TTC #1 in 2008 in our 20's! - Page 3

[JoyNChrist]

Hi everyone!

I guess I belong here (well...sort of...I'm in my 20's but this won't be #1). I'm 22 and DH is 25. We gave birth to a beautiful baby boy (Avery) on March 1, 2007 (he was a honeymoon baby - we've been married almost 2 years ) and we plan to start TTC #2 by his first birthday. We want to have 6 kids total, so we figured we better start young and have them close together!

We had an unexpected miscarriage a few months ago (an unplanned pregnancy that was a very big surprise), and I have highly irregular cycles (AF actually just returned last month...I'm still nursing DS), so I'd appreciate any preggo and sticky vibes you'd care to send my way!

[aprilgurlie]

Originally Posted by lee1203

Ahem. He's a little too oblivious to subtleties to notice things like cervical fluid and mood swings and whatever else. Honestly, I think that (if I get pregnant) I could go for MONTHS without telling him. I suspect that one day he'd all of a sudden wonder "Is she gaining weight? And did we just buy a car seat? What does she mean, 'third trimester?'"

laughup

Hehe that is funny. My husband watches me like a hawk, when we start trying I think he won't leave me alone!! lol

One more week of BC pills until I go off of them! Now every time I go to take one I GRRRRRR at them. Even thought we aren't trying until May/June I am tired of taking 'em!

Lee- yeah that sounds like my dreams- I am always a bad mom! But none of the kids in my dreams have had sex changes...YET.... And feel free to ramble all you want-it keeps things interesting around here!

JoyNChrist-Welcome! Wow, 6 kids- your right, you better get going! to you!

[merebella]

Hi Ladies,
I'm a new poster, too. Since 2008 is our year, I finally let myself join after being a long-time lurker. I feel like I'm finally on the ttc map now! I live in MI, (anyone else?) I'm 28, and I've been married for 6 years. We're starting ttc in April. I can't wait! We've had a couple different ttc timelines that kept getting pushed back for different reasons, but this one is for real. So, hello to everyone!

[lee1203]

Originally Posted by Madalyn

Haha oh my! How odd though my name's Madalyn (obviously) and my parent's boy name for me had been Matthew.

Heh!

*eyes Madalyn suspiciously* You don't have bright orange hair, do you?

Originally Posted by aprilgurlie

One more week of BC pills until I go off of them! Now every time I go to take one I GRRRRRR at them. Even thought we aren't trying until May/June I am tired of taking 'em!

Lee- yeah that sounds like my dreams- I am always a bad mom! But none of the kids in my dreams have had sex changes...YET.... And feel free to ramble all you want-it keeps things interesting around here!

Oh, I HATED that last month of pills. In fact, I initially told the husbandperson I'd take one more months worth, through December, but got so frustrated with them in November I just flat out told him I was done. I know, I'm horrible. He knows full well that he has the option to buy and use condoms if he thinks he's not ready, but he doesn't want to use them because 'it's a hassle'. He should probably be glad I didn't have anything in my hands when he said that. 'Cause seriously? It's a hassle for him to put on a gosh darn condom every once in awhile, but it's not for me to ingest synthetic hormones every blinkin' day when I don't really want to take them, and have to worry that I'll spot heavily for a week if I forget or don't time it right? : Crazy man.

Has anyone else already thought ahead to what birth control they'll use after having a kid? I really think I want to do FAM.

[Amber Lion]

Aprilgurlie - why don't you just quit now? Seriously, you'll have the same effect (bleeding) only earlier. When I decided to quit BCP I quit that day, in the middle of the pack!!

Lee1203 - I'm pretty sure I'll continue with FAM, I REALLY don't like any of the other options which is what brought me to it in the first place. I know it's more complicated in the pp/nursing period, but I've got a good foundation and know plenty of women who it did work for.

I haven't been having that crazy of baby dreams lately - other than the one where my Mom announced they had been ttc and had gotten pg, I was so pissed b/c *I* wanted a baby and thought it was totally unfair *she* was going to have another one when I still hadn't even had one yet.

to all the new ladies!

