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Originally Posted by ~*Jaime View Post
I am glad that you liked the blanket
Dh just got back from the post office today Jaime, and I got the blanket you made for my babe as well! Its gorgeous! Ivy (my sensory child) took it and started smelling it and saying "Ooooohhh" You don't know how much it means to me to have something not only handmade.. but made JUST for my baby. My grandmother died before any of my children were born, and she was the only knitter in the family.

So thank you so much!!

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Originally Posted by ~*Jaime View Post
Yep, as soon as a woman comes to my shelter, they are considered homeless and qualify for the services that are offered. But I agree, shelters in general suck, although I pride myself on attempting to make mine as homey as possible for the ladies. But yeah, the actual being there would totally suck

I am shocked that she would toss your things without offering them back to you! That is crazy! And rude Sorry to hear that
The family shelter in my area was a pretty hellish experience. It was a lot like being locked up in the hospital. You had to sign out just to go outside. You were not allowed visitors or to go anywhere unless it was a job. Everything you brought became their property and locked up. You had to ask to do anything, even read a book. You child had to be with you 24/7. That also meant you had to go to the bathroom with them, even if they were older and they also had to shower with you. When they went to bed at night or took naps, you had to stay with them in the bedroom. You were not even allowed to go to the bathroom.

No play ground or fenced in area outside for kids to play. A duck pond outside, but you had to sign up and out to even go there. Food was served in a cafeteria up the street. You had to walk there, up a hill, no matter what kind of weather or how you were feeling. You could not even opt out of eating. They forced you to go.

I came down with bronchitis and pneumonia while I was there, and they still gave me the chore of carrying all the smoking butt buckets up the hill, dumping and washing them out. I could barely even stand up to use the bathroom, but.. we all had chores to do all day long. And being sick was no excuse they told me. I threw up twice while trying to get those buckets up the hill... after I collapsed on the floor in the livingroom and bawled my eyes out, they finally brought me to a hospital.

So, as you can see... our shelter isn't that great. It was a roof over our heads, and it allowed me to get help. But it was so demoralizing. The women that ran the place were on power trips. They were a lot like the CPS caseworkers in the area, same attitude. I was only at that shelter for a little over 2 weeks. I met some guy at the hospital when I was there and moved in with him... if that tells you how badly I did NOT want to go back to that shelter. Oh yes, poor choice.. but, I lived. And I learned. And I finally got my subsidy. LOL

I am so glad to hear your stories of a happier shelter. One filled with love from you. I wish there were more places like that...
post #202 of 689
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Originally Posted by vannienicole View Post
The moment she says she needs it, I am ready to help when and where I can.
Yeah, me too. I can`t part with MUCH money, but I definitely can help with a little something.

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Originally Posted by eilonwy View Post
my own day: It was pretty long, but I think a lot got done. I put mike on the schedule, and he was better behaved. Now I know-- just treat him the way I treat my 10 year old niece (give them a task which they can accomplish on their own, then offer positive reenforcement and such so that they can move on to the next task) and all will be well. Is this a good thing or a bad thing?


After thinking long and hard about it I have decided you should take it as a good thing!



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Originally Posted by Nature View Post
I'm kinda bummed today. I lent some baby things about a year 1/2 ago to a friend when she had her baby, and I found out that instead of offering them to me since she knew I was expecting.. she just threw them away. That was a swing, bouncy seat, carseat bunting, and a walker. It took everything I had to let her use them because I don't just have money to go out and buy more. She knew she was borrowing them and even mentioned, "If you need them back later just let me know!" She went out and bought all new things to replace mine that she threw away.. and I'm sitting here with nothing. I don't even have a car seat yet! She threw that out too! Ugh. I wasn't even angry.. just shocked and depressed..


Oooh, no she didn`t!?!?!?!:
How incredible rude!! Not to mention really stupid!
I am so, so sorry! Hopefully something good will happen, and you will get the things your precious baby needs.
post #203 of 689
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Originally Posted by Nature View Post

The family shelter in my area was a pretty hellish experience. It was a lot like being locked up in the hospital. You had to sign out just to go outside. You were not allowed visitors or to go anywhere unless it was a job. Everything you brought became their property and locked up. You had to ask to do anything, even read a book. You child had to be with you 24/7. That also meant you had to go to the bathroom with them, even if they were older and they also had to shower with you. When they went to bed at night or took naps, you had to stay with them in the bedroom. You were not even allowed to go to the bathroom.

No play ground or fenced in area outside for kids to play. A duck pond outside, but you had to sign up and out to even go there. Food was served in a cafeteria up the street. You had to walk there, up a hill, no matter what kind of weather or how you were feeling. You could not even opt out of eating. They forced you to go.

I came down with bronchitis and pneumonia while I was there, and they still gave me the chore of carrying all the smoking butt buckets up the hill, dumping and washing them out. I could barely even stand up to use the bathroom, but.. we all had chores to do all day long. And being sick was no excuse they told me. I threw up twice while trying to get those buckets up the hill... after I collapsed on the floor in the livingroom and bawled my eyes out, they finally brought me to a hospital.

