LDS Mamas and Papa(s): JANUARY 2008 - Page 5

[Leiahs]

Originally Posted by Bekka

So long story short, you might try, even with very tiny kids, practicing being all the way still. You might read a story or something to help them "feel the Spirit" at the beginning, then practice sitting (in some comfortable way), then read your scriptures. It's kind of like centering. Scripture Yoga?????

Thanks for the idea. It's definitely something I'll try to think about. I think what gets me most frustrated is that they'll be perfectly fine, playing quietly, yadda yadda, until we sit down to do "spiritual time" ... and THEN they decide it's the ideal time to run around like crazed beings on a mission to be disruptive! But maybe you're right, maybe I can convey the idea that scripture/prayer/etc. time is especially important for being "still".

Originally Posted by magstphil

the good news is Robbie's check came in.

the bad news is he got laid off.

we really really really need prayers.
we have nothing put away because we could never afford to put anything away.

I'm so so so so so sorry. You will most certainly be in my prayers, and my thoughts. We would be in a world of hurt, ourselves, in your situation. I hope your family will be blessed immensely with the things that you need most.

[quarteralien]

So sorry Maggie. I'm praying there is a great blessing in store for you to come out of all this.

[seeing_stars]

I'm sorry Maggie. I'll be praying for your family

[Moonprysm]

Oh Maggie! I'm so sorry. Lots of prayers coming your way

[LionTigerBear]

Originally Posted by brightonwoman

Fisherman pants? Like the ones the commercial fishermen wear you mean? Like Grundens?

I meant Thai fisherman pants. Like this. Thanks, though!

Originally Posted by Brisen

LTB, I've seen some of the fisherman pants at www.etsy.com, if you're looking for options.

Oooh, didn't find any fisherman pants that were quite right, but I DID find some other cool stuff . . . gosh darn it! Thanks for the link!

Originally Posted by magstphil

the good news is Robbie's check came in.

the bad news is he got laid off.

we really really really need prayers.
we have nothing put away because we could never afford to put anything away.

Oh no! I will KEEP praying for you. My husband will pray for you guys, too. I wish there was more we could do.

[LionTigerBear]

I thought I would share what I am posting on my wall, in honor of the new year.

It started out being based on Abby's New Year's resolution column, which in turn was based on the AA teachings, but I kind of ran with it. I added in stuff that is tailored specifically to me, so I hope it doesn't offend anyone. I just thought I'd share in case anyone else likes the idea.

I am taping it right next to my computer monitor, where I am sure to see it ALL THE TIME. :

JUST FOR TODAY, I will be happy.
I will not dwell on things that depress me.
I will think about things that inspire hope and joy.

JUST FOR TODAY, I will be accepting and flexible.
I will create my future by making good choices now.
I will correct those things I can correct and accept those I cannot.

JUST FOR TODAY, I will make an effort to improve myself.
I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration.
I will do something positive to improve my health.

JUST FOR TODAY, I will refrain from improving anybody but myself.
I will be kind to those who cross my path, and I won’t speak ill of others.
I will improve my appearance, speak gently, and not interrupt.

JUST FOR TODAY, I will remember to pray.
I will say a blessing for my food before I eat.
I will kneel and ask Heavenly Father to forgive me and help me.

JUST FOR TODAY, I will remember to be thankful.
I will remember to trust in God’s goodness.
I will remember that I am not alone, and that I am always loved.

JUST FOR TODAY.

[Nemmer]

Wow, I got behind quickly. For some reason whenever I post, my subscriptions stop. Annoying.

I'm Nemmer, mama to two boys 5 years and 8 months, both through adoption. DH and I have been married 14 years this month and live in Utah. I'm mostly a SAHM, but have done some work at home off and on. Right now it's in the "off" mode, since I process mortgage loans and my boss's business has all but died. But that's okay by me for now, because we just started homeschooling. Between that and the baby, I'm finding myself easily overstressed.

So, to catch up on my responses from the last thread (where I had asked about references AGAINST baby helmets)...

Originally Posted by klg47

If you get the One Step Ahead catalog, make sure your dh doesn't see it! It has a baby helmet right in the front!

