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Originally Posted by Mylie View Post
I have been reading the december thread for a couple weeks now...One of my helper moms recommended it to me..I am a single mom to two special needs teens and a four month old baby...I work fulltime but there is never enough money...Sigh...I just try to not let it get me down but you know how it is when you don't know which shut off notice is more important...Well I look forward to chatting with all of you...It is nice to be heard by others who understand...

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Originally Posted by eilonwy View Post
my brain hurts. :

So last Friday, the washer started acting funny and wouldn't spin out. mike took the laundry that had been in the washer down to his parents' house to dry, and that's fine. He said that yesterday, he'd take dirty laundry to the laundromat (nevermind that he also said he'd check out the washer; Despite the fact that I'm the one more likely to be able to fix such a thing, I cannot crawl around in the basement when I'm damn near nine months pregnant) and just do a couple of megaloads. All right, no problem-- he'd go, take a kid (probably BooBah) and I'd be able to do some schoolwork with Bean.

He never got out of the house yesterday, but promised to do it today, so that I'd have the day to work with Bean. All right, no problem, we got up, laundry was all together waiting, and I didn't even log into the game or to mdc, I just quietly got everything ready in anticipation of mike leaving. . . but he didn't. Finally at *2:45* he says he's getting ready to go. Well, what is there to say to that? I'd just gotten done telling the kids to get dressed and go outside to play; Yeah, it's still wet and there's a bit of snow on the ground, but it's *sunny* and they need fresh air and heck, they've got jackets. He says, "I'm sensing that you would have liked for me to leave earlier." Well, DUH! I have to start dinner now, you know? There's no way we can get his schoolwork finished (or even properly begun) and I spent the entire day just waiting.

This is the thing about mike being unemployed that most bothers me. It's not that he doesn't help with the kids or the housework, he does do things around here. It's just that his very *presence* is inertial, and it makes it impossible for me to get things done with the kids because they'll run to him and he's soooooo bloody slow to get moving that even if he doesn't contradict me outright, his very presence nullifies any effect I may have. I've been trying to tell him since August that he needs to get out of the bloody house during the day. Just get OUT. I don't care what he does (although ideally he'll get a freaking job), just get OUT. I can't do anything, can't get the kids to cooperate when he's here all bloody day arguing with me and sitting on his butt in front of the computer. It's like living with an anvil that sucks all the heat and energy right out of me. It's four now, and I'm feeling tired and demoralized, but I'll grab a bloody stepstool and wash a pot and make some pasta for the kids. And mike and the kids are *all* getting up before I go to my doctor's appointments tomorrow, whether they like it or not. If I have to be his mother too, so flippin' be it. He'll go on the schedule just like the kids. :
Girl, I know how you feel. I've decided tomorrow I will be on him like a MIL; he will be working on his hunny to do list or my angry goddess will be showing.... we'll see how that goes. Hope your hubby gets his butt moving soon, too.
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Originally Posted by Satori View Post
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as for me I should have stayed in bed, was up until almost 4am becasue of all the drunk idiots making noise and woke up at 9am to find out my cash aid is not on my card and praying its there tomorrow becasue the cars on empty and we have a Dr appt to go to and the rent is due and I can't afford a $45 late fee. Then I sprained my wrist, how I don't know but it hurts and thanks to older dd I slipped and fell on it and now it REALLY FRIGGIN HURTS! Once again my guardian angel must be around becasue when I came back to the computer to sit down and massage it there was my wrist brace I've been looking for all morning (I've messed it up before but not since we moved here, no clue how it got to my desk becasue I haven't seen it since before we moved.)

as for something positive I made an awesome deal! I manged to barter for services for a professional organizer to help me finish unpacking and organize the house so I'm thrilled!
I am so sorry your wrist hurts; sending you healing:. But I do have to say I am super jealous of your trade... how wonderful it will be to have an organizational helper; you should take before and after pics and show us the improvements!! I am so jealous... so... soo...

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Originally Posted by MamaChel View Post
I'm checking in, been lurking for months. We're very low income and high debt. That's going to screw us even more, effective almost immediately.