So, as you can see... our shelter isn't that great. It was a roof over our heads, and it allowed me to get help. But it was so demoralizing. The women that ran the place were on power trips. They were a lot like the CPS caseworkers in the area, same attitude. I was only at that shelter for a little over 2 weeks. I met some guy at the hospital when I was there and moved in with him... if that tells you how badly I did NOT want to go back to that shelter. Oh yes, poor choice.. but, I lived. And I learned. And I finally got my subsidy. LOL

I am so glad to hear your stories of a happier shelter. One filled with love from you. I wish there were more places like that...
Wow! I had no idea the local places were like that, I was the program director at a homeless shelter before we moved out here and had worked at several others and none of then were like that at all. In fact at 2 of them (the 2 that took women, I also worked at a mens only shelter) were extremely nice. I actually had Starbucks giving us coffee and end of day pastries.. at one we had such good food, the staff loved to eat with the clients. Always clients could leave, yes they did have to state where they were going especially at the one that had a majority of SA cases but it was most certainly not a locked down facility. It makes me angry to hear of people getting treated like that :



Shay
post #204 of 689
Wow a lots gone on in a few days. I've been reading, but by the time I caught up on the thread had no time to post! Things have been crazy here with the holidays and everyone has been sick although thankfully no puking. Just cough and feeling like crap. The little guy has been taking 3 hour naps daily and sleeping in late. However dd's last day off school is today and she has been getting up between 5-6am! Even during school she doesn't need to be up until 7 She gave up naps at 2 though and doesn't seem to need much sleep. I had a 25 week checkup today. My bp is causing problems still although it's not as high as it's been. We had a talk about possibly needing meds to control it which I hate the thought of, but a stroke isn't a good option either It's really depressing to be showing this many signs of pre-e already. That's also part of the reason I haven't been online or posting as much. I'm spending part of each day laying down on my side. I'm also dealing with swelling that makes typing and sewing difficult. Since most of dd's requests for her bday next week require sewing being able to use my hands is very needed.

Some thankfuls to add to a bit of a whiny post.

I got some material for 2 shirts at a huge sale at Hancocks. They are having more sales this weekend so I'll be seeing how much money we have after bills and hopefully picking up stuff for dd's birthday.

Previously mentioned dd will be in school on Monday! I know there are lots of hsers here, but we both need her in school. She was almost in tears a couple times this past week wanting to be at school.

It's warmer today then the past couple days. I know our temps are nothing compared to many of your's so I feel I shouldn't complain too much. The big problem is this place keeps nice and cool in the summer which is great for FL. It stays dead cold when it's cold outside though. As we only have 2 small heaters that makes things a bit rough. Poor dh was working outside and saw sleet yesterday in coastal, central FL!

I just found out about a new carseat that should work perfectly for ds from Graco. Finding the money for it will be interesting, but he will have to have a new seat soon. It's supposed to have slots as high as the Regent in a seat similar in size to dd's turbobooster. Perfect for my huge kids!
post #205 of 689
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Originally Posted by sandygirl View Post
morning ladies - I'm : so I'm still a little groggy.

DD was sick all nite - she threw up again {twice this time}, and just miserable. Poor lil thing! I wish I knew why she keeps throwing up - she has never done this before. I'm going to take her into the pedi when we get back.

well - it appears that this trip to oklahoma to see the specialist was all in vain. We are hoping to leave Sunday, but this is friday and I still don't have an appt with the specialist, so it looks like I'll be starting over in Texas, with the crappy local health system there. At least I can use medicaid there to pay for it. :
Sorry to hear your DD is sick I am also sorry about not being able to see the specialist

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Originally Posted by shayinme View Post
Well this is the first month since my job loss without unemployment and things are about to get uber tight around here. Its hardly as if we have been flush but I can definitely see where the UE was helpful. Also must talk with FIL soon and see how much longer he can assist with the mortgage payments since as I told dh I really don't want to end up homeless.

This is a tough state to be unemployed in, back home in Chicago it was a lot easier to pick up a get by job, many years ago I waited tables and did ok with it, making at least $75 a shift but here it seems like there are no good restaurants to do that with since the staff probably never leaves if they are doing well. So I am about ramping up my ebay efforts. We aren't gonna starve and at the moment nothing is in danger of getting cut off so those are definitely things I am thankful for at the moment.

Shay
I am glad you are able to ebay some things

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Originally Posted by Iris' Mom View Post

Yesterday I got dumped by my therapist because her agency doesn't take Medicare alone b/c they only reimburse $35. Just about no one takes it, and there's an impossible waiting list for the few who do. I'm so upset. I just cancelled my BCBS because I couldn't afford the $1073/mo., got the kids on Medicaid, and I have Medicare. I was rejected for Medicaid except if I pay $10,500 out of pocket first over 6 months. It looks like I'm going to have to buy supplemental insurance or go without treatment. I'm tempted to go without treatment, but then I'll definitely lose my appeal against my disability insurer, because I'm required to comply with any treatment plan.

