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Nature - is ... expecting!??? How did this happen and I didn't know?! Congrats!

Thank you!


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My friend's memorial is tomorrow.
I don't think I'm ready to accept that she's really gone.



And last night I found out my sister has cervical cancer.


Oh no! I'm so sorry!
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asianyoushi: Congratulations! I'm sorry for all the negative responses--yikes, quite the charming family you've got there! I hope you have some more positive friends who can offer you their excitement and support?
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no buying tiny outfits- right now i need to sell my kids small stuff. even clothes that are bigger sizes then what dd is in now..(i have 4t and 5t stuff) up on diaperswappers just hoping someone buys it so we can pay off debt. our lease is up in november and we are gonna have to move. hopefully by then our credit score wont be as shot to H### like it is now. all my kids were oops- ashlyn was oops need to get married now. - walked down the aisle 5 months preggo. alex was oops- we were living at my parents house. and dh decided to walk out on me and ashlyn to have an affair with a psycho coworker. and now... it just seems odd. God really screwed up this time around.- as u can see in my siggie my best friend and her husband were expecting their first and she lost the baby the day i got my bfp...
post #544 of 689
good morning mamas!

its so freaking cold here! I am not looking forward to be outside at all today: life should have a pause button

eilonwy is the first thing on my mind this morning. healthy strong baby.

asianyoushi. i know you are scared and frustrated. please try to be positive. you and your little ones need you right now. ask for help. don't try to do it all on your own. there is a way to do this without it overwhelming you. lets figure it out together. you are not alone, mama. i can tell you feel that way, but you really aren't.

edie is getting her first cold of the season i'm trying to nip it in the bud, but....

tto steam, vit c, and a homeopathic remedy from her doctor. we'll see. she had whooping cough really bad as a baby and it effects her when she gets a cough now. its hard to hear. i know i did the right thing not vaxing, but it still makes me feel responsible for every bad cough she gets.

i think we need to get back to our "3 things" we've been a bit down around here. a pick me up is in order

1. the pa that will be assisting in my shoulder surgery. i really like him and he makes me feel at ease.
2. edie's last basketball game of the season. its been so hard getting her there. its really fun, and the excersize is great....
3. a group of mamas at edies theatre program who have got together to help save the program...i thrive on this stuff

okay....off to the game. i'll check in
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asianyoushi: Congratulations! I'm sorry for all the negative responses--yikes, quite the charming family you've got there! I hope you have some more positive friends who can offer you their excitement and support?
and thats from the supportive side of the family*(dh's family...) my older siblings dont know, neither does my parents... i can just hear the comments as soon as i tell them... i am really hopping no one says anything and i just spring it on them at either dd birthday party in april-or just bring home another kid..lol... couple of my friends told me i should abort it..

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asianyoushi. i know you are scared and frustrated. please try to be positive. you and your little ones need you right now. ask for help. don't try to do it all on your own. there is a way to do this without it overwhelming you. lets figure it out together. you are not alone, mama. i can tell you feel that way, but you really aren't.
thanks but i am alone in real life-other then a hubby that is only there in the financial aspect
post #546 of 689
Happythings:
Patrick slept from 8:15 - 5:30 and 5:45 - 8:30. I almost feel sane today.
I am going to break bread today. It will be very yum with dinner and help warm my cold house. I will put a pan with water and cinnamon on one of the burners to smell everythin up so nice.
Both of my boys are napping in their beds.
My period is done. I'm getting some nookie tonight!
My turkey bacon this morning was very yum and fits in with my restricted diet.
Rice pudding for lunch. Yum!
post #547 of 689
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Originally Posted by asianyoushi View Post
thanks but i am alone in real life-other then a hubby that is only there in the financial aspect

but we really are here. i know i am.

and i am sorry your friends have suggested abortion. that suggestion should only come from inside you.

not too long ago I as so freakin alone. then i found this thread. my situation is understood, the way i live is understood and my decisions are understood...all without judgement. and i have found that it has turned into real life relationships. women i can call when i need them....or just want to chat. and a few are local enough that we can actually get together.

so, even though you feel it, its not how it needs to be.
post #548 of 689
Hello all,

I came into this thread thinking about when I was younger and things were tough...not that I had a clue then. My father had all the money in the world to offer, but in the end it was my mother's love that made the difference. If I could change my childhood by adding money...I wouldn't. I grew up a part of a large family, we had our struggles. My mom, dad (step-father), and sisters and brother made the difference we had each other. Money may be tight but for me the memories of the little things are that much better because of it.

