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post #101 of 1426
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Originally Posted by JSMa View Post
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Am the only one who feels like I'm too old at 26? I think a lot of that is the fibromyalgia though...
I feel way old at 28. If I do not get pregnant this cycle then chances of me giving birth before I turn 29 are extraordinarily low. I *never* saw myself waiting this long to have kids, always wanted to be done by 30. That's not going to happen if we want more than one.

Now, I know lots and lots of women have healthy pregnancies at ages much older than mine. My thinking is not logical. My mom had her first at 20, my sister her first at 18. I always thought I would do the same or similar, but I didn't even get married 'til 24. (I also know a lot of women have babies without being married, but that's not for me, so waiting it was.)
post #102 of 1426
[QUOTE=Olives;10271309]How involved is everyone's significant other in this whole baby-making mess, besides the obvious of course?

I'm glad you asked this question. Am I the only white bread girl with a crunchy partner?

When dh and I got married 3 years ago, he was all about FAM, homebirth, midwives, etc. He's also in to organic foods, green living, tai chi, pilates accupressure, and basicly naturopathy in general. Thankfully dh gave me freedom to research and accept my own level of natural living.

Dh isn't charting my temperatures or watching my cycle, but encourages me to do what's right for me - he does remind me to exercise, take vitamins and offers me fish oil daily. I've agreed to a direct entry midwife and freestanding birth center (I hate our apartment). And since I have mildly high blood pressure, I plan to have a doula if I don't qualify for the birth center. Dh is all for a doula since he figures he can learn alot from her. We're 1000 miles from my mom, 3000 miles from his mom and dh gets woozy at the sight of blood. I figure I'll need someone!
post #103 of 1426
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Originally Posted by JSMa View Post
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Am the only one who feels like I'm too old at 26?
I feel too old at 25!!!!! Not too old in a physical way...I had just always hoped to have my first at 25 which isn't going to happen I too would like to be done by 30 and I think we want 3. My DP is a young 34, so although he's only felt ready for about a year...I don't want people at future Little League Games asking about our kids' grandfather :
post #104 of 1426
Thanks Lee! I hope it works out! But either way - I dont' want to wait any more!
post #105 of 1426
In terms of my "big life plans", I'm right on schedule. I wanted to start having kiddies at about 25/26. If we do conceive, I'll have just turned 26 when I give birth.

In terms of feeling ready to parent, yeah, there is a little nervousness there. I have done a lot of reading, have role models I'd like to emulate, but I know that the actual experience of parenting is nothing you can be prepared for. So, I'm ready to be surprised! I think b/c Dh and I have conscious ideas on how we want to raise our kids we'll do well, but again, it's the unknown.
post #106 of 1426
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I'm glad you asked this question. Am I the only white bread girl with a crunchy partner?
LOL! Actually, both of us are basically white bread people here. (Not literally - we eat wheat bread. ) In fact, when I told him about a thread where I had read about "family cloth" he told me "You have GOT to stop going to those websites!" Heeheehee. For the record, I am in no way, shape, or form crunchy enough to get past the ew factor of family cloth. I just wanted to see his reaction.

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I feel too old at 25!!!!! Not too old in a physical way...I had just always hoped to have my first at 25 which isn't going to happen I too would like to be done by 30 and I think we want 3. My DP is a young 34, so although he's only felt ready for about a year...I don't want people at future Little League Games asking about our kids' grandfather :
HA! Mine's actually a few months younger than me, but has been losing his hair for forever now. On the rare occasions he orders a drink in a restaurant, he never gets carded - even at the places that say they card everyone that looks under 30 or 40. And really, he's got a smooth, almost baby-face. It's just the (lack of) hair that throws everyone off. So we may have the same problem!

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Thanks Lee! I hope it works out! But either way - I dont' want to wait any more!
Yup yup! That's me too. In fact, I'd quit work and instead go to school in a heartbeat if we wouldn't have to take out student loans.
post #107 of 1426
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In terms of my "big life plans", I'm right on schedule. I wanted to start having kiddies at about 25/26. If we do conceive, I'll have just turned 26 when I give birth.
Making plans and following through... now there's a concept!