We got a "Christmas present" from my parents, who we live with. We have until Feb 1 to find other living arrangements. Great. If DH was *working*, we'd be ok. BUT, he fell off a roof in October, nearly DIED, and still requires nursing care twice per day with 3x/week OT/PT, constant labwork, visits with 5 seperate specialists, blood thinners, IV abx (due to the splenic abscess that is STILL draining out his side), and has started having bouts of extreme dizziness that could either be related to the brain injury or some of his medication. I get SSD and go to school FT (4 months until graduation, yay). Between us we have about 100k in student loan debt and our annual income is about 20k for a family of 7. Fun times. We can't get FS until we move b/c mom uses our income to qualify for her medicaid somehow.

But, things I am grateful for:
DH walked away from a C1 fracture. He's alive and reasonably well,
Free top notch medical care for his injuries
My three little yahoos and their huge imaginations
The many "santas" who have helped my family this holiday with everything from groceries to toys and shoes for the kids.
One more semester until graduation.
FINALLY having the truth about my parents validated.

Somehow we will manage, that's one thing I've learned. We always manage.
I am so sorry to hear about your family being booted out. I hope you find a good new place and that the process goes as smoothly and as well as possible. I am so sorry to hear about your hubby, too, sending him some healing:

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Originally Posted by justmama View Post
Thanks! I actually just got home and I made $51. Funny how that works. I needed $50 and I was blessed with an extra dollar. It was actually a good day tip-wise and table-wise.

BUT . . . . . . . . .there's always a but isn't there????? I've been having all this random cramping and I think I'm looking my plug. Hmmmmmm. I'm 33.3 weeks along. I think we need big bird in a while longer to bake. BUT there's no cervical changes so far. Just crampiness like a period, I've been in the bathroom ALL.DAY.LONG, and there's a LOT of mucus when I wipe. Now that I've totally TMI'ed everyone out. . . . . . .I think it's just a bit early. And I'm nervous because by this time my water had already broken with Sara and I was in the hospital on antibiotics and steroid shots and she was born at 34.1weeks. So it just makes me a little freaked out. I can't afford to go on maternity leave early as I haven't even looked into disability or filled out paperwork and I have no money for next month's bills. I'm a little panicked.
Stay in where its warm, baby vibes for you!!::
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Originally Posted by 2Sweeties1Angel View Post
What I'm Thankful For:

--DH still has a job! He called his boss today to see why he wasn't on the schedule, blah blah blah, told her he'd filed for unemployment, and she put him on there for Friday, Sunday, and Monday.

--DH and I both start school on the 14th. We're excited. I already have an AA in Criminal Justice (WTF was I thinking???) but am going back for my ADN. This is DH's first time in college.

--I got double pay today at work since it's a holiday. My check should be nice, even with insurance taken out.

*********************

Saffron started walking last night She's about 11.5 months old or so and I'd been hoping she'd wait until after a year. She's my latest walker--the others walked at 10 months and 8.5 months. Oh well, at least she didn't start walking any earlier. I hate it when they walk because that leads to running and that leads to me having to chase them
Those sound like all good things, mama

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Originally Posted by averysmomma05 View Post
YAY! I went this morning filled out a application for a job at gas station. They hired me before I even got the application. I go in the morning at 8am to do my drug test and then I can start as soon as I want. YAY! Well thats all for me right now! Emily
Awesome!! Way to go on the new job. That's great!

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Originally Posted by Brojakee View Post
Thanks for the warm welcome! I don't understand the multi quote thing, or even single quote thing, can someone explain

Just a bit of comical news:

Ex husbands new girlfriend(the one who brought herself to my door and told my kids she is their new mommy) busted a implant...she is hence forth known as UNI I am a true believer in karma right now
that is too funny.
If you want to multi quote there is a little button on the lower right of each person's post with the quote marks. You click that on everyone's posts you want to quote, then when you hit post reply, they all show up and you can add your comments.
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I just woke up a lil while ago, sometimes I get online for a bit when its quiet here in the night. I should go back to sleep soon.
Today the kids and I played outside and took a little walk even though it was super windy, they needed to get out for awhile. They played with these crayola chalk stompers they got for christmas; these things are like big poofs that you push on the ground and leave chalk marks. They wound up marking our tree all over. It was nice, but wore even me out so the kids and I then watched a movie and took a nap together.
As I was making dinner I realized how much I need to declutter and organize this house. I am going to have dh help me tomorrow with some of that. I am excited and determined.
All of my local friends have been too busy and not around for awhile, and I haven't been around much either, but I just hope that everyone is not avoiding me or something. My kids miss their friends and I hope we see some soon. My son will be 5 in 10 days. He wants to have a boys sleep over pizza party. I still have to invite my friends kids, though I mentioned it last month to a few moms. We will hopefully have at least 2 other boys over... I hope their moms let them over for the night. Most of his friends are a little older than him. Anyway, I plan on playing a bunch of games, letting them make their own pizzas or dessert pizzas, running themselves out, then maybe watching a movie and bed. So I guess I have some preparing to do for that.

