I figure that if I'm pregnant then there is definitely a baby there, and if I'm not, then there is definitely a baby not there and not much (barring the unforeseen) is going to change it either way.
If I got a blood test and it was negative, then I would have a month to wait wondering why my body is mimicking pregnancy so well, and if I come back positive then I have a month to wonder if everything is ok.
I don't need that.
I'd rather just wait and get the results plus bonus info all at once.
I figure in another month I will either have a real period (with dropping temps) and know I'm not, or I'll have a heartbeat.
I have to wait a month because the OB MD I'm seeing now is a grunt man for the drug companies with no real ability to listen. Despite charting and a previous miscarriage he does not believe I'm ovulating (based solely on the fact that we have no child...because we were TTA). He won't do a blood test without the positive and he wants to jump straight into surgery. The appointment I have is with a DO I've never seen before and Feb 4th is the first opening she has.
I have no idea why HPT don't work. They say they are 99% reliable. That mean that if 100 used them, only 99 would be correct. I guess I'm just one of those 100th womens. I have no idea whether OPK's work on me, I've never tried them. I generally have very predictable charts and I've never needed extra clues that I've ovulated. My charts are so uniform that the only reason even chart is because I've had another chemical pregnancy and I also get out of wack after that. I'm suspecting I had my third chemical this year last cycle because I was 3 days late, then my period cameas usual with no cramping. I've never been late, ever...except when I was pregnant. I tempted to 1. Make sure my temps dropped and I wasn't (or to see if they stayed high and I was) and 2. To see if everything was still ok and evening out. We didn't intend to try this cycle, we just got hit with an incredible luck of timing. (Both my husband and I want to have a late winter baby for school age reasons. But really we're not so picky we'll turn down any baby.)
I noticed in the opening post you have me listed as ? in how long we've been trying. To be honest, we have always been open to the idea and never really tried to hard not to get pregnant. At first we actively TTA until we were sure of things like our situation and whether we were a good fit together. Then we kind of got comfortable and just let things happen. Since we never got pregnant we just figured that babies weren't in the picture this time around and we were both cool with that. Then I got pregnant out of the blue, but I miscarried. I did some reading and found that I could chart to see if I was recovering ok from the miscarriage. I discovered that we never got pregnant because our timing was wrong for 12 years. I don't cycle the way FF says I have to and FF sometimes even says I'm anovulatory. In the almost 2 years since my miscarriage we've not tried every month. Sometimes forcing sex is just not worth it at all. Having Robot sex everyday takes the joy out of life and makes one loose sight of the reason for ones journey. I'm not in this to 'be pregnant' or get a 'BFP' likes it's some kind lottery winning. I'm in this for the idea of passing a part of myself on to the next generation. If a baby is not meant for me, I still have the ability to achieve my goal. I don't even need to have a child in my house to do this.
Sorry to get all philosophical about the subject
If I was to say how long I've been try, well...I'm stuck in the confines of humanity, and humanity has been trying to reproduce since for hundreds of thousands of years, so my answer would be...
Since the beginning of my existence.