TTC #1 in Our 30's: January 2008 - HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!! - Page 2

[JustKiya]

I love the codes name, Ms. Sig!!

Thanks Jennifer - it's one of my 'tells' online. I've been chatting for FAR too many years..
My appointment is on the 14th, and WATCH, just WATCH, my luck, I'll be on my period. Ain't that how it usually goes?

Christine - I took you off the grad's list

Laura - mine was 35 as well. :roflmao: *sigh* At this point, I'm HOPING to be 'done' by 40.

[jencat]

Laura - it's good to hear from you, honey. I'm so sorry you are going through this right now. I think of you often and I'm sending more prayers your way.

Don't worry about pressure to give dad a grandbaby... he is probably feeling lonely right now and probably needs a distraction from his pain. But you are in no mind to worry about ttc when you are hurting so much. It's good that you told him that right up front so he doesn't get his hopes up right now.

Hang in there, sweetie. I'm sending a serious hug your way. Feel free to cry and hold on... :

[anica]

Hi y'all, I am officially out now. AF started today. I went back and looked at my chart and I don't think I was ever late. I think FF had it wrong. I had one day of EWCM on day 22, so I readjusted my O to day 23, and then it looked just like the rest of my ovulatory cycles. I'm sure it would have fixed itself if I hadn't skipped those days I was traveling, but I don't really care. It turns out we did BD with excellent timing even with the new date, and it still didn't take. Oh well.

I got blood drawn this morning to check my sugar. The doctor said I may have been excessively gaining and having trouble losing weight because of processing sugar badly and may want to put me on metformin. I know that is used sometimes for PCOS. Sometimes I wonder if I have PCOS-I have some other symptoms as well. Does anyone know how I could find out for sure, or is there any need to know for sure?

I hope all your new years are going as well as can be expected. Mine has been fairly mellow so far.

Laura, that fuzziness is totally normal for what you've been through. I am so sorry to hear about your sister and the lack of progress on the investigation. Just do the best you can. And watch out that cigarettes don't get in the way of your grieving. I know I have used them to muffle emotions before with less than positive results in the long run. Hugs and hugs and hugs.

[~Adorkable~]

Originally Posted by ms sig

*kringle - every month my husband and i will assign a ridiculous name to our potential offspring. it helps keep things light hearted.

Welcome and yes that code name thing is just the funniest thing yet. and i think a really good idea, to keep things light is so important. I am new at all this and already i feel i could become a hypochondriac and over stressed. might even be too late for me, better take more of my own advice!

Originally Posted by Wanting2BaMom

BTW, my birthday is February 15th and I will be 34 UGH! 35 was my baby making/having cut off! YIKES! :

I have some inner calm that life unfolds the way it is supposed to be, and even though that is soo soo soo hard to consider in your space right now, I'm sure the kid part will work itself out, wether it disregards your timelines or better yet slips in right at the buzzer. hang in there, remember to breath, and remember we are all sending warm thoughts your way

Originally Posted by anica

Sometimes I wonder if I have PCOS-I have some other symptoms as well. Does anyone know how I could find out for sure, or is there any need to know for sure?

good question i will look forward to someone possibly answering it



Well tomorrow is officially CD60 for me: i just so want to start a cycle and get to have a o and the BD and all that, but instead my DH came home to me being broken and things just dragging on and it sucks.
I still am a bit tender over my left ovary, the one that gave me all the pain a few weeks ago. I have attempted to get a appointment with the ob/gyn at our medical center (Army Tricare) next time they can see me is Feb 7th
So i am calling back to my regular Dr. (which apparently they just reassigned me to a new one this week?!!? and begging for a urgent referral, my only hope to see a gyno any faster.