I need to call some other massage students and set up a study date. That is a very hard task, since many of us have tried to get our group together, and failed. I need some studying support, though! And I know they do too.

Anyway, have a great day ladies, that's it for now, I'm sleepy.
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pics of the newborn longies I finished for Big Bird the other day. Just a drawstring left now.
post #103 of 689
This thread is moving so fast I can barely keep up and I am used to the fast pace.. anyway ds flies back to his Dad's today , however we had a great visit despite the snow storms here. He will be back next month, not sure if I can get him a ticket to come for his birthday weekend (my baby turns 16 on Feb 3) but sometime next month I will get him back out here.

Was feeling a little down yesterday since compared to last year this time my life specfically my financial life has taken a serious detour that was unexpected.. yet that is life and I have to keep on keeping on. Its not like I have never seen adversity.

So thankful for this group, its such a safe haven for me.

Well after ds leaves I will come back and acknowledge folks.

Satori, I got your PM and the coat will head out either today or in the morning.

Shay
post #104 of 689
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Originally Posted by ReikiMommy07 View Post
If you can, you should check into whatever your mom is doing by using your income for medicaid. That doesn't sound legit... ???

Actually it IS legit. They make too much on their own to qualify for medicaid, but when you add in myself, DH, the 3 kids that live in the home, our lack of income, the CS we pay for the one minor living out of the home, they qualify for medicaid even though they do not need it. (Both have medicare PLUS decent medigap policies, the medicaid is just to cover) It gets better, my PARENTS are covered but the babies are uninsured. As soon as we leave the medicaid for the parents goes away, they make close to 35k per year on their own.

We applied for medicaid for the kids but the state chose to cover my parents instead, it's some strange accounting they have going on there.
post #105 of 689
Good morning mamas!

DD's bum is a little better this morning - the vinegar rinses are helping a lot.

I'm debating wether to continue with school right now or not. I owe so much in loans already, and my thyroid meds are all screwed up which makes it hard to think, so I'm worried that if I do try to go this term I'll just end up failing all my classes anyways. I have no idea what I'm going to do.

And my idiot father brought up leaving again last night - :. That makes school even worse because I'd really need to be trying to come up with some type of income instead of sitting in class all day.

I just don't know what to do.
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post #107 of 689
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Originally Posted by averysmomma05 View Post
YAY! I went this morning filled out a application for a job at gas station. They hired me before I even got the application. I go in the morning at 8am to do my drug test and then I can start as soon as I want. YAY! Well thats all for me right now! Emily
Congrats!

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Originally Posted by Brojakee View Post
Thanks for the warm welcome! I don't understand the multi quote thing, or even single quote thing, can someone explain

Just a bit of comical news:

Ex husbands new girlfriend(the one who brought herself to my door and told my kids she is their new mommy) busted a implant...she is hence forth known as UNI I am a true believer in karma right now


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Originally Posted by Crunchy Doula View Post
Hey Ladies! Long time no see The holidays were nice here, just have been so busy that I haven't had anytime to get online. Going to go get to bed, but I just wanted to check in a see how everybodys Holiday was (I haven't had time to catch up on the other pages)! I'll be back soon!
Welcome back!

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Originally Posted by MamaChel View Post
Actually it IS legit. They make too much on their own to qualify for medicaid, but when you add in myself, DH, the 3 kids that live in the home, our lack of income, the CS we pay for the one minor living out of the home, they qualify for medicaid even though they do not need it. (Both have medicare PLUS decent medigap policies, the medicaid is just to cover) It gets better, my PARENTS are covered but the babies are uninsured. As soon as we leave the medicaid for the parents goes away, they make close to 35k per year on their own.

We applied for medicaid for the kids but the state chose to cover my parents instead, it's some strange accounting they have going on there.
Well, it's a strict policy never to criticize anone else's parents, so I won't (but guess what I'm thinking), but your state rules are seriously messed up. I cannot believe that you can all be included as dependents and yet only your parents are covered. Makes no sense, and you should vote the b@%$#ds out.

