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post #41 of 712
1/2/08 at 9:08pm
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Originally Posted by finn'smama View Post
This is totally off-topic, but I need to talk about it...
So dp says he talked to his dad today and he and his wife think we should have Finn tested for autism: because of his speech:
I mean he isn't really talking in full sentences, but he says some sentences and repeats many (if not all) words he hears.
Now I'm all freaked out and have been checking for other signs. Like what, I have no idea! He is very busy and doesn't really play that well with other kids yet, but I thought that was developmentally normal. Gah!
Honestly, the in-laws see him maybe 6 times a year and always at busy family gatherings, which are not the best places for a toddler in general (or so I thought). Dp says to just ignore it, but I can't help feeling really freaked now...
Okay, rant over...
A
Oh my!!! I have had the SAME thing happen. Elijah is a late talker. In fact he just started saying much of anything in the last 2 mos. We had TEIS (Tennessee Early Intervention Services) test him and he has a delay in speech and social emotional but he is not autistic. He doesn't play with other kids either. At mothers day out he plays mostly by himself. I had so many people concerned about his speech issues. I felt like he was fine but everyone else was really pushing it and I began to wonder if I was in denial. Anyway, he hasn't had speech therapy but one time and she said he seems fine to her. I think Finn is fine. I obviously don't know him but it sounds like he and Elijah are similar. I think your dp is right and I think you should ignore it. But that is my opinion based on my experience. I know how people can make you second guess. Go with you gut. You know him better than anyone.
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post #42 of 712
1/2/08 at 11:42pm
omg i am going to pull all of my hair out!!!!!!
Caroline went to sleep at 5 30!!! well at 8 i thought she was going to stay asleep for the night.... WRONG! 9:15 she wakes up wide AWAKE!!! my son won't fall asleep dd2 keeps getting up out of bed...dd1 who is useally up the latest is actually sound asleep!! uggg what will i do with all these kids!!! who knows how late this stinking baby will be up !!! and instead of doing something for myself when she was asleep i was helping out dd1 with studing for her Geo bee ( which was nice to help her one on one but i have a ton to do!!! )GRRRRRRR and WAAAAA i hope i get some sort of sleep tonight
post #43 of 712
1/3/08 at 12:34am
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Originally Posted by UltimateSerj View Post
omg i am going to pull all of my hair out!!!!!!
Caroline went to sleep at 5 30!!! well at 8 i thought she was going to stay asleep for the night.... WRONG! 9:15 she wakes up wide AWAKE!!! my son won't fall asleep dd2 keeps getting up out of bed...dd1 who is useally up the latest is actually sound asleep!! uggg what will i do with all these kids!!! who knows how late this stinking baby will be up !!! and instead of doing something for myself when she was asleep i was helping out dd1 with studing for her Geo bee ( which was nice to help her one on one but i have a ton to do!!! )GRRRRRRR and WAAAAA i hope i get some sort of sleep tonight
oh, mama, I can just feel how frusterated you are! hang in there!
btw, I like your christmas pics- I like how all the girls have matching pj's, and the stitches picture is excellent, but the stitches are so sad!
A
post #44 of 712
1/3/08 at 12:38am
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Originally Posted by tabrizia View Post
Yeah the whole DH taking care of him after first wake up so didn't work. He was quite unhappy with the solution and let us know it, even though he never woke up. Sigh so I nursed him and within 5 minutes he was soundly back asleep and off the boob. I really don't mind nursing him at night I just really wish we could get rid of one or two of the night nursings that are under 5 minutes each since I end up awake for 15 to 20 minutes around them.
Maybe try more than once? I'm not saying to force it, but sometimes I've needed to give things a couple tries before giving up.

