LDS Mamas and Papa(s): JANUARY 2008

[NewCrunchyDaddy]

HAPPY NEW YEAR

New thread. New Year. NewCrunchyDaddy is who I am. Have at it...

HAPPY ::::
(2008 get it?)

[seren]

Sometimes I seriously hate pregnancy hormones. Here is what I posted in my due date club a few minutes ago. I know it's completely unreasonable to be mad at him, but I am.

I am so disappointed it's not even funny and it's not even a huge deal! THe night before last I told dh that all I wanted for breakfast was a very specific item that he would have to pick up before he left for work. He said ok and I dreamt about it all night long. When I got up, it wasn't here. I was pretty bummed. Then last night I told dh the same thing. I am craving these, I want them so badly! He said he would try to get them if he had enough time. I gently suggested he get up a few minutes early, so he set the alarm clock for a bit earlier. Again, I dream about these things. I get up and they aren't here. I was so disappointed I cried. We only have one vehicle right now, so I can't go get them myself. I know it's a stupid thing to be disappointed in, but I can't help it.

[Moonprysm]

*hugs* Seren. I'm sure that's frustrating. We can't help the things we get upset over when we're pregnant.

[Brisen]

[Brisen]

LTB, I'm sorry your thread was removed. I hope today is a better day for you.

[Stacymom]

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I'm here. Bleary eyed and somewhat sleep-deprived from staying up way too late last night, but I'm here.

Why is it that the kids always get all the energy? :yawning:

[brightonwoman]

...having been absent the last two weeks while spending the holiday with family (first time we've had all siblings together in 4 years, woot woot!)

LTB--what thread?

My FIL (currently serving a mission in china) says to tell everybody that new years is really Feb 6th.

i was up very early to catch my plane (4:40 WA time, which basically still felt like 3:40 to me since we didn't really switch over)...so i fell asleep with the baby before 9pm. We said we celebrated NY time (4 hrs later than us) but really, well, we just went to sleep and didn't do anything about the holiday.

and, well, subbing, ya know?!

jenni

[KermitMissesJim]

Joining up again! Happy New Year!

Seren, I am there with you. For me, it's when dh convinces me to go to bed, saying he'll clean the kitchen before he leaves for work in the morning. I get up "knowing" my kitchen will be clean and ready for the day...and nothing was done, because he was running late or just plain forgot. And if I'm pregnant, I will actually sit down and cry about it.

LTB, a for you. Hope you found some IRL, too. Kids are good for that sometimes!

Alisa and NCD, fingers crossed for the best place for you and yours to do an advanced degree. We'll be PhD-ing it sometime soon. Not sure I'm looking forward to it, heh.

[klg47]

I had planned to go to bed extra early last night since I would be able to maximize my sleep hours by sleeping in today since I don't have to work. But I ended up going to bed at 11:30. I was really annoyed when I woke up at 8:05. I forced myself to stay in bed until 9:30.

[seeing_stars]

I know that I haven't been active on the LDS monthly threads, but I hope I can get this out.

I am so discouraged My husband was excommunicated before we got married. He has a testimony and it has always been a given that he will get rebaptized, but he isn't doing it! He's spoken with the bishop about it who told him that he needs to have a year of activity before he can take the lessons (is that an official thing?), but a year is impossible for our situation. My husband works nights and has a rotating schedule, so he is only able to come to church every 6-8 weeks. I wish the situation were different, but it isn't and it makes me so sad that this is preventing him from being baptized. I also suspect that he is still self loathing and doesn't feel good enough to be baptized, but hearing this "impossible" requirement has been discouraging to him (and me!).

We need the spirit in our home. I think I deserve it, the kids deserve it, my husband would benefit from it. I cannot even express what it is like to be in a home with someone who doesn't have the spirit. I know he would improve if he could just get rebaptized.

