Top o' the year to you, May (04) Mamas! - Page 20

[TurboClaudia]

questions from elsanne

Originally Posted by elsanne

Wait, aren't there some terribly nosey and invasive questions we all have asked/answered along the way that we could ask of these new gals? I am so happy to have fresh blood!

Something like: how did you pick your username (got that one to ecco in prev. post, see above), how did you pick your spouse and meet him/her, what else? oh, what do you like to do in that fantasy time called "spare time", any interesting tidbits about yourself? What is something about yourself we would never guess? How old are you? etc....

found them. didn't go back far enough.

~c

[KKmama]

I feel like I'm totally sneaking off to post... :

Originally Posted by mamameg

FF, I can relate to the "wow, it's not a baby, it's a PERSON" sentiment you wrote about. I had the same experience with Jett. And it's happening again as we approach his second birthday. It's still a few months off, but he just seems to be morphing into such a DUDE lately. Very few baby behavior. Lots more tearing it up toddler behavior.

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We all had a long weekend and I am more than ready to send Mia off to school at 11:00. Anyone else have a hard time not feeling drained by the CONSTANT talking from their May babe. I feel bad, but it drives me seriously batty sometimes.

I'm totally right there with L (thinking that same thought this morning). I suppose it makes sense, since Jett and L are only a couple of days apart.

And Z is *totally* where Mia is at. Did I ever mention that when L's speech therapist finally met Z (she comes when he's at preschool), the whole picture became clear for her: there is literally not enough oxygen left in the room for L. One of the things we work on is taking turns speaking so she gets a chance, too.

Originally Posted by meesa143

I'm in need of some support. I took Kade into the doc today. He has a double ear infection and most likely rsv. He started wheezing last night and he has had a fever of around 103 for a couple days. His cough sounds awful. He's not eating well and early this morning, he threw up all over the bed. I didn't get any sleep last night, I was waking up every 15-30 minutes checking on him.
I just need a break!

Ug, rsv, ug ug ug. You have my sympathies. Poor little guy. (I had a night similar to yours, except mine was because poor stuffed up coughing L just wanted to nurse every 1/2 hr). Winter germs are the WORST! What do you do to take care of rsv?

Originally Posted by elsanne

I totally feel like the center of the universe in my house. *sigh* stardom can be so droll.

Today in bellydance class (taking, not giving, thank gawds) we started to do some slow movements, which are so intense, and I started thinking about how some of them represent birth and death, and how close to those I am, and I burst into tears, in the middle of class, and rushed out. Wah. So sad, at the moment, that this is a decision I am faced with. Ugh.

I feel like the acrobat who's riding the bicycle, with the rest of the troupe balancing precariously on my shoulders.

I'm sorry about the intensity in class, but also glad you're able to express your feelings. Let us know when you have something scheduled. :

[quote=A&L+1;10356163]Oh Elsanne, s

Originally Posted by TurboClaudia

found them. didn't go back far enough.
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Originally Posted by elsanne http://www.mothering.com/discussions...s/viewpost.gif
Wait, aren't there some terribly nosey and invasive questions we all have asked/answered along the way that we could ask of these new gals? I am so happy to have fresh blood!

Something like: how did you pick your username (got that one to ecco in prev. post, see above), how did you pick your spouse and meet him/her, what else? oh, what do you like to do in that fantasy time called "spare time", any interesting tidbits about yourself? What is something about yourself we would never guess? How old are you? etc....

found them. didn't go back far enough.

Should I go first? And can I add a question? Extemporize on your path to mamahood. (Have we ever talked specifically about that before? I know at least sketchy version for most of you, but it's a bit fuzzy in my brain after 4 years.)

My username is super creative. My first 2 initials are KK. I am a mama. (But seriously, extended relatives called me KK when I was small, and dh does, too. I am occasionally known as SuperKK, though I believe that username is already taken here, or I suppose I'd switch.)

