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Prayers/Good Thoughts Needed

So, we really need some prayers and good thoughts. My fiance is attempting to join the military, the army to be exact, which would be such a great thing for us in so many ways. Having a guaranteed paycheck and insurance would be fantastic, PLUS he has wanted to do this for SO long and I really want him to be happy. The hang up comes in that he has a juvenile felony, actually 2 of them. Burglary and attempted burglary. To join the army we need to go to court and ask for his right to bare arms back then apply for a moral waiver from the army. We have his court date on Thursday then assuming he gets his right back (and they don't put down that they are giving it back so he can join the army) his waiver paperwork will be submitted. I am incredibly nervous about this and have been praying about it non-stop. We both want this and it would be such a blessing... so if everyone could pray or do whatever you do about this, I would appreciate it SO much!!

I hope everyone else is doing well... this thread is moving way to fast for me to keep up with this month!!
post #482 of 689
Oh chely ... I cannot in good conscience send prayer or positive vibes for your partner to get into the army ... I have major moral and ethical issues with the War ... but I WILL send happy vibes that things will work out for you.



everyone.
I got a Gratitude Journal today ... I've been meaning to for awhile and couldn't find the RIGHT one... and today I did. It's green with glitter and fake coin things all over it, really crazy and hippy and perfect.

I'm reading Simple Abundance ~~ one per day, every morning ~~ and already I'm feeling pretty uplifted.


I'm not sure what the "So Rights" are that y'all are kickin around these days but I'm totally down with the happy vibes that we've raised . ..



My bf watched the kids last night while I took a LONG hot bath to try to ease off some of this pain.

Tonight we had cereal for pre-dinner snack (which my kids will probably just have as dinner, because the roast won't be done for awhile) ...


I'm extremely thankful tonight for...

* my bf
* money in my checking account
* the presence of mind to call the library to renew my stuff, also the presence of mind to have cancelled the trial subscription I had of Ancestry.com before I was billed ~ $200 for it ...
* great professors
* a warm home
* a $12 PGE bill (don't even ask, it's crazy ... I got it down to $33 last month and accidentally overpaid ... and this month it was only $12 )
* rent paid
* that my mom came out of her surgery ok today
* social ties ~~~ this may sound dumb but it feels SO good to finally be connected within a community like I am now. It's going to be hard leaving when I transfer to a "real" Uni. ...



Welcome Smokering

Hullo ediesmom, haven't seen you for awhile - but then, haven't been around much

((( rynna ))) *** healthy baby vibes ***


mamas
post #483 of 689
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Originally Posted by justmama View Post
you are too funny. Gracie will hopefully be home tomorrow afternoon at 3:30pm so I am going to measure her when I smuggle her out of the nicu. They are pathetically tiny, just be prepared. Personally I like her wrinkly little knees when she stretches out her legs because there isn't enough fat to fill out the skin.
By the way, pass some of that salad! I'm so hungry over here!!!
lovely.

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Originally Posted by eilonwy View Post
I don't feel like much is right. I'm still kind of freaked out that in two days, I will be at the same point in this pregnancy as I was when Bellatrix LeBella was born. : Everything else is pretty freaky, too. : I don't have that pit of despair in my tummy, but I do feel a bit edgy, like I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop. . .
I am so sorry mama. I wish I could be there to give you a massage, or help with the kiddos or something.

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Originally Posted by chely7425 View Post
So, we really need some prayers and good thoughts. My fiance is attempting to join the military, the army to be exact, which would be such a great thing for us in so many ways. Having a guaranteed paycheck and insurance would be fantastic, PLUS he has wanted to do this for SO long and I really want him to be happy. The hang up comes in that he has a juvenile felony, actually 2 of them. Burglary and attempted burglary. To join the army we need to go to court and ask for his right to bare arms back then apply for a moral waiver from the army. We have his court date on Thursday then assuming he gets his right back (and they don't put down that they are giving it back so he can join the army) his waiver paperwork will be submitted. I am incredibly nervous about this and have been praying about it non-stop. We both want this and it would be such a blessing... so if everyone could pray or do whatever you do about this, I would appreciate it SO much!!

