TTC #1 in 2008 in our 20's! - Page 2

[kriket]

can i join? i promise to bring baby-dust!

I'm 23 and DH is 22 we were married in september but bought our house together june 2005 and went to the same HS. We both work in the same grassroots video game store (but different buildings). we've been TTC since Aug 07 after 5 rotten years on the pill and no luck yet. I have 45-50 day cycles and probably anovulatory but I'm hoping to catch that one eggy that does slip out!

Glad to meet everyone and here's for BFP's in 08! (very very very early '08 )

[Amber Lion]

: to all the new ladies!

I'm not sure if this is taking the place of the ttc in 20's thread... I think we're gearing more towards ttc #1 (with welcome exceptions!!)That sound right?

I love that I'm not the only one who goes from grinning like an idiot to frozen in terror at the thought of getting pg! I convinced Dh that this timing would work, even though we aren't that financially sound (but doing ok and better than a lot of people I know) and are both starting long journeys: he's starting his own contracting business after working for others for years and I'm heading into at least 8 years of college to get my CNM degree. So it's kind of hard when I get the terror moments b/c once Dh agreed he seemed to have dropped all his doubts! I know it will work out ok, but this *first* decision to become parents is so huge, yk?

Dh and I were talking the other day and we both agreed we wished it'd be 3 months from now already. That way we'd either be pg and could start moving in that direction, or we wouldn't and could get on with life as it has been.

Anyways, I'm fertile now and we've been bd'ing more than we have probably in forever! I told myself I wouldn't time bding and would just go with the flow, but I can't!! When I see that ewcm I can't just pass it up b/c Dh isn't initiating, yk?!?! Ahhhh! So AF should be due around the middle of the month, I'll probably wait till then to test... or at least that's the plan!

ETA: Oooh, My mom's bday is the 14th, I might test then just b/c having a BFP to call her and tell her about would be a cool bday present, wouldn't it? It couldd be early to test though depending on when my temp jumps...

[brandyshea]

I just posted this reply somewhere else, but it applies here too. I'm 26 and will be 27 when we start ttc #1. My husband is 32. I'm getting my IUD out in February and we plan on ttc starting in June. If it happens before that, it's not a big deal, but we'd really like to save some money and I'd like to work a bit longer before getting knocked up. I just started this job in September after getting my MBA last year!

[TaraRae82]

I'm TTC #1, Cycle #4. Planning to poas on Jan 11. I'm 5dpo today and will be 14dpo that day. I guess if this isn't considered the Jan TTC in our 20's and there's a separate thread for that then I'll just have another thread to stalk! to everyone in the new year!

[Lashlock]

I'm coming to the party! I cannot believe its finally here.. after the years of waiting because it was best for us and for our future kids, its so surreal that its finally here!

I'm 25, as is my husband, and we are going into our 4th year of marriage.. we plan on starting in March, and we'll both be 26 when our first child is due (at a minimum). We will be going into our 5th year of marriage when our first is due as well

[lynxeyedkat]

I'm 23 and my husband is 22. We met in seventh grade and have been together since our senior year of high school. This February we will have been together for five years, half the time we've known each other! We're both so excited to conceive our first. This thread, so far, is a welcome change from other threads that are all about cycles, symptoms and pee sticks. It's such a relief to read about others who are both thrilled and terrified to be on the journey to parenthood.

[rainface]

Oooh oooh oooh...me too! I'll join in this thread too. I'm 27 and my bf is 34. We're trying for our first together. His daughter/my stepdaughter, is 4 yrs old and is at this moment chasing the new puppy around the living room. Back in October we were sitting around talking about getting a new puppy (it is no secret that I've been wanting a baby for a while) and he says "you know, I would almost rather have a baby than a puppy". So here we are, with a new pug puppy for christmas and TTC. Hi everyone

[blue_bug]

Originally Posted by dachshund mom

Blue, are you going insane with the wait yet? Once we set a ttc date, it was all I could think about. Any reason for August?

yes, yes, yes.

we picked aug/sept for a couple of reasons

1) dh's first house HAS to sell first, and trying to be realistic, i don't think it will happen before summer...