Oh great! I think that does come to our house... usually we get a good laugh at some of the stuff and then recycle it. I'll look for it, though. Last thing he needs is more fuel for the fixation.

I did sort of generally try to explain that if the baby never learns that bonking his head hurts it'll take him longer to figure it out and he'll end up getting more hurt in the long run. But DH doesn't buy it. Which is particularly irritating because he defers to my parenting knowledge most of the time. But he's becoming increasingly OCD and overprotective and it's becoming more and more difficult to battle it. But I do like the idea of showing him quotes from recommendations against the idea. Or I could always hand him a stack of books and challenge him to point out where it is recommended.

Originally Posted by magstphil

are helmets for babies a normal thing? i had never heard of them until now...

Me either! I've been focusing so far on the fact that they just are NOT normal! They are only used on babies that have that flat-head problem that I can never remember the name of, as far as I know. I'm a bit surprised there is one being sold to the general public... although not really. Surely some OCD person like my hubby has decided that's a great idea to market to parents.

Maggie, I'm so sorry about your DH getting laid off. Sending prayers your way.

Still catching up, but welcome to all the new posters!

[NewCrunchyDaddy]

Originally Posted by EFPookie

Becky, we were sealed in Seattle too (in '96)0125. I promised my grandpa when it was built that I'd get sealed there.

Apparently my math genius DS2 wants to chime in.

Oh ... I read it as being sealed Jan 25 1996.

Originally Posted by KermitMissesJim

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Ditto to all that, Mags, you're in our prayers!

[klg47]

Originally Posted by Nemmer

They are only used on babies that have that flat-head problem that I can never remember the name of

Positional plagiocephaly

[klg47]

I feel bad sharing a blessing when people (Mags ) are struggling, but I want to be positive

My dh's company gave out digital picture frames for Christmas. I thought it was an awesome idea, but that we didn't really need it. So I decided to give it to my dad for Christmas. I asked my mom to secretly get some pictures ready for the frame, and she was really disappointed she wasn't getting one too. Dh's mom sent money for Christmas, so I used the money to buy my mom a digital frame too. Once I saw one of the frames in action, I regretted giving ours away. I mentioned this to my VT partner when I saw hers, and today SHE BOUGHT ME ONE!!! I loaned her some books on sugar addiction, and she brought the books back, along with another book on healing depression and the frame! What can I say - she is just fabulous!

[livnanismama]

I've been a lurker here for years and I'm finally posting! I'm Sara. I live in Utah. I'm a doula and cbe although I probably won't be attending births for a while since having my own baby. I have 4 kids, the last three born at home, one unassisted. Right now I have no calling - I was released from a 2 year stint in activity days and a sunday school teacher. DH is the assistant scoutmaster, which I love because it means he gets to go camping and I don't have to! We also homeschool at the moment although I would accept any prayers sent my way - I'm trying to get my kids into the neighborhood charter school. We suspect my son (3.5) has sensory integration disorder and he is a handful and homeschooling is NOT going well. We'll be going in for a behavioral evaluation at primary children's hospital as soon as he has a hearing test. I also have a 9yo girl, 5yo girl, and a 6 month old boy. He is the sweetest happiest little chunk ever. He just won't stay little - although that's been a problem since he was born at over 9lbs. He just won't stop growing and his dearest ambition is to get out on his own. The kid is pulling up on everything already!

I've also loved seeing all the Twilight talk. I'm hooked too but after reading them a few times and putting some space between us - they're kind of dorky. In a good way of course. And it looks like I'm in the minority being in the Jacob fanclub. I was so distressed at the end of Eclipse and my husband kept asking me what was wrong. Humiliated - but I admitted I was just so sad that Jacob wasn't real. He told me I couldn't read any more books

[brightonwoman]

Originally Posted by alisaterry

Bronwyn - sorry bout your trip. I hate flying, but I'm the bridesmaid in a CA wedding in April. Can't wait to fly with a 6 month old!

it beats driving!!!!!!!

sam was 7 mo old when we moved (flew) 13hrs from utah to alaska....WAAYYYY better than two weeks earlier when we drove 15 hrs to wasington! I think the main difference was being in my lap vs strapped in a seat!

