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I've got some kn itting to do before work(too bad I don't have the talent to type with my feet while my hands knit!) today but I wanted to pop in for a second to read and say, "WELCOME BACK MAMAMOO! We missed you!"

Welcome to all the newbies, hope everyone sticks around. The more the merrier.

And if everyone could wish me lots of tables and lots of good tips today at work that would be super! I need to make at LEAST $50 this morning so I can pay the rest of rent and the electric. And then I would be caught up for this month. WOW, what a good feeling!
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And if everyone could wish me lots of tables and lots of good tips today at work that would be super! I need to make at LEAST $50 this morning so I can pay the rest of rent and the electric. And then I would be caught up for this month. WOW, what a good feeling!
Here's hoping lots of people who are still drunk and don't realize what they're tipping you come in this morning! LOL
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Originally Posted by canadiannancy View Post
Cool, I am in the next town over IRL, Hiss to the ex...and good luck in making it work for you and your daughter!
Nice to know there are others nearby! Do you mind if I ask where you are? If you do mind I totally understand.
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hello ladies - so glad to see so many new faces!

I'm grateful for today:

1. That my idiot father has quit talking about leaving us. I have no idea if he still intends to or not, but at least it isn't turning into a screaming fit every time he calls.

2. That DD is getting better - she is feeling a lot better, even if I'm not.

3. That we have an emergency fund. This will really help if my father does leave us. With as barebones as I can get, we'll only be about $400 short a month. I can do that much with craigslist, half.com, and surveys.


I spent yesterday looking into weatherization assistance - they may replace our failing central AC/Heat {it's 20+ years old} for free so I defiantely need to call on that right away when I get home. Plus I know we need more insulation in the attics, which they will also do for free.

I'm debating returning the serger I got for christmas. We bought it on black friday, and I have used it once {just to try it out}. I can get back the $150 I paid for it at hancocks. I just don't know if I'd make enough sewing wipes with it to pay for it. I just can't decide. I love the serger, but it's not 100% needed. I could use the $$$ we paid for it to put towards febuary's bills, which if my father does leave we'll be short on. I just don't know what to do.

It's freezing here today, and my brother's house is freezing too. It's too cold to take a bath {you can see daylight in the tub} and I feel bad because trinity has horrible diaper rash and there is nothing I can do about it. She's never been this dirty in her life, and there is nothing I can do.

I just wish I was back home in texas, warm, fed, and happy.
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Originally Posted by hollytheteacher View Post
Hi, i'm new to this thread. Just wanted to introduce myself. My name is Holly, I'm from Vermont and I have a wonderful DH and a 4 month old DS.
hi mama, welcome!


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Originally Posted by swellmomma View Post
I am definitely low income. Between compacting, the no spending thread, and decluttering hopefully I won't be struggling on that measly income. I am a single mom of 4, that just says it all doesn't it.
Hi! i've been wanting to check out compacting, and decluttering see you there!

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Greatfuls for today:

1. Kids bounce. I had a pretty wretched day yesterday and I was not the world's nicest mommy. : I can work on it, though, and hopefully they're not traumatized for life. They bounce.

2. The Feb 08 DDC, for sharing the love (and the ick ).

3. Bella's talking a lot more. I'm not sure if she's behind or on time or what, but I've been worried (she's not like her siblings ). It's still blurry and there aren't a lot of sentences, but she's picking up new words right and left.

4. A well-stocked fridge. Yay food stamps!

5. Floravital, for returning me to the status of "human being." I'm sadly dysfunctional without it.

6. Flax seed oil, which has done wonders for my tapioca brain.

7. The luxury of thinking that the maternal-fetal medicine specialists following my pregnancy are a bit paranoid. I was thinking about this, because they want me to do all kinds of crazy things (like have non-stress tests every week?! and ultrasounds every two weeks?!?!) now that the end of my pregnancy is approaching. It's a bit overreactive when it looks likely that the baby is G-6-PD deficient but nothing else. I mean the absolute worst case scenario, he's born a bit early and a bit small (and by 'a bit early' I mean before 38 weeks, not before 36), and develops a pretty raging case of jaundace in his first few weeks (not the normal physiologic sort, but from hemolytic anemia). Yeah, it's potentially really freaking dangerous, but the chances are really fantastic that even if he *is* G-6-PD deficient, he'll be totally fine at birth (and most of the time thereafter). Then I realized that this is what maternal-fetal medicine specialists do; They deal with that little tiny population of women and babies who experience the worst of the worst. The high-risk population exists, and I'm greatful not to be part of it.

8. Seamonkey's kidneys (the reason I am always referred to a maternal-fetal medicine specialist, at least for testing, in the first place) are fine and dandy. BooBah's kidney issues are thankfully quite managable at this stage, but it was scary and a real PITA when she was teensy.

