Jan '08 Lower Income and/or Struggling Mama's Support - Page 29

[cornflower_3]

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[asianyoushi]

cornflower

[Iris' Mom]

Welcome, Cornflower! you'll be at home here.

[ediesmom]

asianyoushi

aura.....


eek...got the call....gotta go help birth naeva

[vannienicole]

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[Iris' Mom]

Originally Posted by ediesmom

asianyoushi

aura.....


eek...got the call....gotta go help birth naeva

Awesome! Let us know when you can that she's arrived.

[canadiannancy]

Originally Posted by ediesmom

asianyoushi

aura.....


eek...got the call....gotta go help birth naeva

Yay! So excited, Hope everything goes wonderfully and what a beautiful name!

[CaliMommie]

Cornflower~ Welcome

Ediesmom~ Yay! Sending peaceful labor vibes! Can't wait for an update!

[asianyoushi]

eddismom- sending lots of good vibes ur way- hope the labor and delivery are a breeze

thanks for the hugs

[cornflower_3]

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[mamamoo]

Originally Posted by eilonwy

Still here-- it turns out that I'm sick, I don't eat enough, drink enough, or get enough rest. (Raise your hand if you're shocked. ) I'm not sure how I'm supposed to do any of those things, as the first two make me feel sicker and the third is just plain impossible. At least SeaMonkey's still in, though. Holding out for at least another week...

I am sorry you are sick, but sooo glad your little guy is still in there!!

Originally Posted by Aura_Kitten

Everyone else ~ the Memorial was beautiful... I miss her tons but I feel like I really finally was able to say a real "goodbye". It still hurts but it's not quite the searing, shocking, life's-so-unfair burn it was before. The weather was beautiful and there were over 400 people there. She made so many friends, and she was such a good person... it was incredible to see how many lives she touched just in the short time she was with us.

My bf went with me and held me while I rode the waves of grief through the memorial, and then stayed with me as everyone filed out after her burial, and I went to her grave to say my last goodbyes ... the sun was hot on my shoulders and hands, and the cool, almost oceanic breeze carried with it the smell of fresh hay and clean earth. The contrast between her remains and the explosion of life from the earth all around me was... something I can't quite put into words.

Ultimately what I was left with more than anything was a profound gratitude for all of ... this. That I am here, to breathe and feel and wrap my arms around my children, that I am here to feel my heart beating in my chest and argue with my son about his homework, that I can feel the cold air on my face and twist bread dough under my knuckles and smell bacon frying in my cast iron skillet. And that you all are alive and breathing somewhere, that I can share this with you.

I wish I could better explain how absolutely profound this feels to me.

I think you explained it beautifully. Wow!

Originally Posted by cornflower_3

Oh my, I think I've finally found my "tribe"! Really, there are other mamas around here who understand that being poor doesn't make me a terrible mother? I can really talk about struggling to pay the bills, my children being on public health care, not being able to find a specialist for DS who accepts said insurance, my mom having to help with Christmas, borrowing a car from my IL's, the PITA at the welfare office who wouldn't help me get food stamps, relying on overdraft protection to buy groceries, filing bankruptcy, DP's failed business, large medical bills and current one hour commute to work and no one is going to tell me I'm a horrible person who obviously can't afford her children? And I get to give the same support to other mom's? Wow, just wow.
And really, that is the end of my pity party. I am greatful that I live in a great community with a wonderful K teacher for DS. That my car runs, that my family does help us out, that DP has a job, that we at least did get insurance for the kids, that I do have food in my house, and that I found this thread. I look forward to getting to know you all better.

yes mama!! Welcome!!

Edie'smom~ I am so excited for you!!!

[MamaChel]

Popping in for a minute.....

My financial aid should come through today so I can apply for my house!!!!! Please hope that we can get the house.

Ok, enough slacking....back to work.

[asianyoushi]

Originally Posted by MamaChel

Popping in for a minute.....

My financial aid should come through today so I can apply for my house!!!!! Please hope that we can get the house.

Ok, enough slacking....back to work.

praying u get ur house.

[momma earthical]

Originally Posted by ediesmom

eek...got the call....gotta go help birth naeva

Yay. Way to go grandma!

easy birth vibes

[Iris' Mom]

Originally Posted by MamaChel

Popping in for a minute.....

My financial aid should come through today so I can apply for my house!!!!! Please hope that we can get the house.

Ok, enough slacking....back to work.

Hoping the house comes thru.

[Smokering]

Good luck with the house, MamaChel!

DH is going to the supermarket today... we can spend $32. We 'need' about $55 worth of stuff, not counting extra meat etc to buy so I can freeze meals for after the baby's born. So I need to go through the list and tick off the most vital stuff. Which is largely fuit and veggies, but we could really use some protein... I'm supposed to be eating a lot of red meat for my iron levels, but it's so expensive! Hmm, better ponder.

[Aura_Kitten]

Originally Posted by Smokering

Good luck with the house, MamaChel!

