LDS Mamas and Papa(s): JANUARY 2008 - Page 6

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sextuple post. That was ridiculous. Thanks MDC.

[seren]

DH brought New Moon in a bit after 5:30 and I finished it at midnight. Holy cow, I cry all the time reading these. My heart physically hurts.

On birth, my perfect birth would be dh delivering the baby (the midwife somewhere around) and him telling me the gender. He doens't want to do this. I told him I wanted the same thing with Mady, but he just doesn't want to. It really frustrates me.

With Savanna I had tons of people there. Dh, my mom, his mom, my sister, my best friend, and lots of people there during labor. Plus all the hospital staff. With Sam it was dh, my sister, my mom, and a close family friend, plus the midwife and nurse. With Madalyn the last part went way faster than anyone thought and my mom and youngest sister (not the one at previous births) , my other best friend, and dd1 missed it by 5 minutes. All during labor it was just me and dh. THe midwife and nurse came in, but were very hands off until the birth. It was wonderful for it to be just us. This time I'm wavering. I loved it just us. Dd1 says she wants to be there, but I'm actually glad she missed Mady's. I'm very very loud and I don't want her to be scared.

[marlygf]

I basically had my perfect birth this last time. I did have horrible back labor and I had my chiropractor come and try to help her move.
This time I had a doula and I told dh after I didn't think we needed one next time. He said he liked having one because he wasn't responsible for pushing on my lower back the whole time. I was also able to be in my face more, which I needed a lot, and not in a head-lock, like he was the first 2 times.

[LiLStar]

This is weird.. I'm getting subscription notifications in my email, and when I click the link there's no post! But I can read the post in my email. I'm on page 5 of 5 of the thread so its not like I forgot to click next page. Is this happening to anyone else? The last post I see on the thread is by quarteralien.

[brightonwoman]

Originally Posted by seren

On birth, my perfect birth would be dh delivering the baby (the midwife somewhere around)

Me too. I love this picture. :-) We got the baby in, I like the idea of us getting the baby out--just us. But I would feel very uncomfortable with UC--I want somebody sitting in the corner just in case!
DH helped catch Sammy...he was kinda stuck (cord around neck twice and TIGHT) so Dr helped get his head out, cut the cord to free him, and then DH helped him out the rest of the way.

[quarteralien]

Originally Posted by LiLStar

This is weird.. I'm getting subscription notifications in my email, and when I click the link there's no post! But I can read the post in my email. I'm on page 5 of 5 of the thread so its not like I forgot to click next page. Is this happening to anyone else? The last post I see on the thread is by quarteralien.

MDC was being wacky this morning. I hope things are sorted out. You probably saw my last post, which was up 6 times. I'm so embarassed.

[livnanismama]

Alisa - we're up in Davis county. We actually have a terrific charter school right in our neighborhood. If we make the decision to send our kids to school - next year we'll be doing 4th grade and kindergarten - I would love for them to be only a block away!

On births - my favorite was my unassisted. We actually had a midwife although I had really wanted to do it alone. Nobody made it until about 45 minutes after the baby was born. It was wonderful - I got to do it alone with dh but neither of us had to clean up! That was my 3rd baby, 2nd homebirth. This last birth we were back and forth a lot about whether or not to do it alone on purpose this time or to hire our midwife. I truly have a wonderful very hands off midwife but I really wish we had just done it ourselves. Ah well. Hindsight! I still had a wonderful homebirth so I am thankful for that.

[klg47]

My ideal birth would be alone or with just dh. So far I've had the following guests:
1st - dh, mom, dad, sister, midwife (CNM), OB (just checking things out), doula, several nurses - WAY TOO MANY. I will never have my parents/sister there again.
2nd - dh, 1st ds, midwife, midwife's assistant - still two too many
3rd - dh, two ds's, midwife, midwife's two assistants - three too many

Even though the homebirths were vastly superior to the hospital birth, I still felt very exposed and embarrassed with the midwife and her assistants there. I even feel embarrassed to have dh there, but it's far more tolerable.

[Stacymom]

I have trouble envisioning a perfect birth, probably because I'm so focused on getting pregnant and then staying pregnant!

I do know though, that I would never want an unassisted birth again. Granted, my second birth was an unplanned unassisted, but there was so much chaos and confusion, and I think I would have done so much better and avoided my horrendous tearing had I had someone there to help. It would have made a world of difference to have someone there supporting me, and letting me know that I wasn't going to die, even if I felt like it! And it would have been wonderful if someone would have told me that my dd was going to be born in less than ten minutes, so we would have just stayed home instead of getting in the car and birthing on the way!

My perfect birth would have to involved laboring for more than an hour so that things are a little less chaotic, and birthing over an intact perineum. Having a homebirth, having the midwife make it in time, and not tearing are the three biggest things. I'll have to iron out who I would want to be there, etc, when there's actually a birth to look forward to.

Now if I could just get pregnant....