[aprilgurlie]

Originally Posted by lee1203

Oh, I HATED that last month of pills. In fact, I initially told the husbandperson I'd take one more months worth, through December, but got so frustrated with them in November I just flat out told him I was done.

To convince my husband that I should go off of them even though we won't TTC till later, I just reminded him that the pill is notorious for diminishing sex drive. He is all for any change that will get him more sex!

I am with Amber Lion and Lee, we will probably be trying FAM to conceive and to avoid later. I just picked up a copy of TCOYF today, so I am excited to start to read it. :

Amber Lion -I have thought about it! I probably would stop now if my husband and I didn't already agree when I would stop. I have already been bugging him a lot about all this planning/ baby stuff, I don't want to push my luck! lol It is helping me be a little patient too, and getting pregnant now would not be good, starting the school year on maternity leave would be bad. That is great that you just tossed them out the second you decided, though- I admire that kind of spontanaity.

Your dream reminds me of Father of the Bride II, when the mom is pregnant the same time as her daughter! lol Maybe you should watch it to get those thoughts out of your dreams. hehe

Welcome, merebella! Glad you came out of lurkdom!

[lee1203]

Originally Posted by Amber Lion

Aprilgurlie - why don't you just quit now? Seriously, you'll have the same effect (bleeding) only earlier. When I decided to quit BCP I quit that day, in the middle of the pack!!

Lee1203 - I'm pretty sure I'll continue with FAM, I REALLY don't like any of the other options which is what brought me to it in the first place. I know it's more complicated in the pp/nursing period, but I've got a good foundation and know plenty of women who it did work for.

Yeah, it wasn't until after I'd finished the pack that I read you could just *stop*. Frustrating, but probably for the better, given that I couldn't even wait as long as I said I would. The nursing aspect of charting does concern me a bit. I find myself vacillating between wanting to chart a few cycles in order to get the hang of it, and wanting to get pregnant NOW so I'm, you know, pregnant. Must keep reminding myself that it's not really something I have much control over.

Originally Posted by aprilgurlie

To convince my husband that I should go off of them even though we won't TTC till later, I just reminded him that the pill is notorious for diminishing sex drive. He is all for any change that will get him more sex!

I am with Amber Lion and Lee, we will probably be trying FAM to conceive and to avoid later. I just picked up a copy of TCOYF today, so I am excited to start to read it. :

That is an excellent book. I've read it through the whole way once, and then cherry-picked bits of it here and there. I feel confident that I understand the concept.

And you know, it's weird you mention sex drive. I would have sworn before last month that mine was higher than my husband's, then we go and have more sex in the first two weeks I'm off the pill than we usually do in a month. All initiated by him. Go figure!

(Isn't anonymity great? Oversharing with complete strangers is fun! )

Now. Can anyone tell me why I got full-out ferns on my saliva monitor on cycle day FOUR this morning?! Yesterday it was a definite infertile pattern. Can I really be gearing up to ovulate already? Or is it just a fluke? I did rinse my mouth out a bit before testing. Can't imagine that plain water would make too much of a difference though.

[aprilgurlie]

Originally Posted by lee1203

(Isn't anonymity great? Oversharing with complete strangers is fun! )

Hehe I agree. MDC is the queen of threads with TMI lol. But it is great, because TMI just makes me laugh and makes others more comfortable becasue the same thing is happening to them!

Wish I could help you with the ferning question, but I just learned what it is! LOL I started reading TCOYF yesterday, and I couldn't put it down. I just keep thinking "Why don't they teach you this in high school??" I am so excited to start charting, that I am actually WANTING AF to come! And I think I found my cervix- WHOHOO! Yay, TMI.

[Amber Lion]

April - I know exactly what you mean! I went from absolutely fascinated to outraged back to fascinated when reading TCOYF. It's been my bible and I just calculated it out... I've been using FAM for 3 years and 10 months! Only ever poas once and I think that was b/c some girlies on another forum got me way more worked up than I would have on my own. I got AF the next day!