The police just called while I was out trying to set up a time to escort stbx here to get some of his stuff. I forgot he had a hearing date today on the charges against dd. Thank goodness I was out. No way is he stepping foot in this house unless I'm surrounded by family and friends, police escort or no. And forget about it if he tries to come when the kids are here. I should probably file a motion to modify the order letting him get his stuff, but it's just to much energy to deal with right now.

Okay, I'm tired of griping. Let's try something else:

DS got invited to a birthday party for someone in his class! He's so excited, and I'm so happy for him.

DS got his yellow belt in karate! He's so proud of himself!

DD is learning how to drive, and is doing an awesome job! It'll be so great to have one other person who can run and do errands (meaning, I'll never have to run out for a gallon of milk again! )

The mother of dd's friend offered to let her stay at her house next year in case I get booted out of town (i.e., imminent foreclosure). Granted, dd is very well liked, and has had several offers, but this mom (whom I've never met) told dd to talk to me about setting up a meeting with the school adjustment counselor, which says to me that she has some grasp of the responsibility that she's undertaking and isn't just making a spur-of-the-moment decision that she'll come to regret quickly.

My aunt's friend who has a catering business stopped by with two big trays of ziti and meatballs for no apparent reason but the goodness of his heart! I barely know him.
Sorry to hear about your therapy appointments I am glad to hear that someone is offering to let your DD live with them. It does sound like this person is taking it very seriously

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Originally Posted by Nature View Post
Dh just got back from the post office today Jaime, and I got the blanket you made for my babe as well! Its gorgeous! Ivy (my sensory child) took it and started smelling it and saying "Ooooohhh" You don't know how much it means to me to have something not only handmade.. but made JUST for my baby. My grandmother died before any of my children were born, and she was the only knitter in the family.

So thank you so much!!



The family shelter in my area was a pretty hellish experience. It was a lot like being locked up in the hospital. You had to sign out just to go outside. You were not allowed visitors or to go anywhere unless it was a job. Everything you brought became their property and locked up. You had to ask to do anything, even read a book. You child had to be with you 24/7. That also meant you had to go to the bathroom with them, even if they were older and they also had to shower with you. When they went to bed at night or took naps, you had to stay with them in the bedroom. You were not even allowed to go to the bathroom.

No play ground or fenced in area outside for kids to play. A duck pond outside, but you had to sign up and out to even go there. Food was served in a cafeteria up the street. You had to walk there, up a hill, no matter what kind of weather or how you were feeling. You could not even opt out of eating. They forced you to go.

I came down with bronchitis and pneumonia while I was there, and they still gave me the chore of carrying all the smoking butt buckets up the hill, dumping and washing them out. I could barely even stand up to use the bathroom, but.. we all had chores to do all day long. And being sick was no excuse they told me. I threw up twice while trying to get those buckets up the hill... after I collapsed on the floor in the livingroom and bawled my eyes out, they finally brought me to a hospital.

So, as you can see... our shelter isn't that great. It was a roof over our heads, and it allowed me to get help. But it was so demoralizing. The women that ran the place were on power trips. They were a lot like the CPS caseworkers in the area, same attitude. I was only at that shelter for a little over 2 weeks. I met some guy at the hospital when I was there and moved in with him... if that tells you how badly I did NOT want to go back to that shelter. Oh yes, poor choice.. but, I lived. And I learned. And I finally got my subsidy. LOL

I am so glad to hear your stories of a happier shelter. One filled with love from you. I wish there were more places like that...
I am glad you like the blanket The yellowish yarn is really super soft and cuddly

The shelter you were at sounds terrible The only time you have to sign out at mine is if you actually plan to go somewhere for an hour or so. That way if something should happen like we had a house fire *God forbid* or another emergency I would be able to check the list to see exactly who isn't in the house. Also my clients have to ring a buzzer to get in, but since it is a domestic violence sheter it is not safe for my clients if just anyone can open the door. So that is a have to issue more than anything. But geez, you had to walk that far to eat??? We have two kitchens at our shelter Two fridges for the clients to use. Plus three deep freezes and a hugemongous pantry in the back filled with anything you could ever hope to want to cook We do have chores, but just your basic stuff that you would do at your own house. I split them evenly, like someone does dishes, someone else vaccuums, someone else does the mopping, etc. We are a pretty family style shelter. Like, I am the manager and part of my job is to have dinners family style with the clients. The kids love that. For some reason if I am unable to eat with them, like if I am on a crisis call helping someone, and I miss dinner, it can just be chaos in there with the kids poking at each other, etc. But when Miss Jaime eats with them, they are just the most perfect little angels ever It is so funny how that works out Group living is really hard for people. And also because techincally I live there part of the week too, it is more easy going. I mean, if you need something in the middle of the night, you are going to see me without makeup and in my pajamas We don't have a yard to play in though We are owned by the church next door and there is no yard, but we can use their school's playground after school hours. We are in the process of applying for a new shelter building which would have a yard and be in a MUCH safer neighborhood. Here's hoping we get there!! We do have a toy room upstairs, toys everywhere downstairs and Disneyland is on the third floor I call it that because it looks like a toy store exploded up there and the kids can only go up there certain times a day because the therapist's office is up there, so when I get that key out the kids are just bouncing off the walls ready to go to "Disneyland"