9. my internet friends really care about me. : This board and the good friends I've made playing the game not only provide me with my only social outlets; They've truly restored my faith in humanity. I've been an outsider and a wierdo my entire life, but the internet has allowed me to find other people who think the way I do, who feel the way I do, who understand me and, most importantly, who give a damn. I feel like people I've never heard or seen in real life know me better than those who do in a lot of cases, and I'm so floored especially by this thread and the Holiday Helpers; People who in some cases don't even know me all that well "by post," who've never chatted with me on aim, and who have still done amazing things for me and for my family.
10. BooBah's cough is a lot better already. She's still acting 'sick' (less active than usual, and less appetite-- BooBah is ALWAYS hungry when she's healthy, but tonight, for example, she skipped dinner) but she's clearly feeling a lot better than yesterday.
ITA...on all fronts. with the crazy specialists.....part of me wanted them to leave me alone, the other part was as obsessive as they were..needing to know all was well. it only lasted until she was born

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Hi, I'm new to the site and the thread. I lurked a little bit in last months thread, and saw so much support and awesomeness that I was compelled to join in!

My name is Desiree and I'm a single mom to one. In October my now-ex signed a lease on a new townhouse with me... then walked out on me a couple of weeks later. I am now stuck with the townhouse, and scrimping and saving to afford it because after years of apartment living, the space and the yard are so awesome for my daughter. Giving it up and going back to a crappy apartment is not an option for me - things will be tight but I know we will be better off here.
welcome, Desiree!

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Originally Posted by Brojakee View Post
so I think I'll try and keep up on this thread, though I've lurked forever. My name is Tiffany I have 3 kids, 3 yr old b/g twins, and a one year old boy. My youngest son is always quite ill. My husband had his new girlfriend show up at my house and introduce herself to me and then he left with her with her immediately afterward. It was such a feeling of relief, and freedom, and new beginnings to be honest. He was never particularly nice, and my life has fallen into this beautiful place of me being able to do whatever i want.

I'm grateful today for:

My beautiful children, and a home that is happy now.
My wonderful dog who was left in the bathroom of this home when we moved in.
New year, new possibilities...
Hi Tiffany....awwww....what a gift! (although the previous people really suck) I had an "angel' dog for a long time.

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I went and took the coat off the list.


Not sure about my chart. I am an Aries born in the year of the Dragon if that helps.
an aries....me, too. triple....born in the year of the snake.

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Hi Mamas! My computer died in the middle of finals week (of course ) so combined with the fact that it was finals week, I just couldn't keep up and i missed you all sooo much.

My girls and I had an awesome : christmas thanks to our secret santa, the school's santa program, and my mother and her boyfriend. We actually spent the first Christmas EVER with my mama :; actually, we spent five days with her - the most ever. So it was a pretty special Christmas. I hit the after Christmas sales for the first time ever, bought clothes for the kids and a new computer. I guess we will consider this a credit-building experience. I really am going to have to get a TAship this quarter or its going to be beyond tight, but that's life!

I'm really going to try to and keep up this month.....

So, I'm not a resolution mama 'cuz well, it doesn't seem productive for me, but I do have some reflections that i would like to share in the form of grats....

2007 has been quite possibly the best year ever.

1. Milestones included my graduation with my BA and admission to graduate school the same year I turned thirty.
2. My girls and I moved to a new town and it is going awesome in ways I didn't dare dream.
3. I am totally in love with one of my best friends ever...I am daring to dream that I might actually get to have love again and this is the most healthy and strong relationship I have ever had. May this long-distance relationship be not so long-distance in 2008 - I'm daring to hope for things....
4. I'm so blessed with some great friends and my family is starting to become closer as well.
5. I live in a paradise - I can look at mountains while smelling the ocean.


I really am just generally happier than I think I've ever been. I guess I'm afraid that 2008 couldn't possibly top this year - may it at least be on par.

Happy New Year mamas!! May it be a good one! :
your post made me all teary. so good to see you!

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I'm so happy to find this thread! We are struggling so hard financially right now...sometimes we barely have enough to eat. We are about $10,000 dollars into credit card debt on my side, and about the same on dh's side for back child support and medical bills. *sigh* Dh is paying his support and has a job, but I have a chronic illness so I cannot work and have to SAHM, which of course I don't mind....but I would like to work at least a little bit since my kids are old enough now. So...we are gluey stuck. My wonderful mother is helping me out by making the minimum payments on some of my credit cards, but I am so afraid because I know she cannot keep doing that forever.
hi mama! welcome

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Hi Holly!


I need to join the decluttering for sure.