Oh and I still have this random U/S appointment on monday, left over from my fruitless doc appointment on Dec 19th. Should i go to it? Would they see anything that was not seen during the U/S the ER did on the 20th? Could you ladies think of particular questions for me to bring in there? Any red flags to find that would give a gyno a better idea of what was holding me up?(maybe wondering what my ovary follicles should look like now, if my left ovary is still small then my right one like last u/s, how thick is my endo lining? that kind of stuff)

oh and why the heck is FF teasing me with saying that i might of ovulated this last week????!!!! i never had my period, why is it cycling me thru again!!!!??? it is driving me nuts.

ok i'll shut up now

[JustKiya]

Anica - may this be the start of a healthy & happy 40+ weeks!! As far as PCOS goes, there is a PCOS tribe here, and they have a WEALTH of information. There's also this website where you can take a 'test' - www.pcosupport.org - that will give you an idea of how 'likely' you are to have it.
Metaformin is a glucophage, and helps your body process sugars better - I think that diet change might help as much as the met would.... several ladies have seen that occur. Processing sugar badly usually = insulin resistence, which if not addressed could lead to several more health issues.....

Rivka - I suspect that if you go, if anything they might give you a script for Provera to try to trigger your period to come on....and you could still ovulate - just ovulate very, very, late.... there's a lady in one of the buddygroups I'm on over at FF, who got a BFP despite never actually getting crosshairs. *faint* Talk about a minor miracle!

[jem1976]

happy new year everyone!

Thanks for all the well wishes for my depression, it's something that I have to work through everytime it crops up (with the help of my therapist!)

I'm on cd 5 today, I knew last month was gonna be a wash out as our timing was totally out but this months a new story right? I think I finally have my act together with temping, can anyone explain to me how to put my chart in my sig please? I know I saw it somewhere but I couldnt find it.

A big to all the ladies who have joined while I've been taking a break and I look forward to getting to know you!

[elspethshimon]

why is my name still not on the big list?

[~Adorkable~]

Posting chart link to FF page

Originally Posted by jem1976

[COLOR="Magenta"]I think I finally have my act together with temping, can anyone explain to me how to put my chart in my sig please? I know I saw it somewhere but I couldnt find it.

•first put the chart smile in the text, you canfind it in the smiles under the more button.
•then highlight just the part it paste in before going to the next step
•open another page or tab in your browser and got o your chart.
•you need to copy the URL from the top of the chart page (it will look something like this but with diferent last numbers :
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/1de81

•then go back to your post or signature on MDC, the chart smiley should still be highlighted.
•you click on the icon that has the little earth and chain link above the text entry area.
•you then copy your url into that window that pops up and press return

that should work just fine , if you are having struglesor think i am talking giberish ( i may be) you can point me to your FFpage and i can build it for you.

what you are going to get in the end is something that looks like this below, but without the spaces i have added in (i needed to add then for that the page could not read it and convert it to the link)

[ URL="http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/1dea81" ]: chart :[ /URL ]

[~Adorkable~]

Originally Posted by elspethshimon

why is my name still not on the big list?

oh I'm sure you will get edited on real soon, and i just wanted to welcome you and let you know that i was reading a few of your posts on another thread last night and blowing tea out my nose laughing so hard, you lady have one wicked sense of humor, i like it!

(it was the one that involved birthing incognito and having midwife bouncers!)

[elspethshimon]

Originally Posted by Rivka 

oh I'm sure you will get edited on real soon, and i just wanted to welcome you and let you know that i was reading a few of your posts on another thread last night and blowing tea out my nose laughing so hard, you lady have one wicked sense of humor, i like it!

(it was the one that involved birthing incognito and having midwife bouncers!)

I'm glad you think so.

[elspethshimon]

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[jem1976]

Thank you Rivka *hugs*

[SunnyKat]

I guess I'll chime in one this thread since I'm still technically in my 30's and trying for #1. I'm 6 months away from turning 40.
I'm also technically still TTC since HPT don't work on me and I have to wait another 31 days to see the doctor to confirm what is seriously starting to look like a pregnancy.

I was hesitant to start posting here because this thread moves fast and it's hard to keep up on everyone.

BTW, I'm Kat.

[JustKiya]

I'm so sorry elspeth - I'm not used to being the threadkeeper, and it JUST hit me that if I welcome someone, I need to add them... :

Kat!! May your stay here be short and sweet!! Here's hoping that you're just passing through!

[jencat]

Poet - you O'd already! Nice timing... How are you feeling??? You're just a few days behind me this month... We can wait together! (I know, I'm supposed to be lurking and all that... ) After O, my only clomid symptoms are irritated nipples and sore boobies later in the month. A little emotional but... not sure that is the clomid!

Kat & Elizabeth - welcome! Here's to a short stay!