I hope everyone else is doing well... this thread is moving way to fast for me to keep up with this month!!
Thinking of you!!

Smokering...I am sorry things are rough, i hope they start looking up soon!!

I'm hanging in there day by day...
post #484 of 689

Omg!

Some of you know that I've been hoping to move out of this apartment and into a really nice family housing complex in town. We've been on the waiting list since last summer. Every month or so I email them and ask if the list has moved at all, and she'll write me back that it has a little, etc.. Well today I got an email response that she was just planning on writing me because there is a three bedroom opening and we're up for it!!!! She asked if we're up to date with our electricity bill, (we're on a payment plan, so close enough) If we have a criminal record (nope) or if we've been evicted (nope). She said she'll know by tomorrow how the check went!!

I'm so excited!! Please please keep us in your thoughts! We live in a 3rd floor apartment on a busy intersection with NO yard at all. My girls need some place safe to play and this place has a yard, and two playgrounds, and sidewalks, and it will be so nice!

We need this.

All the vibes you can give are appreciated!
post #485 of 689
OK, I'll try to keep up. I am sure I'll get better as I spend more time here.
I'm Emily. My husband is Graig and my wonderful sons are Levi (2.5) and Patrick (almost 4 months). I consider myself a middle of the road mom and I take pride in my role in our finances my husband makes the money and I make it last. At least I try.

Today I am grateful that:
I got to teach Levi about serving another person. I gave a cradle to a young single mother someone in my church knows. Levi and I also prayed about it tonight.
Levi LOVES to pray.
I got to snuggle Graig in bed and watch American Idol.
I tried a low-fat recipe (as relates to my restricted diet) and it was delicious.
Patrick napped well today.
post #486 of 689
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Originally Posted by WhoNeedsSleep? View Post
OK, I'll try to keep up. I am sure I'll get better as I spend more time here.
I'm Emily. My husband is Graig and my wonderful sons are Levi (2.5) and Patrick (almost 4 months). I consider myself a middle of the road mom and I take pride in my role in our finances my husband makes the money and I make it last. At least I try.

Today I am grateful that:
I got to teach Levi about serving another person. I gave a cradle to a young single mother someone in my church knows. Levi and I also prayed about it tonight.
Levi LOVES to pray.
I got to snuggle Graig in bed and watch American Idol.
I tried a low-fat recipe (as relates to my restricted diet) and it was delicious.
Patrick napped well today.
welcome emily

it is SO RIGHT that nature gets a new space for her and her family

it is SO RIGHT that both my classes today were interesting, and dare i say, kind of fun

and it is SO RIGHT that, after a really long day, i can curl up on my flannel sheets that were gifted to me

night mamas
post #487 of 689
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Originally Posted by Nature View Post
Some of you know that I've been hoping to move out of this apartment and into a really nice family housing complex in town. We've been on the waiting list since last summer. Every month or so I email them and ask if the list has moved at all, and she'll write me back that it has a little, etc.. Well today I got an email response that she was just planning on writing me because there is a three bedroom opening and we're up for it!!!! She asked if we're up to date with our electricity bill, (we're on a payment plan, so close enough) If we have a criminal record (nope) or if we've been evicted (nope). She said she'll know by tomorrow how the check went!!

I'm so excited!! Please please keep us in your thoughts! We live in a 3rd floor apartment on a busy intersection with NO yard at all. My girls need some place safe to play and this place has a yard, and two playgrounds, and sidewalks, and it will be so nice!

We need this.

All the vibes you can give are appreciated!
This is what Levi and I will pray for tomorrow. We were housebound this past summer because of heat and bad neighbor situations (naked pooping toddler girls that got left in my care if we went outside) and I'd wish that on no family.
post #488 of 689
I am so sorry that I have not been keeping up in here!

