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post #461 of 689
I only mentioned it because that was what was described in the recipe. . . but now that I know what to look for, I think I'll give it a shot tomorrow. Perhaps even later tonight, if SeaMonkey stops trying to escape.

I've never used a Moby. They look sooo pretty, but I'm kind of attached to unconstructed ring slings because they're just so adjustable. I'm in-between sizes, so the expansion of my boobs at different times of the day can alter whether or not a sling fits.
post #462 of 689
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Originally Posted by eilonwy View Post
This time I want a crib again, but not for nighttime use as much as a safe place to put SeaMonkey down to sleep during the day, so that I can do other things without worrying that he'll be jumped on or eaten by his overzealous siblings.
I bought a pack n play just for this purpose when Little Mister was born. It gave him a place to nap without having to worry about him being bounced around.
post #463 of 689
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The sling I want is one of these. She's got another site here. I knitted a soaker once in exchange for one and it's just sooo beautiful, I got compliments every time I wore it. . . but as my favorite sling for a good three years, it's quite worn. It's still gorgeous, but it's better suited to be a backup than a full-time sling. Plus, I think I'd like one with a pocket this time. I meant to save up for one this month, but that didn't happen.

I know Sarita irl! She is amazing to work with and her slings are works of art for sure!!
post #464 of 689
good morning mamas!

thought i was banned guess everyone was though

lousy morning.....1st day of classes and we have a snow day....i really wanted to get back to school. edie is off, as well

maybe i'll clean

do you ever have those days where you just have a pit in your gut? like something is so wrong.......
post #465 of 689
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Originally Posted by ediesmom View Post
good morning mamas!

thought i was banned guess everyone was though

lousy morning.....1st day of classes and we have a snow day....i really wanted to get back to school. edie is off, as well

maybe i'll clean

do you ever have those days where you just have a pit in your gut? like something is so wrong.......

Yup, I've had that feeling since my husband moved out...every day.
post #466 of 689
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Originally Posted by mamamoo View Post
Yup, I've had that feeling since my husband moved out...every day.
how 'bout you and i post all the things that are just SO RIGHT!

it may overpower that nasty feeling

it is SO RIGHT that i am going to school....

it is SO RIGHT that my dd's are who they are

it is SO RIGHT that i have people in my life, here and irl ,that are caring and supportive



your turn...

i'll post more so rights later

anyone else?
post #467 of 689
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Originally Posted by Nature View Post
The Hotsling I have is too small for me now. And the New Native thats too big is exclusively dh's. I've been drooling over a Moby wrap. Anyone ever used one of those?
I just got one for Rhys and I LURVE it! It's a bit more of a pain in the rear to get into than our KKAFP's, but for longer outings like the grocery store or taking Elliot out somewhere it's totally my favorite carrier -- it's so supportive and gentle on my back and I don't feel like I need to use my hands to support the baby at all.

But honestly, a long piece of slightly resistant heavy knit fabric could probably be had cheaper than a Moby Wrap and would work the exact same way.

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Originally Posted by ediesmom View Post
how 'bout you and i post all the things that are just SO RIGHT!

it may overpower that nasty feeling

it is SO RIGHT that i am going to school....

it is SO RIGHT that my dd's are who they are

it is SO RIGHT that i have people in my life, here and irl ,that are caring and supportive



your turn...

i'll post more so rights later

anyone else?
It is SO RIGHT that our postpartum "help" has finally gone home!!

It is SO RIGHT that I can lay on my couch in my underwear nursing my baby with no one to get in my face about it!

It is SO RIGHT that no one is "disciplining" my toddler and scaring him or hurting him and that no one is trying to tell him the "right" way to play with his toys.

It is SO RIGHT that we're not being shook down for expensive ingredients so they can cook for us anymore, or badgered about the "low-class" media our son watches, or my going to the thrift store for clothes or the resale store for sleepers for the baby.

Seriously. I LOVE my son's godfather, and he's great with Elliot and a very sweet guy and I'm glad to have him around. But his finacee is such a UAV. I feel like I need to air out and fumigate my entire house now that she's finally freakin' gone!