DH is going to the supermarket today... we can spend $32. We 'need' about $55 worth of stuff, not counting extra meat etc to buy so I can freeze meals for after the baby's born. So I need to go through the list and tick off the most vital stuff. Which is largely fuit and veggies, but we could really use some protein... I'm supposed to be eating a lot of red meat for my iron levels, but it's so expensive! Hmm, better ponder.

Smokering, have you been to Hillbilly Housewife yet to check out her emergency menus...?

http://www.hillbillyhousewife.com/40dollarmenu.htm

No they aren't the height of natural family living organic whole foods vegan whatever standards but if you're hungry and have very little money this will get you through a week, or a few weeks if you really stretch it.

Also, black beans (well, beans in general but I think black beans in particular) have as much or more iron as meat, and your body will use more of it, and it's WAY cheaper. Also think frozen or canned fruit and veg rather than fresh, also generally cheaper. Non-organic and house-brands rather than national brands, and look for sales. You probably know this already but I remember being in a tight spot before, well, many times, and having that moment of panic where I forget that I know how to make money stretch. And s-t-r-e-t-c-h....

ETA: oh holy cow, there was a ton of posts that didn't come up when I checked-!

ediesmom congrats for your dd!! And happy birthing vibes! ((( vibes! )))

Chel ~ good luck!! And I know how that feels, always waiting for that student aid check...

*~* WELCOME CORNFLOWER!! *~*

And asianyoushi ~ 2 is still very young to be expecting her to toilet train on any kind of time table... right now just present her with the opportunity but don't push her. Be patient, all things in their own time.

[mamamoo]

Originally Posted by MamaChel

Popping in for a minute.....

My financial aid should come through today so I can apply for my house!!!!! Please hope that we can get the house.

Ok, enough slacking....back to work.

thinking of you, hope you get the house!!

Originally Posted by Smokering

Good luck with the house, MamaChel!

DH is going to the supermarket today... we can spend $32. We 'need' about $55 worth of stuff, not counting extra meat etc to buy so I can freeze meals for after the baby's born. So I need to go through the list and tick off the most vital stuff. Which is largely fuit and veggies, but we could really use some protein... I'm supposed to be eating a lot of red meat for my iron levels, but it's so expensive! Hmm, better ponder.

I hope you find some amazing sales!! I agree, beans are cheap, filling, and a good source of what we need.

[Belleweather]

I'm feeling super-blessed today. I'm still freaking out about making the teeny bit of money we have last until whenever they sort my disability claim out, but at least a couple things seem to be going out way.

My mom visited this weekend, and bought us a bunch of groceries including the ingredients for supply-boosting lactation cookies and firewood. Plus, she bought me a book I've been really wanting to read, but haven't managed to get through the library yet because the request list is like 400 people long. So I can spend tonight sitting around in front of a fire, eating cookies and reading books.

Plus, there was an uber-sale at one of the stores in the mall today where everything was $8, so I was finally able to frog-march DH down there and force him through threats of violence and forced sexual abstainance to buy himself some freakin' pants, already. He was down to one pair, which had a blown out knee and a broken zipper, so at least now he's presentable in public. Plus, they had winter coats as well, so I now have a brand new warm navy peacoat that fits and isn't maternity wear -- for way less than I could have gotten one second hand.

Unfortunately, it looks like Rhys is sensitive to dairy, which of course I find out right before going to a WIC appointment where they'll load us down with tons of cheese and milk. :eyeroll . AND, all those newborn covers I made for him are disintegrating because I foolishly used velcro-brand velcro on them and that junk falls apart in the wash, so we've got to keep him in 'sposies until I can buy some decent touchtape or aplix to fix his covers... which I can't buy because we're spending all our cash on stupid disposable diapers. Grrr.

[asianyoushi]

Originally Posted by Belleweather

I'm feeling super-blessed today. I'm still freaking out about making the teeny bit of money we have last until whenever they sort my disability claim out, but at least a couple things seem to be going out way.

My mom visited this weekend, and bought us a bunch of groceries including the ingredients for supply-boosting lactation cookies and firewood. Plus, she bought me a book I've been really wanting to read, but haven't managed to get through the library yet because the request list is like 400 people long. So I can spend tonight sitting around in front of a fire, eating cookies and reading books.

Plus, there was an uber-sale at one of the stores in the mall today where everything was $8, so I was finally able to frog-march DH down there and force him through threats of violence and forced sexual abstainance to buy himself some freakin' pants, already. He was down to one pair, which had a blown out knee and a broken zipper, so at least now he's presentable in public. Plus, they had winter coats as well, so I now have a brand new warm navy peacoat that fits and isn't maternity wear -- for way less than I could have gotten one second hand.

Unfortunately, it looks like Rhys is sensitive to dairy, which of course I find out right before going to a WIC appointment where they'll load us down with tons of cheese and milk. :eyeroll . AND, all those newborn covers I made for him are disintegrating because I foolishly used velcro-brand velcro on them and that junk falls apart in the wash, so we've got to keep him in 'sposies until I can buy some decent touchtape or aplix to fix his covers... which I can't buy because we're spending all our cash on stupid disposable diapers. Grrr.

wic will give u checks for dairy substaute--- u just have to tell them befor they print out the checks