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she had whooping cough really bad as a baby and it effects her when she gets a cough now. its hard to hear. i know i did the right thing not vaxing, but it still makes me feel responsible for every bad cough she gets.
I am the oldest so my mom didn't know not vaxing was an option...I was vaxed. None of my sisters were, and I was the only one in the family that got the whooping cough. I was also the only one to develop a negative reaction to MMR, high fever and incredibly ill. When I get a cough it is worse than it use to be...but she did get me vaxed and still...

I hope you all don't mind me reading on and offering any support i can.
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hello to asianyoushi...

Hello, MDC ladies...I've lurked for quite some time now, but I'm coming out of "lurkdom" and not sure how this all works...

But: asianyoushi, I live in Oregon too. I would be more than happy to help you out somehow. It sounds like you need some tangible support right now, and you are NOT alone. I think all of the people posting here would agree with that...we are all pulling for you and sending you hugs. Where are you? How can we help?

-the "Oat"
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Still here-- it turns out that I'm sick, I don't eat enough, drink enough, or get enough rest. (Raise your hand if you're shocked. ) I'm not sure how I'm supposed to do any of those things, as the first two make me feel sicker and the third is just plain impossible. At least SeaMonkey's still in, though. Holding out for at least another week...
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So glad seamonkey is still swimming inside...hope you feel better and rest up for arrival time!
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Hello all,

I came into this thread thinking about when I was younger and things were tough...not that I had a clue then. My father had all the money in the world to offer, but in the end it was my mother's love that made the difference. If I could change my childhood by adding money...I wouldn't. I grew up a part of a large family, we had our struggles. My mom, dad (step-father), and sisters and brother made the difference we had each other. Money may be tight but for me the memories of the little things are that much better because of it.



I am the oldest so my mom didn't know not vaxing was an option...I was vaxed. None of my sisters were, and I was the only one in the family that got the whooping cough. I was also the only one to develop a negative reaction to MMR, high fever and incredibly ill. When I get a cough it is worse than it use to be...but she did get me vaxed and still...

I hope you all don't mind me reading on and offering any support i can.
welcome! and we LOVE support

i know i should NOT feel guilt around non-vax....and i don't until she starts the coughing. Then I think back to what brought me to not vax. It was a feeling. I trusted my instincts then did some research. I really think she was to be one of the few who would have been severely effected by the vax. I can't feel guilt about following my gut. Thanks for sharing your story. it helps.

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Hello, MDC ladies...I've lurked for quite some time now, but I'm coming out of "lurkdom" and not sure how this all works...

But: asianyoushi, I live in Oregon too. I would be more than happy to help you out somehow. It sounds like you need some tangible support right now, and you are NOT alone. I think all of the people posting here would agree with that...we are all pulling for you and sending you hugs. Where are you? How can we help?

-the "Oat"
Yay! welcome

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Still here-- it turns out that I'm sick, I don't eat enough, drink enough, or get enough rest. (Raise your hand if you're shocked. ) I'm not sure how I'm supposed to do any of those things, as the first two make me feel sicker and the third is just plain impossible. At least SeaMonkey's still in, though. Holding out for at least another week...
sorry you are sick i know eating makes you sick.....have you tried ginger root. its cheap at the grocery and really works wonders. you may even be able to by-pass drinking it because often times just the smell is enough to stop stomach upset.

shave a bit in the bottom of a mug and pour hot water over it......breathe in the steam.....or drink it when its steeped. its delicious

so,

good morning mamas!

its going to be one f those days where i am trying to do too many things and am feeling like crap that i can't get it all done.

yup, i have set myself up to feel 'not good enough'

i think i know where i can shave a commitment or two off, i just hate doing it.

and its a car issue. if i had a car it wouldn't be a problem, but i don't....so getting anywhere I am at the mercy of others

well, i'll check in later.

and asianyoushi.....if you check in....
post #553 of 689
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Originally Posted by QuakerOat View Post
Hello, MDC ladies...I've lurked for quite some time now, but I'm coming out of "lurkdom" and not sure how this all works...