Yay for kids feeling better, and yay for babies doing good in utero!



Cool, I am in the next town over IRL, Hiss to the ex...and good luck in making it work for you and your daughter!



Oh mygosh! I just got home from the ER...must have jinxed myself by saying dd1 was keepign down fluids so she was ok, she started refusing fluids, and she hasn't eaten much in a month! So stoping drinking was not ok, we went to the hospital and dd1 had a heart rate of 177 and I had 190....she had lost almost 10 pounds and is down to 25 at the moment! We each of us waited hours but eventually got ivs, which made me bawl, she has never had an iV before and they poked her 4 times before they got a good vein! And she had bloodwork and chest xrays...my gosh I have never seen a baby so worked up! We are home now, and I am praying everyone starts feeling better soon! Oh....I had the same ER Dr who said I was miscarrying Callie in the spring...he remembered me, I told him my miscarriage was now 7 weeks old! He said it was a guarantee that I lost her...and all the nurses treated me like crap when I said we weren't vaccinated...:SO much for being a constitutional right! I think I need to think on my greatfulls..I feel like poop...literally and my kids are sick and I am feeling very very low.
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Originally Posted by LilMomma83 View Post
Well I lurked some last month, I think I may try to keep up this month though and post a little. I'm a stay at home/student mom to an 8mo and my DH has been unemployed for almost 3mos.

I have a little story from today....

I was so upset because my DH was insisting I make a certain thing for a new year's eve get together tonight and I was having to use money to purchase the ingredients when we don't even have money for basic groceries.

The whole time I was in the store I was avoiding people's eyes because I could feel tears about to spill out of my eyes (which was making it worse because I would be sooooooo embarressed to cry in a grocery store!) I was silently praying for miracle and after I checked out and didn't find money on the floor and no sweet old lady paid for my groceries I was actually really disapointed.

The second I got home my phone rang and it was our local WIC office telling me they could see me today instead of 2wks from now and they gave me checks and I'm just so happy and thankful - tomorrow we will have milk!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And I did get my miracle

It's amazing how things work out sometimes...hang in there mamas!


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I hope I did this right, I have never replied to a thread before on any board.. If I didnt maybe someone can fix it?

May I jump in and join? I belong here. I feel like I know everyone because I am one of the "lurkers" the last couple of months... Ive only ever posted once before but my New Years goal was to put myself out there, so here I am!

I am holly (there seem to be quite a few holly's here!) sahm/student momma to a 13 ds, 11dd, 8 ds, and a 4 year old neice who lives with us. I am married, and homeschool as well. About as natural as you can get, except for when I cant be due to cost etc.

We are low income and struggle daily as well..in fact I dont know how we will make it to my next student loan check ( and it is so bad to have to depend on it isnt it? ) but something always happens to get us through. . I love my children to death, and have many many things to be grateful for. So all in all I just am lonely and need a place to fit. I so wish some of you moms lived in Michigan near me.. I would love to find someone like minded if you will, we seem to be floating around by ourselves in a sea of totally different views
there ARE a lot of Holly"s......and a lot of student mamas..me! yup, 13 days until financial aid comes in. I have a stack of hungry bills just waiting for it!

welcome, Holly!

good morning mamas! and

Happy New Year!


we had so much fun skating last night! Edie really is so sweet

short rant....when we got home the young women upstairs were having a get together.....and someone had actually parked in my spot. There are certain things i am okay with.....this would NOT be among them! I'm nice. I'll bake you cookies. I'll check your mail when you are away.I'll feed your cat....but I will not be nice if your yahoo buddies park in my spot:

my gratefuls
1. that bowl of Perky's nutty rice cereal! I forgot there was some left and I so didn't want to cook myself breakfast
2. the fact that we haven't been sick here. no colds or flu's. (knock on wood )
3. having a little bit of money so i can pay the most crucial bills before they get shut off
4. mdc mamas......

its taken me over an hour to get this post finished! its going to be 'one of those days!'.....random, unfocused

i'll check in later
post #46 of 689
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Originally Posted by sandygirl View Post
hello ladies - so glad to see so many new faces!

I'm grateful for today:

1. That my idiot father has quit talking about leaving us. I have no idea if he still intends to or not, but at least it isn't turning into a screaming fit every time he calls.

2. That DD is getting better - she is feeling a lot better, even if I'm not.

3. That we have an emergency fund. This will really help if my father does leave us. With as barebones as I can get, we'll only be about $400 short a month. I can do that much with craigslist, half.com, and surveys.


I spent yesterday looking into weatherization assistance - they may replace our failing central AC/Heat {it's 20+ years old} for free so I defiantely need to call on that right away when I get home. Plus I know we need more insulation in the attics, which they will also do for free.