[poetgirl]

Welcome Sunnykat! I recognize your name from other threads.
I also hope you're just "passing through." GL this month! And don't worry about keeping up with everyone if it goes too fast, just pipe in anytime!

Hi Jencat! I've had a lot of ovary sensation and I'm a little confused about that resoundingly positive OPK on day 10, never had one soooo dark. My temp hasn't really risen yet per se, probably tomorrow? So am I wrong in thinking that you are supposed to O 5-10 days after you stop taking the Clomid? Then, I would be on the very early side of that. I hope that's ok. I started feeling nauseous after we bd last night, then I started to wonder if I might release another egg and how soon after releasing one would you release another. Can you see how incredibly relaxed I am over here?? Better keep bding! And yes, let's wait together (not so much lurking either) and then let's get BFPs together too, okay? My crazy emotions have relaxed a bit, become more manageable and less "chemical" feeling. Thank goodness! Thanks for what you siad BTW about not worrying too much about my new year's party meltdown. I appreciated that!

[~Adorkable~]

Welcome Kat! do you know a reason that HPT test don't work on you, or just know it from experience? curious, i have heard this before. side question, do opk test work for you? and why if you think you are preggo do you have to wait another 31 days? seems like a blood test would be in order a bit sooner than that is signs are good



meenwhile back at the ranch sort a speak....
So I have that u/s on monday, seems like i will be going to it, because my gut says having the two to compare might help something. I finally got another appointment with a doc,but the wrong one. I got back in to see a general guy, that saw me last month and knew nothing, but he has the power to give me a referral to the ob/gyn clinic here and without that referral i have to wait till feb 7th for a appointment.

I finally bought TCOYF and i must say wow! i cant believe how much great info there is in there. i considered myself a pretty educated woman and there was so much more details to so many things.i am half way thru it and cant put it down

question about Provera do any of you have experience taking it, sounds like a nasty drug,is that the only one they give to induce menstruation? Might be a necessary evil? does it always work? does it matter the reason you are not cycling?does anyone know if it is likely to affect anything with the cycle that follows taking it?

and questions about the u/s.... is there a way to tell the difference between the various reasons that i would be having this long cycle by measuring anything in my u/s? possibly with thickness of the lining or change in the follicles? i think they will have my u/s from dec 19th on my file,not 100 percent sure. Once i finally get a obgyn appt. i want to have as much info for her as she needs without having to wait another month for the next appointment.

[SunnyKat]

I figure that if I'm pregnant then there is definitely a baby there, and if I'm not, then there is definitely a baby not there and not much (barring the unforeseen) is going to change it either way.
If I got a blood test and it was negative, then I would have a month to wait wondering why my body is mimicking pregnancy so well, and if I come back positive then I have a month to wonder if everything is ok.
I don't need that.
I'd rather just wait and get the results plus bonus info all at once.
I figure in another month I will either have a real period (with dropping temps) and know I'm not, or I'll have a heartbeat.

I have to wait a month because the OB MD I'm seeing now is a grunt man for the drug companies with no real ability to listen. Despite charting and a previous miscarriage he does not believe I'm ovulating (based solely on the fact that we have no child...because we were TTA). He won't do a blood test without the positive and he wants to jump straight into surgery. The appointment I have is with a DO I've never seen before and Feb 4th is the first opening she has.

I have no idea why HPT don't work. They say they are 99% reliable. That mean that if 100 used them, only 99 would be correct. I guess I'm just one of those 100th womens. I have no idea whether OPK's work on me, I've never tried them. I generally have very predictable charts and I've never needed extra clues that I've ovulated. My charts are so uniform that the only reason even chart is because I've had another chemical pregnancy and I also get out of wack after that. I'm suspecting I had my third chemical this year last cycle because I was 3 days late, then my period cameas usual with no cramping. I've never been late, ever...except when I was pregnant. I tempted to 1. Make sure my temps dropped and I wasn't (or to see if they stayed high and I was) and 2. To see if everything was still ok and evening out. We didn't intend to try this cycle, we just got hit with an incredible luck of timing. (Both my husband and I want to have a late winter baby for school age reasons. But really we're not so picky we'll turn down any baby.)

