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post #61 of 123
Well, I have to admit that I know MANY people right now that are pg! I think it is in the water!


As for thinking of who I would be leaving behind, no, I don't think about that. I have placed my trust in my God and I know that He has everything under control. We try and make things easier, like having insurance to help out and responsible people to care for the children, but that is all hypothetical as once we are gone I can't make sure any of it gets cared for like I want it to. So I have to have faith. And I try and instill a sense of belonging into my children with us as well as with their siblings. So that if one or some of us are lost, the remaining ones can cling together for emotional support. Life is too short to spend it worrying.

Anyways, that is how we try and prepare for it, though it really is on the bottom of our list of priorities and something that we just don't really worry about.
post #62 of 123
It's something that freaks me out a lot. I don't trust my ex to make sure that my boys get to see their sister on a regular basis (well, tbh, I worry about my ex.) DH has parental responsibility for my boys through a residency order, but if something happens to me there's really no way that he could stop them going to live with my ex, unless my ex refused to have them. That way, he (DH) has an automatic right to contact, and my family will hopefully not be totally split. That's not the only reason we did it- the biggest was because Isaac was in hospital a few times when I was very heavily pregnant with Skye and we needed DH to be able to authorise medical treatment as well- but it's a factor.

Sorry to put my foot in it, though : I have to say I think I'm pregnant enough for at least 4 people- I have a 64" waist. And I'm only 5 ft 3. And I started lying about my EDD because so many people have been asking :
post #63 of 123
Oh you didn't put your foot in it Ive been thinking about you and hoping you aren't getting too desperate but it sounds like you are a teeny bit tired of waiting now.

About my question: my faith is slim so I can't say that he would have the right answer...

The thing that brought this black balloon right back into my line of sight was the death of Shannon0218 this week. She had the same blood clotting disorder as I do, as did another forum friend from another place who died before Christmas.

I am currently not medicated to prevent clots and I've been having twinges in my legs and chest of late so I've been thinking about going to my haematologist to ask him about getting back on anti-coagulants, despite the risks that brings, just to put my mind at rest. If I didn't have any problems it wouldn't worry me too much but I've already had one DVT and another might not be a good thing.

We have a problem with a possible split family too if something were to happen to me although I hope that with my ex having returned to Mexico for a couple of years now that we may not hear from him any time soon and it won't be long before the boys are legally old enough to make their own choice.

Mmm all this then thinking that maybe we aren't really done having babies yet gets my head spinning.
post #64 of 123
I hadn't heard of Shannon0218's death, orangefoot I'm sorry, I know it's the internet but it's still very real. And yeah, I'm tired of waiting- two days straight of incomplete sleep and contracting five minutes apart, for a minute every time. I HATE this bit I know going to 42 weeks would be good, in that half-term is from 41+6 onwards, but still...
post #65 of 123
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: for you, DiD. And big yay for Jenny- is it just me, or do we all seem to be pregnant atm?
Oh I hope so!
post #66 of 123
Horrible day today; I had a bad mirgaine headache all day :

And it was raining all day so the kids couldn't go outside to play so the were all going crazy :

It was great my DH was home to look after the kids while I tried to sleep the migraine off but I slept too long and now it's well and truly after midnight and I can't sleep :yawning:

HELP!!!!!!!!!
post #67 of 123
First of all:

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I dont think my 3 kids qualify as "many" but I feel like I just need some comfort from those of you who have many more than I do...

With my 4 yr old, 2 yr old, and infant who wants to be held all the time-I feel like I am barely surviving.

Barely surviving.

I want to ENJOY this! It is such a precious time!!!

My kids are so mad at me too because ALL I do is take care of the baby!

I feel so terrible to think that just because she is a newborn, she needs ALL my attention, because my 4 yr old and 2 yr old are almost still babies too and they need me as well.

I can't do it all. Unfortunatly, I have to leave the infant to cry when I do things such as change my 2 yr olds diaper, or make lunch. Because they HAVE to eat.

All I can do is BARELY scrape by with providing their basic needs, and thats it. I am trying to babywear, but the baby doesnt want to sleep all the time and I cant figure out any of the carrys where a newborn can look around and not be in a little pouch.

My mom came over to drop something off and I made her stay for an hour and hold the baby while I did dishes, made lunch, and threw dinner in the crockpot. If she hadnt, we would have had no dinner and my kitchen would have been so messy I couldnt even throw something down for the family. (small kitchen)

Ugh....yesterday was a bad day. I want today to be better. I don't know how to do all of this!


wahhhhh!!!!!!!!!!! Sorry for whining, thanks for letting me though. I hope I didn't crash your thread too much.

I feel like a mom of many right now. A sucky mom of many.
post #68 of 123


Three counts. If you feel like it counts, then it counts.
From a practical point of view, have you got a wrap? If so, I would get over to the babywearer forums and find someone local to you who can get you doing a back carry- slingdad did an impressive tutorial on a secured high back carry which is fairly simple to do on an inanimate teddy bear, though I don't know about a wriggly baby : What can I say, I'm still at the homework stage?
Also, get out of the house. I know it stinks, but IME, out is easier than in. Plus out has playgroups and peole who will love the opportunity to snuggle a newborn while you drink a hot mug of tea, and various other useful things.
You're scaring me now, I'd forgotten just how bad a toddler and a newborn could be. Just trying to be zen and calm and contract peacefully and gently is surprisingly tough when you have someone asking for her brmbrm. (aka pacifier...)

Baltic Ballet, hope you feel better soon.
post #69 of 123
transformed-

My fourth baby slept best as a newborn when he was swaddled. He'd even let me put him down if I remembered to swaddle him before he fell asleep. Those velcro swaddling blankets are the best invention ever.