But: asianyoushi, I live in Oregon too. I would be more than happy to help you out somehow. It sounds like you need some tangible support right now, and you are NOT alone. I think all of the people posting here would agree with that...we are all pulling for you and sending you hugs. Where are you? How can we help?

-the "Oat"
Welcome!

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Originally Posted by eilonwy View Post
Still here-- it turns out that I'm sick, I don't eat enough, drink enough, or get enough rest. (Raise your hand if you're shocked. ) I'm not sure how I'm supposed to do any of those things, as the first two make me feel sicker and the third is just plain impossible. At least SeaMonkey's still in, though. Holding out for at least another week...
Sorry you're sick, but I'm glad you're not in labor. Get well soon.
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thanks for the hugs.i will bounce in from time to time- need to get oldest dd potty trained... we are on day two... and its a slow process. but its very time consuming. has for the baby i dont really feel pregnant.- not like my other two pregnancies full of morning sickness for 6months straight. so thats a positive. hubby is acting weird... need to figure out whats going on with him... i am not liking the sudden change- usually sudden personality change= pulling the rug out from under me and its never a good thing...
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ediesmom, I don't have a car either anymore... I know how hard it is. I mean my van was a P.O.S. and a P.I.T.A. but as a last resort it was still worlds better than having to call everyone I know to try to get somewhere, you know?? Especially since the local transit doesn't run on the weekends.

eilonwy, so glad seamonkey's staying put for now~~!!

asianyoushi ~ sorry if I'm blind but, how old is your oldest (the one who is potty-training)? My oldest took *FOREVER* to potty-train. ... Remember to go slow and let her take it at her own pace. My dd didn't want to be consistent with it until she had the incentive of moving on to the "big school" (preschool) ... where they bribe kids with E V E R Y T H I N G ~ special stickers, snacks, priveleges, and also make a *huge* deal out of kids who don't use the potty. It's not a philosophy I agree with but I had no choice when it came to centers, as only one was open when I needed to go to work, but it seemed to work great and now she's using the potty almost all the time on her own. Good luck, I know it's rough and can be soo draining.



Everyone else ~ the Memorial was beautiful... I miss her tons but I feel like I really finally was able to say a real "goodbye". It still hurts but it's not quite the searing, shocking, life's-so-unfair burn it was before. The weather was beautiful and there were over 400 people there. She made so many friends, and she was such a good person... it was incredible to see how many lives she touched just in the short time she was with us.

My bf went with me and held me while I rode the waves of grief through the memorial, and then stayed with me as everyone filed out after her burial, and I went to her grave to say my last goodbyes ... the sun was hot on my shoulders and hands, and the cool, almost oceanic breeze carried with it the smell of fresh hay and clean earth. The contrast between her remains and the explosion of life from the earth all around me was... something I can't quite put into words.

Ultimately what I was left with more than anything was a profound gratitude for all of ... this. That I am here, to breathe and feel and wrap my arms around my children, that I am here to feel my heart beating in my chest and argue with my son about his homework, that I can feel the cold air on my face and twist bread dough under my knuckles and smell bacon frying in my cast iron skillet. And that you all are alive and breathing somewhere, that I can share this with you.

I wish I could better explain how absolutely profound this feels to me.