I don't know what to do. I just feel so hopeless. We've been married two years and I didn't think it would take him this long to get it together and get baptized

[holyhelianthus]

Originally Posted by NewCrunchyDaddy

HAPPY ::::
(2008 get it?)

cute. and your Bart Simpson quote is priceless.

hey all! i'm Maggie mama to three girlies, wife to Robbie who might poke in and out here. member all my life but fell away. came back when DH converted and we were all just sealed in the temple in November . live in So Cal but might be moving soon to who knows where.
and i love Caitlin (LTB)! she is the sweetest spirit! :

HAPPY NEW YEAR! to everyone and theres

[holyhelianthus]

stars~ i'm sorry you all are going through this.

a year seems pretty standard to me. it looks like it is so far away and so impossible but i know it's not. a close family friend was sent to prison and excommunicated when i was a kid. now he is married again, a temple recommend holder, and holds a position with LDS family services. he amazes me! his whole transformation was so inspiring to me when i was going through my disfellowshipment in the church. i know your DH must feel so discouraged but that's exactly how satan wants him to feel. what was best for me (and i know, i was only disfellowshipped but maybe this can help) was just putting my head down and really working on getting back to good standing in the church and to the temple. i felt like it would NEVER happen. i felt like EVERYTHING was against me. but i threw those feelings behind me and just kept going...
working during church is hard. have you spoken with the Bishop about this? he might be able to suggest something from helping your DH find a new job (if that's an option) to maybe finding a different ward at a different meeting time? i would just try and see what can be done through the Bishop. lay it all out for him. ALL of it. he's there to help.

to you and yours! you're in my thoughts and prayers.

[spewie]

I got access to this forum a couple months ago and have been lurking and decided to just jump in.

I'm Serin (pronounced like Erin with an S in front.... Not sure if Seren if pronounced the same way. Hugs to her for not being able to fulfill that pg craving, I know that feeling all too well!) Anyway, I'll be turning 29 in March and will be having my (our) fourth child in June. We have 3 boys and are hoping for a girl, but just to spice things up. We would love another boy too. I'm a SAHM and DH and I have been members all our lives. We just "celebrated" our 8th anniversary by moving closer to work/my parents.

I'm trying to define "me", most of what I do is being a mom and I love it. I do work from home a couple hours a day for my parents and I'm very lucky to have that opportunity although at times I wish I didn't. When I have a spare moment (HA!) I like to do digital scrapbooking and sew. Pretty much all I've sewn is cloth diapers though.

I consider myself pretty crunchy although it's been a progression. DS #1 was a c/s after the classic cascade of interventions. I tell people it was because I pushed for 3.5 hours and he was 9.5 pounds, but I really think now that with the proper support and knowledge 9.5 pounds should've been doable. #2&3 were vbacs with epi's, but I'm really gung ho about going natural this time. Would LOVE a home birth (or even UC) but DH isn't ready for that yet. Maybe next time.

Maybe I'll stop there, this isn't a resume right?

Stars - Another for you. I agree with magstphil and laying it all out to your Bishop, there's got to be a way to make it work.

[LiLStar]

Hi I'm Rachel, member all my life, married to Eric who was baptised this past fall. I have one little one, 11 month old Allie, who loves to get into things. We live in Louisville, and I wake up every morning saying, "how the heck did i end up in KENTUCKY of all places?" There's a KFC on every corner. I grew up in Seattle, and am dying to move back to the PNW, but we're considering Portland. I'm learning to sew and am excited to start sewing my own diapers. Anyway, no time for more, fussy baby!

[seren]

Ha, didn't even think about introing. I'm Serenity, wife to Bryan, mommy to 3 wonderful kids who occassionally make me crazy. As you can tell from my earlier post I'm crazy and pregnant. Sadly the two are not mutually exclusive. I do truely love my husband, but he makes me crazy a lot, too. KMJ, i so could have written your kitchen post, too. I really hate the dyas that I bust my butt cleaning all day (especially since I have zero energy lately) and ask dh to clean up the kitchen and he doesn't. Sometimes I do all of it except the dishes and he still doesn't get those done. It's hard to swallow the disappointment.

Welcome to all the new and returning ones!

[guestmama9911]

Originally Posted by seren

Sometimes I seriously hate pregnancy hormones. Here is what I posted in my due date club a few minutes ago. I know it's completely unreasonable to be mad at him, but I am.