Went to high school with dh. Dated, but were separated because of religion/schooling/etc. Found each other again 6 years later, got back together, etc. (Known each other 22 1/2 yrs, married 10 1/2.) Spare time: I like to garden :, knit/spin/sew/do other crafty stuff , read:, hike, not always in that order. Interesting/unguessable tidbits... uh, I'm left-handed. I swear a *lot* (not in front of my kids). I have seen Nelson Mandela speak, live, in person. I have freckles. I *love* Jane Austen (a little too much and have gotten in the habit of rewatching the BBC version of Pride and Prejudice yearly. I'm 37, soon to be 38.

[orangecanoe]

meesa--oh no! I'm so understanding of the need for a break and wellness.

els--*hugs* you are loved!

GI appt productive...more when I have 2 hands to type. basically, hj has a month or so to get it together and : or a tube may be in the future. actually okay will any of the possibilities s a thriving baby is most important...

[Miss Juice]

Continued hugs and support to elsanne.

SO glad Heath and HJ are home! :, boy, eat!

meesa, speedy healing vibes to everyone. I know the feeling of Just. Needing. A. Break.

I'll be back to answer questions later - tribe willing.

[Mama Faery]

SO MUCH s and support to Elsanne and Meesa.
And continued to Heather and HJ.
A break. Like, for real, man.

[elsanne]

Hi gals.

Well, it's done: I've taken the pills that should "bring back my period". I really want to blog this crazy thing but don't dare. The experience of being in this situation, the thing I never thought I'd do, the illegality of abortion in Mexico except for Mexico City (4 hrs away), the brave and warm woman whose midwifery career is being eclipsed by her illegal practice because she's the only resource around, her extra room in her house turned into a clinic, the visions of my son, whom I've asked to come 'round a bit later, when times are a bit more flush, the cramping in my belly.

"extemporize"? kk gets many extra credit points for using that word.

When I got pregnant with Sol, which was my intro into motherhood, I had been living with Viet for about two years, and had no intentions whatsoever of doing a family thing with this fun, bohemian, po' ass Mexican artist. It threw me into a tailspin and into the therapist's office, and threw Viet into "completely-emotionally-unavailable" land, and to call my pregnancy with Sol traumatic is just about correct. I was very, very alone and very, very sad, even though V was still in the house. I got all kinds of illnesses, and had a pretty sucky pregnancy. I still cry thinking how hard those times were for me.
Sol came, and we did the best we could, until she was about 14 mo old and we decided to live separately, which was great for both. Then Amara appeared...we lived separately for a long time, even though we were still together, until A was about a year old, little by little he began spending more and more nights, moving over more and more clothing, taking over the spare room. I was/am glad, because we're getting along and working it out.

However, I'm still paying ALL the bills and just by the hair of my chinny chin chin, as well...obviously I'm a little obsessed with this topic right now because I can't seem to stop mentioning it (at least in my head). Even though I said that money is a horrible reason to have an abortion, because the universe always provides, that is the main reason--that, and the surrounding pressure to work and be the mommy of a newborn and two others, I just can't do it. I will drown. I will be ever further from the thriving elsanne and overwhelmed by survival mode. When V and I spoke about this pregnancy, I started to senses him pull back, and away, and my GREAT NEEDINESS for all kinds of support to make it through this, and I felt that pit of despair much like with Sol's pregnancy, only made that much harder by the need to care for/provide for them, and myself, and I just can't tell you how panicky that feels. Then my boss calls and yells so much I'm sure I'm going to be fired.

I feel the need to explain myself, probably mostly to myself, but also to some of the newer girls, who may be tempted to judge (oh! we are so transparent! as I write this, I know I'm the one judging myself here...). So anyway, there it is.

[KKmama]

Let he who is without sin cast the first stone. (I won't be casting any stones, folks.) And mega ((((Elsanne)))). You don't need to explain. Life is complicated. Decisions are complicated. There are no easy answers. Even when we make decisions which we feel are the right direction, it doesn't mean that they are easy to carry out.

I have some understanding of your pregnancy with Sol (my pregnancy with L had some similarities... different reasons, but still difficult... so hard to be sad, conflicted, sick, and pregnant). I have some understanding of your pregnancy right now (some similarities to an earlier pregnancy... oh, how it weighs on you, oh, how it can feel like your body, your biology is your enemy and has gone against you).