(Plus, she insulted my favorite pan! I splurged and bought a enameled cast iron dutch oven for myself when I got my new job, and I love it way more than I should -- it's my favorite kitchen thing and I get all smiley when I get to cook in it. Her comment? "Oh hon! You have to get me a pan just like that one... except I want an EXPENSIVE one!" Seriously, go die in a fire or something!)
post #468 of 689
Hello, I'm new here. We've been struggling since we got married almost 4 years ago. We're figuring it out though. Thanks to a wonderful friend DH has a new job and we are moving to MN next month. I can't wait!
post #469 of 689
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good morning mamas!

oh how i wish i had a trader joes so i could get 64 oz of maple syrup for under four bucks i love the stuff. pancakes are my friends

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Not to add insult to injury but TJ has these awesome pancakes that are gluten free in their freezer section. I eat almost every day the rice pancakes with TJ maple yogurt topped with raspberry apple sauce.
post #470 of 689
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Originally Posted by PinkPantherDiva View Post
Hello, I'm new here. We've been struggling since we got married almost 4 years ago. We're figuring it out though. Thanks to a wonderful friend DH has a new job and we are moving to MN next month. I can't wait!


Where in MN are you moving to? I'm in St Paul.
post #471 of 689
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Originally Posted by ediesmom View Post
how 'bout you and i post all the things that are just SO RIGHT!

it may overpower that nasty feeling

it is SO RIGHT that i am going to school....

it is SO RIGHT that my dd's are who they are

it is SO RIGHT that i have people in my life, here and irl ,that are caring and supportive



your turn...

i'll post more so rights later

anyone else?
YAY! I like "so rights."

It is SO RIGHT that I have the support of my online mama's.

It is SO RIGHT that Grace is in an open air crib and maintaining her temp well since noontime today.

It is SO RIGHT that I just got gifted a bunch of covers that will fit Grace when she comes home.

It is SO RIGHT that my cherry cheesecake muffins came out super yummy!

It is SO RIGHT that I finally got caught up on my laundry for the first time in 2 weeks.

It is SO RIGHT that ediesmom will be expecting a package of a knit goodie or two for Shelby's baby soon.

It is SO RIGHT that it's cold and nasty and wet outside and I'm inside snuggled in my sweatpants drinking coffee.
post #472 of 689
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Originally Posted by ediesmom View Post
how 'bout you and i post all the things that are just SO RIGHT!

it may overpower that nasty feeling

it is SO RIGHT that i am going to school....

it is SO RIGHT that my dd's are who they are

it is SO RIGHT that i have people in my life, here and irl ,that are caring and supportive



your turn...

i'll post more so rights later

anyone else?

Oohh!! I am so there!!

It is SO RIGHT that I have all my kids here with me.

It is SO RIGHT that my family is the most important thing to me.

It is SO RIGHT that I have SOOOO many friends irl and online that support me, and I love them, and they love me.

It is SO RIGHT that I am in school and on an amazing path.

It is SO RIGHT that in just a few years I will be able to single-handedly support all of my kids.

It is SO RIGHT that I am moving onward and upward from this life that has been bringing me down for far too long.

It is SO RIGHT that I started my new meds a few days ago, and I have hope for a stable future for me and the kids.

It is SO RIGHT that I can walk and get some exercise, and am eating this GIANT lovely salad complete with red peppers, spinach, turkey, carrots, green onions, and english cucumber, YUM!!

It is SO RIGHT that I am learning to love myself, and learn that I can reach my goals, and my dreams can come true.

It *would be* SO RIGHT if JM would pm me some measurements for her dear baby grace.
post #473 of 689
I don't feel like much is right. I'm still kind of freaked out that in two days, I will be at the same point in this pregnancy as I was when Bellatrix LeBella was born. : Everything else is pretty freaky, too. : I don't have that pit of despair in my tummy, but I do feel a bit edgy, like I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop. . .
post #474 of 689
my list-
it is so right the debt black hole isnt as gloomy as it was 2 weeks ago. 3 cards paid off and closed!
it is so right that people are starting to buy on FSOT forums --im selling things! that helps oh so very much.
post #475 of 689
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Originally Posted by mamamoo View Post
Oohh!! I am so there!!

It is SO RIGHT that I have all my kids here with me.

It is SO RIGHT that my family is the most important thing to me.

It is SO RIGHT that I have SOOOO many friends irl and online that support me, and I love them, and they love me.

It is SO RIGHT that I am in school and on an amazing path.

It is SO RIGHT that in just a few years I will be able to single-handedly support all of my kids.

It is SO RIGHT that I am moving onward and upward from this life that has been bringing me down for far too long.

It is SO RIGHT that I started my new meds a few days ago, and I have hope for a stable future for me and the kids.

It is SO RIGHT that I can walk and get some exercise, and am eating this GIANT lovely salad complete with red peppers, spinach, turkey, carrots, green onions, and english cucumber, YUM!!

It is SO RIGHT that I am learning to love myself, and learn that I can reach my goals, and my dreams can come true.