Aw, love the biodome pics- and the attacking daddy! she's so cute!
post #45 of 712
1/3/08 at 12:43am
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Originally Posted by finn'smama View Post
This is totally off-topic, but I need to talk about it...
So dp says he talked to his dad today and he and his wife think we should have Finn tested for autism: because of his speech:
I mean he isn't really talking in full sentences, but he says some sentences and repeats many (if not all) words he hears.
Now I'm all freaked out and have been checking for other signs. Like what, I have no idea! He is very busy and doesn't really play that well with other kids yet, but I thought that was developmentally normal. Gah!
Honestly, the in-laws see him maybe 6 times a year and always at busy family gatherings, which are not the best places for a toddler in general (or so I thought). Dp says to just ignore it, but I can't help feeling really freaked now...
Okay, rant over...
A
Wow- that sounds so shocking! Especially since we've never heard you mention any of your own or others' concerns before, it seems really out of the blue! I agree with Ulitmate and Velvet- there's so many kids who are late or even delayed talkers, and that's not related to autism at all- sounds like an extreme presumption. Axel wasn't even interested in playing with other kids as much even a few months ago- and fwiw I've found he interacts much more when we have friends here to our house, than going out to a play date. And if everyone judged Axel on how he behaves at busy family functions, I'm in trouble.
s, though mama, I hope you don't worry for nothing. If in your heart you know there's nothing wrong- don't let it trouble you.
A
post #46 of 712
1/3/08 at 3:08am
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Originally Posted by finn'smama View Post
This is totally off-topic, but I need to talk about it...
So dp says he talked to his dad today and he and his wife think we should have Finn tested for autism: because of his speech:
I mean he isn't really talking in full sentences, but he says some sentences and repeats many (if not all) words he hears.
Now I'm all freaked out and have been checking for other signs. Like what, I have no idea! He is very busy and doesn't really play that well with other kids yet, but I thought that was developmentally normal. Gah!
Honestly, the in-laws see him maybe 6 times a year and always at busy family gatherings, which are not the best places for a toddler in general (or so I thought). Dp says to just ignore it, but I can't help feeling really freaked now...
Okay, rant over...
A
Don't worry. When Max was two, my sister demanded that I take him to a doctor because he wasn't talking enough. Same situation, they don't see him often and he's shy and observant. Apparently, the whole family felt this way. Long story short, he was speaking well at three and hasn't shut up since.
Also, he'd rather play with a kid's toys than play with the kid and is much more himself at home.

Off to look at all the new pics!
post #47 of 712
1/3/08 at 12:24pm
Thanks for the support everyone. No, I've never had any concerns whatsoever about Finn. I mean, we have our issues, but what toddler doesn't. And as far as his talking goes, it's not like he doesn't say anything, he just doesn't use complete sentences yet. Instead of saying I am hungry he says "I hungy" or at Christmas he kept saying "what happen turkey?" which meant "what happened to the turkey?" so I don't even think there is any delay:. Anyway, I'm not worried about it at all, I just had a moment of panic yesterday.

What would I do without you guys!
A
post #48 of 712
1/3/08 at 12:49pm
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Originally Posted by Queen of my Castle View Post
Maybe try more than once? I'm not saying to force it, but sometimes I've needed to give things a couple tries before giving up.
We tried again last night, same thing, we'll try again a few more times just to make sure though.

On the plus side he may have woken up at 2am, but he then slept till 5:30! and then from then to 9:30! So there was a 3 and a half and 4 hour stretch in there, I am quite happy! If he can keep that up then I can deal with the 2am wakeup. Three feedings a night isn't bad it is when it gets up to 4 and 5 that it starts to annoy me.

DH is home today which is nice, he's here since I have my dentist appointment this afternoon so someone had to be here to watch Desmond. I don't think they're likely to fill my cavity today though, will probably just look and go, "yep you have a popped cavity". On the plus side it gets me closer to having it filled, so I can deal.
post #49 of 712
1/3/08 at 12:53pm
double post!
post #50 of 712
1/3/08 at 1:18pm
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Originally Posted by doudat View Post
We went to the Biodome today and Liam had a blast!! The penguins really made him laugh and there was a play with Caillou where, to my enormous suprise, Liam stayed quiet and calm and thoroughly enjoyed himself. He was even *gasp* nice to Romi
We did this last year and decided this would be our New Year tradition.
i want to go!!!
post #51 of 712
1/3/08 at 1:22pm
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Originally Posted by finn'smama View Post
This is totally off-topic, but I need to talk about it...
So dp says he talked to his dad today and he and his wife think we should have Finn tested for autism: because of his speech:
I mean he isn't really talking in full sentences, but he says some sentences and repeats many (if not all) words he hears.
Now I'm all freaked out and have been checking for other signs. Like what, I have no idea! He is very busy and doesn't really play that well with other kids yet, but I thought that was developmentally normal. Gah!
Honestly, the in-laws see him maybe 6 times a year and always at busy family gatherings, which are not the best places for a toddler in general (or so I thought). Dp says to just ignore it, but I can't help feeling really freaked now...
Okay, rant over...
A
that is stressful! if you haven't suspected anything, i would not worry at all!! you are his mama! they hardly see him. every kid is so different with when they speak, how they speak etc. our friends' oldest didn't speak a lot until he was over 3. like i said--you KNOW best! don't freak out...
post #52 of 712
1/3/08 at 1:23pm
i can't catch up now...but wanted to say hi! happy 2008!
post #53 of 712
1/3/08 at 4:04pm
oh about speech, my niece didn't talk till 3 or 4 ( i can't remember which) she didn't speak at all tho! and now is collage with schoolerships and took all advanced classes that earned collage credits while in high school, she might be one of the smartest people i know!!! So talking early or late gives no view into what the future holds for children
post #54 of 712
1/3/08 at 6:20pm
finn's mama-I have worked w Autistic kids and I know one of the number one tests to try at 18-24 months is --- Do they respond to their name? And does he show emotion?