I just want things to be okay with you, for the YOU (and all that orbits around you) that is here and now to be okay.

Els, you might want to check out NPR's Talk of the Nation site... today was the 35th anniversary of Roe v. Wade, and there was a program about abortion and how abortion is something that doesn't get/can't get talked about. (Try this link, date was 1/22/08, definitely read the comments of the blog thingy.)

[DucetteMama21842]

Jumpin in to say I'm alright...

had stomach flu and feeling like crap with a migraine. Jaz won't sleep now... took her to the chiro this morning. the chiro. Tell more later... she was little miss sleepypoo since the appointment... now it's wide awake girl keeping me company in these hours.

I need to be : but can't quit : and want to be

[A&L+1]

Originally Posted by elsanne

Well, it's done: I've taken the pills that should "bring back my period"...

As I read this whole post (not just the part quoted above) I imagined myself getting out the quilt that my great grandmother made and wrapping it around you. It was a surprising and clear image in my mind, so I feel compelled to share it with you. The quilt is blue and white only, and in my mind I can imagine the sound of it unfurling around your shoulders.

[TurboClaudia]

and then, els, you shall lay on the couch and I'll read you poetry out loud (or to myself when you want to nap) and we'll talk about our already here beautiful children and their fun and not so fun moments, what we wish for our lives, our hopes and dreams for our families... and we'll drink tea and run to the bathroom to pee whenever we need. and

~claudia

[mcsarahb]

And then when you are tired and drained of energy I will rub your feet and hands with yummy lotion and feed you iron-rich foods and nettle tea.

Sarah

[orangecanoe]

And then I snug that quilt up tight and put the softest mmf! socks upon your feet and tend to the girls while you rest.

[Sarah'sMama]

And then I'll start a cd of softly playing music and bring you cucumbers for your eyelids. And a pot of soup to warm your soul.

[mamameg]

And when you rise from your resting, I will ladle steaming hot soup into an earthenware dish and serve it to you with a hunk of crusty bread, fresh from the oven.

[elsanne]

Oh, wow...now you've done it, I'm bawling!

And, NOT bleeding. *sigh*

[KKmama]

I will bring you chocolate, and arrange the flowers before I take the girls out so you can have some peace. I will make sure they both get naps so *you* can have a nap.

[TurboClaudia]

can I just say the mmf rock?

[nuggetsmom]

And I will make sure the phone gets answered and you won't have to talk to anyone you don't want to talk to. I will keep the house warm and make cookies and take the kids out. And remind you that "those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind!" I forget who said that but I think it seems apropos.

mmf do rock

[meesa143]

Originally Posted by elsanne

I feel the need to explain myself, probably mostly to myself, but also to some of the newer girls, who may be tempted to judge (oh! we are so transparent! as I write this, I know I'm the one judging myself here...). So anyway, there it is.

You don't need to explain. Who am I to judge? You never know what you would do a situation unless you are actually there, imo. I hope all goes well.
My sick brain can't think of something to do for you. Oh, I would make you dinner, whatever you like

Originally Posted by DucetteMama21842

had stomach flu and feeling like crap with a migraine. Jaz won't sleep now... took her to the chiro this morning. the chiro. Tell more later... she was little miss sleepypoo since the appointment... now it's wide awake girl keeping me company in these hours.

I hope you feel better.

K seems to be doing a little better today. No fever, but lots of wheezing and clinging to mama. He's finally napping so I can post. I'm waiting on a call from the pedi. I have lots of questions that didn't come to me until it was time to go to bed, of course. Does anyone know if it's better to use a humidifier in this case? And is there anything against us both being on antibiotics if I'm nursing? I am planning on doing probiotics, but anything else I need to do?

[Sarah'sMama]

meesa, I just came on to check on you guys and lend some support. I can't see a problem with you both being on abx. sounds like you've got the probiotics covered, so that's a good thing, don't need no stinkin' yeast.

Ducette, I've been wondering where you were. I hope you're back among the living after the flu.