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Originally Posted by sandygirl View Post
Good morning mamas!

DD's bum is a little better this morning - the vinegar rinses are helping a lot.

I'm debating wether to continue with school right now or not. I owe so much in loans already, and my thyroid meds are all screwed up which makes it hard to think, so I'm worried that if I do try to go this term I'll just end up failing all my classes anyways. I have no idea what I'm going to do.

And my idiot father brought up leaving again last night - :. That makes school even worse because I'd really need to be trying to come up with some type of income instead of sitting in class all day.

I just don't know what to do.
I hope you find a way to make school work. Loans are awful, but if your deferment ends and you're job hunting w/o a degree, it's so hard. I have hypothyroidism too. Can you have your levels checked? I hope you feel better soon.
post #108 of 689
Welcome to all the new moms on here

This is my first real day off that I can get something done and I've started by cleaning the kitchen. The highlight of my day has been that at the store they had organic meats marked for clearance because their sold by date is tommorow. So I was able to get a few packs at really cheap prices. Also my dh eats granola for breakfast and there happened to be one on sale and it ran up at full price. I didn't notice till afterwards so i had to go to customer service, which refunded my money, so I got it for free. I know that some people wouldn't think $3.50 is a lot of money but I knew y'all on here would appreciate it

I need some advice on what to do with 2 pounds of buffalo mozzeralla? My SIL had a dinner party and had bought it for the party but didn't use one of the tubs of it. Any ideas? I'd hate it to go to waste.
post #109 of 689
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Originally Posted by Mylie View Post
I have been reading the december thread for a couple weeks now...One of my helper moms recommended it to me..I am a single mom to two special needs teens and a four month old baby...I work fulltime but there is never enough money...Sigh...I just try to not let it get me down but you know how it is when you don't know which shut off notice is more important...Well I look forward to chatting with all of you...It is nice to be heard by others who understand...
oh, we understand! Welcome!

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Originally Posted by MamaChel View Post
I'm checking in, been lurking for months. We're very low income and high debt. That's going to screw us even more, effective almost immediately.

We got a "Christmas present" from my parents, who we live with. We have until Feb 1 to find other living arrangements. Great. If DH was *working*, we'd be ok. BUT, he fell off a roof in October, nearly DIED, and still requires nursing care twice per day with 3x/week OT/PT, constant labwork, visits with 5 seperate specialists, blood thinners, IV abx (due to the splenic abscess that is STILL draining out his side), and has started having bouts of extreme dizziness that could either be related to the brain injury or some of his medication. I get SSD and go to school FT (4 months until graduation, yay). Between us we have about 100k in student loan debt and our annual income is about 20k for a family of 7. Fun times. We can't get FS until we move b/c mom uses our income to qualify for her medicaid somehow.

But, things I am grateful for:
DH walked away from a C1 fracture. He's alive and reasonably well,
Free top notch medical care for his injuries
My three little yahoos and their huge imaginations
The many "santas" who have helped my family this holiday with everything from groceries to toys and shoes for the kids.
One more semester until graduation.
FINALLY having the truth about my parents validated.

Somehow we will manage, that's one thing I've learned. We always manage.
wecome, mama and its true....you will manage....and it will get better and easier..soon.

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Originally Posted by justmama View Post
Thanks! I actually just got home and I made $51. Funny how that works. I needed $50 and I was blessed with an extra dollar. It was actually a good day tip-wise and table-wise.

BUT . . . . . . . . .there's always a but isn't there????? I've been having all this random cramping and I think I'm looking my plug. Hmmmmmm. I'm 33.3 weeks along. I think we need big bird in a while longer to bake. BUT there's no cervical changes so far. Just crampiness like a period, I've been in the bathroom ALL.DAY.LONG, and there's a LOT of mucus when I wipe. Now that I've totally TMI'ed everyone out. . . . . . .I think it's just a bit early. And I'm nervous because by this time my water had already broken with Sara and I was in the hospital on antibiotics and steroid shots and she was born at 34.1weeks. So it just makes me a little freaked out. I can't afford to go on maternity leave early as I haven't even looked into disability or filled out paperwork and I have no money for next month's bills. I'm a little panicked.