All in all, I am very proud of my shelter and how we operate And if you're sick, wow, I would never make someone do hard chores if they were ill I would also encourage someone that sick to go to the hospital, heck, I have driven clients to the hospital on my own time just to help them out

Sorry I rambled. Again. As usual

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Originally Posted by s_kristina View Post
Wow a lots gone on in a few days. I've been reading, but by the time I caught up on the thread had no time to post! Things have been crazy here with the holidays and everyone has been sick although thankfully no puking. Just cough and feeling like crap. The little guy has been taking 3 hour naps daily and sleeping in late. However dd's last day off school is today and she has been getting up between 5-6am! Even during school she doesn't need to be up until 7 She gave up naps at 2 though and doesn't seem to need much sleep. I had a 25 week checkup today. My bp is causing problems still although it's not as high as it's been. We had a talk about possibly needing meds to control it which I hate the thought of, but a stroke isn't a good option either It's really depressing to be showing this many signs of pre-e already. That's also part of the reason I haven't been online or posting as much. I'm spending part of each day laying down on my side. I'm also dealing with swelling that makes typing and sewing difficult. Since most of dd's requests for her bday next week require sewing being able to use my hands is very needed.

Some thankfuls to add to a bit of a whiny post.

I got some material for 2 shirts at a huge sale at Hancocks. They are having more sales this weekend so I'll be seeing how much money we have after bills and hopefully picking up stuff for dd's birthday.

Previously mentioned dd will be in school on Monday! I know there are lots of hsers here, but we both need her in school. She was almost in tears a couple times this past week wanting to be at school.

It's warmer today then the past couple days. I know our temps are nothing compared to many of your's so I feel I shouldn't complain too much. The big problem is this place keeps nice and cool in the summer which is great for FL. It stays dead cold when it's cold outside though. As we only have 2 small heaters that makes things a bit rough. Poor dh was working outside and saw sleet yesterday in coastal, central FL!

I just found out about a new carseat that should work perfectly for ds from Graco. Finding the money for it will be interesting, but he will have to have a new seat soon. It's supposed to have slots as high as the Regent in a seat similar in size to dd's turbobooster. Perfect for my huge kids!
I am sorry about the possibilty of pre-e Take care of yourself and that precious baby
post #206 of 689
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Originally Posted by sandygirl View Post
I have to ask - how do you get DHHS to pay for classes? I'm curious!
maine has a program called parents as scholars ()....they pick up everything but tuition. even eyeglasses.....which I need a new pair ...for reading (transitions) I'm OLD

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Originally Posted by Iris' Mom View Post
The police just called while I was out trying to set up a time to escort stbx here to get some of his stuff. I forgot he had a hearing date today on the charges against dd. Thank goodness I was out. No way is he stepping foot in this house unless I'm surrounded by family and friends, police escort or no. And forget about it if he tries to come when the kids are here. I should probably file a motion to modify the order letting him get his stuff, but it's just to much energy to deal with right now.

Okay, I'm tired of griping. Let's try something else:

DS got invited to a birthday party for someone in his class! He's so excited, and I'm so happy for him.

DS got his yellow belt in karate! He's so proud of himself!

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wonderful! I am so happy! He must be so excited

mamas.....I am so worried about justmama i mean, i'm sure she and the baby are okay....I just want to know they are

i've got about half my list done.....and the dogs have been to the park

and i made it for lunch before my sugar hit way too low status...another

have i said today how much i love this place? Poverty Utopia!

i feel like, with all of you here, I CAN do this.....finish school, even though I am so fricken poor going through it.

off to finish my list
post #207 of 689
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Originally Posted by ediesmom View Post

mamas.....I am so worried about justmama i mean, i'm sure she and the baby are okay....I just want to know they are

I am worried about her too
post #208 of 689
you could also put some plain oatmeal into a knee hi hose and hang it around the tub faucet so that when the water is turned on it goes thru the oatmeal.Or you can pay big bucks for colloidal oat treatments which are the same thing.
post #209 of 689
sorry the brand name of this is Aveeno.
post #210 of 689
I just wanted to check in... I am really overwhelmed right now, what with trying to move and trying to figure out where money for bills is coming from. Daymon hasn't been working barely at all (like 8 hours this week) and we are so short on money. Like, we have half of what we need to cover the bills that are due in the next 2 weeks. I am hoping they get a bunch of work for next week or that he can find some odd jobs to do next week because we need something. I am trying to find another kid to watch once we move... or someone else to do book keeping for or something. I just have to pray that it will all work out... I can't wait for my W-2s to get here so I can file my taxes, I should get like 1000 back which will be something at least.
post #211 of 689
Not much time, but here are a few things:

Justmama {{{{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

~*Jaime, I have given birth to two beautiful girls, both 100% naturally, out of the hospital and both times have been around 300lbs. With DD1 I weighed 303 when I got pregnant and was treated SO horribly by dr's. I was told I could never give birth, my baby would die, I would die, I should abort, etc. I switched dr's, got the same thing. I was so depressed. I started researching options. I just KNEW there had to be a better option. I found out about midwives and natural birth. I had literally never heard of it. I started looking for a midwife. Because I was on medicaid there was only 1 birthing center near me that took that. I went there. They refused to take me because "it would be to hard to tell where your baby is because of the fat". WTF? I wouldn't give up. I found a birthing center with an AWESOME fluffy midwife 3 hours away. Funny, she never had ANY problems finding where the baby was located. I drove there every two weeks, then every week, and gave birth there at exactly 38 weeks. My pregnancy was perfect, my birth was perfect. I never had ANY health problems at all. DD1 was 5lbs 10oz.

DD2 I was 247 when I got pregnant. I gained about 50lbs that pregnancy. I started off at a birth center in Phoenix and hated it. Despite my history they still treated me like I was a walking time bomb. Bull! I found a fabulous homebirth midwife. My pregnancy went by like a breeze (except when I fell and hit my stomach I was worried then... and then at 34 weeks I started having contractions because I had food poisoning, but neither had anything to do with my size), and my birth was perfect (aside from DH popping the blow up tub I wanted to labor in). DD2 was 6lbs 12 oz.

Neither time did I have ANY complications due to my size. Unless you're already prone to something your size will have nothing, NOTHING, to do with your pregnancy. Yeah, it sucked to not *look* pregnant until closer to the end. I would've loved having a nice round belly. But that's not what is important. Don't let ANYONE tell you that you're automatically high risk just because of your weight. They are wrong! Oh, and I'd tell your MIL that as soon as your baby is coming out of HER vagina then, and only then, will she have ANY say in where the birth takes place. So don't give up and don't worry about your weight. If you're healthy then there is no reason to think you won't have a great pregnancy and birth. Just look around for midwives and stay far far away from hospitals.

So I was semi-promoted at work. I am now officially a member of the floor support team. That's a team of reps who walk around and help the newbies to the floor. While I work in the floor support capacity I get a differential. I don't know how much. I'll only be taking calls about 4 days per month now. Yeah! I move my desk today and then start on floor support tomorrow. I'm so excited!

I'm going to update my list soon... really I am. I just haven't been in a posting mood lately. (Despite the novel I just wrote up there)

We're going to be late with the rent. Very late. Like 2 weeks late. We have to pay again on everything to avoid disconnections so we will be about $500 short for rent. It was due on the 1st, but our grace period ends tomorrow. I have no idea what we'll do. We're already 2 months behind on water/trash which is paid to our landlord too. Unfortunately we're in a lease until November so we can't move to somewhere cheaper. Not to mention we have no money to move anyway. No way could we afford first month, last month, and deposit on a new place.

Okay, a couple thankfuls:
1. I'm so thankful for the free trial of WoW. I've been playing for hours everyday and loving it. Now I just have to figure out how to afford to keep playing after the trial is over.
2. I'm thankful my cat knawed on my hand. Because of his bite I was on strong antibiotics. Because I was on the antibiotics I didn't get whooping cough. Yay for me being tasty!
3. Vacation time. My vacation time started over again this month so I once again have time I can use to take off from work and not lose money.

{{{{{hugs to everyone}}}}}
post #212 of 689
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Originally Posted by Iris' Mom View Post

I'm sorry things are so tight. Any chance of relocating?





Yesterday I got dumped by my therapist because her agency doesn't take Medicare alone b/c they only reimburse $35. Just about no one takes it, and there's an impossible waiting list for the few who do. I'm so upset. I just cancelled my BCBS because I couldn't afford the $1073/mo., got the kids on Medicaid, and I have Medicare. I was rejected for Medicaid except if I pay $10,500 out of pocket first over 6 months. It looks like I'm going to have to buy supplemental insurance or go without treatment. I'm tempted to go without treatment, but then I'll definitely lose my appeal against my disability insurer, because I'm required to comply with any treatment plan.

The police just called while I was out trying to set up a time to escort stbx here to get some of his stuff. I forgot he had a hearing date today on the charges against dd. Thank goodness I was out. No way is he stepping foot in this house unless I'm surrounded by family and friends, police escort or no. And forget about it if he tries to come when the kids are here. I should probably file a motion to modify the order letting him get his stuff, but it's just to much energy to deal with right now.

Okay, I'm tired of griping. Let's try something else:

DS got invited to a birthday party for someone in his class! He's so excited, and I'm so happy for him.

DS got his yellow belt in karate! He's so proud of himself!