I am going to try better.

I have missed everyone!

Rynna s
post #489 of 689
Hi mamas! I've kinda stayed away for a bit trying to keep my mind off the money situation. That sucks and I feel bad. I should be here to offer hugs if nothing else.

Totally freaking over our living situation. I am about 3 steps away from being homeless. With the abuse factor going on with my mom and having to move back across the country I'm just so stressed out. My ds's father *says* he is going to find a place for us to come to but I question his reliability. He doesn't have a great rack record in that dept. I really, really, really (did I say REALLY?) don't want to go to shelter and be homeless with my babies. Damn my mother for being such a selfish, self-centered prima donna! :

What are your thoughts on homeownership? There is this house I have had my eye on for awhile on craigslist and it's only $6000. Sure, it needs work but it's livable! I think we'd have a blast fixing it up! It's a pipedream but....*sigh*

Hope everyone is having somewhat of a decent week.
post #490 of 689
good morning mamas!

its looking to be a hard poverty day for me got some really hard decisions to make around money.

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Originally Posted by WhoNeedsSleep? View Post
This is what Levi and I will pray for tomorrow. We were housebound this past summer because of heat and bad neighbor situations (naked pooping toddler girls that got left in my care if we went outside) and I'd wish that on no family.
yea, i love the heat, but taking resonsibility for someone elses poopers would keep me inside. i don't get people:

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Originally Posted by Oceanjones View Post
Hi mamas! I've kinda stayed away for a bit trying to keep my mind off the money situation. That sucks and I feel bad. I should be here to offer hugs if nothing else.

Totally freaking over our living situation. I am about 3 steps away from being homeless. With the abuse factor going on with my mom and having to move back across the country I'm just so stressed out. My ds's father *says* he is going to find a place for us to come to but I question his reliability. He doesn't have a great rack record in that dept. I really, really, really (did I say REALLY?) don't want to go to shelter and be homeless with my babies. Damn my mother for being such a selfish, self-centered prima donna! :

What are your thoughts on homeownership? There is this house I have had my eye on for awhile on craigslist and it's only $6000. Sure, it needs work but it's livable! I think we'd have a blast fixing it up! It's a pipedream but....*sigh*

Hope everyone is having somewhat of a decent week.
can we help you brainstorm?
post #491 of 689
Nature - hope the check for the apartment goes well!!!!

Ocean - I hope things get better and you guys don't end up homeless

s to anyone else I missed!!
post #492 of 689
It did go well! Thank you for all the support! Tomorrow morning we're going over to see the house and sign paperwork!!!!! Wish us luck!
post #493 of 689
My week is going downhill fast, dammit. DH has his back surgery scheduled for Friday at 2:30pm but he has to be there an hour early. The problem? I don't get off work until 2:30, the surgery is taking place over an hour away, I can't really afford to miss work, and there's nobody else to drive him so I HAVE to. Great. He can't drive himself because he's taking Percocet for the pain and he gets lost driving to drive in STL anyway. Not to mention that we're going to have to come up with $400 for our deductible and 30% of the operation cost.

Our hot water tank also went out so we had to shower at my mother's house. Her bathroom is NASTY because I don't think she's cleaned it in years (not joking) and she has hard water so I feel all gross. I seriously considered showering at work but since the shower room doors don't lock I'm afraid someone would walk in on me.
post #494 of 689
ediesmom, ocean, 2sweeties ~~~ Mamas I'm so sorry you're all hurting right now. 2sweeties, that shower sounds like the shower at my ex-MIL's.

Nature, congratulations!!!



As for me ~ today was one of those days where being precariously balanced poverty / employment-wise almost made me cry, several times. My daughter had a little bit of diarrhea this morning. I thought, OK no big deal, no fever, she's eating and drinking fine, I'll just put her in pull-ups ... well when I warned her day care provider before I headed to work the first answer was, NO WAY, she can't stay here... then they double checked and saw that yeah, as long as she didn't have any more diarrhea she was fine to stay.