2) if it happens after july (aug would give a buffer for an early baby) i would be vested at work and won't loose my 401k money - i won't be returning full time...

3) i'd *like* to go to italy first and aug/sept would work out best for us, after the summer heat/high prices...

but yes, yes, yes, again i wanna start now.

[aprilgurlie]

Wow, this thread has really started hopping in the last day! : Welcome to everyone that has joined! The more, the merrier!

Just FYI this isn't taking the place of the TTC 20's in Dec. thread, I started this one with people in their 20's TTC their first in mind. But everyone is sure welcome, and if you have stumbled across this thread and are on #2 or more, then stay and bestow upon us your wisdom! Everyone feel free to stalk away!

I told my mother of our plans to start TTC in May/June, and man, is she excited. She has been wanting me to get preggers for like 3 years now. LOL Then she told me that she had ALREADY bought a whole bunch of baby stuff and was hiding it all, just waiting! Gotta love moms.


I know that we are all at the thought of having just one little chickadee, but here is a question for you all- How many kids total are you thinking of having? Personally, my husband and I are thinking 2 or 3. I really hope that we get one of each sex. What about all of you?

[binkin]

We're planning to have (as DH puts it) "between 2 and 4 kids"

Neither of us really wants to have just one. 2 would probably be OK; I don't want to have 3 because I have 2 sisters and whenever there was a fight it was two against one, no matter what, so I'd rather stick with even numbers. 4 would also be fine by me.

First we have to conceive the first one, though! Then I guess we'll sort of wing it from there.

[Carlin]

Hi!
I'll join this one too, if that's ok?
I'm 28, on the 4th cycle of ttc number 1. The last three cycles have progressively increased from 28, to 39, to 46 days. I'm really hoping this one breaks the pattern!

I think we'll likely stop at 2 kids, but we'll play it by ear, depending on how number 1 goes!

I have ahhh! moments too, when I can't believe I'm actually planning on being responsible for a little human!

[dachshund mom]

Well I now have a chart (with one date), so that makes it official!

I know what you mean about moms, April. Mine already has all my future children named. I just left her a message that I want a basal thermometer for my birthday, so we'll see if she catches the meaning of that.

I keep having baby related nightmares lately. Like that I can't figure out how to feed it or I lose it. Is that a bad sign? Maybe it's a bad sign that I'm calling it "it".

[ladylaura]

Hi! I'm Laura and I'm 23. We've been ttc #1 since June-ish and will be continuing to try in 2008, though I'm taking a break from charting and temping for awhile. We're kind of passively trying in order to spend more time relaxing and enjoying life instead of focusing so much on the ups and downs of ttc.

[ladylaura]

Originally Posted by blue_bug

yes, yes, yes.


3) i'd *like* to go to italy first and aug/sept would work out best for us, after the summer heat/high prices...

Be aware that *everything* is closed in Italy in August! Everyone goes on vacation!

[Amber Lion]

Dh is pretty set on only having 2 and I agree with the rationality of that. But part of me likes the idea of 4. Yeah, probably not going to happen. I would love to have one of each, but I'll be happy with either I suppose.

We haven't told anyone except two close friends on either side (one for me, one for Dh) who were sworn to secrecy. I'm sure my Mom would be thrilled, but since we're only trying for 3 months we don't want family getting their hopes up if we aren't going to be successful. My Mom's bday is on the 14th though (I think I mentioned this) and I really want to be able to tell her we're pg on her birthday!

The funniest thing is my best friend, who is a little psychic, has been going on and on since we decided about "when are you having a baby?" or "are you pregnant? Are you SURE you aren't having a baby soon?" and I have to keep lying to her. I feel really bad, but she's a gossip and it would NOT stay with just her, so she's got to wait to find out. But she's going to feel SO validated if we do get pg!

[aprilgurlie]

Dashshund Mom- I have dreams like that too- but in mine for some reason I am indifferent to the baby! Now that is scary- of course I never would be in real life! I think it means that we just are a little nervous about it all. So your mom has your kids named, huh? lol Care to share what she wants to name them?