DD is learning how to drive, and is doing an awesome job! It'll be so great to have one other person who can run and do errands (meaning, I'll never have to run out for a gallon of milk again! )

The mother of dd's friend offered to let her stay at her house next year in case I get booted out of town (i.e., imminent foreclosure). Granted, dd is very well liked, and has had several offers, but this mom (whom I've never met) told dd to talk to me about setting up a meeting with the school adjustment counselor, which says to me that she has some grasp of the responsibility that she's undertaking and isn't just making a spur-of-the-moment decision that she'll come to regret quickly.

My aunt's friend who has a catering business stopped by with two big trays of ziti and meatballs for no apparent reason but the goodness of his heart! I barely know him.
No, sadly relocating is not a option, the housing market is crap so barring FIL bailing and since we own the house jointly with his, chances of that happening are slim. Also no money to go and no place to go, since with my Mom dead we can't move back to Chicago and have a base of operations (both my dad & brother live in studios). Only place we could crash for free and get on our feet would be with FIL who lives in AZ. Also we have been here almost 6 years now and are just starting to make roots so we are planning on riding this storm out.

So sorry about your therapist, that frickin sucks. Yay for your dd learning to drive, my ds will get his license in like 4 weeks.

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Originally Posted by chely7425 View Post
I just wanted to check in... I am really overwhelmed right now, what with trying to move and trying to figure out where money for bills is coming from. Daymon hasn't been working barely at all (like 8 hours this week) and we are so short on money. Like, we have half of what we need to cover the bills that are due in the next 2 weeks. I am hoping they get a bunch of work for next week or that he can find some odd jobs to do next week because we need something. I am trying to find another kid to watch once we move... or someone else to do book keeping for or something. I just have to pray that it will all work out... I can't wait for my W-2s to get here so I can file my taxes, I should get like 1000 back which will be something at least.
I am sure things will come together. Though I know how nerve racking it can be in the process.

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So I was semi-promoted at work. I am now officially a member of the floor support team. That's a team of reps who walk around and help the newbies to the floor. While I work in the floor support capacity I get a differential. I don't know how much. I'll only be taking calls about 4 days per month now. Yeah! I move my desk today and then start on floor support tomorrow. I'm so excited!
Congrats on the promotion!

Shay
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So I got up and got to my WIC appointment. Before I left, I made sure that everyone else was awake; I came home, picked up BeanBean and took him to my mom's house to pick up the book I'd left there, and to finish putting some schoolwork assignments together for his teacher. All fine so far. I got home around 2:30/2:45. . . BooBah opened the door when BeanBean rang the bell. "All right, he's upstairs online." No-- mike was *asleep.* The baby was in her pajamas and the same diaper she'd been wearing when I left for the WIC appointment (did I mention that that appointment was at 8:15 in the morning?!?!?) and BooBah was, likewise, in her jammies (less of a surprise-- the greater shock was that she was wearing anything at all aside from underpants ). mike is entirely unresponsive, so I start feeding him and trying to get him to talk. No, he doesn't speak until he's further along than that, says he's not feeling well and goes back to sleep. A few hours later (5:45) he gets up, says, "I only went to sleep because I had a migraine" and proceeds to spend 20 minutes puking.

I'd have a lot more sympathy for him if i didn't know for a fact that the reason he has a migraine has everythign to do with the fact that he chose to go to bed after three despite the fact that I told him his ass was getting up at 7:30. He did *nothing* today-- no laundry, no calling Home Depot, no putting dinner into the crock pot (i took everything out!!!), he didn't even change the baby. So I flipped and he said, "Next time you have a migraine because you stayed up too late, do I get to give you s***?" I said, "Guess what? The last time it happened you didn't get to give me s*** because I STILL TOOK CARE OF BUSINESS!" It's called being a freaking grownup-- you make poor decisions, and you live with the freaking consequences. BeanBean can tell you all about it-- choosing to leave his jacket in the van is choosing to be cold when he gets out of the van. Why the heck can't mike figure this out? OOOOOh i want to strangle him. :

Here's what really gets me: He's gonna get up around ten or eleven and want to get online. I'm gonna laugh in his face. He can do whatever the heck he wants, but if he thinks he's sleeping all day tomorrow, he's got another thing coming.

So Bella's in a diaper and snappi, so her buns can get the fresh air they've needed for a while now and hopefully she doesn't get too rashy (but her skin is so bloody sensitive that I'm not holding my breath). I have no idea what to feed the kids for dinner, I was planning on the crock pot stuff and there wasn't nearly enough time for it to cook when I got home. They need to eat now. I'm not at all hungry. I'm too angry to be hungry.

I know that if I was to tie one or more of the kids in the basement, I'd be arrested, but does that really apply to husbands who are twice your size?
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List will be updated in just a minute. Oh and I have yarn for you to do whatever with - you can do wool right? I had some given to me, hand-dyed from a gal at hyenacart, and I'm allergic to wool so I can't use it.
most certainly. I find that when wool is too itchy to work with comfortably, putting a bit of Lansinoh or such on my fingers before I start to work smooths things right out. I've knitted up some fairly "rough" yarn and had it turn out just as soft as. . . well, a baby's backside.