I'm debating returning the serger I got for christmas. We bought it on black friday, and I have used it once {just to try it out}. I can get back the $150 I paid for it at hancocks. I just don't know if I'd make enough sewing wipes with it to pay for it. I just can't decide. I love the serger, but it's not 100% needed. I could use the $$$ we paid for it to put towards febuary's bills, which if my father does leave we'll be short on. I just don't know what to do.

It's freezing here today, and my brother's house is freezing too. It's too cold to take a bath {you can see daylight in the tub} and I feel bad because trinity has horrible diaper rash and there is nothing I can do about it. She's never been this dirty in her life, and there is nothing I can do.

I just wish I was back home in texas, warm, fed, and happy.
i wish you safe, warm, fed, and home.
post #47 of 689
Happy New Year Mamas!

I have thankfuls that I will post later... right now I have to clean up more puke! Yep. It wasn't a 24 hour bug. The girls and I are still sick. Ugh.
3 days and they are still having a hard time keeping water down. Gateraid seems to work better, so I think I'll stick with that.

Updates to the list Thystle!

Since I'm so close to birthing, I think I can make due with what maternity clothes I have. And my girls all have snowsuits now! thank you to all the mamas that helped with that need!

I do still need a baby bjorn potty and I'm looking for a Rosie wooden Thomas train for my 2 year old for her birthday. Our stores are all sold out of them
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Thanks for the welcome, guys.
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Yikes! I'll read all the new posts in a minute but for now I'm freaking out! Was anyone else's cash aid missing this morning? I'm supposed to get mine on the 1st but its not there! I'm hoping its just due to New years and it will be there tomorrow.
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Yikes! I'll read all the new posts in a minute but for now I'm freaking out! Was anyone else's cash aid missing this morning? I'm supposed to get mine on the 1st but its not there! I'm hoping its just due to New years and it will be there tomorrow.
Mine is in. I hope yours is just a fluke!
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quick sub.

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!
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Can I join?

I have been reading the december thread for a couple weeks now...One of my helper moms recommended it to me..I am a single mom to two special needs teens and a four month old baby...I work fulltime but there is never enough money...Sigh...I just try to not let it get me down but you know how it is when you don't know which shut off notice is more important...Well I look forward to chatting with all of you...It is nice to be heard by others who understand...
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Wow this thread is so long already!!!! My goals for this year are just to keep chipping away at our debt and work really hard in school and be a good mom. Seems simple enough in theory...
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my brain hurts. :

So last Friday, the washer started acting funny and wouldn't spin out. mike took the laundry that had been in the washer down to his parents' house to dry, and that's fine. He said that yesterday, he'd take dirty laundry to the laundromat (nevermind that he also said he'd check out the washer; Despite the fact that I'm the one more likely to be able to fix such a thing, I cannot crawl around in the basement when I'm damn near nine months pregnant) and just do a couple of megaloads. All right, no problem-- he'd go, take a kid (probably BooBah) and I'd be able to do some schoolwork with Bean.

He never got out of the house yesterday, but promised to do it today, so that I'd have the day to work with Bean. All right, no problem, we got up, laundry was all together waiting, and I didn't even log into the game or to mdc, I just quietly got everything ready in anticipation of mike leaving. . . but he didn't. Finally at *2:45* he says he's getting ready to go. Well, what is there to say to that? I'd just gotten done telling the kids to get dressed and go outside to play; Yeah, it's still wet and there's a bit of snow on the ground, but it's *sunny* and they need fresh air and heck, they've got jackets. He says, "I'm sensing that you would have liked for me to leave earlier." Well, DUH! I have to start dinner now, you know? There's no way we can get his schoolwork finished (or even properly begun) and I spent the entire day just waiting.

This is the thing about mike being unemployed that most bothers me. It's not that he doesn't help with the kids or the housework, he does do things around here. It's just that his very *presence* is inertial, and it makes it impossible for me to get things done with the kids because they'll run to him and he's soooooo bloody slow to get moving that even if he doesn't contradict me outright, his very presence nullifies any effect I may have. I've been trying to tell him since August that he needs to get out of the bloody house during the day. Just get OUT. I don't care what he does (although ideally he'll get a freaking job), just get OUT. I can't do anything, can't get the kids to cooperate when he's here all bloody day arguing with me and sitting on his butt in front of the computer. It's like living with an anvil that sucks all the heat and energy right out of me. It's four now, and I'm feeling tired and demoralized, but I'll grab a bloody stepstool and wash a pot and make some pasta for the kids. And mike and the kids are *all* getting up before I go to my doctor's appointments tomorrow, whether they like it or not. If I have to be his mother too, so flippin' be it. He'll go on the schedule just like the kids. :
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