I'm so much more intimate with my own body and no longer have that aversion to the unknown of "down there" that I used to as a young woman. It's so mysterious, isn't it? And then you figure out it's just another cool part of your body. Since starting FAM I switched to using a Keeper (menstrual cup) and love that too, but I don't recommend it to any of my friends b/c they'd freak out at having to touch "down there" so much and get their blood/cm all over them. It just makes me laugh and wish that young women weren't lied to by omission about how their body really works.

lee - I have heard that trying to learn FAM is considerably harder during nursing than if you're just trying to pick it back up, but I think doing some charting while ttc will allow you to get the hang of it. And you're right, we don't have any control over when we get pg... something I'm struggling with!! (aren't we all?)

AAM: Had another crazy dream last night! My friend and I went into a store to buy some tests and there were hundreds of women buying them. All the women were squatting out in the parking lot (it was at night) to pee on them and so we joined them. I think I already knew it was going to be pos b/c I wasn't surprised at all when two lines came up for me. But my friend was freaking out, so I was trying to comfort her and hide why I wasn't just as concerned as her. All over the parking lot other women were reacting to their tests too! (I'm hiding our ttc from her at the moment and she just came over and used my last test 2 days ago b/c she freaked out and thought she might be pg, so it all makes sense)

Anyways, I'm :!

[dachshund mom]

My mother has named my future children Seth and Alyssa (Ally for short). Unfortunatly my MIL has also named the boy Thomas William. DH wants a Jr. My brother named a one of his after me, so it came up that I'm supposed to name one kid after one of my siblings. So if we have just one, this kid will have like 6 names. No one even knows we're actively trying yet or even that we plan to have children! I'll tell my mom soon, because if I do have infertility problems or m/c, I'd tell her anyway.

I also plan to use FAM from now on. The only reason I might not is if we really failed at it and had a couple unplanned pregnancies. But then someone would be getting snipped!

That POAS dream is hilarious!

[aprilgurlie]

Amber Lion-The fact that it has been working so well for you ROCKS!! It gets me super excited that I hopefully will never have to go on the pill again! And I have been thinking about the keeper recently as well.

I am taking that funny dream as a good sign for you- I am sending you baby dusticles right now!

Dachshund Mom-wow, that is a lot of people wanting to name your unborn baby! I admit defeat in the "my relatives are WAY to excited about TTC" game. But hey, you could make everyone happy and just have 5 children.

[leclifford]

hi everybody! I'm 25 (soon to be 26) and DH is 28 (soon to be 29). I've been off the BCP since May '07 with the cycles coming more and more irregularly. 41 then 47 days, and we are now at 130 days (6 BFN throughout that time just to make sure). for the time being we are mommy and daddy to 3 1/2 YO Victor : 1 1/2 YO Brutus : and 1 1/2 YO Chip :

hopefully 2008 will be our year!

[aprilgurlie]

Welcome, leclifford! I hope that your cycle figures itself out, that sounds rough! I bet that sometime this year it will even out. Good luck!

[merebella]

Hey Gals,

April, I got excited to see that you picked up TCOYF. It was so enlightening to read. I can totally relate to the "hey, I have a cervix too!" feeling of figuring out your body. The first month I charted was like taking a peek inside my body. When I spiked, I was so psyched that it worked! Isn't it cool? Don't you kinda wonder why you had to be in your mid-20's before you learned all this amazing stuff? Anyway, good luck with it. It's my body bible, for sure, and I tend to be a bit evangelistic about it as a avoidance/achievement philosophy, even though I've never tried to get pregnant before. I know all my friends with kids just roll their eyes that I talk with such authority... but hey, it makes sense!

[merebella]

So, can someone tell me what a Keeper is and how it works?

[merebella]

Hey Leclifford,
Sorry to hear that cycles have been strange. Have you thought about pcos (polycystic ovarian syndrome)? It can cause really long, irregular cycles. Also, are you charting? That would tell you if you're ovulating. I mention the PCOS thing because I think I may be borderline, so I'm alert to anyone else showing similar symptoms. I just came off a 50 cycle, which is longer than normal, but I'm looking into reasons. FYI.

[lee1203]

Originally Posted by aprilgurlie

Hehe I agree. MDC is the queen of threads with TMI lol. But it is great, because TMI just makes me laugh and makes others more comfortable becasue the same thing is happening to them!