I'm sure the two of you will do great. And hey, tomorrow's the big testing day! :
post #108 of 1426
Not to spam the thread with a ton of responses in a row, but I was just wondering how your appointment went, JSMa.

The EWCM I had last night seems to have completely disappeared, and took all other kinds of CM with it. Maybe I ovulated and I'll see a temp rise soon? Of course, it's possible my body is still regulating from the pills, and it doesn't mean a darn thing.
post #109 of 1426
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Originally Posted by JSMa View Post
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Am the only one who feels like I'm too old at 26? I think a lot of that is the fibromyalgia though...


I know what you mean- I am in the same boat as julia v- I don't feel PHYSICALLY old, but I always thought when I was younger that I would have kids around the same time my mom had them, so I just feel like my time is running out. My mom was done having kids at 28, and IF I get preggers this summer as planned, then I will have my first at 27, and probably my last in my 30's. I always thought that I would be done having kids by the time I was 30, but oh well, you can't plan everything. I do get a little jealous when I hear 22 year olds talking about being pregnant, though!

Birdie- good for you for going for it! I think too many people wait until it is perfect and then it is too late. Good luck!

Amber Lion- I will be stalking this thread for an update on your HPT!!! Don't leave us hangin!

Ok everyone, what does it mean to be "white bread" and have a "crunchy" partner? I'm lost.
post #110 of 1426
Appointment went well. I feel a bit more at peace with everything today. I went to a clinic and actually it was a mid-wife working there yesterday, so that was pretty cool.

She said my cervix looked good and healthy, no return of abnormal cells, which was a releif for me since I missed my last check-up since he LEEP procedure.

She said my cycles may be really long now because I'm a little overweight, she said just shedding 10 - 20 lbs could help a lot. I actually had started watching my portions and walking more a couple weeks ago to get healthier and have already lost 5 lbs, so I'm on the right track.

She approved all the vitamins I'm taking and also gave advice about looking into some pre-natals at a health food store that have less dyes and stuff and would be less likely to cause naseau.

She was very enthusiatic and encouraging for me to start charting, since my cycles are so long now, she said it could help me figure it all out.

So got a basal thermometer last nigth and will be diving into that.

DP is being really sweet and supportive too. Amazingly he didn't find temping too odd, which I thought he would. lol



Like many others have said... I always thought I'd have at least one child by now and be done by 30 as well... that may or may not happen. lol
post #111 of 1426
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Originally Posted by aprilgurlie View Post
Ok everyone, what does it mean to be "white bread" and have a "crunchy" partner? I'm lost.
Hee! I'm interpreting it as "white bread" = mainstream, and "crunchy" = well, crunchy.

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Appointment went well. I feel a bit more at peace with everything today. I went to a clinic and actually it was a mid-wife working there yesterday, so that was pretty cool.
You got a midwife there?? Excellent!

I'm glad your tests and everything looked normal, and that you got some practical advice. And congrats on the weight loss! I've heard that even a few pounds can make a huge difference. That's great that your partner is being supportive, too.

Good luck with the charting. I hope you got a thermometer that has recall for at least the last temp taken. I'd be lost if mine didn't have that. Oh, and I *did* get my highest temp so far today! It may not count though - I woke up because my arms were really itchy (I have DRY skin, especially when it's and so I was scratching at them, mostly asleep, when I realized it was 45 minutes before I usually temp, and there was no way I'd sleep for 3 more hours before waking up and I haven't been still and this day is going to be a LOSS. (That's what went through my head. ) Then I got over myself and just went ahead and temped, and noted the irregularities in my chart.

Now. Off to find if Amber has updated another thread already.
post #112 of 1426
Yup the thermometer recalls last temp taken.

I temped this morning to get into a routine. I think I'm suposed to start on the first day after AF ends or something, but who knows when that will be. So I figure it can't hurt to start now.
post #113 of 1426
Here I am! BFN first thing this morning. Like totally and completely no question about it negative.