Can you find a mother's helper to come over once or twice a week to help with the kids? Is your mom available to come over more often and hang out so you can get stuff done (or help you with the stuff that needs doing)?
post #70 of 123
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Baltic Ballet, hope you feel better soon.

Thanks Helen; I am feeling much better today after a sleep in and some coffee

I am really impressed with your knitting skills Helen, the cloche and scarf are really cute. I am enjoying reading your blog, I am too lazy to do the blog thing and I haven't got the patience to knit.
post #71 of 123
Just realised that I had added all my kids names to my signature but hadn’t added my own name to it – I am Sam by the way
post #72 of 123
I am doing a dance of joy.My baby is 8 months old and I am NOT pregnant!!!!!I have been pregnant or getting over a pregnancy since 2004 and 7 months seemed to be the fertile month.woohoo! I really want to enjoy this baby.He seems to want to leap forward though.Last month we were at a restaurant and my oldest needed to use the bathroom.DH took him leaving me with the crew and we were seated outside on the parking lot.I was busy wrangling DD and keeping track of DS#2 when I realized that the baby was swiping handfuls of rice into his mouth as fast as he could manage!Guess I gotta get serious with the solids.
Sorry you had a bad day Sam.(those are my initials)Hope things are better today/tonight.
Flapjack do we need to have a talk with your belly!?
Transformed I felt overwhelmed at 2 kids and then.....I really like using my mei tei,I fold my newborn's legs in and kinda swaddle style and wear them on my front so I can kiss thier head.You still feel kinda pregnant though.
Ack there are kids all over the place with needs and DH is adding his in too.have a nice weekend!
post #73 of 123
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Sorry you had a bad day Sam.(those are my initials)Hope things are better today/tonight.

Thanks Crittersmom i am feeling much better today
post #74 of 123
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transformed-

My fourth baby slept best as a newborn when he was swaddled. He'd even let me put him down if I remembered to swaddle him before he fell asleep. Those velcro swaddling blankets are the best invention ever.

Can you find a mother's helper to come over once or twice a week to help with the kids? Is your mom available to come over more often and hang out so you can get stuff done (or help you with the stuff that needs doing)?
sigh....maybe. Right now, coordinating stuff like that feels like another chore I need to get to on a mile long list-kwim?

I sent all my CSA veggies home with my mom for her to chop up for me so I can freeze them.

I think the hardest part for me is preparing ahead.

I used to just "pop in the grocery store" when I needed something. Now I drive to 4 gas stations looking for half & half because I can lock the kids in the car. :

So I am not stocked up on grocerys or anything-until tues, dh's day off.

Sometimes I think I am such a wuss though. I mean, there are single mother s out there who dont have partners! Also, I have an electric washing machine, dishwasher, etc. Its not like I am doing these chores by hand. I really am spoiled and take it for granted!

I get really overwhelmed though. Like right now, my 2 yr old is talking to me as I type and I am getting really rattled trying to do 2 things at one time. I am realy good at doing one thing at a time.

Also I am pretty rattled my noise. (Which my house is full of right now!)
post #75 of 123
Hi, I didn't know that this thread was here. Hoping I can join in... I have 5 kids - 3 big boys and a set of 2 yr old twins.
post #76 of 123
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First of all:

I can't do it all. Unfortunatly, I have to leave the infant to cry when I do things such as change my 2 yr olds diaper, or make lunch. Because they HAVE to eat.

I feel like a mom of many right now. A sucky mom of many.
HI, I can really relate to your post. I have 2 yr old twins and it was a killer to have to put one down to tend to the other. You just do the best that you can and know that your kids are going to learn how to share well. It does get better.

Is it possible that your mom could make a few meals that you could keep in the freezer for you as you adjust?
post #77 of 123
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Is it possible that your mom could make a few meals that you could keep in the freezer for you as you adjust?
%$*#^$

Someone better make me some da** meals.

Its weird, the more kids I have, the less people help out.
post #78 of 123
Transformed, does anyone in the US do internet mail order grocery shopping?

Here's a big question: hth do you get your house calm and quiet enough and the children to stop fighting for long enough to actually go into active labour??? I was at the point in Waitrose where total strangers were expressing concern for me when I was out and about, but I got home and zip- another stall. Though that could be related to the battle of the saucepans and the scalded eyeballs and everything else going on, of course
post #79 of 123
I just noticed Amazon.com does...I havent compared prices yet, but that would help tremendously.
post #80 of 123
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Its weird, the more kids I have, the less people help out.
Indeed. There's some strange inverse lawa bout help that I think comes from the thought that if you are bonkers enough to have more than one, that's your look out

Apart from gettting your shoopping online (I thanked god for Tesco Direct when dd was born) the other thing you can do is get in your cupboards and write down what you have got then make a list of some meals you can make with the stuff. Sometimes I can't get to the shops or haven't got any money to go shopping and we can go a few days with what we have in dry beans and odd veg or tinned goods. A veg stock with noodles in and bits of ham or bacon and something green in can be put together quite quickly.

If you can get 10 minutes of peace you could make a big batch of something like hot cakes or waffles and put them in the fridge or freezer. They make good quick snacks or the start of a lunch depending on what you serve them with. Think about what you can prepare ahead, like soaking beans or peeling and chopping veg or making stock to put in the fridge can all be done when you have a minute and kept for later.

I'm thinking of getting a slow cooker so that I can put things in it a bit at a time when I have moments without madness then put it on later to be ready for dinner. I always cook from scratch but some days it is hard to stand in the kitchen for a solid 20-30 minutes without some drama happening elsewhere or Frida wanting to stand on my feet or get on the counter to eat raw onion....

All this may seem like a bridge too far at the moment but if you think about it you might find something you can do
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