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Originally Posted by averysmomma05 View Post
YAY! I went this morning filled out a application for a job at gas station. They hired me before I even got the application. I go in the morning at 8am to do my drug test and then I can start as soon as I want. YAY! Well thats all for me right now! Emily
......very exciting!

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Originally Posted by acegmom View Post
ladies - anyone who needs $$ for postage (especially if you can accept PP), please, PLEASE pm me.

Jill H.

(lucky mom to Amelia 17, Camille 15, Evan 12, and Gracie 10)
that's beautiful!

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Originally Posted by Brojakee View Post
Thanks for the warm welcome! I don't understand the multi quote thing, or even single quote thing, can someone explain

Just a bit of comical news:

Ex husbands new girlfriend(the one who brought herself to my door and told my kids she is their new mommy) busted a implant...she is hence forth known as UNI I am a true believer in karma right now
not that i'm happy she needs to go under the knife, but..........................................:laug h:


good afternoon, mamas!

I didn't post this morning because my internet was temporarily shut off I was totally losing my shit.....i need YOU with my coffee!

life's good today......edie was home for school for the day because of the storm .........that ended at like midnight: but she's old enough to take care of herself for little bits of time.....so i walked the dogs to the bank so i could deposit money so i could get the internet back on and come here!

i shovelled for a few hours already......my shoulder is killing me! 22 more days until surgery......hopefully it will fix it and i can move along......

well, I need a nap (and a vicodin).....
post #110 of 689
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Originally Posted by sonrisaa29 View Post
Welcome to all the new moms on here

This is my first real day off that I can get something done and I've started by cleaning the kitchen. The highlight of my day has been that at the store they had organic meats marked for clearance because their sold by date is tommorow. So I was able to get a few packs at really cheap prices. Also my dh eats granola for breakfast and there happened to be one on sale and it ran up at full price. I didn't notice till afterwards so i had to go to customer service, which refunded my money, so I got it for free. I know that some people wouldn't think $3.50 is a lot of money but I knew y'all on here would appreciate it

I need some advice on what to do with 2 pounds of buffalo mozzeralla? My SIL had a dinner party and had bought it for the party but didn't use one of the tubs of it. Any ideas? I'd hate it to go to waste.

CHEESE!

pizza, lasagna.........stuffed shells......oh, the things i would do with two pounds of buffalo mozzarella!
post #111 of 689
:hop mad

So I called the welfare office this morning to find out where my cash aid was becasue it wasn't on my card. I learned 2 things...


Here they put food stamps on a card but the cash is mail to you in a check WTH?!

then I learned something even better...

my case is still pending!!!!!! Its been 7 weeks and its still friggin pending! So since its pending there is no check. So not only am I going to get stuck paying a $45 late fee on the rent which I CAN NOT afford, I'm already selling everything I can to cover the other bills becasue the cash aid doesn't even cover all the rent but now I have no rent money coming AND no money for gas for our Dr appt and the car is on empty

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post #112 of 689
Just popping in... I haven't been able to keep up with this thread, wow, it moves fast! I've been dealing with a sick DH and DD2. We think they have whooping cough. We were at my SIL for Christmas and 2 of their DC had tested positive for it. Of course they didn't tell us that until AFTER DH and DD2 got sick. ~grumbles~

Anyway... time for work. I'll try and pop in later.
post #113 of 689
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Originally Posted by Satori View Post
:hop mad

So I called the welfare office this morning to find out where my cash aid was becasue it wasn't on my card. I learned 2 things...


Here they put food stamps on a card but the cash is mail to you in a check WTH?!

then I learned something even better...

my case is still pending!!!!!! Its been 7 weeks and its still friggin pending! So since its pending there is no check. So not only am I going to get stuck paying a $45 late fee on the rent which I CAN NOT afford, I'm already selling everything I can to cover the other bills becasue the cash aid doesn't even cover all the rent but now I have no rent money coming AND no money for gas for our Dr appt and the car is on empty