I'm not upset, a little sad, but kind of relieved to know either way. Af should show in the next couple of days. I would like to know how, when not pregnant and NEVER having this symptom before in my life, my boobs could be tingly and look "different" to my Dh though. I guess there were a lot of psychosomatic symptoms, and maybe it was b/c I was looking for them that I felt them, but I do NOT cramp b/t O and Af and do NOT have weird tingly/aching in my boobs normally.
post #114 of 1426
JSMa, I'd temp through your whole cycle to being with. First day of bleeding to first day of bleeding. Once you get a feel for your cycles then you might slack off a bit on either end, but when starting out it's much easier to see the pattern with a whole cycle of temps!
post #115 of 1426
Thanks, Amber! That's what I was kind of thinking, too. Good to know I'm on the right track. *nods*

*hugs* Sorry about the BFN. They do suck... and I've had the whole slew of symptoms with no luck before too... I think sometimes they can come about for wanting it so much... I've been trying very hard to ignore it all so I don't stress out too much. lol Good Luck!!
post #116 of 1426
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Originally Posted by Amber Lion View Post
Here I am! BFN first thing this morning. Like totally and completely no question about it negative.

I'm not upset, a little sad, but kind of relieved to know either way. Af should show in the next couple of days. I would like to know how, when not pregnant and NEVER having this symptom before in my life, my boobs could be tingly and look "different" to my Dh though. I guess there were a lot of psychosomatic symptoms, and maybe it was b/c I was looking for them that I felt them, but I do NOT cramp b/t O and Af and do NOT have weird tingly/aching in my boobs normally.
You know, I got the tingly boobs thing too last month. For me it was all down in my nipples - almost like pins being poked through the fleshy part right behind them, but not actually painful. Just twinges. And I really do think I got a faint positive. Mind, this month I've felt it a little here and there, so really this is absolutely no use to you.

Sorry about the negative. Do you get/have any about-to-start symptoms? At 13 DPO a false negative is still possible, no? (I don't know if you want encouragement or if you'd rather just go with this cycle being over. It does sound odd that you've felt new symptoms and that even your husband has noticed a change.)

ETA: With regards of when to temp, I started in earnest the last day of my period this month. I know I should have started earlier, but my husband was still off work that week and I decided that dealing with my period was enough for one week. I did temp a few times that week, but not at consistant times, so I've discarded those.
post #117 of 1426
Thanks lee! I'm not sure if I want encouragement either, both Dh and my friend said, "It's too early, it'll show up + later." and it really annoyed me for some reason. I'm ok that we didn't get it this cycle. I'm sad, but ok about it, yk? As for about-to-start symptoms, well I've been cramping pretty hard yesterday and on and off today. I've had that throughout though, so who knows!

Didn't help that we talked about infertility in class today.
post #118 of 1426
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Amber Lion, so sorry that you got a -. I was so sure that you were going to get a BFP! There's always next month if it ends up that you truly aren't pregnant. But of course you know that, just trying to say something comforting and probably not doing a good job.
post #119 of 1426
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Didn't help that we talked about infertility in class today.
Ouch.

And I totally understand about all the rest. I'd probably just go with "not pregnant" and focus on relaxing (haaa) for the next cycle unless I had reason to think otherwise. Or unless, you know, I was planning on doing illicit drugs or getting sloshed or something.
post #120 of 1426
Thanks April!

Lee that's too funny you should mention illicit drugs/sloshed-ness b/c I got home from school yesterday and Dh was kind of flipping out. He went off about how he hadn't been really trying, so he was obviously putting out the energy that he didn't really want this, but he DOES really want this, so he's going to do better this cycle and REALLY not smoke or drink or ... b/c now he knows how much he wants it and he's SO sorry for not committing fully and, and.... : it was super sweet. Guess the BFN was a major wake up call for him, so we've been talking a lot about what he/we can do to put out the energy that we're really ready for this.

We were originally going to skip this next month b/c Dh has an aversion to scorpios (no offense, he's just never met one he liked), but he doesn't want to anymore! So we've got two more tries before we sink back into trying-to-avoid-dom.
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