I noticed in the opening post you have me listed as ? in how long we've been trying. To be honest, we have always been open to the idea and never really tried to hard not to get pregnant. At first we actively TTA until we were sure of things like our situation and whether we were a good fit together. Then we kind of got comfortable and just let things happen. Since we never got pregnant we just figured that babies weren't in the picture this time around and we were both cool with that. Then I got pregnant out of the blue, but I miscarried. I did some reading and found that I could chart to see if I was recovering ok from the miscarriage. I discovered that we never got pregnant because our timing was wrong for 12 years. I don't cycle the way FF says I have to and FF sometimes even says I'm anovulatory. In the almost 2 years since my miscarriage we've not tried every month. Sometimes forcing sex is just not worth it at all. Having Robot sex everyday takes the joy out of life and makes one loose sight of the reason for ones journey. I'm not in this to 'be pregnant' or get a 'BFP' likes it's some kind lottery winning. I'm in this for the idea of passing a part of myself on to the next generation. If a baby is not meant for me, I still have the ability to achieve my goal. I don't even need to have a child in my house to do this.
Sorry to get all philosophical about the subject
If I was to say how long I've been try, well...I'm stuck in the confines of humanity, and humanity has been trying to reproduce since for hundreds of thousands of years, so my answer would be...
Since the beginning of my existence.

[~Adorkable~]

Originally Posted by SunnyKat

Sorry to get all philosophical about the subject
If I was to say how long I've been try, well...I'm stuck in the confines of humanity, and humanity has been trying to reproduce since for hundreds of thousands of years, so my answer would be...
Since the beginning of my existence.

I like your take on things, specially the last bit. At times we could all use a bit more philosophical Zen about things, thanks for giving me my daily dose.

Sorry your Dr sounds like such a goober

[~Adorkable~]

An update for the week:

Got in to see my goober Dr today, he is not a gyn and is a complete goober
• Initially would not move me Gyn appointment up any sooner than the one I already have in a month.
• did have me get tested for: Prolactin, FSH,LH,Thyroid,Beta and another UA
• Wants to do a CT scan on Friday with a Barium Sulfate Contrast, told me to not bother with the other u/s i had scheduled for this evening, the one i took on dec 19 is in the computers. CT had me do a kidney test as a precaution precursor to the contrast drug, yuck.
•i asked and was told that my uterine lining was 1cm at that test btw
• wanted to hold off any progesterone withdrawal test till after the rest was done, that makes sense

then for no good reason decided he needed to poke my ovary again!, not long enough to do anything good diagnostic in any fracking way, but enough to put me in a downward spiral of pain again!! I finally got near to the yelling point after that.
Told him that the first appointment last month i took his advice about the wait and see tactic, that now that he so rudely reminded me how fragile my handle on the pain was, I would not take his advice again and wanted to hear it from a GYN specialist, period.
He looked bit scarred of me (probably should have been) and put in a consult request in my chart. So i need to wait 48 hrs for gyn to look at it and determine a timeline and then i will know when i can go in.

Really really don't want to do a Ct scan, but want answers. I have considerable pain after any exertion still, sure makes it hard with a dh recently home and wanting to enjoy our life. not tot mention the whole lack of AF, which although it is a drag for the TTC timeline, is more bothersome when paired with the consistent pain is signaling that something is underling this all.

3 questions:
• Can anyone point me to a good place to learn more about CT and do they have any particular issues to TTC concerns? will do some more googling, but haven't came up with anything on the first look.
• Also is there a good place to look up what the numbers will mean on all those test levels i will get back tomorrow? hate it when they say, "everything looks normal" and leave it at that, i will ask for all my numbers so i can read about them.
• should many small follicles be visible on healthy ovaries in general? are the ones that is getting in line to ripen visible? when i think of that, i think of pcos. but i pretty darn sure i do not have that in any way, but clearly remember both my ovaries being very dotted with small follicles on my 12/19 u/s. I know multiple follicles start to ripen each month, before one takes over, just not sure if they are visible to u/s at that point or whether they would still be so late in my cycle.
No one has commented on it and when i mentioned the question to the Dr today, he said he did not know (that was one of the times i then said, "then why am i talking to you instead of a gyn?) duh

ok going to lay down now, DH has offered to be my body pillow and i am smart enough to never turn that down I Luv My DH!