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Oh mama, I'm sorry. That's awful! I cannot believe it has taken this long! In my state you have to wait 30 days to get an appt and they then have 30 days to approve or disapprove you and fill your card. Maybe it's that way in your state too and you only have 1 week left??? I hope you get everything settled. I know how frustrating it is to have bills you can't pay and everything in limbo.
post #114 of 689
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Originally Posted by justmama View Post
Oh mama, I'm sorry. That's awful! I cannot believe it has taken this long! In my state you have to wait 30 days to get an appt and they then have 30 days to approve or disapprove you and fill your card. Maybe it's that way in your state too and you only have 1 week left??? I hope you get everything settled. I know how frustrating it is to have bills you can't pay and everything in limbo.
argh! Finally got an answer, the case is still active in the other city according to them and thats why no benefits. Called my old worker but had to leave a msg, I don't need this stress!
post #115 of 689
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Originally Posted by ediesmom View Post





I didn't post this morning because my internet was temporarily shut off I was totally losing my shit.....i need YOU with my coffee!



i shovelled for a few hours already......my shoulder is killing me! 22 more days until surgery......hopefully it will fix it and i can move along......
Glad to see you. I was wondering where you were, almost called ya but didn't want to be pesky , but I know you are like me.. morning coffee and MDC . Yes, I am so tired of the snow, I hurt my back shoveling the other day, thankfully ds who is a big strapping teen handled last nights storm for us. I hear by the weekend we will see 40's

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Originally Posted by Satori View Post
argh! Finally got an answer, the case is still active in the other city according to them and thats why no benefits. Called my old worker but had to leave a msg, I don't need this stress!

So sorry Mama, that is incredibly stressful.

Ok, one thing I am definitely thankful for is being on a payment plan with the oil company.. they just came and if we were not a budget plan I would have just had to shell out $500 for 167 gallons of oil. Thankfully my plan is $345 a month.. never thought I'd be thankful for something so seemingly simple but I am, means we aren't cold. Granted this big old house is drafty, I now know why nobody was dying to buy this house. Frickin 1880's Victorian is a money pit, seems the only people I know who buy these things are other city folks who move here from big cities and find these houses quaint.. no its not quaint its a fricking pit.. nothing is cheap to fix in this house and in this market unloading it is not gonna happen. Sigh... We have put more than 30K into this house and it still needs a bunch more work that is not happening at the moment. Ugh...Ok, rant over, thankful I have a roof over my head.

Shay
post #116 of 689
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Originally Posted by Satori View Post
:hop mad

So I called the welfare office this morning to find out where my cash aid was becasue it wasn't on my card. I learned 2 things...


Here they put food stamps on a card but the cash is mail to you in a check WTH?!

then I learned something even better...

my case is still pending!!!!!! Its been 7 weeks and its still friggin pending! So since its pending there is no check. So not only am I going to get stuck paying a $45 late fee on the rent which I CAN NOT afford, I'm already selling everything I can to cover the other bills becasue the cash aid doesn't even cover all the rent but now I have no rent money coming AND no money for gas for our Dr appt and the car is on empty

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why would it still be open in another city?.....and why would they not call or write and tell you....long before it was a major crisis situation.

Do you all have a city welfare office? here in portland there is a city welfare (though you NEVER want to go there!). with your situation they would cover rent and bills until cash aid kicks in.

other than that....just let your land lord know whats going on.... they won't be thrilled,, but at least they have the heads up from you.
post #117 of 689
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Originally Posted by Satori View Post
:hop mad

So I called the welfare office this morning to find out where my cash aid was becasue it wasn't on my card. I learned 2 things...


Here they put food stamps on a card but the cash is mail to you in a check WTH?!

then I learned something even better...

my case is still pending!!!!!! Its been 7 weeks and its still friggin pending! So since its pending there is no check. So not only am I going to get stuck paying a $45 late fee on the rent which I CAN NOT afford, I'm already selling everything I can to cover the other bills becasue the cash aid doesn't even cover all the rent but now I have no rent money coming AND no money for gas for our Dr appt and the car is on empty

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I am so sorry, that sucks!!

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Originally Posted by justmama View Post
http://i40.photobucket.com/albums/e2...gs/01_02_0.jpg
http://i40.photobucket.com/albums/e2...gs/01_02_1.jpg



pics of the newborn longies I finished for Big Bird the other day. Just a drawstring left now.

OMG you MADE those? I am way impressed! I make squares.. I am totally going to use your mad talent when I pop out one of my own.. you have been warned
post #118 of 689
I totally have this bad habit of hitting submit before I am actually done typing :

So it is snowing in West Virginia today. This morning the roads were totally nasty, as per my DH, but now they look much better. I should not have any problem getting to work this evening.