[LiLStar]

Yeah, I like the idea of going unassisted, just dh and I, or even just myself, but I know its not for me, unless of course I had an "easy" labor. I just really felt the need for support of other women who were experienced with birth. I had dh, my doula, my midwife, and her apprentice, and it wasn't too many for me. I was very "needy" in labor and having all those people allowed for people to take naps, or go get food or something, lol. Back labor SUCKS!!!

[EFPookie]

Originally Posted by klg47

My ideal birth would be alone or with just dh. So far I've had the following guests:
1st - dh, mom, dad, sister, midwife (CNM), OB (just checking things out), doula, several nurses - WAY TOO MANY. I will never have my parents/sister there again.

HOLY COW. That's way, way too many (for me too).

I actually found MDC researching UC - my local hospital has a no VBAC policy (even if it is your 4th VBAC , so I was looking for something else. I was up for it, but hubby was so very not . My OB told me that the only way I could avoid a C was to get there at the last minute, so that's what we did.

My first was just me and the staff, emergency C right after I got there. #2 was my busy one, MIL and BIL invited themselves : #3 I had MIL and SIL visit for a minute in early labor and then they left, random staff (CNMs and nurses). #4 was just hubby, the OB, and my favorite nurse EVER. #5 happened really quickly, but there were a ton of people - seems like every nurse on the floor was there - I think to see the forbidden VBAC . But before that, at home, it was mostly just me overnight and then dh was there, but left me alone mostly, at my leading. THAT was nice and how I would want it again.

[holyhelianthus]

we went to the temple last night and it was so wonderful! but then we had to come back home to a filthy house, grupy kids, crappy mother, and no job. plus the computer was completely dead. the battery died (we have a lap top) and we just figured out an hour ago how to get it to work without it. but our charger sometimes blinks on and off so now when that happens- with no reserve- the computer just dies : it's made typing up DH's resume so fun.

re: birth- i had such an awful experience last time that IF (i do want more but am sooo scared because of this last birth) we have more i want to be COMPLETELY alone. no, not even DH. it's the only way i can imagine birthing without feeling like i am going to vomit.

[linguistmama]

My ideal birth would be me, DH and dd in a cave or nature setting where I felt secure. Since I don't know of any nature places I would feel comfortable birthing in, privacy etc, we'll be at home. We have a midwife and a doula who are both on board with not being called if I don't want or need them. Mostly I am concerned that I will want labour support, I feel alot more confident about being able to appropriately follow my intuition and deal with a possible complication. DH was with me last time and held my hand and obviously cared, but other than the moral support he was useless And this time he'll be taking care of dd so I'll have to be ok without labour support or call the midwife and doula. I'm doing hypnobabies and I hope it will help me be more relaxed than last time.

[klg47]

Originally Posted by linguistmama

We have a midwife and a doula who are both on board with not being called if I don't want or need them.

who?!?!

Originally Posted by linguistmama

I'm doing hypnobabies and I hope it will help me be more relaxed than last time.

I definitely think it will. My labor was 17 hours long, and the first 15 hours were VERY comfortable because of Hypnobabies. The last two hours were horrible, but I had stopped listening to scripts by then. The midwife was kind of anti-Hypnobabies, and I think she thought that the scripts were relaxing me too much. She didn't tell me to stop listening to them, but she also did not encourage me to get back on track with them when things got painful.

[RasJane]

We're home, we're home, we're home. Yay!
I was so worried about the trip back from Idaho because E has another cold. I wanted to stay another day to let him be less congested, but I didn't want to have to wait out the storm that is predicted to hit this weekend. I decided to travel anyway and stop as much as we needed. Miracle of miracles, we made the 420 mile trip in 8.5 hrs, roughly. E slept most of the trip. Thank goodness. It is so nice to be home.


Maggie, more hugs to you hon. I'm praying that this is to bring to pass some amazing blessing and that Robbie gets an awesome job very soon. Let me know If I can do anything.

Welcome to all the new and returning posters!

It's late, I'm exhausted. If I can just get E to go along with the sleep thing, I'm all set. Did I mention E slept most of the trip?

[linguistmama]

Originally Posted by klg47

who?!?!



I definitely think it will. My labor was 17 hours long, and the first 15 hours were VERY comfortable because of Hypnobabies. The last two hours were horrible, but I had stopped listening to scripts by then. The midwife was kind of anti-Hypnobabies, and I think she thought that the scripts were relaxing me too much. She didn't tell me to stop listening to them, but she also did not encourage me to get back on track with them when things got painful.

My midwife is Tara Tulley. We're getting prenatal care partly because I was so sick at the beginning and she was very helpful referring me to a homeopath. I haven't asked her, but have heard that she will also just be a backup for the birth with no prenatal care. Like meeting with her once to discuss things and then call her if needed during or after the birth. It was very important to me to have a midwife who was knowledgeable, but would not be interfering. I feel like I'm not quite ready to UC since I worry about needing labor support, but I don't want a medically minded midwife!

[Amandamanda]

oh wow, i am (relatively) new to MDC and i am glad i found this thread!

*waves* hi guys, i'm amanda!