I have a friend who has a 2 yo. He turned 2 in May. He only grunted. They were so worried! Had his hearing tested, etc... He started w a few words in the beginning of Sept. She kept a word-list and he added multiple words a day, and she lost track in a matter of 2 weeks! He quite literally took off!!! Also 2-yo don't play with others! They do 'parrallel-play' so don't worry about that! They really start playing with others sometime when they are 3.

Noah and my DH's Cabbage Patch (from when he was a child). Do you see any similarity? I think I am the only one that doesn't do the special picture linky thing.
http://pic20.picturetrail.com/VOL145.../296420549.jpg

Noah's eyes are still blue. Andy's are grn-brn. And yesterday, Noah pushed himself up to sit. Then later, pulled himself up to stand!!!
post #55 of 712
1/3/08 at 6:25pm
and more pics on my blog!

You all have VERY cute pics and such adorable kids!!!
post #56 of 712
1/3/08 at 6:31pm
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Originally Posted by krismarie View Post
i want to go!!!
Oooh, do come!!! We could take all the kids together they'd have a blast
post #57 of 712
1/3/08 at 6:33pm
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Originally Posted by MonTana Mama View Post
and more pics on my blog!

You all have VERY cute pics and such adorable kids!!!
Such sweet pictures, love your blog!! And Noah does look strangely like the Cabbage Patch kid
post #58 of 712
1/3/08 at 6:35pm
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Originally Posted by MonTana Mama View Post
finn's mama-I have worked w Autistic kids and I know one of the number one tests to try at 18-24 months is --- Do they respond to their name? And does he show emotion?

I have a friend who has a 2 yo. He turned 2 in May. He only grunted. They were so worried! Had his hearing tested, etc... He started w a few words in the beginning of Sept. She kept a word-list and he added multiple words a day, and she lost track in a matter of 2 weeks! He quite literally took off!!! Also 2-yo don't play with others! They do 'parrallel-play' so don't worry about that! They really start playing with others sometime when they are 3.

Noah and my DH's Cabbage Patch (from when he was a child). Do you see any similarity? I think I am the only one that doesn't do the special picture linky thing.
http://pic20.picturetrail.com/VOL145.../296420549.jpg

Noah's eyes are still blue. Andy's are grn-brn. And yesterday, Noah pushed himself up to sit. Then later, pulled himself up to stand!!!

Well, he responds to his name when it suits him and he definitely shows emotion!
I did some research yesterday and he doesn't seem to exhibit any symptoms for autism as far as I can tell, but I am wondering if they were thinking aspergers? I dunno, they watched a documentary and decided something must be wrong with Finn (he is a pretty wild kid and marches to his own drummer sometimes: they're used to his cousins who are extremely well behaved) -now that I'm not worried about it, I'm just annoyed with them for getting me all worked up:

But on happier note, Noah is an absolute doll MM, and he does bear some resemblance to that cabbage patch baby!
post #59 of 712
1/3/08 at 6:36pm
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Originally Posted by doudat View Post
Oooh, do come!!! We could take all the kids together they'd have a blast
Can I come too? I have to get in a visit with my sister who lives in Ottawa soon....
A
post #60 of 712
1/3/08 at 6:37pm
Anika: Liam was a late talker too... We took him to be evaluated and he had some delays and he even saw a speech therapist... She wasn't very worried though, since he did have a vocabulary, even if sub-par with his peers. Then, at around 2.5yrs old, his speech exploded!! And as MontanaMama stated, kids that age parallel play. Liam still plays mostly alone, but is starting to interact more and more in play.

I'd look for other signs to point towards autism than speech alone. That's incredibly narrow minded. I'm sure Finn is just fine.
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