So then, right before my 1 o'clock class - the one that the professor docks us a grade point for missing classes, even if our homework and test scores add up to 100% - the lady from her preschool comes running in to my work, demanding I pick her up because she has diarrhea, and now is complaining of a sore tummy.

So I spoke with the professor, who said she wasn't going to change her policy and that it sucks but that's that, and I picked up my daughter, took her to the doctor, got a stool sample kit to collect her poop with to send to the lab for testing because now my dd is having mucous "stools" with lots of blood, and a big fat "I don't know what's going on" from the dr. :: le sigh ::

The good thing, the thing I'm really, really thankful for right now is, that my dd is extremely happy and seems healthy otherwise, other than the poo problem. She has a huge appetite, she's drinking a ton of water, and is now sleeping soundly... no more complaints of stomach pain.

I really can't lose this job, it means the world to me right now. I can't imagine what in the world else I'd do at this point anyway... and, I just got a raise. : ARGH I hate that on the DAY I get a raise I have to leave because my dd is sick, totally shirking all work responsibility. I hate that kids get sick, period. I hate seeing my dd sick.

:: deep breath ::



My thankful ~~ a big one: I had my bf and chosen-kin "brother" (guy I've known my whole life, who I consider family) over for dinner tonight, and they ended up playing with my kids for 2.5 hrs, and then having a great dinner and we stayed up talking after the kids went to bed... and it was really relaxing. It made me really grateful that I have these men in my life.
post #495 of 689
I'm not contributing much to this thread, but I am reading along and praying for you ladies.

And, right now, my "thankful" is that this horrid migraine that's had me sidelined for three days is finally leaving!
post #496 of 689
Congrats Nature, that's fantastic!

I'm feeling a little less stressed today, because I did a few moderately productive things. I babysat, which earned me some carer support money, and I posted a few new articles online (which will eventually make me some money... I hope). Best of all Mum gave me $100 from my step-grandfather--it was a Christmas present, but she had to wait for the cheque to clear. It's going to be swallowed up immediately by paying for that darn moving truck, but hey.
post #497 of 689
good morning mamas!

just a very quick check-in....school is sucking my life dry....homework due and so not done

post #498 of 689
Hi everyone! I have been reading & thinking of everyone, just not posting much...I'm gonna try to check in more often. to everyone
post #499 of 689
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Originally Posted by 2Sweeties1Angel View Post
My week is going downhill fast, dammit. DH has his back surgery scheduled for Friday at 2:30pm but he has to be there an hour early. The problem? I don't get off work until 2:30, the surgery is taking place over an hour away, I can't really afford to miss work, and there's nobody else to drive him so I HAVE to. Great. He can't drive himself because he's taking Percocet for the pain and he gets lost driving to drive in STL anyway. Not to mention that we're going to have to come up with $400 for our deductible and 30% of the operation cost.

Our hot water tank also went out so we had to shower at my mother's house. Her bathroom is NASTY because I don't think she's cleaned it in years (not joking) and she has hard water so I feel all gross. I seriously considered showering at work but since the shower room doors don't lock I'm afraid someone would walk in on me.


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Originally Posted by Aura_Kitten View Post
ediesmom, ocean, 2sweeties ~~~ Mamas I'm so sorry you're all hurting right now. 2sweeties, that shower sounds like the shower at my ex-MIL's.

Nature, congratulations!!!



As for me ~ today was one of those days where being precariously balanced poverty / employment-wise almost made me cry, several times. My daughter had a little bit of diarrhea this morning. I thought, OK no big deal, no fever, she's eating and drinking fine, I'll just put her in pull-ups ... well when I warned her day care provider before I headed to work the first answer was, NO WAY, she can't stay here... then they double checked and saw that yeah, as long as she didn't have any more diarrhea she was fine to stay.

So then, right before my 1 o'clock class - the one that the professor docks us a grade point for missing classes, even if our homework and test scores add up to 100% - the lady from her preschool comes running in to my work, demanding I pick her up because she has diarrhea, and now is complaining of a sore tummy.