It *would be* SO RIGHT if JM would pm me some measurements for her dear baby grace.



you are too funny. Gracie will hopefully be home tomorrow afternoon at 3:30pm so I am going to measure her when I smuggle her out of the nicu. They are pathetically tiny, just be prepared. Personally I like her wrinkly little knees when she stretches out her legs because there isn't enough fat to fill out the skin.
By the way, pass some of that salad! I'm so hungry over here!!!
post #476 of 689
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Originally Posted by eilonwy View Post
I don't feel like much is right. I'm still kind of freaked out that in two days, I will be at the same point in this pregnancy as I was when Bellatrix LeBella was born. : Everything else is pretty freaky, too. : I don't have that pit of despair in my tummy, but I do feel a bit edgy, like I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop. . .
Rynna. I'm sorry you are so stressed about it. I had that same feeling too with Grace. Turns out that my water broke on the EXACT SAME DAY as it did with Sara just 3 years later. And their birthdays are 2 days apart. And they had the same due date. It's freaky really. So I totally know that feeling and I hope it means nothing for you. I hope seamonkey sticks around for a while and continues to lay his heavy little self right on your bladder. No labor vibes for you lady!
post #477 of 689
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Originally Posted by Belleweather View Post
I just got one for Rhys and I LURVE it! It's a bit more of a pain in the rear to get into than our KKAFP's, but for longer outings like the grocery store or taking Elliot out somewhere it's totally my favorite carrier -- it's so supportive and gentle on my back and I don't feel like I need to use my hands to support the baby at all.

But honestly, a long piece of slightly resistant heavy knit fabric could probably be had cheaper than a Moby Wrap and would work the exact same way.

So do you love the hotsling the best??? We had a maya wrap ring sling with Sara and it took some adjustment but I got very used to it and loved using it. I could never figure out the cradle carry or how to nurse but I loved carrying her chest to chest. And it got stolen from my cart at Target one day while I took Mady in to the bathroom and changed Sara's diaper and so I made myself a makeshift sling. It's not pretty but it does the job. I just keep thinking that a hotsling would be so much easier for carrying Grace since Sara occasionally runs off on me without warning. I need something really easy too since we only have an umbrella stroller for Sara and no infant car seat, just a convertible. Do you think I should try to convince my MIL to buy me a hotsling?????
post #478 of 689
grrrrr..... my house phone got shut off.....no internet at home.....i'm at the computer lab, but need to run in a few minutes

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Originally Posted by Belleweather View Post
I just got one for Rhys and I LURVE it! It's a bit more of a pain in the rear to get into than our KKAFP's, but for longer outings like the grocery store or taking Elliot out somewhere it's totally my favorite carrier -- it's so supportive and gentle on my back and I don't feel like I need to use my hands to support the baby at all.

But honestly, a long piece of slightly resistant heavy knit fabric could probably be had cheaper than a Moby Wrap and would work the exact same way.



It is SO RIGHT that our postpartum "help" has finally gone home!!

It is SO RIGHT that I can lay on my couch in my underwear nursing my baby with no one to get in my face about it!

It is SO RIGHT that no one is "disciplining" my toddler and scaring him or hurting him and that no one is trying to tell him the "right" way to play with his toys.

It is SO RIGHT that we're not being shook down for expensive ingredients so they can cook for us anymore, or badgered about the "low-class" media our son watches, or my going to the thrift store for clothes or the resale store for sleepers for the baby.

Seriously. I LOVE my son's godfather, and he's great with Elliot and a very sweet guy and I'm glad to have him around. But his finacee is such a UAV. I feel like I need to air out and fumigate my entire house now that she's finally freakin' gone!

(Plus, she insulted my favorite pan! I splurged and bought a enameled cast iron dutch oven for myself when I got my new job, and I love it way more than I should -- it's my favorite kitchen thing and I get all smiley when I get to cook in it. Her comment? "Oh hon! You have to get me a pan just like that one... except I want an EXPENSIVE one!" Seriously, go die in a fire or something!)
it is SOOOOOooooo right that she isn't there. hey, thanks for the help lady. but f off!



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Originally Posted by PinkPantherDiva View Post
Hello, I'm new here. We've been struggling since we got married almost 4 years ago. We're figuring it out though. Thanks to a wonderful friend DH has a new job and we are moving to MN next month. I can't wait!
oh yay!!! welcome!!

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Originally Posted by mum4boys View Post
Not to add insult to injury but TJ has these awesome pancakes that are gluten free in their freezer section. I eat almost every day the rice pancakes with TJ maple yogurt topped with raspberry apple sauce.
total brat!

