I just finished reading through the thread, so now I'll answer some of the questions everyone had!
We want 4-5 kids. Maybe more, maybe less, we'll see how it goes. But we both come from big families (me-5, dh-9) so we want a big family
I've been having weird mommy dreams for years! Once I had quints, 4 girls and a boy, and I even named them. The latest dream was last night. I was nursing my tiny baby, but I kept leaving her with my mom or sister and then getting mad when they gave her formula without asking me. But I was leaving her for hours and hours with no pumped milk, and I was still mad that they didn't at least ask. But I still left the baby and felt kind of indifferent towards her. Most of my dreams I'm a bad mommy too, forgetting the baby, leaving it with others for days, not caring about it, trying to save it from something and I can't etc. I always feel so bad when I wake up.
We also plan on having a home birth. DH is totally on board with all my “crunchiness” and even promotes it to others! I have to remind him that I don't want the whole world to know all our business, but it's nice to know he feels the same as me.
As for being involved, for now while we are TTA dh will sometimes read me my temp, but that's about it. He told me he doesn't want to know when I find out I'm pregnant, and he wants me to surprise him somehow fun. Speaking of which, has anyone decided yet how they will tell their families? I already know how, and I've actually been working on it for a year, but I have two sisters that are on mothering, so I don't want to ruin it for them in case they read this
If anyone is DYING to know, pm me. For my dh though, I thought about putting "you're going to be a daddy" in a fortune cookie, but I don't know. Any ideas? And for the people I nanny, I'm going to make shirts for the boys that say something like "I'm going to need a new nanny in about 9 months." My sisters always do something fun and creative, so I want to also. It makes it more exciting to share the news!