fun for me.
you don't need to have any umm...contraband for your dh to find to have a good time by yourself ...see my post above

I need all the stress relief I can get alone or assisted!
post #14 of 32
1/2/08 at 1:11pm
Ok now I took your advice and slept good last night LMBO first time in a while
post #15 of 32
1/2/08 at 2:42pm
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Originally Posted by NamastePlatypus View Post
My dh is in the never asks for sex group which has always bothered me and I have never tried the alternate, I know I am lame. The less sex I get the more I think about it but he would be so hurt if I got something, like devasted I think so no fun for me.
nothing says you have to buy anything. ahem.

I just can't get into it right now DH wanted me sooo badly on NYE (which is rare, usually I'm the initiator) and I just couldn't. The idea was revolting. I don't know what happened to my sex drive
post #16 of 32
1/3/08 at 9:44pm
Here's a good one for you...of course it's tmi!

a few days ago I tried to initiate with DH but he was still too sleepy, so I decided to take care of some business which he's always VERY understanding about. Occasionally when I orgasm I actualy ejaculate...yup, lots of clear fluid, make a mess on the bed, we laugh (throw a towel over the wet spot) and go back to bed. This usually happens when it's been a long time between orgasms, if I have several in a row or if it takes me a long time to get to the critical point in any session.

Well, I kept getting interrupted by the dog, who jumped on the bed, and then the cat, who jumped on my stomach, and then the dog who jumped on the bed chasing after the cat.....well, by the time I finally reached that beautiful moment, I felt the all too familiar gushing sensation BUT it was a slight bit different this time, there was a TON of it. I just thought to myself, "go me!", but when I went to cover it up with the towel, I BURST out laughing....

What else can you do when you realize you peed the bed!

aaahhhh....luckily the session was worth the hassle of cleaning up!
post #17 of 32
1/3/08 at 10:02pm
Agreed!
post #18 of 32
1/4/08 at 1:06am


I can't! For some horrible reason this pregnancy, I am completely unable to O! It's usually easy for me, but it just ends up like a sneeze that doesn't happen.

I pray that this isn't permanent!
post #19 of 32
1/4/08 at 9:31am
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Originally Posted by lilyblossom View Post
Here's a good one for you...of course it's tmi!

a few days ago I tried to initiate with DH but he was still too sleepy, so I decided to take care of some business which he's always VERY understanding about. Occasionally when I orgasm I actualy ejaculate...yup, lots of clear fluid, make a mess on the bed, we laugh (throw a towel over the wet spot) and go back to bed. This usually happens when it's been a long time between orgasms, if I have several in a row or if it takes me a long time to get to the critical point in any session.

Well, I kept getting interrupted by the dog, who jumped on the bed, and then the cat, who jumped on my stomach, and then the dog who jumped on the bed chasing after the cat.....well, by the time I finally reached that beautiful moment, I felt the all too familiar gushing sensation BUT it was a slight bit different this time, there was a TON of it. I just thought to myself, "go me!", but when I went to cover it up with the towel, I BURST out laughing....

What else can you do when you realize you peed the bed!

aaahhhh....luckily the session was worth the hassle of cleaning up!
I am the same way, that has happened even when I am not preg! And about acheiving the goal with out countraband I don't think I could reach if I tried!
post #20 of 32
1/4/08 at 1:21pm
Platy, have you tried a hand held showerhead? It seems like a good solution all around.
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