Well, I can trump you on that one.... My mom likes to go to sessions with this guy who is supposedly psychic, and can talk to the other side, like John Edwards. My grandmother recently passed, and apparantly Gma was telling mom in this session that I would be having children soon. Not only that, but that I will have 3- a boy, a girl, and then a boy. LOL She is so impatient she has to find a way to look in the FUTURE! lol But I kind of hope the psychic is right, because 3 is cool with me, and I would like at least one of each sex, like I said before.

I am sending relaxing : to you ladylaura. Welcome!

Amber Lion- that would be cool to tell your mom about a BFP on your birthday. And I hope that both of our psychics are right!

Miss World- I saw a post you made on another thread, I am : and : for you.

[blue_bug]

Originally Posted by ladylaura

Be aware that *everything* is closed in Italy in August! Everyone goes on vacation!

that's why i wanted to go in sept, but i really want to start in aug too... yikes, i think i'd be scared to death to go and have fun being 1 mon pg, who knows how i'd feel too.

anyone think about going on a trip 2nd trimester???

[lee1203]

Originally Posted by blue_bug

anyone think about going on a trip 2nd trimester???

Second trimester is when one is supposed to feel at their best during pregnancy, or so I've heard. You know, past the queasiness of the first and before the oh-my-gosh-I'm-HUGE of the third.

I think I'll pop in here real quick, although I'm undecided how much I want to actively read and talk about trying to conceive right now. Heaven knows I think about it enough.

I've just turned 28, and the husbandperson is about to. This is my second month off the pill, last month I got what appeared to be a faint positive (could have been an evap though, who knows) 2 days before my period started.

I'll be using no 'tricks' other than charting for at least a few months, all I'm taking extra is folic acid. I've also been thinking really really hard about eating healthily, that counts, right? I thought about doing the "go with the flow" thing, then decided that I'd obsess more if I didn't have an educated guess about when I may have ovulated, or when my period might be due. So charting it is. The husbandperson will not be actively participating in the charting, et al, except for the obvious, of course. Ahem. He's a little too oblivious to subtleties to notice things like cervical fluid and mood swings and whatever else. Honestly, I think that (if I get pregnant) I could go for MONTHS without telling him. I suspect that one day he'd all of a sudden wonder "Is she gaining weight? And did we just buy a car seat? What does she mean, 'third trimester?'"

With regards to number of munchkins, I think we'd both like 2, although an only is a valid option as well. I find myself wanting a boy, which surprises (and scares!) me because I come from a family of nothing but girls.

I'll stop rambling now. Good luck ladies, and God Bless TTC #1 in our 20s, and all who sail in her.

[lee1203]

Just kidding about stopping rambling...

I just remembered my rather odd parenting dream from last night.

In it, I had triplets, they were around 10 or so years old. Started out with 2 boys and a girl (Matthew, Chris and Katelyn) then ended the dream with 2 girls and a boy (Chris, Katelyn and Madelyn). Don't know what happened to Matthew or where Madelyn came from. (Upon being told of the dream, my husband said it was obvious - Matthew had a sex change. Gotta love that man.) Anyway, I kept thinking I was such a horrible mother, because I wasn't very attached to any of them, I didn't really know them at all. I was trying to make things better with them, and not doing so great. I kept wanting to get pregnant - with just one - in order to have a do-over.

I'm not sure I want to know what this says about me.

Oh, and I'm so not telling my parents nor my in-laws that we are trying for a wee one. I suspect I'd get unwanted advice from my mom, and lots of "are you pregnant yet?"s from his.

[Madalyn]

Originally Posted by lee1203

I just remembered my rather odd parenting dream from last night.

In it, I had triplets, they were around 10 or so years old. Started out with 2 boys and a girl (Matthew, Chris and Katelyn) then ended the dream with 2 girls and a boy (Chris, Katelyn and Madelyn). Don't know what happened to Matthew or where Madelyn came from. (Upon being told of the dream, my husband said it was obvious - Matthew had a sex change. Gotta love that man.) Anyway, I kept thinking I was such a horrible mother, because I wasn't very attached to any of them, I didn't really know them at all. I was trying to make things better with them, and not doing so great. I kept wanting to get pregnant - with just one - in order to have a do-over.

Haha oh my! How odd though my name's Madalyn (obviously) and my parent's boy name for me had been Matthew.