I do have a homeopath and have for over a decade. I am far more self reliant now, but it's good to know he's there
From an energetic perspective it seems like your main issue here (and perhaps the reason things manifested in this way) is that you aren't feeling empowered. You have a doc that you don't feel you can question, and you are saying you are looking outside yourself for answers. Perhaps that is what this experience is meant to bring you. Perhaps it is pushing you to reclaim your innate wisdom. Maybe this is your opportunity to grow.
It is never a healthy thing to make a decision from a place of fear. That will never be in alignment with your true self. The fact that you are feeling like there is a discrepancy between natural healing and allopathy and fear is the result is also something that should be addressed. IT's fine to have discomfort when you are dealing with another's health-that's normal. However I try quite hard to be very committed to my chosen path. I feel that if I have that fear then it is easier for things to go wrong to validate that fear...does that make sense? Make a decision and go with it until you are shown that you need to change course. Even then all that means is tat you might have to try something new-not necessarily modern medicine!
I know that is easy for *me* to say because I have no doubts. But I think one of the reasons I have no doubts is that I trust we aren't given any challenges without being given the tools with which to address them. Intuitively it only makes sense to support our bodies through sickness instead of suppressing the symptoms. I have greater fear about what happens when you do that than I ever could about letting myself or my kids ride it out. That is the natural way to deal with it in my mind.
My very helpful advice is that this is more about your experience than it is theirs-for what that's worth!
Make sure you are helping them through this with affirmations. Trust their bodies. Nourish them. Allow them to experience healing and gain trust in their own bodies. This is your opportunity to teach them about their amazing strength.