Yeah, it's definitely nice to read that someone else has the same problems/symptoms/whatever as you, and that it's normal. There are some things it's just really hard to discuss in polite society.

Not that the people I hang out with really constitute 'polite' or 'societal', but you know.

Speaking of MDC, does anyone here know what the whole "I've been frosted!" thing is about?!

dachshund mom, you're a far better woman than I for listening to everyone in your family. I've already decided that there is NO way I'm telling family possible names, they're waiting 'til the critter's born before finding out. I have discussed names with friends though.

Good luck on getting your cycles figured out and normalized, leclifford and merebella.

[Phoenix~Mama]

What a great thread! And I love that some already Mamma's are checking in here too, cause I'd love the advice! I am probably driving myself more insane with so much information, but tis who I am.

I am 26 years old, will be 27 this year. I too was on the pill for 10 years, and am angry at how messed up my cycles are now. It's good to hear that it has not effected everyone.

I got off the pill last December when I was with my ex-husband TTC... we tried for a couple months, because silly me thought all my depression was from wanting a baby, but I realized he was just not the man I was supposed to be with.

My cycles right after the pill seemed mostly normal, then this summer til now they have been all over the place, very inconsistent. Cycles have gone from 25 days, to 38, to 43, to 60!! It's very frustrating and disheartening and scary... I'm praying that the last few months is stress related.

I have been with my current boyfriend/partner for four months. I was actually engaged and with him for three years several years ago... Fate has brought us together again and we could not be happier.

I'm not really charting or anything yet, but we BD almost everyday, at bare minimum every other day. So I haven't been worried about charting since most things I have read said if you are BDing at least every other day, you should be okay...

We decided that we will conceive when it is meant to be... We thought I was pregnant in November, but turned out AF just didn't come forever... After that he saw how terribly upset I was to find out it was negative and he said we will make it happen. So we have been doing a ton of BDing without contraceptives of any kind since early November.

I also started vitamins in November and a Vitamin B supplement that includes a good dosage of B6.

Currently I'm at Cycle Day #37... still no cramping or signs of AF. I've been incredibly moody the past couple days though, and was hit with some severe nasuea this morning... the catch though is the naseua can be from my fibromyalgia. So I try really hard not to read into the symptoms.

I finally made an appointment to get my annual done on Monday. I've been putting it off some because I'm so afraid if something is wrong... granted not knowing isn't going to fix it. So I hope that goes okay...

[tjjazzy]

Ttc # 2

Hi! I'm TTC #2 at 29. I'm really hoping this is our month. I went to the doctor yesterday with a bladder infection and b/c I told the nurse we were TTC, she did a test. She thought she saw a faint line and she thought I "looked" pregnant. Just something in my face, she said. She's really got my hopes up and my husband says that she wouldn't just see a faint line if it wasn't there (she said it might've been a shadow or something) since she's been my nurse since I was a kid.
I have no idea when this could've happened if it was a line though, so I'm trying not to get my hopes up. I had a very odd period starting Christmas day that lasted a couple days (barely), stopped, and then returned a bit the next couple days after that. I had no cramps, no PMS moods (and boy have I normally been moody right before my period since I stopped taking BC), and raised bumps around my areola (and sore breasts.) It's all making me very confused!! Anyone have any thoughts?
On another note, congrats to all the mamas TTC in 2008!! Baby dust to us all!

[lee1203]

Originally Posted by JSMa

I finally made an appointment to get my annual done on Monday. I've been putting it off some because I'm so afraid if something is wrong... granted not knowing isn't going to fix it. So I hope that goes okay...

Ah, the whole "Ignorance is Bliss" defense. I know it well.

Hope your annual goes ok. I was actually due for one in October, but didn't go. I don't understand why they have to be done annually, honestly. What's wrong with every three years, like the UK does (I think)? I have absolutely no risk factors for cervical cancer, and that's pretty much all they check for, right? Pre-cancerous cells? I'm most likely going to know if there's a chance I have an infection, and of course will go get that checked out. But otherwise... Dunno. Maybe I'm just rebelling against a system that says I have to let a stranger stick their fingers where they absolutely do not belong just to get a birth control prescription. Good thing I know about FAM now.