As for me I am sort of in a depressed/cranky thing. I am blaming it on my body trying to figure itself out after stopping hormonal birth control. I did have a period, finally, but it was quick. Now I am waiting for another one. I try to chart my temperatures but I have fevors so often from these wonky ear infections that I could never get anything accurate. Maybe I will try again anyway.

We are going back and forth on this whole baby issue. On one hand I would love to have a baby as soon as my body gets back in to a normal rhythem and I start ovulating, etc. On the other hand, I know that because I am overweight that I will be considered high risk and will end up not coming anywhere close to the pregnancy and birth that I would like to have. I just feel that hospital births are so confining. And the high risk birthing unit in our area is very much about the whole birth on your back nonsense. Not that birthing on your back is bad, I am sure it works for a lot of people but what if I don't want to be flat on my back? What if another position works better. Plus a client at my shelter gave birth there and I was shocked *okay, appalled* at how many people were prodding the baby and messing with the baby, and just in general bothering the baby. I have nothing against medical students, when I was getting my teaching degree people let me practice teaching their kids, so I feel like I do not have the right to complain about a student learning how to work in other fields. But there was just so many of them. And they posted pictures of the baby on the internet even after the Mom told them 4 times not to because she was in an abusive situation and needed to keep all news of the baby private for safety reasons. Gaah! And those creepy hospital blankets they wrap the babies in. I really don't want my baby in one of those. I make baby blankets, and I know the love I put in to every single row. Even if I don't know a baby personally, the love is still there. I just can't handle a mass produced blanket being put on my child.

Okay, my husband thinks I am a bit irrational on the issue, and maybe I am. But we have very clear ideas of what we want and I don't think a birth in a hospital with 50 people around and my Mom and MIL telling me what I should do is what I really want.

My Mom is on board with a homebirth, my MIL is dead set against it. The only thing we have going for us is that my husband's family does not circumsize babies and my family has no boys, so at least we wont have to defend our no circumsicion stance to our immediate familes Everything else though, I am sure will be an issue. Like, we don't even plan on buying a crib right away, because we would like to explore co sleeping. We also want to live simply and don't want our child to be spoiled like I was.

I don't know, I suppose none of this matters because I would like to pay off the debt we have first, so that I can SAH permanatly. But lately DH has been hinting that he wants to try, and we have a get out of debt plan in place, so it looks like the time might be approaching faster than I realized and now I am freaking out :

Sorry to ramble.
post #119 of 689
hi ladies
wow day 2 of this month and already on page 12... i just read all of the pages.
lots of hugs for the mamas dealing with all aspects of struggling financially...

i was laughing my @$$ off about the uni boob... but on a serious note how is it gonna deduct from ur kids cs

for all the newbies

i am lilly- 21 mom to two- 2.5 year old dd and 14 month old ds. my hubby works long 12 hour shifts so cuts family time. we are struggling because we sank into the credit debt black hole... we are working on it right now.. we have 17 cards 3 loans, 2 of the 17 cards are completely paid off thank god.

i also need to come up with 4k to get my teeth fixed and the dentist i went to doesnt take payment plans --all the money needs to be handed over at the end of the procedure...
post #120 of 689
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:hop mad

So I called the welfare office this morning to find out where my cash aid was becasue it wasn't on my card. I learned 2 things...


Here they put food stamps on a card but the cash is mail to you in a check WTH?!

then I learned something even better...

my case is still pending!!!!!! Its been 7 weeks and its still friggin pending! So since its pending there is no check. So not only am I going to get stuck paying a $45 late fee on the rent which I CAN NOT afford, I'm already selling everything I can to cover the other bills becasue the cash aid doesn't even cover all the rent but now I have no rent money coming AND no money for gas for our Dr appt and the car is on empty

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argh! Finally got an answer, the case is still active in the other city according to them and thats why no benefits. Called my old worker but had to leave a msg, I don't need this stress!
That sucks! I guess there is no emergency aid? I wonder why you didn't get $ from the old city if the case is still active -- did you notify them that you were moving? Bureaucracy sucks.