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I lose weight because I get really bad morning sickness until around 8 months. And my milk started out with the half cream too - when my thyroid screwed up it really lowered the cream level in my milk.
I only had morning sickness with two of them; With Bean, I lost 45 pounds. : Crazy. The rest of the time, I just can't eat for whatever reason. I'm pretty short, so it doesn't take long for things to get shoved out of place. I also think that my body is more efficient about processing food in general when I'm pregnant, so I tend to crave very lean protien and veggies, low fat, low carb foods in general (because there's plenty of fat on my behind already, thankyouverymuch). Just a theory. They're still weirded out by it at WIC, but it's actually a pretty common "weight gain" pattern.

Thyroid problems have to suck extra hard when it's cold outside. . .
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Psst...who else is stalking justmama's posts?
There are two other Feb mammas here posting so. . . yeah.

NICU time is rough, though; She may not be posting for a while.
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I just wanted to check in... I am really overwhelmed right now, what with trying to move and trying to figure out where money for bills is coming from. Daymon hasn't been working barely at all (like 8 hours this week) and we are so short on money. Like, we have half of what we need to cover the bills that are due in the next 2 weeks. I am hoping they get a bunch of work for next week or that he can find some odd jobs to do next week because we need something. I am trying to find another kid to watch once we move... or someone else to do book keeping for or something. I just have to pray that it will all work out... I can't wait for my W-2s to get here so I can file my taxes, I should get like 1000 back which will be something at least.
I hope work picks up quickly.

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So I was semi-promoted at work. I am now officially a member of the floor support team. That's a team of reps who walk around and help the newbies to the floor. While I work in the floor support capacity I get a differential. I don't know how much. I'll only be taking calls about 4 days per month now. Yeah! I move my desk today and then start on floor support tomorrow. I'm so excited!
Great news!

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So I got up and got to my WIC appointment. Before I left, I made sure that everyone else was awake; I came home, picked up BeanBean and took him to my mom's house to pick up the book I'd left there, and to finish putting some schoolwork assignments together for his teacher. All fine so far. I got home around 2:30/2:45. . . BooBah opened the door when BeanBean rang the bell. "All right, he's upstairs online." No-- mike was *asleep.* The baby was in her pajamas and the same diaper she'd been wearing when I left for the WIC appointment (did I mention that that appointment was at 8:15 in the morning?!?!?) and BooBah was, likewise, in her jammies (less of a surprise-- the greater shock was that she was wearing anything at all aside from underpants ). mike is entirely unresponsive, so I start feeding him and trying to get him to talk. No, he doesn't speak until he's further along than that, says he's not feeling well and goes back to sleep. A few hours later (5:45) he gets up, says, "I only went to sleep because I had a migraine" and proceeds to spend 20 minutes puking.

I'd have a lot more sympathy for him if i didn't know for a fact that the reason he has a migraine has everythign to do with the fact that he chose to go to bed after three despite the fact that I told him his ass was getting up at 7:30. He did *nothing* today-- no laundry, no calling Home Depot, no putting dinner into the crock pot (i took everything out!!!), he didn't even change the baby. So I flipped and he said, "Next time you have a migraine because you stayed up too late, do I get to give you s***?" I said, "Guess what? The last time it happened you didn't get to give me s*** because I STILL TOOK CARE OF BUSINESS!" It's called being a freaking grownup-- you make poor decisions, and you live with the freaking consequences. BeanBean can tell you all about it-- choosing to leave his jacket in the van is choosing to be cold when he gets out of the van. Why the heck can't mike figure this out? OOOOOh i want to strangle him. :

Here's what really gets me: He's gonna get up around ten or eleven and want to get online. I'm gonna laugh in his face. He can do whatever the heck he wants, but if he thinks he's sleeping all day tomorrow, he's got another thing coming.

So Bella's in a diaper and snappi, so her buns can get the fresh air they've needed for a while now and hopefully she doesn't get too rashy (but her skin is so bloody sensitive that I'm not holding my breath). I have no idea what to feed the kids for dinner, I was planning on the crock pot stuff and there wasn't nearly enough time for it to cook when I got home. They need to eat now. I'm not at all hungry. I'm too angry to be hungry.

I know that if I was to tie one or more of the kids in the basement, I'd be arrested, but does that really apply to husbands who are twice your size?
: The man really needs to learn to take better care of himself.

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Ever been so cold that your organs are shivering? If my thyroid is messed up I am like that in 30 degree weather. Ick! I love the snow, and being on the mountain, so I guess it is a motivator to keep it in check . I took the first dose of my new dosage (weird wording I know) this morning, so we shall see if it gets any better. I should have been on this dose a long while ago. I normally feel ... something ... different during the day of my first dose, but I felt nothing different today. Maybe that is a good sign .

Sweet:
School is starting soon and that means...disbursment time is here! I pick up my check Monday.
Sour:
DH's surgery is on Wed. Keep him in your thoughts please.


Psst...who else is stalking justmama's posts?
I hate being cold.

I'll be thinking of your dh.

Is justmama posting somewhere? Does anyone know how she is?

