*coming out of lurkdom*
Greetings everyone! I like to lurk in this thread because for one i hope to be a part of it someday, lol.
I just wanted to pipe in on the home church search discussion because hubby and I are currently going through this. Tomorrow morning, we are going to visit a church I found online in our area and im kind of apprehensive about it. We've been searching for a TRUE church HOME since we've married and haven't really found it (moving out of state twice didnt help tho )
I think, some of that has been that we've been lethargic in our search but in other ways its been the churches we've found.
We too have that eerie deep down feeling that we're not welcomed or something....its almost like we are encroaching (sp?) on a family reunion or something. You walk in, smile and look for a place to sit (being careful not to sit too close to the front or any good access spots as for fear of "taking someone's seat"), while possibley being greeted and/or smile or peered at by the church family already there. Usually, you are greeted pretty aggresively by the welcoming usher team because you are obviously new and they want to make sure they greet you, give you all the information welcome packets for the church, ask you a few questions about how you found them and to generally "feel you out" i guess.
Then after church, you usually get greeted again, maybe ushered into a welcoming room for all first time visitors to get more information, ask questions, get refreshments, etc. Or, you just kind of awkwardly smile at passerby church family as you leave.
Sigh, i dunno what hubby and i are looking for really. I guess we want that family feel. We want to be greeted and not accosted, lol. Welcomed but not grilled, introduced and not passed around for inspection, lol. Above all, of course, we want to be spiritually fed. To us, anything after that is really our preferences, lol. I agree a lot with ajv that i would LOVE to be in a predominantly black church so that our future children can see all kinds of black folk loving God, but im not willing to compromise with fakeness and the psuedo-family feel.
I hope tomorrow goes smoothly, sigh.
So this morning I am contemplating checking out either the UU church or the UCC church.. we will see what happens.