I am so disappointed it's not even funny and it's not even a huge deal! THe night before last I told dh that all I wanted for breakfast was a very specific item that he would have to pick up before he left for work. He said ok and I dreamt about it all night long. When I got up, it wasn't here. I was pretty bummed. Then last night I told dh the same thing. I am craving these, I want them so badly! He said he would try to get them if he had enough time. I gently suggested he get up a few minutes early, so he set the alarm clock for a bit earlier. Again, I dream about these things. I get up and they aren't here. I was so disappointed I cried. We only have one vehicle right now, so I can't go get them myself. I know it's a stupid thing to be disappointed in, but I can't help it.

I'm so sorry! There was one night during my first pregnancy I wanted Chinese food but it was too late at night and I started crying like a baby. NCD actually used ramen to make an improvised chow mein that was pretty tasty. I'm still so embarassed that I cried so hard, though!

[guestmama9911]

Originally Posted by KermitMissesJim

Joining up again! Happy New Year!

For me, it's when dh convinces me to go to bed, saying he'll clean the kitchen before he leaves for work in the morning. I get up "knowing" my kitchen will be clean and ready for the day...and nothing was done, because he was running late or just plain forgot. And if I'm pregnant, I will actually sit down and cry about it.
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This happens to me all the time... :

[guestmama9911]

SeeingStars - perhaps a fast is in order to help your husband get a new job? I know that isn't always realistic, but I believe a wife's sincere prayers can olften bring about miracles.

[guestmama9911]

PS - hi, I'm Alisa, married to NewCrunchyDaddy.

[lacysmommy]

Stars,

My intro: Carolyn, married for 7.5 years to Dave, both lifelong members but we also both had a falling out with the church and came back to it when we were young adults (DH in time for a mission call when he was 19, served in Kentucky). I'm the lucky mom of two cute girls, 3.5 and 1.5.

Lacy starts Sunbeams on Sunday! I can't believe she's already a Sunbeam! She's sooo looking forward to it, though.

I think I might have a bad pediatrician! The thing is, though, I absolutely adore her bedside manner and her philosophies. She's cool with delayed vaxing (and delays it in her own kids) and is really all about parents being in charge of their children's health, with her providing support. That I LOVE. But she seems to hand out antibiotics like they're candy (prescribed some to Lacy for bronchitis, which I think may have been warranted because she had been sick for a month already) and yesterday she gave us a nebulizer and a script for albuterol for the girls for croup. According to my sister, all her peds have always told her albuterol does nothing for croup. She also gave them a script for steroids but that seems pretty standard for croup. I think she wanted to give my DD1 a script for abx for her ear infection but since it wasn't bothering her I told the doc we'll have a wait-and-see approach. And she's always telling me to keep the kids out of the cold when they're sick. Isn't that an old wives' tale? Anyway, what do you think? I really like her and she is always telling me how smart and wonderful my children are, but I'm just afraid that she's not totally up to date on everything, and while it seems she diagnoses my children really well, I'm not sure if she's always giving proper medical advice and treatment plans! My instinct is to keep her and then do the research myself before giving my children the medications she prescribes, since her diagnoses seem to be accurate.

Thanks for the healing prayers you guys. DH seems to be finally turning the corner and getting well! He almost decided to go into urgent care today, but decided that he would rather just wait since he is feeling better. I think he really needs to see a GI specialist but I'm having a heck of a time finding who our network providers are on our insurance!

Did anyone do anything fun for New Year's Eve? We had a childless couple come over and they played games with us after the kids went to bed. DD2 only woke up 3 times before I went to bed (which is actually incredibly good, especially considering the croup), but DD1 went to sleep at 10. She was in bed at 8, just moving around the bed, squirming, calling for us, etc, until she finally went to sleep. Then she woke up at 8 this morning. Sometimes I'm really glad that we aren't opposed to some television because I put on SuperWhy this morning and she watched it until I was ready to get up! One thing I need to work on is having her watch less TV, but she's been sick 2 months so I've relaxed a LOT about the TV issue.

Baby's asleep in my arms now so I've got some laundry to fold! Then we're going to my folks' house for dinner. They're leaving for their mission this week so we've got to spend a lot of time with them before they go. They're headed to Munich, Germany-Austria mission but were originally called to Frankfurt. The first presidency called their stake president and changed their call a couple weeks ago.