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Hi,
I just wanted to join you guys. I have been lurking for awhile and I just went back to start at the beginning but I am only on page 6! My name is Sara and I live in NH with my DH and 2 kiddos. We are in debt - $7,775.06 to be exact. My DH has to pay $165/week in child support so that makes it hard to pay bills. Although I have to say we always have money for him to buy cigarettes and beer - isn't it funny the way that works out?
I can't get a job because we are just about exactly at the limit for getting the kids Medicaid and my son has tons of medical expenses ( he was in the hospital a lot and had open heart bypass sugery at 2m old) and insurance is crazy expensive where my DH works. Not that I'd want to put my kids in daycare anyway. My 2 year old would probably love it but my baby has really bad feeding/suck issues and it takes a lot of patience to get through a feeding. Unfortunately he is bottle fed although I did manage to pump for 4 months until I dried up.

Just wanted to say that I am grateful for:
my parents being my landlords so we have a somewhat affordable rent
my son is doing better than anyone expected
we are able to pay a little bit extra every month on the credit cards, so someday we WILL be out of debt!

Also wanted to say that I have a gray 3-6month Old Navy snowsuit and I can pay shipping... PM me if you want it!
post #557 of 689
"Everyone else ~ the Memorial was beautiful... I miss her tons but I feel like I really finally was able to say a real "goodbye". It still hurts but it's not quite the searing, shocking, life's-so-unfair burn it was before. The weather was beautiful and there were over 400 people there. She made so many friends, and she was such a good person... it was incredible to see how many lives she touched just in the short time she was with us. "


So sorry to hear of your loss!
Sara
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Hi,
I just wanted to join you guys. I have been lurking for awhile and I just went back to start at the beginning but I am only on page 6! My name is Sara and I live in NH with my DH and 2 kiddos. We are in debt - $7,775.06 to be exact. My DH has to pay $165/week in child support so that makes it hard to pay bills. Although I have to say we always have money for him to buy cigarettes and beer - isn't it funny the way that works out?
I can't get a job because we are just about exactly at the limit for getting the kids Medicaid and my son has tons of medical expenses ( he was in the hospital a lot and had open heart bypass sugery at 2m old) and insurance is crazy expensive where my DH works. Not that I'd want to put my kids in daycare anyway. My 2 year old would probably love it but my baby has really bad feeding/suck issues and it takes a lot of patience to get through a feeding. Unfortunately he is bottle fed although I did manage to pump for 4 months until I dried up.

Just wanted to say that I am grateful for:
my parents being my landlords so we have a somewhat affordable rent
my son is doing better than anyone expected
we are able to pay a little bit extra every month on the credit cards, so someday we WILL be out of debt!

Also wanted to say that I have a gray 3-6month Old Navy snowsuit and I can pay shipping... PM me if you want it!
Welcome! I'm glad you're making progress on your debt, even if it's tight right now.
post #559 of 689
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asianyoushi ~ sorry if I'm blind but, how old is your oldest (the one who is potty-training)? My oldest took *FOREVER* to potty-train. ... Remember to go slow and let her take it at her own pace. My dd didn't want to be consistent with it until she had the incentive of moving on to the "big school" (preschool) ... where they bribe kids with E V E R Y T H I N G ~ special stickers, snacks, priveleges, and also make a *huge* deal out of kids who don't use the potty. It's not a philosophy I agree with but I had no choice when it came to centers, as only one was open when I needed to go to work, but it seemed to work great and now she's using the potty almost all the time on her own. Good luck, I know it's rough and can be soo draining.
u arent blind- there is no indication as too how old my kids r.... i should fix that... dd will be three in april. ds just turn 1 in november...
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just gets better and better.lol insert sarcasim---------::
i HATE DH'S BOSS!!!!!!!!!!!! never met the lady but seriouslly her book keeping/payroll skills suck... hubby was suppose to get holiday pay for thanksgiving( it wasnt on decembers check -she said she will fix it and put it on this check), Christmas and new years on this check.... did hubby get it?... NO.... she f^^^ed it up . i dont care if i sound like a heartless wench... i know her husband died( last year this time) but seriously screwing with other people's income when you already know we are paycheck to paycheck is MEAN and wrong and arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh... hubbys coworker says it will be at least febuary or march befor it gets fixed?!?@?@?@?
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