[marlygf]

Maggie, I'm so sorry. I wish all the luck to your husband to find a new job

Welcome Sara, It's nice to "see" you here

[brightonwoman]

Originally Posted by LionTigerBear

I meant Thai fisherman pants. Like this. Thanks, though!

way cuter than grundens anyhow. LOL

[brightonwoman]

Originally Posted by livnanismama

I've been a lurker here for years and I'm finally posting! I'm Sara.
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hi sara!

[guestmama9911]

Originally Posted by livnanismama

I've been a lurker here for years and I'm finally posting! I'm Sara. I live in Utah.

Which part of Utah? We're in Orem and NCD works at a really awesome charter school in Springville.

[brightonwoman]

Originally Posted by klg47

I totally know what you mean. My dh was being a total idiot this summer, and I still strongly needed him there at my birth. I guess I would have survived without him. . . maybe? I mean, I guess soldiers' wives do it all the time, and they get through it. (There's a soldier-dying song on the radio right now - the line that says "If you're reading this, half way around the world, I won't be there to see the birth of our little girl. . ." That gets me every time).

Yeah. I know a lot of women who want their mom or sister there--not me! My sister WAS there at sam's birth, but it was because she was Willy's 'doula' so he could be there but we didn't need to worry about him. I dont' ever want my mom there I dont' think.
It's funny, because growing up I always saw how my dad was when my mom was in labor (all my younger siblings were homebirths). He was pretty uninvolved...often sat in the next room reading or things like that. He would come if mom asked him, but she usually just did her thing with the midwife and dad was really hands off. I know it's because that's waht he felt most comfortable with. For myself, I knew I wanted a doula, and I told dh he could be as involved--or UNinvolved--as he felt comfortable with. That's what I said before hand... when I was actually in labor, I didn't want anyone except dh to touch me or talk to me. Nobody. I wanted his voice and his hand and that's it. Good thing he wanted to be very involved!
I can't imagine having to plan for a birth without him...on the other hand, if my due date were such that he probably wouldn't be able to make it, then I figure I'd better plan on him NOT being there, rather than getting my hopes up unduly, you know? I would certainly have a doula (which I probabyl wouldn't again if dh WERE there). Yeah, I dunno...I have asked my questions an dgotten my facts...and now I mostly just don't think about it...I'll deal with it when it's a reality. At the rate Sammy nurses, I probably wont' be having a baby until spring/summer 09 anyway. (Darnit, we wanted to go be in the Hill cumorah pagent taht summer...hmmm.........)

jenni

[brightonwoman]

Originally Posted by Bekka

I've been exploring this topic because I'm the Primary President and I really struggle with the idea that kids "need to be still." I've put a lot of thought and prayer into this, and we have times during our closing exercises we "practice being still." We have timed it with the whole Primary and got up to 37 seconds! I think that's great with 60 kids!

Oh wow, I love this. I just read your post to dh, and I think we are going to incorporate a minute of being still in with our evening family scripture/prayer time. Start with 30 seconds and work up to 60...ds is super active, and the stillness would be really good for him (also because it's right before his bedtime, so calming down a little is always helpful! LOL)

jenni

[quarteralien]

It's interesting to read others' perspectives on who you want present at birth. I have a hard time understanding those persepectives, I admit, because my ideal birth for years and years has been a solo birth. And it's nothing against DH or anyone else, I just feel like that's my ideal. I look at all the animals who leave the herd and go off by themselves and rejoin the herd with their babies, and that for some reason sounds right to me. Obviously I haven't had that yet. I've had one very interventive hospital birth and one where she was born half an hour after we got there. But that labor was much better for me. I spent almost all of it by myself. DH was asleep since it was the middle of the night, and I just wandered the house, and played on the computer and did my own thing to be comfortable with no one else around. I loved it. It was about half an hour before we left for the hospital that I couldn't keep myself warm anymore (February, during a snowstorm) and crawled in bed with DH. Then we left and she was born right after we got there. Almost perfect. I wish we had stayed home, but we didn't. And I wasn't prepared for UC at that point in my life, as much as I loved the idea of being alone.

Wow, sorry, I didn't mean for that to be so long.

[quarteralien]

double post. MDC was being weird this morning.