My gratefuls:

1) Therapist talked her agency into letting her see for the time being (I think she must think I'm a desperate case, but oh well)

2) ex-SIL is going to come up and spend part of the weekend, and she's as handy as my stbx and very supportive.

3) I splurged on sushi for dinner and I don't feel (too) guilty.
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Hi mamas, Welcome to January. Pray to who ever you pray to that this year is better than 2007!:
Has anyone heard from justmama? I hope she's doing okay.
I just got my internet turned back on, so I'm still wading through the January thread, but I hope all the mama's who have already posted are doing good .
Gotta go, "monsters" are hungry
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I am glad you like the blanket The yellowish yarn is really super soft and cuddly

The shelter you were at sounds terrible The only time you have to sign out at mine is if you actually plan to go somewhere for an hour or so. That way if something should happen like we had a house fire *God forbid* or another emergency I would be able to check the list to see exactly who isn't in the house. Also my clients have to ring a buzzer to get in, but since it is a domestic violence sheter it is not safe for my clients if just anyone can open the door. So that is a have to issue more than anything. But geez, you had to walk that far to eat??? We have two kitchens at our shelter Two fridges for the clients to use. Plus three deep freezes and a hugemongous pantry in the back filled with anything you could ever hope to want to cook We do have chores, but just your basic stuff that you would do at your own house. I split them evenly, like someone does dishes, someone else vaccuums, someone else does the mopping, etc. We are a pretty family style shelter. Like, I am the manager and part of my job is to have dinners family style with the clients. The kids love that. For some reason if I am unable to eat with them, like if I am on a crisis call helping someone, and I miss dinner, it can just be chaos in there with the kids poking at each other, etc. But when Miss Jaime eats with them, they are just the most perfect little angels ever It is so funny how that works out Group living is really hard for people. And also because techincally I live there part of the week too, it is more easy going. I mean, if you need something in the middle of the night, you are going to see me without makeup and in my pajamas We don't have a yard to play in though We are owned by the church next door and there is no yard, but we can use their school's playground after school hours. We are in the process of applying for a new shelter building which would have a yard and be in a MUCH safer neighborhood. Here's hoping we get there!! We do have a toy room upstairs, toys everywhere downstairs and Disneyland is on the third floor I call it that because it looks like a toy store exploded up there and the kids can only go up there certain times a day because the therapist's office is up there, so when I get that key out the kids are just bouncing off the walls ready to go to "Disneyland"

All in all, I am very proud of my shelter and how we operate And if you're sick, wow, I would never make someone do hard chores if they were ill I would also encourage someone that sick to go to the hospital, heck, I have driven clients to the hospital on my own time just to help them out
Your shelter sounds lovely! And by the way you talk I can tell you really care about the families that stay there.

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Wow! I had no idea the local places were like that, I was the program director at a homeless shelter before we moved out here and had worked at several others and none of then were like that at all. In fact at 2 of them (the 2 that took women, I also worked at a mens only shelter) were extremely nice. I actually had Starbucks giving us coffee and end of day pastries.. at one we had such good food, the staff loved to eat with the clients. Always clients could leave, yes they did have to state where they were going especially at the one that had a majority of SA cases but it was most certainly not a locked down facility. It makes me angry to hear of people getting treated like that :


By the way Nature, the infant car seat is available so whenever you can get over, you can have the swing and the car seat. Its in perfect condition, dd only used it for less than 6 mos before she outgrew it.
Shay
I never realized how bad the shelter was in my area until I was in it. Don't get me wrong, I am very thankful they're there and I know they help a LOT of people. They helped me. I just wish they didn't trample on my soul while I was there yanno?

Oh Shay that is wonderful of you to offer your carseat and swing!!! Thank you! I will PM you.


ediesmom stopped by earlier today and brought me two air mattresses! I just got done laying down with the girls to put them to sleep and let me tell you.... it is WAY more comfy than sleeping on the floor! We have all been without beds for close to a year and 1/2 now, and I'm so thankful to have these to sleep on. I nearly fell asleep just laying down with them at 8pm. They are that comfy! And no allergy issues from your doggies either! Thank you! To ediesmom and her daughter. I also loved having someone to chat with too. I only wish I had coffee to offer while you were here! She also brought me a really cute blanket for this new babe too!


My thankfuls today are simple.. I am thankful for this thread and the people here. I am thankful for the kindness of others.

Good thoughts still going out to thismama. I haven't heard any updates yet, and I hope things are okay with her and the babe.
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Hi Mama!
I'm glad you got some beds, Nature!!

Nothing new here. I thought I had all the bills paid but more came in; I couldn't pay them all now if I wanted to so I will pick one or two I can and have to wait on the rest.

Hope everyone had a nice weekend!

I am thankful for my beautiful kids who are so sweet to me and to each other.
I am thankful for my dishwasher. I loaded it up tonight and went to run it and it didn't go on... I started to fuss a bit, but dh then told me he unplugged it cause he couldn't stop it from beeping. I realised how much I love having it after living so long with out one.
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