So I spoke with the professor, who said she wasn't going to change her policy and that it sucks but that's that, and I picked up my daughter, took her to the doctor, got a stool sample kit to collect her poop with to send to the lab for testing because now my dd is having mucous "stools" with lots of blood, and a big fat "I don't know what's going on" from the dr. :: le sigh ::

The good thing, the thing I'm really, really thankful for right now is, that my dd is extremely happy and seems healthy otherwise, other than the poo problem. She has a huge appetite, she's drinking a ton of water, and is now sleeping soundly... no more complaints of stomach pain.

I really can't lose this job, it means the world to me right now. I can't imagine what in the world else I'd do at this point anyway... and, I just got a raise. : ARGH I hate that on the DAY I get a raise I have to leave because my dd is sick, totally shirking all work responsibility. I hate that kids get sick, period. I hate seeing my dd sick.

:: deep breath ::



My thankful ~~ a big one: I had my bf and chosen-kin "brother" (guy I've known my whole life, who I consider family) over for dinner tonight, and they ended up playing with my kids for 2.5 hrs, and then having a great dinner and we stayed up talking after the kids went to bed... and it was really relaxing. It made me really grateful that I have these men in my life.


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Originally Posted by VivC View Post
I'm not contributing much to this thread, but I am reading along and praying for you ladies.

And, right now, my "thankful" is that this horrid migraine that's had me sidelined for three days is finally leaving!
I had a nasty headache yesterday that knocked me on my butt all day. Finally went away this morning
post #500 of 689
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Originally Posted by ediesmom View Post
good morning mamas!

just a very quick check-in....school is sucking my life dry....homework due and so not done

honey. just remember, I'm here if you want to vent. I am hoping to finish one leg of Shelby's longies today and begin the other tonight(if MIL doesn't stay forever, ugh!). maybe that will cheer you up thinking of a baby in snuggly wool because they are SO cute even if they are girly. Just so little and so super soft. it's from purewool that was gifted to me so it's like BUTTER!

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Originally Posted by WhoNeedsSleep? View Post
OK, I'll try to keep up. I am sure I'll get better as I spend more time here.
I'm Emily. My husband is Graig and my wonderful sons are Levi (2.5) and Patrick (almost 4 months). I consider myself a middle of the road mom and I take pride in my role in our finances my husband makes the money and I make it last. At least I try.

Today I am grateful that:
I got to teach Levi about serving another person. I gave a cradle to a young single mother someone in my church knows. Levi and I also prayed about it tonight.
Levi LOVES to pray.
I got to snuggle Graig in bed and watch American Idol.
I tried a low-fat recipe (as relates to my restricted diet) and it was delicious.
Patrick napped well today.
welcome emily. i watched american idol last night too and it was so funny watching some of the people who truly think they are AWESOME and they just aren't. I know it's mean and cruel to laugh but oh my goodness, I needed that laugh last night!

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Originally Posted by Nature View Post
Some of you know that I've been hoping to move out of this apartment and into a really nice family housing complex in town. We've been on the waiting list since last summer. Every month or so I email them and ask if the list has moved at all, and she'll write me back that it has a little, etc.. Well today I got an email response that she was just planning on writing me because there is a three bedroom opening and we're up for it!!!! She asked if we're up to date with our electricity bill, (we're on a payment plan, so close enough) If we have a criminal record (nope) or if we've been evicted (nope). She said she'll know by tomorrow how the check went!!

I'm so excited!! Please please keep us in your thoughts! We live in a 3rd floor apartment on a busy intersection with NO yard at all. My girls need some place safe to play and this place has a yard, and two playgrounds, and sidewalks, and it will be so nice!

We need this.

All the vibes you can give are appreciated!

YAY for nature!!!!!! I'm so excited for you!!!!!!! I need to find a new place to live and I'm just hoping I get as lucky as you to get such a great place!!!!
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