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Originally Posted by justmama View Post
YAY! I like "so rights."

It is SO RIGHT that I have the support of my online mama's.

It is SO RIGHT that Grace is in an open air crib and maintaining her temp well since noontime today.

It is SO RIGHT that I just got gifted a bunch of covers that will fit Grace when she comes home.

It is SO RIGHT that my cherry cheesecake muffins came out super yummy!

It is SO RIGHT that I finally got caught up on my laundry for the first time in 2 weeks.

It is SO RIGHT that ediesmom will be expecting a package of a knit goodie or two for Shelby's baby soon.

It is SO RIGHT that it's cold and nasty and wet outside and I'm inside snuggled in my sweatpants drinking coffee.
knit goodies! shelby is so excited about this little one(me, too)....her favorites from the shower were a few handmade things...thats my girl...so she will LOVE it!

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Originally Posted by eilonwy View Post
I don't feel like much is right. I'm still kind of freaked out that in two days, I will be at the same point in this pregnancy as I was when Bellatrix LeBella was born. : Everything else is pretty freaky, too. : I don't have that pit of despair in my tummy, but I do feel a bit edgy, like I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop. . .

(((((((((rynna))))))))))

okay.....off to home to pay my phone bill so i can chat from there

missed you ladies....

it is SO RIGHT that i can pay my phone bill
post #479 of 689
Well, I belong here now.

I can't figure it out--DH and I *should* be doing fine. He makes a pretty good wage, I was working part-time for most of last year. We don't spend money on clothes or CDs or fancy gadgets, we don't have a car or a TV, I don't shop for fun, we don't drink alcohol or buy soft drink, eat much red meat, buy prepackaged stuff like chips (well, hardly ever)... all the cliched 'Cut Down to Save Money' tips, we already do.

And yet we're struggling. We moved house over Christmas, and it was way more expensive than it should have been. Our rent has gone up by $40 a week. We've been getting takeout a few times, partly to celebrate DH being on holiday, and partly because I had a couple of those 'there's nothing to cook in the house and I don't feel like cooking anyway' days. We had a (small) New Years/housewarming party which ended up being quite expensive, despite other people contributing meat and drinks; and whenever we have guests I feel obliged to buy splurgy ingredients, and that adds up.

So, while we're not exactly starving in a cardboard box, things are uncomfortably tight right now. We still have to pay the bond for our new place (the landlord forgot to sign something, so it's been delayed). We still owe money on DH's motorbike and sole means of transport--we had a big lump sum all saved up to pay at once, but it got frittered away on moving-related expenses somehow. We've just learned that when the baby's born, DH doesn't get ANY paid leave... he wants to take 2 weeks at least, but that means 2 weeks of no pay, which means saving up $1200 or so for rent and bills during that time. Plus he's got a conference in a few weeks. He's paid for that, but he'll still need to pay for travel expenses, food, what-have-you. And I want him to have a good time, as it's his last 'fling with the boys' (it's a swordfighting conference) before he has to deal with fatherhood. But a small voice inside me wants to shout 'Stay home, we can't afford it!'. ...Oh, and I've just found out we haven't paid for the moving van yet! Gah.

*sigh* It's feeling useless that really sucks. I'm not working. I tried to get another job last year, but nobody wanted to hire the pregnant woman who couldn't work Sundays. I do a little baking for cash (also stressful at the moment, our new oven tries to charcoal the bottom of everything we put in it!), I enter competitions online (and have won such necessities of life as movie vouchers and skincare products--it does make our life a little nicer, but it hardly 'helps' in the grand financial scheme of things). I get a little carer support money for babysitting my little sisters (technically one particular sister, but I may as well have 'em all)... I guess I could ask Mum if I could do that more often. I've joined Suite 101, I do mystery shopping... you know, little things like that... but I can't pretend I'm making a major financial contribution, and I feel so useless! DH is wonderful about it, luckily, but I know he appreciated it when I was bringing a couple of hundred in a week. 'Well done, you won a 'Hitman' temporary tattoo set!' isn't quite the same.

What a long whine! Sorry. I just feel like we're slipping into the same financial situation as my parents--always struggling, living from payday to payday--and I hate it. We're young, with no kids--we should be saving, investing, doing whatever smart young people do. It just hasn't worked. We need to have another month of $40-a-week-food-budgeting, I think--we saved heaps in November that way. Hopefully the garden will really get going soon, and we can live off tomatoes and basil!

Thanks for listening. I know, I have so much to be grateful for... we're in a far better position than most. Just feeling down.
post #480 of 689
smokering.....sorry its hard right now

good to see you, though

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