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Ok, one thing I am definitely thankful for is being on a payment plan with the oil company.. they just came and if we were not a budget plan I would have just had to shell out $500 for 167 gallons of oil. Thankfully my plan is $345 a month.. never thought I'd be thankful for something so seemingly simple but I am, means we aren't cold. Granted this big old house is drafty, I now know why nobody was dying to buy this house. Frickin 1880's Victorian is a money pit, seems the only people I know who buy these things are other city folks who move here from big cities and find these houses quaint.. no its not quaint its a fricking pit.. nothing is cheap to fix in this house and in this market unloading it is not gonna happen. Sigh... We have put more than 30K into this house and it still needs a bunch more work that is not happening at the moment. Ugh...Ok, rant over, thankful I have a roof over my head.
I have an old Victorian too, so I know the kind of money pits they can be. The previous owners took care of most of the problems, but there is just so much work that needed to be done to make it comfy (like closets that are more than 6" deep, etc.), and now I can't afford to do any of it. Just the mortgage is bankrupting me, literally. Agh, I should be grateful it's not falling apart (well, the garage is, but I try not to look at that).

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We are going back and forth on this whole baby issue. On one hand I would love to have a baby as soon as my body gets back in to a normal rhythem and I start ovulating, etc. On the other hand, I know that because I am overweight that I will be considered high risk and will end up not coming anywhere close to the pregnancy and birth that I would like to have. I just feel that hospital births are so confining. And the high risk birthing unit in our area is very much about the whole birth on your back nonsense. Not that birthing on your back is bad, I am sure it works for a lot of people but what if I don't want to be flat on my back? What if another position works better. Plus a client at my shelter gave birth there and I was shocked *okay, appalled* at how many people were prodding the baby and messing with the baby, and just in general bothering the baby. I have nothing against medical students, when I was getting my teaching degree people let me practice teaching their kids, so I feel like I do not have the right to complain about a student learning how to work in other fields. But there was just so many of them. And they posted pictures of the baby on the internet even after the Mom told them 4 times not to because she was in an abusive situation and needed to keep all news of the baby private for safety reasons. Gaah! And those creepy hospital blankets they wrap the babies in. I really don't want my baby in one of those. I make baby blankets, and I know the love I put in to every single row. Even if I don't know a baby personally, the love is still there. I just can't handle a mass produced blanket being put on my child.

Okay, my husband thinks I am a bit irrational on the issue, and maybe I am. But we have very clear ideas of what we want and I don't think a birth in a hospital with 50 people around and my Mom and MIL telling me what I should do is what I really want.

My Mom is on board with a homebirth, my MIL is dead set against it. The only thing we have going for us is that my husband's family does not circumsize babies and my family has no boys, so at least we wont have to defend our no circumsicion stance to our immediate familes Everything else though, I am sure will be an issue. Like, we don't even plan on buying a crib right away, because we would like to explore co sleeping. We also want to live simply and don't want our child to be spoiled like I was.

I don't know, I suppose none of this matters because I would like to pay off the debt we have first, so that I can SAH permanatly. But lately DH has been hinting that he wants to try, and we have a get out of debt plan in place, so it looks like the time might be approaching faster than I realized and now I am freaking out :

Sorry to ramble.
I'm vicariously excited for anyone TTC. Hey, just because I arleady have 7 m.o., I'm going through a divorce, I'm 43 and have no money, doesn't mean my baby dreams have been squelched! Anyway, back to you -- how about if you consult with a few midwives and find out more specifically whether they would consider a homebirth for you? If you are high risk now just based on your weight, maybe you could find out how much you would have to lose and that would motivate you to develop a weight loss plan? I was pretty overweight when I got pg most recently, but I was high risk based on my age. No one ever said anything about my weight (don't tell, I was 239 lbs and 5'3"). Maybe it's more feasible than you think.

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Mamas, I'm very down these days. When I think about the turn my life has taken over the past 2 yrs, I'm just so sad. But of all the bad luck I've had, nothing makes me weep so much as to see my kids hurting. Both have been diagnosed with PTSD. DD is 17 and should be graduating in a few months near the top of her class and heading off to a top-tier college, but instead, she was recently hospitalized for depression, is not going to graduate this year, and has only been saved from failing because her teachers like her so much they have bent every rule possible to allow her to finish up in good standing. But STILL she is struggling so much. And my 6 y.o. ds used to be the happiest, most sociable little boy who made friends so easily. And now his social issues have reached the point that other mothers tell their kids not to play with him. Both are in therapy several times a week and things just don't seem to be getting better. I look at my little baby and wonder what I'm going to next to f$*k up his life.
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